JustPearlyThings - April 16, 2023


Are Her Expectations Unrealistic？？


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9 minutes

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2,084

Sentence count

162

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5

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In this episode, we talk about money and how important it is to have a partner at your age. We also talk about how we would split the bills if we were to live together and how much money we would need to make to support each other.

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00:00:00.000 When you said drive and ambition, so what about you guys? How important is money to you guys?
00:00:09.160 I think it's important, but I don't know if I'm just saying that because I'm younger than everyone.
00:00:13.020 Me personally, I feel like at this age, I want to go out, I want to have fun and stuff like that.
00:00:18.940 But if I'm going to be in a relationship, then I feel like I want to be with somebody who can live that life with me,
00:00:24.620 like go on holidays and stuff like that.
00:00:26.340 Obviously, when I'm older, you know, you want to be focusing on like investments and stuff.
00:00:32.180 You want to have a house, you want to have a car and stuff.
00:00:34.140 You want to be able to support yourself financially.
00:00:37.900 But I just feel like when you're my age, like I want to go on holiday.
00:00:42.300 I want to go party. I want to, you know, buy all the expensive stuff, go shopping because I don't have any real responsibilities right now.
00:00:50.180 But yeah, for me, like if I'm going to be dating at this age, I want someone who can spend on me.
00:00:55.860 Do you do you expect him to cover all the bills when you go out?
00:00:58.820 Not all the bills.
00:00:59.860 Like what percent? I mean, give me specifics.
00:01:02.020 How often do you need to be taken out in a week?
00:01:04.780 Like I don't mind like going out like once a week.
00:01:07.380 So once a week.
00:01:08.380 Yeah, if we go out once a week, you want to take me out.
00:01:10.680 How expensive is the dinner?
00:01:12.700 If the dinner is like...
00:01:14.540 I don't know how much you cost.
00:01:16.060 If the dinner...
00:01:17.040 Okay, let's just put it a basic here.
00:01:19.700 Chick-fil-A? 0.57
00:01:20.440 If the dinner is like...
00:01:22.500 No, I don't mind.
00:01:23.560 Like I'm not fussy in it.
00:01:24.620 But like if the dinner is like we're going out to like an expensive place.
00:01:27.680 Say we're going to like Mayfair or something.
00:01:29.180 Like he can cover the bill.
00:01:30.200 But if it's like his birthday or something, I'll pay.
00:01:32.600 No, but I'm talking day to day.
00:01:33.920 So once a week, you expect Mayfair?
00:01:36.320 No, once a week.
00:01:37.680 Like we could do something basic.
00:01:39.200 I don't mind where we go.
00:01:39.980 Like I don't mind just being around you.
00:01:41.320 But if we're going to go out and like get something, even if it's basic, like a McDonald's or whatever, like you have to pay.
00:01:46.800 And if you lived with him, would you expect him to pay 100% of the bills?
00:01:50.400 No.
00:01:51.040 50-50?
00:01:52.160 No.
00:01:53.500 Maybe like 80-20 or like 70-30.
00:01:57.060 I feel like that's fair.
00:01:57.840 The cost of living in London is expensive.
00:02:00.460 I know.
00:02:01.240 But yeah, that's just how I thought.
00:02:02.820 Do you know how much he would need to make to do that?
00:02:05.780 Not really.
00:02:07.060 Like I just feel like it just depends.
00:02:09.160 Like if you're making like a lot of money, then I feel like it goes up.
00:02:14.160 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:14.480 Like if you're making a lot of money, say I'm not making as much as you just yet, then you want to live together.
00:02:19.880 Then maybe it's going to be like more.
00:02:22.500 Maybe like.
00:02:23.120 What do you mean?
00:02:24.340 Like if we're living together and you're making more money than me at this age, like say I'm still in uni.
00:02:30.720 I'm not like actually working yet, but you want to live with me.
00:02:33.460 Like then I feel like the bills have to be more on your side.
00:02:36.820 Like you have to support me until.
00:02:38.520 But if you were making more money than you'd contribute.
00:02:40.780 So after you graduated university, you'd be like 50-50.
00:02:43.500 Yeah, I'd actually I'd actually like split 50-50.
00:02:46.200 If we're making around around the same amount, we're both working and getting good pay.
