00:07:12.760So my question is, is there an age that women expire at starting here and then go around?
00:07:18.460I would say no, especially like this day and age we have TikTok and everything and we see like all these older women flaunting, you know, their appearances and everything.
00:34:24.480So like something as simple, something as simple as like, I'm sitting down and working at my desk and she comes up and just gives me a nice shoulder massage out of the blue.
00:41:07.780You get five minutes of his attention, but he's fired up and he's passionate with you.
00:41:11.140No, it could be something simple like every day I'll ask you, babes, can you make sure that the dishes that you put in the sink, you wash it?
00:41:16.540If I've now dealt with that for a whole year and after a year I'll be like, you know what, babes, I've dealt with you not washing the dishes that I've asked you every single day to make sure you wash.
00:41:24.940And then you come up with some silly response of, well, I put them in the sink.
00:41:29.580Yeah, don't you just accept that he's not going to wash the dishes in the sink?
00:42:18.380Yeah, like, only off the 30th, they try to do that.
00:42:20.900Also, I was going to say, I was also going to say, if that's the way you're even going to put it, ain't no daughter of you is going to tell me, I told you to wash the plates.
00:42:35.560No, but the fact is that how you wash their plates.
00:42:38.440No, but the point is, even if it's an example, that is the way you gave the example, so that's more than likely the way you're going to do it.
00:43:15.100I feel like, correct me if I'm wrong, so I feel like your preference of communication comes from, like, instead of just sweeping on the rug and, you know, leaving you because I realized something about you, let me make sure and confirm this is who you are.
00:43:27.860And I'm not saying that's the right mindset, because if somebody is not washing the dishes for a year, then they're probably not going to ever wash the dishes.
00:43:34.840But some people would rather communicate, fight through it.
00:43:38.300And maybe if you get some understanding, you can change somebody's mind, not necessarily change their habits, but change their mind, get some clarity on, this is how you think, this is how you move, this is how the person you are, rather than just sweep it under the rug.
00:44:09.700I mean, during these conversations, there's always going to be a reason.
00:44:15.020If I'm stating that there's a problem, yeah, I'm going to say, this is the problem.
00:44:19.360If you can't give me a reason as to why you do what you do, or you don't acknowledge that it's something that irritates me, that is a form of lack of communication.
00:44:31.180I just need the man to be understanding.
00:44:33.840I hear what you're saying, but I think the truth is, I think it's all about mindset, really.
00:44:39.400I don't think most men think, I don't even think people should think like that, of like, why do you do something, why do you do something?
00:44:46.480Like, at the end of the day, if I go into the middle of London and start beheading people, does it matter why I did it?
00:47:13.720In my relationships, I don't think arguing is a good thing.
00:47:16.760I don't think, so I, you know, in my last relationship, I didn't argue or anything like that because, you know, you're there to actually complement each other.
00:47:26.280You're there to make each other's life advance.
00:47:29.260You want to actually, you know, your man advancing advances your life, too.
00:47:58.240Yeah, just the last ick, the last time you were, maybe you went on a date or two or you, and you thought, I can never see this guy again ever.
01:09:35.360And then, like, don't accept the treatment that you accepted before.
01:09:38.740But the problem is, you, there's not enough men that women want to go around.
01:09:45.860Well, I think that might have something to do with the way our culture and mindset around relationships have definitely changed.
01:09:54.020Like, you guys are saying you are wanting a traditional relationship.
01:09:57.460Well, nobody is moving in a traditional way these days.
01:10:01.060So that's why you're not going to find people.
01:10:02.720You have older men looking for someone half their age because, you know, they're not, they're clashing with the women who have these mindsets that they've gathered from pop culture or whatever that's going on today.
01:10:13.620So, you know, if we have this imbalance of people who are agreeing on what they want out of a relationship or what they actually can provide in that relationship, because I think a lot of people also aren't realistic with themselves, then, of course, you're going to have some type of imbalance in the amount of people that want to be married and the people that will get married.
01:10:31.500No, but the reality is women today don't even understand what traditionalism is, because when women say they want to be traditional, they always have this idea of the man pays for everything.
01:10:42.640The man earns so much money that he can cater for the family.
01:10:45.400But the reality is most people that were traditional back in the day weren't even living that kind of life.
01:10:50.720The women were literally working alongside their husbands and still gave them the respect of being the man of the house.
01:11:14.780That's why you have something called the sassy man apocalypse.
01:11:17.100Like men are literally running around bragging about finessing dates out of women.
01:11:21.520I actually disagree, because all throughout history, only 40% of men have ever reproduced.
01:11:26.700So the reality is throughout history, men have never really been at the table like women think.
01:11:34.180The only reason why you think men have been is because it's the men you see.
01:11:37.560And those are the men that are actually desirable.
01:11:39.120Like what percent of men do you even think can finesse dates?
01:11:44.480I think, like I said, it's somebody for everybody.
01:11:46.720Like you literally have stuff like people that come out of prison and they find women on Facebook and now a woman is taking care of it and paying all their bills.
01:13:26.040And that's why the women will say men are trash, men are the problem because they're all sleeping with 20 percent of men where 80 percent of men aren't really getting play at all.
01:13:49.040And that's why people think that women expire so early is because you're looking for somebody who has this certain image that you've seen on Instagram, you've seen on social media, where you're sleeping on, you know, every other aspect that is the important things in a relationship.
01:14:00.940Looks will fade because if you ask me if women have an expiration date, so do men.
01:14:05.840Like, just because you can keep going.
01:14:08.340Like, but the difference is men don't expire the same way women do.
01:14:13.320I would argue if men have an expiration date, it's maybe 55, 50.
01:14:17.480But if you look on dating apps, what if you want the most swiped right age on?
01:14:22.400I think it's like plenty of fish or something for women.
01:15:43.120But then that also comes down to, obviously, we're not talking about age, but when you're having a partner, one of my things is, I say to my friends before we got here, do you have the desire to want to unlearn some of your BS behavior?
01:15:59.280Do you have that desire as a friend, as a family member, as a whatever?
01:16:04.480Because some things may not be serving you the way you think it does.
01:16:09.420So, for example, the young lady over there said, communication, effective communication, the way she receives, the way she delivers.
01:22:36.500Um, a vibe, you know, like somebody to lay down with at night, you know, that's that's just yours that you're not sharing with anybody else on the streets.
01:22:55.800No, a vibe, like something that you're not going to get from being out with your boys at the poker game, like that kind of vibe, like a different type of feeling.
01:23:03.120OK, um, what do you think a man should get out of marriage?
01:23:08.320Um, I'm not sure because I don't think a man can really gain anything from a marriage.
01:23:19.820Yeah, I just, I don't think, yeah, they, they don't actually benefit because anything they can get in a marriage they can get without being married.
01:24:51.580They definitely confide in their woman and need that.
01:24:55.240So, all I can say is when I was in a long-term relationship, I would be running around making sure that when he gets in from work, that the house is peaceful.
01:25:06.440So, that would look like running a bathroom, making sure his food was done when he got in.
01:30:24.080If they annoy you that much, do it yourself.
01:30:25.880So, you could go and call your mum or tell your friend, he didn't do the dishes and it drove me nuts because that's her issue.
01:30:31.760An argument is an issue within the relationship.
01:30:34.200That shouldn't go outside of the relationship.
01:30:35.540I would never, ever tell anyone to take issues that are within a relationship, outside of a relationship, because that's wrong on all levels.
01:31:24.700What King said earlier, that there was an equilibrium going on before, where the women would have to go out, go get a dinner, and then build the home.