JustPearlyThings - Andrew Tate Explains Polygamy

00:00:00.000 Be monogamous with a low-value man or share a high-value man?

00:00:03.640 Well, look at society and you tell me.

00:00:06.480 Ask me.

00:00:07.140 Wait, so let's ask the single ladies. 1.00

00:00:10.240 What would you prefer?

00:00:11.420 I would prefer someone who's monogamous. 1.00

00:00:12.840 I left a situation where I got the Bentley, I had all that, I had the kids, I had that.

00:00:16.760 That was great.

00:00:17.760 I want a companion.

00:00:19.300 I want real love.

00:00:21.000 And to me, what monogamy means to me is someone who's committed to themselves.

00:00:25.640 That's like the answer is within you.

00:00:27.580 And to be honest, I feel like, again, sex has been lost in translation and what it means.

00:00:32.740 I don't care man or female. 1.00

00:00:34.360 It's been lost.

00:00:35.340 It's so sacred.

00:00:36.580 So for me, I have kind of taken those blinders off where I'm like, okay, he has to be here.

00:00:41.900 I'm okay with dating the trainer in Austin, Texas.

00:00:44.600 That's just where I'm at.

00:00:45.580 Like, I don't need a certain thing because I know what I'm wanting.

00:00:48.820 Most guys in that percentage are not going to give me.

00:00:51.600 So I would rather have a monogamous man than someone who can do whatever.

00:00:56.640 Wait, so you think the personal trainer is going to be monogamous? 0.99

00:01:01.340 They're like known for cheating, no?

00:01:02.920 Well, I mean, here's my thing.

00:01:04.840 Like, I get it.

00:01:05.540 Like, I don't generalize people because I'm one of the most misunderstood people online as well.

00:01:11.180 And I feel like there's a lot more to me.

00:01:13.140 And I don't like to just put everyone in a box.

00:01:15.220 I'd like to get to know people.

00:01:16.200 So no, I'm not going to just say, oh, of course he's going to cheat on me.

00:01:18.780 Like, no.

00:01:19.280 Okay.

00:01:19.540 Would you take a guy that makes $35,000 a year and had a dad bod monogamous? 0.92

00:01:24.300 Had a dad bod?

00:01:25.180 Yeah, dad bod.

00:01:25.680 I feel like for me, I would want someone who...

00:01:28.680 Sorry, go ahead.

00:01:29.460 Go ahead.

00:01:29.660 Okay.

00:01:31.140 I pour into myself.

00:01:32.700 And I'm accountable for my shit.

00:01:34.340 I'm aware of what I got going on.

00:01:35.900 I'm not going to have a mom bod.

00:01:38.860 I'm in the gym.

00:01:39.600 I had a baby a year and a half ago.

00:01:41.020 I'm in the gym four to five times a week.

00:01:42.540 So I would want someone who can match at least the work ethic.

00:01:46.760 Now, when it comes to money, I know for me, I want to be able to...

00:01:50.200 I do not want to rely on a man. 1.00

00:01:51.980 I have literally done that before.

00:01:53.820 It didn't pan out in my favor.

00:01:55.180 Okay?

00:01:55.420 Because what happens is you get the rug ripped from under you.

00:01:57.100 And then now you fucking get out, bitch. 1.00

00:01:58.380 Give me the motherfucking keys.

00:01:59.520 It isn't that.

00:02:00.780 So for me, the lifestyle I want, I am responsible for.

00:02:04.160 So I don't look for a man to make X amount of dollars because anything that I want, I'm going

00:02:08.620 to get myself.

00:02:09.460 Well, because in my head, I feel like a guy's just as likely to cheat if he's in the top

00:02:13.960 20% of, like, looks.

00:02:16.980 Just as likely as money.

00:02:18.520 You know what I'm saying?

00:02:19.060 Like, it just doesn't...

00:02:19.760 Let me ask a quick question just so I can clarify something because I understand your points.

00:02:24.420 You're saying you want a partner, a life partner.

00:02:26.880 Are you sure, and I'm not accusing, I'm genuinely asking, are you sure you're not confusing the

00:02:32.620 amount of time the man spends with you with his monogamy?

00:02:35.240 Because there are different things.

00:02:36.080 Because what happens a lot of the time if a man's out here chasing chicks, he's barely

00:02:38.980 home.

00:02:39.980 But imagine you had a man who was home seven nights a week.

