Andrew Tate Explains Polygamy
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about monogamy and why it's so important to us and why we shouldn't settle for less than monogamous men. We also talk about why we don't want to settle for a guy who doesn't have a dad bod.
Transcript
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Be monogamous with a low-value man or share a high-value man?
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I left a situation where I got the Bentley, I had all that, I had the kids, I had that.
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And to me, what monogamy means to me is someone who's committed to themselves.
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And to be honest, I feel like, again, sex has been lost in translation and what it means.
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So for me, I have kind of taken those blinders off where I'm like, okay, he has to be here.
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I'm okay with dating the trainer in Austin, Texas.
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Like, I don't need a certain thing because I know what I'm wanting.
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Most guys in that percentage are not going to give me.
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So I would rather have a monogamous man than someone who can do whatever.
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Wait, so you think the personal trainer is going to be monogamous?
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Like, I don't generalize people because I'm one of the most misunderstood people online as well.
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And I don't like to just put everyone in a box.
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So no, I'm not going to just say, oh, of course he's going to cheat on me.
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Would you take a guy that makes $35,000 a year and had a dad bod monogamous?
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I feel like for me, I would want someone who...
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So I would want someone who can match at least the work ethic.
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Now, when it comes to money, I know for me, I want to be able to...
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Because what happens is you get the rug ripped from under you.
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So for me, the lifestyle I want, I am responsible for.
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So I don't look for a man to make X amount of dollars because anything that I want, I'm going
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Well, because in my head, I feel like a guy's just as likely to cheat if he's in the top
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Let me ask a quick question just so I can clarify something because I understand your points.
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You're saying you want a partner, a life partner.
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Are you sure, and I'm not accusing, I'm genuinely asking, are you sure you're not confusing the
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amount of time the man spends with you with his monogamy?
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Because what happens a lot of the time if a man's out here chasing chicks, he's barely
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But imagine you had a man who was home seven nights a week.
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Like, during his work lunch, you don't even notice.
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Then would you even give a shit about monogamy if you had all of his time effectively?
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I still would care because I feel like it's still just an hour a day.
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I really have been in so many different situations.
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Again, the trainer in Austin to the NBA player, baby daddy.
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And it's just my personal experience and perspective to where I want someone that sees the value
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The realization you've come to is an interesting one.
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It is something that happens, especially to females as they mature.
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Or why do you think that zero women on earth choose those kind of men who they perhaps have
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slightly lower status but are more likely to be loyal to them and be monogamous, etc.
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In the modern world, because like I said, the world's changed.
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Why do you think zero women choose them when they're at the peak of their choices?
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So when a woman is 19 and she can go anywhere she wants, every man wants her, she can go
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Y'all in Miami, she can get flown out to Dubai when she has all the choices in the world.
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Why is she completely uninterested in those kind of men?
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And then when she gets to a certain age of maturity and there's a whole new generation
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of girls who have all the choices, then they sit there and go, you know what?
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And they all of a sudden want to grow up and mature.
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Why does no woman decide that when she actually is at her most valuable?
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I feel like for, like I said, I don't like to speak for all women.
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But I know for me that I was looking for a man for a lifestyle, something that I was
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So that's why it's like, well, yeah, I want to be able to do this, do that.
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I want to go for the football player that was just on GQ.
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And in reality now I realize, well, okay, there's a lot that comes with that.
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I don't necessarily need that type of guy for the happiness that I'm looking for.
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Again, seeing value in the Grand Canyon is a lot different than like, okay, here's money
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And that's the same thing as you're asking why a man that is 20, 21, 23 is not a top
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Your age actually dictates your sort of maturity to a large extent.
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The point I'm trying to make is that what I actually think happens, especially in the
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modern world, because the modern world's all fucked up and nothing's the way it's supposed
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The traditional life path of a female is she's 17, she's 18, she's 19, and her value is massively
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Imagine being 19 years old, have achieved exactly fucking zero in your life, knowing
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You put makeup on and sports stars, billionaires, actors, the most important famous people on
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the planet, the richest men on the planet are begging for your attention.
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The ego you're going to develop, let's all be honest, right?
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The ego you're going to develop is going to be monumental.
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I'm special, I'm so gorgeous, all this bullshit, right?
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And then what happens as they grow older, as new generations come along, because the truth
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is most women are at their peak attraction, let's say in their early 20s, as they grow
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older, what women become is far more fearful of competition.
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This is why you'll see a woman who's a bit older go, oh, you know, I really want monogamy
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What she's scared of is her dude getting a 21-year-old.
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But basically, that's what the truth is, because she knows a 21-year-old is going to be more
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I'm telling you the shift in the female mentality, because when a female is 20, she doesn't give
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Now she's trying to, like you're saying, chasing a lifestyle, chasing Mr. Promiscuous,
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Doesn't give a shit until she starts getting scared.
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When men like these two and me, when we walk through the mall, people just move.