00:02:50.820 Then 50-50 is fair. 0.94
00:02:52.620 What about height?
00:02:53.320 Is that important to you?
00:02:54.680 Yeah, because I'm like I'm not like super tall, but I'm a tall girl.
00:02:57.740 Like I'm 5'8", so that I don't want to be.
00:02:59.760 I get it.
00:03:00.100 I'm six.
00:03:00.660 Yeah, I get it.
00:03:01.760 I don't want to be with no one who's like shorter than me.
00:03:04.260 Like I feel like high.
00:03:05.200 5'7"?
00:03:06.320 No.
00:03:06.920 5'10"?
00:03:07.700 No.
00:03:09.220 Okay.
00:03:09.600 Six foot?
00:03:10.160 Six foot, yeah.
00:03:10.940 Six foot and up?
00:03:11.580 Six foot and up.
00:03:12.400 Yeah.
00:03:12.860 Okay.
00:03:13.240 So how old are you again?
00:03:15.280 I'm 19.
00:03:16.080 19.
00:03:16.580 Okay.
00:03:16.800 So if he's, let's say 25, is that an okay age or is that too old?
00:03:21.320 What, for me?
00:03:22.020 Yeah, for you.
00:03:22.540 That is too old.
00:03:23.320 Too old?
00:03:23.680 Okay, let's go down.
00:03:25.800 22?
00:03:27.960 Maybe 21.
00:03:29.060 21.
00:03:29.480 21.
00:03:29.660 Okay.
00:03:30.160 He works at Tesco.
00:03:31.020 Are you cool with that?
00:03:33.080 No.
00:03:33.800 No?
00:03:34.340 Ooh.
00:03:35.280 He's only 21.
00:03:36.660 He's just starting off.
00:03:37.640 You know what?
00:03:38.220 If he works at Tesco, but he has ideas of going somewhere else, then that's fair.
00:03:42.980 But if you're working at Tesco, and Tesco's the only place you have your mindset, like this
00:03:47.440 is the only way I'm going to get money, cool, I'm just going to stay here, then it's a no
00:03:50.760 from me.
00:03:51.240 Okay, so is there a dollar amount that he has to be at?
00:03:55.340 I'm just trying to paint, so he's a six-foot guy.
00:03:57.880 Maybe I know someone, you know?
00:03:59.260 Maybe I meet a lot of people on the show.
00:04:02.800 Not really.
00:04:03.660 Like, as long as we can be financially stable, do you know what I mean?
00:04:07.100 Like, if we're cool, we can afford to, like, do the grocery shopping and stuff like that.
00:04:11.080 Like, all the luxury stuff, like, it comes as a bonus.
00:04:14.600 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:04:15.760 But, like, you know.
00:04:17.140 So, at this age, it sounds like looks are more important to you than money.
00:04:21.440 Yeah.
00:04:21.900 Because the height thing seemed more important.
00:04:23.780 You seem more fussed about the height than the money.
00:04:26.020 Yeah.
00:04:26.400 Like, I feel like for me personally, like, if I'm in a relationship with someone right
00:04:30.500 now, like, if we go out, I can pay for them.
00:04:33.660 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:34.060 Like, I can treat them how I want them to treat me, but I feel like as well, if you're
00:04:40.000 going to be in a relationship with someone, you have to be attracted to them.
00:04:42.960 Like, that's the bottom line.
00:04:43.900 I feel like, obviously, everyone's on this, oh, love is blind, blah, blah, blah.
00:04:47.180 But, like, for me, like, I'm not going to be with someone who I'm not attracted to.
00:04:50.500 That's just how it is for me.
00:04:52.340 It's crazy, though.
00:04:53.660 It's true.
00:04:54.120 You ever look at super rich guys?
00:04:57.080 Jeff Bezos.
00:04:58.520 I look at him, and I'm not actually attracted to him, but he's rich.
00:05:01.160 So, girl, I'm telling you, money gives girls glasses. 1.00
00:05:07.060 You'd be surprised.
00:05:09.260 Okay, so you seem like you cared also more about looks or money?
00:05:15.000 Just because you said you didn't care about money earlier, I'm assuming you care more
00:05:18.000 about looks, but I could be wrong.
00:05:19.580 I think it's, like, looks and being attracted to someone can be quite different.
00:05:23.860 You can be attracted to someone by someone's aura and how they move and stuff like that.
00:05:27.020 I think you can, looks, fade, and it's just the way someone holds themselves, their presence
00:05:33.420 and stuff like that.
00:05:34.000 You could, like, look at them and not necessarily think they're attractive, and in five minutes,
00:05:37.760 you're, like, I'm in.
00:05:39.440 So, like, pretty eyes is enough.
00:05:41.720 Okay, so looks is more important than money, or money is more important than looks?
00:05:46.060 No, I think, like, presence and vibe is more important than either of them.
00:05:49.200 So charisma?
00:05:49.980 Yeah, that's it.
00:05:50.480 That's a better word.
00:05:51.360 You, like, charismatic guys?