00:02:42.400 He was always home.

00:02:43.320 I'm talking about, like, an hour.

00:02:44.580 Like, during his work lunch, you don't even notice.

00:02:47.580 Then would you even give a shit about monogamy if you had all of his time effectively?

00:02:51.180 Would you really care?

00:02:52.600 I still would care because I feel like it's still just an hour a day.

00:02:56.420 And we're not...

00:02:56.860 It's not really quality time.

00:02:58.060 I feel...

00:02:58.440 I really have been in so many different situations.

00:03:00.720 Again, the trainer in Austin to the NBA player, baby daddy.

00:03:03.540 Like, I have seen all of that stuff.

00:03:05.760 And it's just my personal experience and perspective to where I want someone that sees the value

00:03:10.440 in the Grand Canyon.

00:03:11.280 I want somebody who...

00:03:12.380 I understand.

00:03:12.840 Okay.

00:03:13.000 So that's a good point.

00:03:14.060 And that's...

00:03:14.400 So I'll just ask the first question.

00:03:15.460 I'm going to ask the second question.

00:03:16.180 The realization you've come to is an interesting one.

00:03:20.140 It is something that happens, especially to females as they mature. 1.00

00:03:24.400 Don't you think it's strange?

00:03:25.660 Or why do you think that zero women on earth choose those kind of men who they perhaps have

00:03:31.560 slightly lower status but are more likely to be loyal to them and be monogamous, etc.

00:03:36.540 In the modern world, because like I said, the world's changed.

00:03:38.760 Why do you think zero women choose them when they're at the peak of their choices? 1.00

00:03:42.020 So when a woman is 19 and she can go anywhere she wants, every man wants her, she can go

00:03:47.560 on any...

00:03:48.480 Y'all in Miami, she can get flown out to Dubai when she has all the choices in the world. 0.97

00:03:52.520 Why is she completely uninterested in those kind of men?

00:03:55.640 And then when she gets to a certain age of maturity and there's a whole new generation

00:03:59.180 of girls who have all the choices, then they sit there and go, you know what? 1.00

00:04:02.840 I deserve monogamy and data.

00:04:05.380 And they all of a sudden want to grow up and mature.

00:04:07.220 Why does no woman decide that when she actually is at her most valuable? 0.99

00:04:10.640 I feel like for, like I said, I don't like to speak for all women.

00:04:13.460 I just speak for myself.

00:04:14.260 But I know for me that I was looking for a man for a lifestyle, something that I was

00:04:18.740 not able to do individually by myself.

00:04:21.040 So that's why it's like, well, yeah, I want to be able to do this, do that.

00:04:23.660 I want to go for the football player that was just on GQ.

00:04:26.200 And in reality now I realize, well, okay, there's a lot that comes with that.

00:04:29.500 I can make my own money.

00:04:30.540 I don't necessarily need that type of guy for the happiness that I'm looking for.

00:04:34.920 Again, seeing value in the Grand Canyon is a lot different than like, okay, here's money

00:04:39.360 for this.

00:04:39.680 Here's allowance for that.

00:04:40.640 And that's the same thing as you're asking why a man that is 20, 21, 23 is not a top

00:04:45.660 G, like a 30, 40 year old man. 0.83

00:04:47.860 Your age actually dictates your sort of maturity to a large extent.

00:04:51.820 Well, I'm arguing the point.

00:04:53.060 The point I'm trying to make is that what I actually think happens, especially in the

00:04:56.940 modern world, because the modern world's all fucked up and nothing's the way it's supposed 0.84

00:04:59.800 to be.

00:05:00.580 The traditional life path of a female is she's 17, she's 18, she's 19, and her value is massively 0.99

00:05:07.300 inflated.

00:05:07.900 And I don't blame her.

00:05:08.980 Of course it's massively inflated.

00:05:10.000 Imagine being 19 years old, have achieved exactly fucking zero in your life, knowing

00:05:15.240 nothing.

00:05:15.920 You put makeup on and sports stars, billionaires, actors, the most important famous people on

00:05:22.360 the planet, the richest men on the planet are begging for your attention.

00:05:25.580 The ego you're going to develop, let's all be honest, right?

00:05:28.380 The ego you're going to develop is going to be monumental.

00:05:29.840 I'm special, I'm so gorgeous, all this bullshit, right?

