JustPearlyThings - April 02, 2023


At least she was honest


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9 minutes

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17

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In this episode, we discuss the importance of maturing in relationships and what it means to be mature in a relationship. Who is the prize, men or women? Who are you looking for in a partner? What do you have to offer a man that you haven t given to another man before?

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00:00:00.000 What do you have to offer a man that you haven't given any other man?
00:00:05.960 I like this question.
00:00:07.960 So I'm going to start with, why don't you start?
00:00:12.400 I knew you was going to say that.
00:00:13.540 Yeah, see, they're new.
00:00:14.820 You're a seasoned vet.
00:00:17.680 I don't know the answer to that question, honestly.
00:00:23.980 I guess in this stage of my life, I can offer more maturity in my relationship.
00:00:30.620 So you haven't offered that before?
00:00:32.720 I have, but I think with age and time and experience, I've got more mature and I have a better understanding in relationships.
00:00:41.960 Okay.
00:00:44.000 Honestly, I don't know.
00:00:45.840 But I was having this conversation earlier.
00:00:49.560 Since every man is different, I feel like with a different man, I bring something different to them.
00:00:56.980 So I think it depends on the man.
00:01:00.000 Okay.
00:01:00.340 I think like she said, I just think every man is different.
00:01:05.620 All relationships are compromise, getting to know each other, building together, understanding each other.
00:01:10.900 So I think at this stage, probably I understand myself better.
00:01:14.100 My non-negotiables, my negotiables.
00:01:16.760 So I think like there's more clarity now, I think, on my part as to what I would require or what.
00:01:23.080 So what you offer is you know what you want?
00:01:25.280 I know what I want and I know what I would like to gain at the same time.
00:01:29.840 Okay.
00:01:30.580 Go ahead.
00:01:30.980 I feel like there's nothing I can offer a man that he can't already get.
00:01:39.600 Okay.
00:01:39.820 I mean, I've had a child.
00:01:42.400 So, okay.
00:01:43.200 I mean, yeah.
00:01:43.940 So, question for the man.
00:01:48.020 What would you guys like a girl to offer you that you haven't gotten, that she hasn't given to another guy?
00:01:53.860 Peace.
00:01:56.000 Peace.
00:01:56.680 Peace of mind, I'm telling you.
00:01:58.240 I think after a long day of just working, going to the gym, just want to come home to peace.
00:02:05.220 I don't know if it's possible or if it actually exists, but yeah.
00:02:08.720 And how would a girl offer that to you? 0.99
00:02:12.160 Don't give me a headache.
00:02:13.300 And did any of the answers that they gave sound like something you would want that was of value to you?
00:02:19.360 Yeah.
00:02:21.940 Both were their answers.
00:02:23.560 Okay.
00:02:23.920 Tell me why.
00:02:24.360 In terms of like maturing in a relationship.
00:02:28.720 I guess if it's your first relationship, you're going to make mistakes and it's your first time.
00:02:33.300 You're not really going to, you've never experienced it before.
00:02:35.580 And you're going to learn from your experiences and be a better person.
00:02:39.000 So, it's good to like, for someone to actually be able to realize in my first experience, I weren't really doing what I was meant to or I didn't understand certain things, but now I'm willing to.
00:02:49.900 Okay.
00:02:50.560 And what about you?
00:02:51.240 Same questions.
00:02:52.040 Well, I'm married.
00:02:53.240 So, sorry, I should say, what did you get?
00:02:56.300 What did I get?
00:02:56.900 Yes.
00:02:58.600 Can at least be, nah, I mean, Jenny really.
00:03:01.940 Oh, you married a virgin?
00:03:02.840 Yeah.
00:03:03.120 Oh, that's great.
00:03:03.880 Yeah.
00:03:04.500 That was, that's pretty much it.
00:03:05.720 But I'd say something similar, like peace.
00:03:08.100 Okay.
00:03:10.080 Do you want to?
00:03:12.720 Okay.
00:03:13.160 Okay.
00:03:13.640 I didn't, you seemed like, okay.
00:03:15.080 Who, okay.
00:03:16.080 Who is the prize, men or women?
00:03:24.480 You're a seasoned vet.
00:03:25.760 This is what happens when you're a veteran on the show.
00:03:27.980 I'm a veteran.
00:03:28.700 I'm still smiling.
