JustPearlyThings - April 23, 2023


Aunty Jenny Destroys Feminism With This Phrase


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

176.00923

Word Count

1,526

Sentence Count

124

Misogynist Sentences

49

Hate Speech Sentences

11


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 So today's topic is, has feminism done more harm than good?
00:00:04.880 So I'd like to hear from everybody.
00:00:06.860 Would you consider yourself a feminist, yes or no?
00:00:09.480 Okay, so I think that feminism is very important,
00:00:14.400 but I feel like the way it has manifested in the West in particular
00:00:18.640 is now causing a net negative.
00:00:21.160 And I feel like that's why conversations right now
00:00:23.300 are going to be really important to kind of hold back that sort of chaos.
00:00:26.180 So I'd say that I'm a feminist in the aspect of women's rights.
00:00:35.740 However, I'm not a feminist.
00:00:40.880 Women who go too far with feminism.
00:00:43.460 I think with a lot of women, they've been given an inch
00:00:47.180 and now they want to take the mile.
00:00:48.920 So that's my perception on it.
00:00:53.740 I would say I'm a feminist.
00:00:56.180 And that's because if not for feminism, I wouldn't be here right now
00:01:00.420 because I'm here because my mum's able to work as a nurse,
00:01:04.980 bring us from Nigeria and create a life for us.
00:01:09.000 So I'm grateful to feminism for my life, basically.
00:01:14.360 I wouldn't say I'm like, in terms of the new age feminism,
00:01:17.840 I do think certain women go a bit too far.
00:01:21.100 Like, in terms of promiscuity,
00:01:23.980 I don't feel like they should use feminism to justify promiscuity.
00:01:29.420 But I think a lot of women now,
00:01:30.800 they're using feminism as a way of justifying bad behaviour.
00:01:36.440 But feminism as a whole, I can't even say it.
00:01:40.120 Feminism as a whole, I think is very important
00:01:43.020 and it's helped a lot of women come out of abusive situations
00:01:46.580 and just empower women generally.
00:01:50.740 Yeah, I'd call myself a feminist.
00:01:52.140 I think feminism has done overwhelmingly, like, net good.
00:01:55.560 There might be a couple of crazy people today
00:01:56.860 on, like, Twitter and social media,
00:01:58.440 but I don't think we should let that taint the entire movement.
00:02:00.700 I think it's important to keep moving in a positive direction forward
00:02:02.760 while calling out the crazy people
00:02:04.300 that kind of try to hold things back.
00:02:06.500 Okay, and you?
00:02:07.900 I'm an old school feminist.
00:02:09.940 Women that know their place.
00:02:12.340 Got their rights.
00:02:13.740 I know their place.
00:02:15.680 I don't want to be a man.
00:02:17.500 I don't want to be equal to a man.
00:02:20.060 And feminism in the old school days
00:02:22.400 was nothing like the feminist now.
00:02:25.980 So if I was going to say that I'm a feminist,
00:02:28.080 I would say,
00:02:29.360 I'm an old school feminist
00:02:30.820 and that these young people
00:02:32.980 who now claim they're feminists,
00:02:36.060 they're not feminists.
00:02:37.020 They want to be men.
00:02:38.180 Yeah, I agree.
00:02:39.520 What's changed from then to now?
00:02:42.200 What's changed is that,
00:02:43.540 like the lady said,
00:02:44.780 she said a mile,
00:02:45.780 but I'm speaking that as a dressmaker.
00:02:47.580 They gave us an inch
00:02:48.520 and everyone would take a yard.
00:02:51.300 And it's not helping us.
00:02:53.800 It's not helping us.
00:02:55.360 And we've gone from being able to work,
00:02:57.080 being able to vote,
00:02:58.000 to I'm the same as a man.
00:02:59.240 I'm not the same as a man.
00:03:00.480 I can't do the same as a man.
00:03:02.580 I need men.
00:03:03.080 I need men.
00:03:04.360 I need men.
00:03:05.920 I will say that is make his day.
00:03:09.020 I need my man just as much as he needs me,
00:03:12.380 if not more.
00:03:13.460 But that's what's changed,
00:03:15.480 is that nowadays,
00:03:17.700 the feminists think that they need,
00:03:20.820 that they don't need men.
00:03:21.780 But if they didn't need men,
00:03:25.340 where would we be?
00:03:27.360 So I'm a feminist that,
00:03:29.500 in the old school days,
00:03:31.000 I like what I've been given.
00:03:32.440 I've been given an inch.
00:03:33.560 I'm happy with an inch.
00:03:34.600 I don't want the yard.
00:03:35.400 I can't handle the yard.
00:03:36.980 So me, I'm okay working,
00:03:39.300 taking care of my man,
00:03:41.340 and being feminine.
00:03:43.560 And I think the feminists have taken
00:03:46.000 feminism out of the word feminist.
00:03:49.780 Feminist.
00:03:50.900 It's to do with being an empowered woman,
00:03:54.700 not being an empowered masculine woman.
00:03:59.080 And I think that most of the feminists nowadays,
00:04:01.840 they're butch.
00:04:02.900 They're masculine.
00:04:04.180 Even if they look feminine,
00:04:05.580 and they think they're feminists,
00:04:07.880 they've got this underlying,
00:04:09.880 I'm the same as men or equal.
00:04:11.560 And you're not.
00:04:12.180 You know what, women?
00:04:13.320 Hold back.
00:04:14.100 Know your place.
00:04:15.120 Hold your corner.
00:04:16.460 That's my view.
00:04:17.200 Yeah, 100%.
00:04:18.320 Thank you.
00:04:20.420 All right, cool.
00:04:21.220 So the whole feminism thing,