00:05:33.320 And then what happens as they grow older, as new generations come along, because the truth

00:05:37.940 is most women are at their peak attraction, let's say in their early 20s, as they grow 1.00

00:05:42.240 older, what women become is far more fearful of competition. 0.99

00:05:46.400 This is why you'll see a woman who's a bit older go, oh, you know, I really want monogamy 1.00

00:05:49.300 today.

00:05:49.620 What she's scared of is her dude getting a 21-year-old.

00:05:51.940 That's what she's fucking scared of.

00:05:53.000 She may not know it.

00:05:54.060 She may not say it.

00:05:55.120 But basically, that's what the truth is, because she knows a 21-year-old is going to be more

00:05:58.480 desirable, higher status, more fertile.

00:06:00.960 That's what she's scared of.

00:06:02.080 Cheating is bad when you're 30 or 20, sir.

00:06:04.340 No, but it's not about that.

00:06:05.980 I'm telling you the shift in the female mentality, because when a female is 20, she doesn't give 1.00

00:06:11.120 a fuck about any of this. 0.88

00:06:12.620 She doesn't want to find a nice man.

00:06:14.060 Now she's trying to, like you're saying, chasing a lifestyle, chasing Mr. Promiscuous, 1.00

00:06:17.320 chasing Mr. Famous.

00:06:18.420 Doesn't give a shit until she starts getting scared.

00:06:21.040 Oh, shit.

00:06:22.420 My age begins with three now.

00:06:24.020 And then they change.

00:06:25.180 Their mentality changes.

00:06:26.180 It's a fear element.

00:06:27.220 That's the reality.

00:06:27.880 And it's a biological fear element.

00:06:29.540 I'll give you an example of it.

00:06:30.940 You know what's amazing about humans?

00:06:32.560 We are still very primal.

00:06:34.900 When men like these two and me, when we walk through the mall, people just move.

00:06:39.920 It's like you can sense when the big animals turn up, right?

00:06:44.200 It's something amazing about humans.

00:06:45.880 If you have a very attractive 45-year-old woman, she's gorgeous, but a gorgeous 19-year-old 1.00

00:06:50.700 walks in, look at that 45-year-old woman's face.

00:06:52.960 She's furious.

00:06:54.380 She fucking hates her. 1.00

00:06:55.800 She just doesn't like her for no reason. 0.51

00:06:57.540 Because women understand, unfortunately, but your innately, your age is a massive indicator 1.00

00:07:02.700 in your value.

00:07:03.720 In an inverse way to men, men are more valuable as we get older.

00:07:07.120 Every man, every woman knows that.

00:07:08.580 Every woman will sit here and go, yeah, I know a man who's older than me. 1.00

00:07:10.780 Of course.

00:07:11.480 But if I sit the other way around, I'm misogynistic.

00:07:13.300 It's just the reality of the world.

00:07:14.560 So then we have to go into the other point.

00:07:16.360 The point is this.

00:07:17.020 When you were at your peak value, you had zero interest in monogamy.

00:07:22.300 But then you find a man who's 35 at his peak value.

00:07:25.760 He's finally struggled and worked.

00:07:27.420 Because when he was 19, no girl spoke to him.

00:07:29.420 When he was 23, he was broke.

00:07:31.100 When he was 24, he had no life experience.

00:07:33.220 When he was 25, he couldn't fuck.

00:07:34.900 When he was 26, whatever.

00:07:36.100 He finally gets to the point where he's now at his peak value.

00:07:38.800 He, at 35, is you when you were 19.

00:07:41.820 And then you're sitting there saying to him, no, you should be a monogamy instead of... 0.95

00:07:45.140 It's like, well, you fucking weren't.

00:07:46.940 You did whatever you wanted in your peak.

00:07:49.180 Now I'm finally got there.

00:07:50.360 And I had to work for my shit.

00:07:52.040 God gave you you.

00:07:52.860 God and L'Oreal gave you you.

00:07:54.680 I had to fucking struggle.

00:07:56.180 I had to go through hell to get on this yacht.

00:07:58.040 You got on the yacht with an Instagram DM.

00:07:59.480 I had to buy it.

00:08:00.860 And now you're telling me I need to fucking settle down and behave and grow up?

00:08:04.420 Fuck you.

00:08:05.000 Well, because you're assuming that the journey is a man that starts with nothing to something

00:08:09.600 because there's a lot of men that have...

00:08:10.660 That is exactly the journey of every man on earth.

00:08:12.880 We are born without value.