00:03:29.700 I'm still here.
00:03:31.420 For me, men and women are the prize to each other.
00:03:35.700 Okay.
00:03:37.220 How?
00:03:39.920 Oh, sorry.
00:03:41.520 How was it even?
00:03:41.940 Okay, you know what?
00:03:42.480 Actually, no.
00:03:43.160 I don't accept that answer.
00:03:44.340 Pick one.
00:03:44.640 You don't?
00:03:44.980 Yeah, pick one.
00:03:45.940 Men or women.
00:03:46.560 Someone has to reach someone.
00:03:48.440 Someone's a prize.
00:03:51.660 In the pursuit for happiness, I think women are the prize. 1.00
00:03:57.020 Okay.
00:03:57.300 But as you kind of cut off my answer, so I can't give you the answer I wanted to give.
00:04:03.960 But in that, yeah, women are the prize for men. 0.99
00:04:06.620 Okay.
00:04:06.980 What do you guys think?
00:04:07.860 I feel like women are the prize. 1.00
00:04:10.060 I feel like from a young age, I've always seen the woman just sits there and the man is
00:04:16.000 always chasing after the woman.
00:04:17.540 So it just looks like the woman is the prize. 0.98
00:04:21.740 Okay.
00:04:21.880 I think it depends on what stage of life you're at.
00:04:28.760 For me, personally, I think if we're going to go like just looking right now, I would
00:04:34.300 say women are the prize, as in she's the trophy on your arm. 1.00
00:04:37.200 You kind of create her as to what looks good for you.
00:04:39.700 You take her out.
00:04:40.680 You get all of the compliments.
00:04:43.000 That's your woman. 0.88
00:04:43.680 She's amazing.
00:04:44.700 But I think as a woman, I just think, I don't know.
00:04:48.920 I feel like it works.
00:04:49.540 But like what she said, I just feel like the age I'm at, we should both be a prize to
00:04:54.500 each other.
00:04:55.100 Like there should be some middle ground or I can't expect the man to do everything.
00:04:58.840 Same way.
00:04:59.180 I'm very traditional, but we have to adapt to the world that we're in, if that makes
00:05:03.860 sense.
00:05:04.260 So I think if you just want me to say yes or no, I would say women are the prize from 1.00
00:05:07.560 a young age.
00:05:08.120 You're cute.
00:05:08.740 Your hair's long.
00:05:09.540 You're this.
00:05:09.980 You're that.
00:05:10.720 However, I think as you grow up, you realize morals, values, like even beliefs.
00:05:16.500 Like, do you get it?
00:05:18.220 I feel like those things are all things that intertwine and will defend, will determine
00:05:23.220 if you're a prize.
00:05:24.560 If you're, some people are beautiful, but they're dusty inside.
00:05:27.740 So I have a question.
00:05:29.100 You said you're traditional.
00:05:30.420 How are you traditional if you're not married?
00:05:33.100 Because then you, wouldn't you have traditional outcomes?
00:05:34.680 Well, me personally, I think I'm traditional in terms of my morals and my beliefs in regards
00:05:41.140 to men and women.
00:05:42.380 So when I say, I think I've watched a podcast before, you were talking about submission.
00:05:45.000 I know this generation, anti-submission.
00:05:47.880 X, X, X, X.
00:05:49.160 But I believe we're in a world where men and women are not equal.
00:05:53.380 Yes, we should be ideally, but we're not.
00:05:55.380 And I think that as you get older, you just need to understand yourself.
00:05:58.600 I'm not going to go in and project myself onto someone's son.
00:06:01.420 I need to have my stuff together, whether it's psychologically, spiritually, financially
00:06:05.640 in check, and then we can do it together.
00:06:07.840 I don't think there's a time for, or you could also be traditional, get married and
00:06:11.540 then get divorced.
00:06:12.520 So at the end of the day, I just think.
00:06:13.780 Well, I would say if I got divorced, I wouldn't be traditional then.
00:06:16.600 Like, because to me, traditional is traditional outcomes.
00:06:19.780 You're married with kids.
00:06:20.780 Like, I don't think you can say you're traditional.
00:06:22.600 No, that's the end goal, 100%.
00:06:23.820 Yeah.
00:06:24.080 But I'm saying like, until you have traditional outcomes, how can someone claim to be traditional?
00:06:28.320 Fair enough.
00:06:29.120 Yeah.
00:06:29.700 I mean, I'm not saying I'm traditional either.
00:06:31.420 Like, I'm not.
00:06:33.040 Okay.
00:06:34.180 I, sorry.
00:06:35.280 I believe that in the beginning, the woman is the prize. 0.99
00:06:40.100 So as in a woman, a woman has her prime stage. 1.00