00:04:22.720 I wouldn't call myself a feminist.
00:04:24.520 I would say that I believe in equal opportunities.
00:04:27.820 But if you really want equal opportunities,
00:04:30.400 it has to be full time,
00:04:32.120 not just when it suits you.
00:04:33.700 I think a lot of the ideology of feminism
00:04:37.880 is kind of just like catered to empowering women.
00:04:40.560 And at the end of the day,
00:04:43.140 a lot of times in reality,
00:04:46.200 women don't even want to be on the same equal playing field as men
00:04:49.740 because they don't want to take on certain responsibilities
00:04:51.960 that men take on.
00:04:53.640 So do I think people should be paid the same money
00:04:57.760 if they do the same job?
00:04:59.060 Of course.
00:04:59.960 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:05:00.720 And everybody should have the same equal rights as human beings.
00:05:03.940 But it has to be in all aspects of life,
00:05:06.720 not just when it suits you.
00:05:07.860 So no, I wouldn't say I'm a feminist,
00:05:09.600 but I do believe in equality between races.
00:05:14.700 Racism or sexist?
00:05:16.260 I think sexist.
00:05:17.440 Oh, I said racist.
00:05:19.020 Yeah, racist and sexist.
00:05:20.940 I've got a lot of things going on in my mind at the same time.
00:05:24.040 I can see you're getting feminism and racism mixed up.
00:05:26.720 Yeah, sexist, genders, everything.
00:05:29.840 I think we need to have the 2023 version of the dictionary,
00:05:35.160 what is feminism?
00:05:35.860 Because I think opinions and positions come into what we believe feminism to be
00:05:42.280 because, as you said, it's different from the old school to the new school.
00:05:45.280 I would say, am I a feminist?
00:05:49.460 Not by choice.
00:05:51.060 I'd say that I have to do what I have to do and I have to get by
00:05:55.920 and I can't necessarily stay in my lane
00:06:00.000 and I can't necessarily not take up a masculine role
00:06:02.800 because there is no man in my life to take up that masculine role.
00:06:06.540 So sometimes I have to step out of my femininity
00:06:09.420 and adopt some masculinity in order to get by.
00:06:13.240 So does that mean that I sabotage my femininity?
00:06:16.260 Does that mean that I'm not a feminist
00:06:17.600 because I have to do things outside of what technically is a feminist?
00:06:21.520 I ain't sure.
00:06:23.120 So I think I'm on the fence right now.
00:06:25.480 So I'm a bit confused.
00:06:27.200 You said you step into your masculinity
00:06:28.840 because you don't have a man in your life?
00:06:31.980 Because if we're going to go for old school,
00:06:34.020 look after a man and he does the manly roles
00:06:36.960 and he does the car and he takes out the bins
00:06:39.440 and he does all the masculine things
00:06:41.320 that the old school feminists might say.
00:06:44.200 If that person is...
00:06:45.260 Because old school, there was, you know, husband and wife.
00:06:48.160 There was not so many single women like myself
00:06:50.700 running households, running businesses,
00:06:53.700 paying for cars, getting under the bonnet, all of those things.
00:06:57.020 What I'm saying is sometimes
00:06:58.200 if I were to stick to old school feminine ways,
00:07:01.320 I wouldn't get by.
00:07:03.320 Okay, okay, I understand.
00:07:04.260 That's what I'm trying to say.
00:07:06.200 Auntie, did you have something to say?
00:07:07.700 I don't understand what she's coming from.
00:07:09.380 So, okay, so you were saying that old school,
00:07:11.680 but you look after a man and you know your place.
00:07:14.460 Yeah.
00:07:15.040 But in your place, what's the limits of that place?
00:07:18.180 There's no limits.
00:07:19.780 It's just that it makes a deciding factor.
00:07:21.340 A place is a position that you're holding.
00:07:23.220 Yeah.
00:07:23.500 You're holding that stance.
00:07:25.000 I'm a woman, that's my place.
00:07:26.580 Right.
00:07:27.380 So, okay, so what do you...
00:07:28.360 Okay, maybe I need to understand then.
00:07:29.840 What's a man's place?
00:07:31.240 A man's place is to look after me,
00:07:34.420 make sure he's got my best interests at heart
00:07:36.280 and he has to make the final decision,
00:07:38.900 which improves both of us.
00:07:40.940 Yes, his final decision will always be in my benefit.
00:07:44.600 So when he's not there to look after you,
00:07:46.620 who's looking after you?
00:07:47.880 I make sure.
00:07:49.500 I've got a man.
00:07:50.740 So any decision I make, even me,
00:07:52.360 for me being on the podcast,
00:07:53.760 I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for him.
00:07:56.500 Because before I decided to come on the podcast,
00:07:59.780 I asked his permission.
00:08:01.920 People might think that's really strange.
00:08:03.060 I said, what is your permission?
00:08:05.160 What do you think about it?
00:08:06.620 This is what I'm going to do.
00:08:07.880 And there's certain things he didn't like.
00:08:10.400 So I told Pearl, you know what?
00:08:12.220 I can't do this.
00:08:13.260 I can't do that.
00:08:14.200 I can't do whatever.
00:08:15.440 And then we came to a conclusion.
00:08:17.560 But the final decision is always his.
00:08:19.920 And I trust him with it
00:08:21.100 because he'll always have my best interests at heart.
00:08:23.500 And I'm a trained mechanic.
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