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It's like you can sense when the big animals turn up, right?
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If you have a very attractive 45-year-old woman, she's gorgeous, but a gorgeous 19-year-old
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walks in, look at that 45-year-old woman's face.
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Because women understand, unfortunately, but your innately, your age is a massive indicator
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In an inverse way to men, men are more valuable as we get older.
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Every woman will sit here and go, yeah, I know a man who's older than me.
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But if I sit the other way around, I'm misogynistic.
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When you were at your peak value, you had zero interest in monogamy.
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But then you find a man who's 35 at his peak value.
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He finally gets to the point where he's now at his peak value.
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And then you're sitting there saying to him, no, you should be a monogamy instead of...
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And now you're telling me I need to fucking settle down and behave and grow up?
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Well, because you're assuming that the journey is a man that starts with nothing to something
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That is exactly the journey of every man on earth.
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Because that's not how it should be for everybody.
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And not for every woman either, as well, may I just say.
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You know, like, then you've learned in the past.
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And now you want to find someone to settle down.
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And with hindsight now, would you have reversed it and, like, started young looking for someone
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to settle down with, looking for those values that now you know?
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Well, I actually, from 18 to 22, I was in a relationship.
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I've always actually been a lover girl despite what I put out online for, you know...
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And I feel like I was so delusional in thinking that, oh, I'm...
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So going into these relationships or just, like, I'm sorry, just people, my goal was always
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I'm pouring into you because I want commitment.
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So I was going through guys, giving up sex, doing this, and it didn't make sense.
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So I believe in, like, I stay on everything I do.
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And I think that's where I feel like when they talk about women being delusional and all
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Because what you have to understand is that there are repercussions to your decisions,
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So then you're talking about, okay, well, I want this type of guy.
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That's three to five percent of animals are monogamous.
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So your window is really, really small for what you're looking for.
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And even to go on to the point where you said where you were talking about it's like
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I think it's like, for me, I feel like if it was more of a fear, I would have just stayed
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I left because I believe that there's something else on my heart when it comes to love.
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And if that means being alone, having a dog, I have to take that chance because the Bentley,
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the ring, the house, and still getting, again, deceived, right?
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Disrespected because deceit is disrespect, right?
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And that is where a lot of people don't like my views and what I represent because it is
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What would you tell your 17, if you had to, like, what would you tell your 17-year-old
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Looking back and you had to meet yourself at 17, what would you tell your, what would
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That the answers aren't outside of you because I feel like I'd always look for men to answer
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I thought when I had a man, it would complete me.
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And I feel like, too, especially with, like, my dad not being in my life, you look for
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Like, so that's where, for me, I put too much value in someone else having the answers for
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So that's why I'm really big on accountability.
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So I would just tell myself, like, to be patient, to take your time, because I was always
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So I feel like, for me, it would be to slow down and to really get to know people instead
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of just blindly banking on potential that most likely will never be tapped into or selling
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myself short because there's a fear of, well, I don't know.
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And that's what I meant about women nowadays, because exactly what you'd be telling your
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17-year-old self is what happened back in the day.
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So when I'm repeating these things, I'm going to, oh, you're old-fashioned, but it seems
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like women do what they like, and then they hit a certain age and say, oh, well, I've got
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You're just getting whatever you can or whatever you deserve.
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Because if you think back now, you'd be telling people now, rather than say that auntie's
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old-fashioned or auntie don't know what she's talking about, look what she'd be telling
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her 17-year-old self, which ain't nothing that I already said.
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Because really and truly, really and truly, let me finish, let me finish, because what
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I've always said, and you can check, I'm an older version of you.
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So where you've been, I've already been an upper comeback.
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So that's why I asked you, what would you tell your 17-year-old self?
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Because me telling you is, I'm telling my 30-year-old self.
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So it's not that I'm old-fashioned, it's just that women hit a certain age and then realise,
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But there's no point in waiting until you're a certain age to start thinking about it.
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You know, even if you're, like, you hold your own accountability.
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So it's like if you meet somebody and they were like 17, 18, and you saw the match in
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a certain way, they asked you for advice, you wouldn't say do as I do.
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You would say, listen, this is what happened to me, and this is what I thought, and what
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I think that no matter what you decide to do, you have to accept whatever repercussions
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So any advice that I give to anybody is do what you want, but just know there are repercussions,
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good, bad, or indifferent, that are going to come behind it.
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So, I mean, and I think that's just where I'm at.
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I think it's like, in reality, I have a son, and you really start asking yourself questions.
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And again, I hate that it took having a child to really look into my life and call myself
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So if you got pregnant earlier, if you got pregnant at 18, 19, would it?
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I got off birth control because of the person I was with wanting to have a baby.
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Clearly not because I wasn't married, but it still didn't work out because it just wasn't
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So that's where I just think like, even if I still would have taken it slow, there just
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were a lot of people that just were genuinely not my person.
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