JustPearlyThings - Arranged Marriages Have Fewer Divorce Rates

00:00:00.000 i think he makes a good point i mean there's a couple of content creators that spring to mind

00:00:03.520 who are very very they really push this line i think it's um they really work out they really

00:00:08.660 push this line of like no you've got to be you've got to be up front you've got to be honest with

00:00:12.820 her this is how the deal is going to be right you'll you may be my main girl but i'm gonna i'm 0.97

00:00:17.180 gonna have sex you know around i think it's it's extremely difficult to pull off i would say for 0.64

00:00:23.940 the average guy there may be some guys who can pull it off and even then how what longevity 0.73

00:00:30.460 that's gonna have yeah no is another thing and i'm a guy that's i'm a guy that's in you know

00:00:35.020 in regards to success you know it was very evident that i'm successful you know putting it down in 0.96

00:00:40.460 the bedroom i take care of everybody nobody pays for anything i'm not a fucking sim i'm not paying 0.99

00:00:45.140 bills for any of those but like you know like when they're with me when i'm with we're with me 0.97

00:00:50.000 dinner's covered ubers are covered everything's sorted so i don't know am i such a fucking beta 0.95

00:00:55.660 male that they just don't submit to my alphaness no but i don't think that's the case i just i and 0.83

00:01:01.060 and from the women i've talked to and i asked pearl yesterday and now um sorry is hanny hanny here

00:01:06.720 hanny hanny again just reiterated the same fact that she did not want to be in a situation when a man

00:01:13.600 was juggling multiple women however however however if i now push i'm 40 yeah yeah single god forbid 0.60

00:01:22.320 yeah with no kids god forbid again then um my value has decreased massively so i'm also aware of that

00:01:29.840 so then from yeah to a degree so then what i would do is because i'm desperate at that point

00:01:35.840 i would be a second wife but only islamically only because i feel like islamically it can work

00:01:41.680 because there's structure so if he has two wives there's seven days in a week we'll calculate it 0.96

00:01:49.680 two three me three her then that one odd day you're 40 you only get like two

00:01:54.080 no no no he has to be even or else he's gonna get he's gonna get a sin so the way he works is

00:02:03.040 this usually men that are more religious usually take that responsibility because it's a big

00:02:07.600 responsibility he is responsible for me and her he has to treat us equally he can't buy one person

00:02:13.520 a sweet and not buy the other one a sweet tomorrow and he has to split his days equally so that one

00:02:18.240 off day in the week we are rotating this week so i want to add on to that so and now that in my opinion

00:02:26.480 adds to my original statement because now this is no longer romantic love this is transactional 1.00

00:02:31.920 you're like all right well here i'll suck your dick on this day and this day and like you know yeah it 0.99

00:02:37.120 all sounds very sort of uh structured doesn't like overly i actually i actually think that most 0.99

00:02:43.200 love likely is transactional love to an extent yeah yeah and i think it almost like should be in a way

00:02:50.640 it should be yeah why do you think it should be because hear me out women find 80 of men is ugly

00:02:56.480 yeah 80 of men ugly ugly ugly and yeah so i can agree with that walking around london well yeah

00:03:05.360 it's like women you know so it's like women really only are going to have genuine desire for like 20 0.95

00:03:13.120 of men maybe 25. so so so it's like what the other girls what do they got they gotta they either die

00:03:19.520 alone or you know find some transactions who's got the stat about india though marriage is arranged 0.98

00:03:24.960 marriages in india and how successful they are all of hindus all hinduism divorce rate one percent

00:03:33.520 yeah yeah but you don't think that's more transactional when it's arranged it is no it is 0.98

00:03:37.680 transactional or it's more like well listen marriage the reason why westerners suck at marriage namely women 1.00

00:03:46.080 is because they are based they're basing the backbone of their relationships on feelings and feelings are

00:03:54.880 a fleeting thing feelings do not stay it's changing and it's coming and going and if you're a person

00:04:02.800 who lives your life based upon your feelings only you're going to have an awful life right your

00:04:08.000 relationship's going to be awful marriage is not based upon feelings marriage is a logical commitment

00:04:14.160 for between two people for better for worse for rich or for poor for sick or for health am i wrong here

00:04:20.320 in general i've got a question i've got a question for that as well though the only reason why is

00:04:25.760 because the only things i'm factoring here i'm also factoring the biological side of things as well

00:04:31.680 yeah and it's like to some degree yeah it's very easy for like and this isn't in defense it's just

00:04:36.240 like my opinion in it it's very easy for like us as men yet to be like yo boom a female should be

00:04:40.880 logical like say let's say i'm arguing with my girlfriend i could be i could be thinking yo she really

00:04:44.720 should be thinking this but i really do also believe that on the flip side of things i don't

00:04:49.440 understand that chemistry at all so it's like it's like it's that that that battle to find that balance

00:04:55.600 of you should be logical here to some degree but you're also battling this like how do you do that

00:05:01.360 because early earlier when you were making a point and you were saying that um that or was it you that

00:05:05.440 making a point that oh some females you know they want a bit more attention and then you made a point 0.95

00:05:10.000 earlier saying that oh as long as it's equal but did you see the energy she had when she said but if

00:05:14.560 he misses that one day if he misses that one day that's a scene yeah so so so already what and