00:08:14.240 Do you...

00:08:14.600 Ah, so there's specificity in that.

00:08:17.700 Can I do something?

00:08:18.100 Because that's not how it should be for everybody.

00:08:19.880 And that's not how it is for everybody.

00:08:21.360 And not for every woman either, as well, may I just say.

00:08:23.780 Can I ask Brittany something, please?

00:08:25.940 You know, like, then you've learned in the past.

00:08:29.520 And now you want to find someone to settle down.

00:08:31.480 And with hindsight now, would you have reversed it and, like, started young looking for someone

00:08:36.940 to settle down with, looking for those values that now you know?

00:08:39.700 I'm talking about with hindsight.

00:08:41.520 Okay.

00:08:42.000 Well, I actually, from 18 to 22, I was in a relationship.

00:08:46.180 I've always actually been a lover girl despite what I put out online for, you know...

00:08:50.080 I've never seen you online.

00:08:50.880 Yeah, that's fine.

00:08:51.820 That's even better.

00:08:53.680 I have always wanted one person.

00:08:56.540 And I feel like I was so delusional in thinking that, oh, I'm...

00:09:00.960 Like you said, like, I have value.

00:09:02.200 I'm beautiful.

00:09:02.640 I'm this.

00:09:03.040 I'm at my peak.

00:09:03.560 Like, why wouldn't you want to be with me?

00:09:04.980 So going into these relationships or just, like, I'm sorry, just people, my goal was always

00:09:10.280 to get commitment.

00:09:11.420 Like, I'm giving you my time.

00:09:12.600 I'm pouring into you because I want commitment.

00:09:14.880 And the reality is I'd never had...

00:09:17.040 I'd never really understood my value.

00:09:18.940 So I was going through guys, giving up sex, doing this, and it didn't make sense.

00:09:23.060 So I believe in, like, I stay on everything I do.

00:09:25.720 Like, I don't do apology tours.

00:09:28.100 It is what it is.

00:09:28.840 And I think that's where I feel like when they talk about women being delusional and all 1.00

00:09:32.620 these other things, it is true.

00:09:34.040 Because what you have to understand is that there are repercussions to your decisions,

00:09:36.880 which is fine.

00:09:37.780 So then you're talking about, okay, well, I want this type of guy.

00:09:40.080 I want this, that, and that.

00:09:40.960 You're talking about maybe monogamy.

00:09:42.060 That's three to five percent of animals are monogamous.

00:09:43.840 I think that's what it is.

00:09:44.860 Right?

00:09:45.020 So your window is really, really small for what you're looking for.

00:09:49.320 And even to go on to the point where you said where you were talking about it's like

00:09:51.580 a subconscious fear.

00:09:53.100 I think it's like, for me, I feel like if it was more of a fear, I would have just stayed

00:09:56.400 in my situation.

00:09:57.260 Like, it wouldn't have made sense.

00:09:58.500 Like, I mean, that was my first kid.

00:09:59.520 I thought I waited and did it right.

00:10:00.960 I left because I believe that there's something else on my heart when it comes to love.

00:10:05.400 And I'm just going to have to trust that.

00:10:06.660 And if that means being alone, having a dog, I have to take that chance because the Bentley,

00:10:11.280 the ring, the house, and still getting, again, deceived, right?

00:10:16.440 Disrespected because deceit is disrespect, right?

00:10:19.340 So I just, I cannot settle for that.

00:10:21.920 I can't suck a dick and shut up.

00:10:23.820 And that is where a lot of people don't like my views and what I represent because it is

00:10:28.640 something new.

00:10:29.500 I don't know how it's going to fucking end.

00:10:31.260 I don't know what's going to happen.

00:10:32.320 What would you tell your 17, if you had to, like, what would you tell your 17-year-old

00:10:36.600 self, knowing what you know now?

00:10:38.920 Looking back and you had to meet yourself at 17, what would you tell your, what would

00:10:43.380 you tell yourself?

00:10:44.340 Like, lock it down and wait for the right man.

00:10:46.340 Don't have sex. 0.60

00:10:46.960 What would you tell your 17-year-old self?

00:10:52.260 That the answers aren't outside of you because I feel like I'd always look for men to answer

00:10:57.560 all of my questions that I've ever had.

00:10:58.920 I thought when I had a man, it would complete me.

00:11:01.120 And I feel like, too, especially with, like, my dad not being in my life, you look for

00:11:05.540 somebody to guide me.