00:05:52.860 Yes, exactly.
00:05:53.380 Okay, um, what about you?
00:05:55.880 Um, what, how, how tall does he have to be?
00:05:59.420 Well, I'm 5'5", so, do you know what it is, yeah?
00:06:02.160 I've actually dated a couple short guys, so I can't even talk too tough, I can't lie.
00:06:05.940 But, I'd say, like, obviously, I'd want him to be either my height or just a little bit taller.
00:06:10.600 To be honest, I don't really want a tall, tall guy, because, like, if he's moving a bit mad,
00:06:14.700 I need to be able to bud him up just a little bit, do you know what I mean?
00:06:17.200 Can't be feeling a bit.
00:06:18.720 Wait, if he, wait, say that again.
00:06:20.160 No, sorry.
00:06:21.040 Sorry, wait, wait, wait, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha.
00:06:23.380 Now, so, if he's moving a bit mad, you need to, like, humble him?
00:06:28.060 Just a little bit, do you know what I mean?
00:06:30.100 Okay, so.
00:06:30.640 I'm going to need a frying pan.
00:06:31.640 So, let's say he's 5'7", he's 5'7", he's feeling himself, what are you doing?
00:06:38.220 What do you mean, feeling himself, like he's being rude?
00:06:40.420 I guess, I don't know, whatever, you're just, can you give me a situation?
00:06:44.440 I'm going to cuss him or something, do you know what I mean?
00:06:45.900 But I'm saying, if I had a 6'5 guy, right, or 5'7", like you said, that's quite tall, actually, yeah, 5'7", and then, no, it's not.
00:06:52.260 I'm going to go for 6'5", and then he's, like, he's, I don't know, say I call him Madonna cheating, or just something mad, or, like, he's just messed, he's sexting women.
00:07:01.160 Okay, so, has this happened?
00:07:03.020 No.
00:07:03.480 Okay.
00:07:04.160 No one's been brave enough.
00:07:05.080 Okay, so, 5'7", guys sexting other girls.
00:07:07.660 Yeah, I've just got, I watched Tyler Perry, yeah, one of the Madea movies, and it's stuck with me since, and I took it, I said, God bless me with this, because basically, he was cheating, and, like, she had kids with him and stuff, do you know what she done?
00:07:20.600 She put on lingerie, he came up from his business trip, weren't no business trip, right, he was with another woman, but she thought he didn't know.
00:07:27.340 And then, she, like, basically, said, like, she got the shower running through him and everything, she took everything out of the bathroom, she put baby oil on the floor, so he would slip and slide, and then she just, like, whipped him with his belt. 0.52
00:07:39.500 I said, yeah, I'm taking that one for the book.
00:07:41.780 Okay, so, if he's 5'7", you're going to need to do that.
00:07:45.580 So, if you catch him cheating, you're going to essentially abuse him.
00:07:49.020 Well, I wouldn't say I'm going to.
00:07:50.120 Imagine if a woman did that. 1.00
00:07:51.900 If this was the other way.
00:07:52.760 Or a man did that to a woman. 1.00
00:07:54.080 I wouldn't say I'm going to abuse him, but I'm just giving you an analogy.
00:07:56.200 Obviously, I need to be able to kind of just put a little bit of fear, like, bro, this is just major disrespect.
00:08:01.280 You think, okay, you think a guy who most men can beat you up easily.
00:08:06.060 Yeah, agreed.
00:08:07.080 He's going to be afraid of you.
00:08:08.760 No, that's why I need the baby oil. 0.81
00:08:11.240 Because he ain't afraid of me.
00:08:14.700 Okay, okay, so, but if he's 6'4", what's the difference?
00:08:19.320 I don't know, he's just mad to, like, yeah, he could just literally just pick me up by my neck, like, just, whoop.
00:08:25.340 Okay, so, all right, so, so you need to date the guy that's 5'7", so you can potentially, if he cheats on you, hurt him in the shower by making him slip on baby oil.
00:08:36.440 No, no, no, that's not the point, but what I'm trying to say is that I feel more comfortable.
00:08:39.800 I'm just, I'm just trying to say back what I thought you said.
00:08:43.740 No, I'm just trying to give out that.
00:08:45.560 Basically, I just prefer not-so-tall men because I find them sometimes intimidating.
00:08:50.040 That's all it is, and I feel like some men...
00:08:51.900 The tall men are intimidating.
00:08:53.300 Yeah, and I feel like sometimes, not saying a short man can't also be intimidating, or he can't have, like, mannerisms that make you feel intimidated.
00:09:00.600 But I'm just saying, off of looks, like you say, like, what you're attracted to and stuff like that, that just kind of put me off if someone's, like, really tall.
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