00:06:44.360 And then when she gets to a certain stage in her life, it switches over and the man becomes
00:06:50.640 the prize.
00:06:51.780 So like when women become, like, I'd say from about 40 onwards. 1.00
00:06:59.320 Okay.
00:06:59.980 When the sexual market value switches.
00:07:01.640 Yeah.
00:07:01.680 It switches over and the men become the prize and the women are not so much the prize.
00:07:05.260 That's a good answer.
00:07:05.920 Okay.
00:07:06.220 What do you guys think?
00:07:07.080 Men or women? 0.78
00:07:08.520 I think men are the prize. 0.83
00:07:09.540 I'm not going to lie.
00:07:10.780 I'll be honest.
00:07:11.520 At all stages, you think men are the prize?
00:07:13.660 Pretty much.
00:07:14.800 Of course.
00:07:15.340 Not even in a way, like, to say, oh, I'm 100%.
00:07:18.380 Let me say why, yeah.
00:07:19.360 Because as a guy right now, at my age, and even in all of our ages, especially like us
00:07:25.940 guys in our 20s, I don't feel like there's, what prize, like, what do I get from being
00:07:32.200 in a relationship right now?
00:07:33.420 For me personally, in this current market right now, if I go out with a girl, she's 0.99
00:07:37.420 going to get dates.
00:07:38.360 She's going to get driven around wherever. 0.81
00:07:40.180 She's going to go on holidays.
00:07:41.680 What do I get?
00:07:42.800 What kind of woman are you looking for? 1.00
00:07:43.740 What can he get that he can't get from a hooker and a maid? 1.00
00:07:49.500 Love. 0.99
00:07:50.760 Love.
00:07:51.420 What does that mean?
00:07:53.720 Because a lot of times when I ask girls this, they give, like, broad statements without specifics.
00:07:57.480 So, could I have something specific?
00:07:58.960 Yeah.
00:08:00.120 So, you're saying that you're going to date her, take her on holidays. 1.00
00:08:04.260 I mean, a stupid... 1.00
00:08:04.920 Generally. 1.00
00:08:05.580 Yeah.
00:08:06.380 Good stuff.
00:08:07.420 Yeah?
00:08:07.740 Generally, yeah.
00:08:08.580 There's no woman on this planet that will get all of that good stuff and not give you love. 0.99
00:08:12.660 Tlaffy, Amber Heard, Amber Heard, Jada Pinkett Smith.
00:08:18.140 There are women who are opportunists. 1.00
00:08:19.900 There are women who see that he is the prize and don't go for it. 1.00
00:08:22.580 But I'm saying...
00:08:23.080 But the thing is, like, what I'm saying today, like, modern women, I think it's a bad deal. 1.00
00:08:27.360 It is a bad deal.
00:08:28.300 Yeah, because we're not virgins anymore.
00:08:31.000 Like, except him, he fell on.
00:08:33.820 We'll go to church, guys.
00:08:35.280 Question, was you a virgin when you married your wife?
00:08:38.080 No.
00:08:38.580 Okay.
00:08:38.960 The average age of first marriage in the UK is 31, so we don't have the youth anymore.
00:08:43.200 And the purity.
00:08:44.120 So, like, what do they get?
00:08:45.600 I think you guys get the better end of the stick, which is what makes us the prize.
00:08:48.280 We're going.
00:08:48.640 I was going to say, all right, you're saying the hookah, all of that. 0.97
00:08:50.900 In my mind, yeah.
00:08:52.460 Yeah.
00:08:52.780 Apart from sex, all of that, in my head, I feel like you would have...
00:08:56.700 You know women are nurturing, well, most women, hopefully. 0.99
00:08:59.420 You would have that, like...
00:09:00.800 I'm talking whether it's psychological.
00:09:03.840 You know you have people that are your friends before you get into relationships.
00:09:06.920 That friendship, that whole, like, being there for you ever is through a mental breakdown.
00:09:11.640 That sincerity of not using you for what you have, I feel like that is what you potentially
00:09:17.100 would get from a sincere person, if you get what I'm saying.
00:09:19.680 So...
00:09:19.980 I could get that from a friend, though, like my guy friend.
00:09:21.800 Okay, so I have to say...
00:09:22.860 What I'm saying, like, that's a woman's point of view, because I think that's what you would
00:09:26.780 want, is, like, sincerity from a guy.
00:09:28.980 But, like, so a lot of times, like, as girls, when we think about what we want, like, we
00:09:32.460 project it into what guys want.
00:09:34.480 They kind of just want us to shut up.
00:09:36.660 Peace.
00:09:37.080 You know, I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this
00:09:43.900 platform.
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