00:11:06.680 Like, so that's where, for me, I put too much value in someone else having the answers for

00:11:12.600 me.

00:11:13.040 So that's why I'm really big on accountability.

00:11:15.280 So I would just tell myself, like, to be patient, to take your time, because I was always

00:11:19.460 quick.

00:11:19.980 Oh, let's try to get in a relationship.

00:11:21.120 Like, we weren't even compatible.

00:11:23.160 There's a lot of just not compatible factors.

00:11:25.780 So I feel like, for me, it would be to slow down and to really get to know people instead

00:11:30.720 of just blindly banking on potential that most likely will never be tapped into or selling

00:11:35.500 myself short because there's a fear of, well, I don't know.

00:11:37.620 This could be the best that I could get.

00:11:38.700 I might as well just shut up and suck a dick. 1.00

00:11:41.020 And that's what I meant about women nowadays, because exactly what you'd be telling your

00:11:46.640 17-year-old self is what happened back in the day.

00:11:49.800 So when I'm repeating these things, I'm going to, oh, you're old-fashioned, but it seems

00:11:54.080 like women do what they like, and then they hit a certain age and say, oh, well, I've got 0.99

00:11:58.320 to settle.

00:11:59.120 But it's not settling.

00:12:00.000 You're just getting whatever you can or whatever you deserve.

00:12:03.660 You know what?

00:12:04.140 Because if you think back now, you'd be telling people now, rather than say that auntie's

00:12:07.980 old-fashioned or auntie don't know what she's talking about, look what she'd be telling 0.93

00:12:11.580 her 17-year-old self, which ain't nothing that I already said.

00:12:14.660 Yeah, that's right.

00:12:15.440 Because really and truly, really and truly, let me finish, let me finish, because what

00:12:18.840 I've always said, and you can check, I'm an older version of you.

00:12:22.480 So where you've been, I've already been an upper comeback.

00:12:26.480 So that's why I asked you, what would you tell your 17-year-old self?

00:12:29.980 Because me telling you is, I'm telling my 30-year-old self.

00:12:34.120 Do you understand where I'm coming from?

00:12:35.400 So it's not that I'm old-fashioned, it's just that women hit a certain age and then realise, 1.00

00:12:40.040 oh my God, it wasn't that old-fashioned.

00:12:42.680 You know, it works, because it does.

00:12:45.360 But there's no point in waiting until you're a certain age to start thinking about it.

00:12:50.940 You know, even if you're, like, you hold your own accountability.

00:12:53.640 So it's like if you meet somebody and they were like 17, 18, and you saw the match in

00:12:57.300 a certain way, they asked you for advice, you wouldn't say do as I do.

00:12:59.940 You would say, listen, this is what happened to me, and this is what I thought, and what

00:13:02.840 I recommend you do is blah, blah, blah.

00:13:04.900 Am I right or am I wrong?

00:13:05.940 If they ask you for your advice.

00:13:07.140 No, I totally get what you're saying.

00:13:08.500 I totally agree with that.

00:13:10.040 I think that no matter what you decide to do, you have to accept whatever repercussions

00:13:13.300 come behind that.

00:13:14.060 So any advice that I give to anybody is do what you want, but just know there are repercussions,

00:13:18.060 good, bad, or indifferent, that are going to come behind it.

00:13:20.100 So, I mean, and I think that's just where I'm at.

00:13:21.980 I don't even think it's like an age thing.

00:13:23.420 I think it's like, in reality, I have a son, and you really start asking yourself questions.

00:13:28.980 And again, I hate that it took having a child to really look into my life and call myself

00:13:34.360 out on my bullshit.

00:13:35.240 So if you got pregnant earlier, if you got pregnant at 18, 19, would it?

00:13:40.140 I was always on birth control.

00:13:41.460 I was on birth control for a decade.

00:13:42.760 I got off birth control because of the person I was with wanting to have a baby.

00:13:45.340 So again, I thought I did it right.

00:13:47.300 Clearly not because I wasn't married, but it still didn't work out because it just wasn't

00:13:51.480 my guy.

00:13:52.140 So that's where I just think like, even if I still would have taken it slow, there just

00:13:55.560 were a lot of people that just were genuinely not my person.

00:13:57.860 And that's okay.

00:13:58.560 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this

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JustPearlyThings - December 27, 2022

Andrew Tate Explains Polygamy

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