At least she was honest
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the importance of maturing in relationships and what it means to be mature in a relationship. Who is the prize, men or women? Who are you looking for in a partner? What do you have to offer a man that you haven t given to another man before?
Transcript
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What do you have to offer a man that you haven't given any other man?
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So I'm going to start with, why don't you start?
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I don't know the answer to that question, honestly.
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I guess in this stage of my life, I can offer more maturity in my relationship.
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I have, but I think with age and time and experience, I've got more mature and I have a better understanding in relationships.
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Since every man is different, I feel like with a different man, I bring something different to them.
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I think like she said, I just think every man is different.
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All relationships are compromise, getting to know each other, building together, understanding each other.
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So I think at this stage, probably I understand myself better.
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So I think like there's more clarity now, I think, on my part as to what I would require or what.
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I know what I want and I know what I would like to gain at the same time.
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I feel like there's nothing I can offer a man that he can't already get.
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What would you guys like a girl to offer you that you haven't gotten, that she hasn't given to another guy?
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I think after a long day of just working, going to the gym, just want to come home to peace.
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I don't know if it's possible or if it actually exists, but yeah.
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And did any of the answers that they gave sound like something you would want that was of value to you?
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I guess if it's your first relationship, you're going to make mistakes and it's your first time.
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You're not really going to, you've never experienced it before.
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And you're going to learn from your experiences and be a better person.
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So, it's good to like, for someone to actually be able to realize in my first experience, I weren't really doing what I was meant to or I didn't understand certain things, but now I'm willing to.
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This is what happens when you're a veteran on the show.
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For me, men and women are the prize to each other.
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In the pursuit for happiness, I think women are the prize.
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But as you kind of cut off my answer, so I can't give you the answer I wanted to give.
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But in that, yeah, women are the prize for men.
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I feel like from a young age, I've always seen the woman just sits there and the man is
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I think it depends on what stage of life you're at.
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For me, personally, I think if we're going to go like just looking right now, I would
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say women are the prize, as in she's the trophy on your arm.
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You kind of create her as to what looks good for you.
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But I think as a woman, I just think, I don't know.
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But like what she said, I just feel like the age I'm at, we should both be a prize to
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Like there should be some middle ground or I can't expect the man to do everything.
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I'm very traditional, but we have to adapt to the world that we're in, if that makes
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So I think if you just want me to say yes or no, I would say women are the prize from
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However, I think as you grow up, you realize morals, values, like even beliefs.
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I feel like those things are all things that intertwine and will defend, will determine
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If you're, some people are beautiful, but they're dusty inside.
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Because then you, wouldn't you have traditional outcomes?
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Well, me personally, I think I'm traditional in terms of my morals and my beliefs in regards
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So when I say, I think I've watched a podcast before, you were talking about submission.
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But I believe we're in a world where men and women are not equal.
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And I think that as you get older, you just need to understand yourself.
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I'm not going to go in and project myself onto someone's son.
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I need to have my stuff together, whether it's psychologically, spiritually, financially
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I don't think there's a time for, or you could also be traditional, get married and
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Well, I would say if I got divorced, I wouldn't be traditional then.
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Like, because to me, traditional is traditional outcomes.
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Like, I don't think you can say you're traditional.
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But I'm saying like, until you have traditional outcomes, how can someone claim to be traditional?
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I believe that in the beginning, the woman is the prize.
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And then when she gets to a certain stage in her life, it switches over and the man becomes
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So like when women become, like, I'd say from about 40 onwards.
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It switches over and the men become the prize and the women are not so much the prize.
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Because as a guy right now, at my age, and even in all of our ages, especially like us
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guys in our 20s, I don't feel like there's, what prize, like, what do I get from being
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For me personally, in this current market right now, if I go out with a girl, she's
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What can he get that he can't get from a hooker and a maid?
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Because a lot of times when I ask girls this, they give, like, broad statements without specifics.
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So, you're saying that you're going to date her, take her on holidays.
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There's no woman on this planet that will get all of that good stuff and not give you love.
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Tlaffy, Amber Heard, Amber Heard, Jada Pinkett Smith.
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There are women who see that he is the prize and don't go for it.
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But the thing is, like, what I'm saying today, like, modern women, I think it's a bad deal.
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Question, was you a virgin when you married your wife?
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The average age of first marriage in the UK is 31, so we don't have the youth anymore.
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I think you guys get the better end of the stick, which is what makes us the prize.
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I was going to say, all right, you're saying the hookah, all of that.
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Apart from sex, all of that, in my head, I feel like you would have...
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You know women are nurturing, well, most women, hopefully.
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You know you have people that are your friends before you get into relationships.
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That friendship, that whole, like, being there for you ever is through a mental breakdown.
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That sincerity of not using you for what you have, I feel like that is what you potentially
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would get from a sincere person, if you get what I'm saying.
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I could get that from a friend, though, like my guy friend.
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What I'm saying, like, that's a woman's point of view, because I think that's what you would
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But, like, so a lot of times, like, as girls, when we think about what we want, like, we
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