00:05:23.760 because i like to like listen to everyone to speak after like from analyzing that she proved a point

00:05:28.960 she proved that to some degree her emotion will come into it yeah and if he does slip up from the

00:05:33.520 statistical transactional side of things things can go left and then the issue is when things go left

00:05:39.120 how will women react to it going left well they can go left definitely but i think what we we were

00:05:43.600 saying about the the hindu statistic is that uh when it's structured and when it's based on something

00:05:49.280 beyond just emotion when there's a bigger a wider structure to it then i mean it's it's more likely

00:05:55.680 to last isn't it in that situation look what happens when women follow their feelings yeah we're 0.99

00:06:00.800 freaking idiots like come on it's a total mess you know 90 100 years ago 95 of people were married 0.99

00:06:09.040 when 95 of people were less exposed as well now correct what has that done so it's like if 95 of 1.00

00:06:14.960 people are married now women have more power than ever to pick their partner we have dating apps we have

00:06:21.120 instagram we have more freedom than we've ever had and less influence from our family because we're getting

00:06:26.640 married at 31 20 so the more freedom that we have the more divorced our country is

00:06:35.120 i get what i'm saying i think the difference is with marriage especially we're saying arranged marriage

00:06:39.120 right it's about duty and i think about duty right even when you love someone there are going to be

00:06:44.320 things in order for it to be successful there are going to be things that you are going to have to do

00:06:48.480 that you don't want to do right yes all these guys are you know your content creators even pearl right

00:06:54.000 there are plenty of things about being a content creator yeah we love creating the content yeah

00:06:58.880 but there are plenty of things that you have to do that we if we could choose we wouldn't have to

00:07:02.320 do we want to buy all the expensive you don't have to learn how to make thumbnails making thumbnails

00:07:09.280 we don't want to have to learn to do that right but we choose to do those things because it's about

00:07:13.120 serving the bigger picture yeah so i think in marriage right when you only function from your

00:07:18.480 feelings you only make decisions from your feelings it means there are going to be days where you

00:07:22.640 should be choosing to do something because it's your duty to even when you don't want to but for

00:07:27.120 the marriage yeah but that's the problem but but the problem societally societally the big problem

00:07:30.880 now is of course there's not there's not really those constraints is there so yeah and that's the

00:07:35.440 fundamental issue i was mentioned earlier ron someone i can't remember if it was one of you guys

00:07:39.200 but someone mentioned how when in in the china was a chinese or japanese relationship yeah yeah when

00:07:43.760 someone reached the age of 40 years old the woman was like go have sex with you for like now 1.00

00:07:48.880 so just go get a girlfriend go get a girlfriend now this is the thing though like i do believe

00:07:52.960 that within a marriage and within a relationship there are some factors that i think should be

00:07:56.960 maintained throughout from beginning it starts to when it ends and i do think attraction maybe not

00:08:01.760 even sexual attraction but just attraction of your partner i think that's something that should be

00:08:05.600 maintained throughout and it's like i think that if like what's the my question is for the balance

00:08:10.880 the balance of logical things that need to be done and that fun romanticism that's still important

00:08:15.920 i think there should be no balance there should be no balance not i think in an ideal world yeah

00:08:22.880 okay i mean is that realistic in the west maybe if we banned women voting birth control and a lot of

00:08:28.240 other stuff yeah that's a whole nother another topic but but it's like we look at the outcomes there's

00:08:34.880 no feelings involved 99 success rate women's feelings get involved yeah 50 success rate average age of 1.00

00:08:43.680 marriage is eight years they have like 12 bodies 90 of us are on birth control one out of three of

00:08:48.800 us has an std one of three of us has an abortion and john zerk is john zerk is getting laid like a rock 0.95

00:08:54.560 star i mean what's that all about yeah you know i think the issue with today is that um everyone's

00:09:01.120 feelings are being directed in a distracting manner and i think that's what the issue is it's not that

00:09:06.320 people have i think it's women's feelings yeah women i say women's then because men don't even 0.99

00:09:10.000 necessarily control that element of things but in regards to women i feel like their feelings are

00:09:14.240 being directed towards oh wait cardi b just got bought a birkin bag from offset i want my my feelings

00:09:20.960 are telling me i now want that so now that's the definition of what love is to me i was i was listening

00:09:26.240 i was listening to a song from the 90s and it was like a trisha yearwood song and in the song it talks

00:09:32.640 about how the guy gave her his high school ring as a wedding ring until he could afford a real one

00:09:37.600 what what percent of women would accept his high school ring as their wedding ring get married in 0.60

00:09:44.080 a courthouse and maybe do a wedding later that would be it's about it's about the wedding it's

00:09:50.160 not about the marriage like we spend so much time thinking about what what is life going to be like

00:09:55.840 oh what what is this magical wedding day going to be like but they've never thought what's it going

00:10:00.240 to be like my day-to-day as a wife you know i had a girl come on the show where she was literally 1.00

00:10:06.560 telling me how she was going to have four kids and then meditate in the morning journal like that's

00:10:11.920 how she's going to start her day with four kids no no this is the delusion i'm like you're someone's

00:10:16.480 going to be screaming someone's going to be crying someone's going to be pulling you out of bed yeah

JustPearlyThings - June 15, 2023

Arranged Marriages Have Fewer Divorce Rates

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