JustPearlyThings - Aunty Jenny goes on an Epic Rant

00:00:00.000 So today's topic is, should women fear men? And the reason I picked this topic is because 0.90

00:00:06.840 of something that happened on the show we had last night. I try to build on conversation. So

00:00:12.320 Blessing, will you show them the clip of the show last night?

00:00:15.820 So I don't think it's, as a woman, I know full well, it won't ingrained in me to hate men,

00:00:33.140 but as you grow up and you see them act a certain way, then you're going to have an opinion

00:00:36.660 of them. I wouldn't go swimming. I wouldn't go swimming in Australia. Even if there was

00:00:41.160 one shark attack, I wouldn't go near it because I know the consequences. But yeah, as women

00:00:44.580 were expected to, to still trust men that that hurt us. Okay, what do you mean? What

00:00:53.260 do you mean? Like what you said? What do you what do you see that men do? That's so bad.

00:00:57.820 Well, first of all, I said about the domestic violence. And then I think if you look at

00:01:02.220 like women, women do it too. No, men ain't dying at the same rates. So they can't use 0.98

00:01:08.260 to say, what do you mean? Who's to say, I think everything that we see is this is what's given

00:01:13.540 to us as facts. We can't take that as gospel. Do you know that men have died from domestic

00:01:18.220 violence? Male suicide is one of the biggest indicators of male suicide is

00:01:22.220 relationship conflict or breakup. So, you know, maybe it's not being logged as domestic

00:01:27.860 violence, but there is definitely abuse going the other way. And that's a significant

00:01:32.220 part of male suicide. And more women hit men one sided than men hit women one sided. I struggle.

00:01:37.660 I do struggle with this on this on the websites that I've seen that women are arrested more

00:01:43.340 for domestic violence than men, even though they suffer more. And in 2020, when 110 women died that

00:01:53.420 year because of that, the hands of male 50% of those deaths were overkill, which means they killed them.

00:01:59.020 They was, that was like brutally killing them long before that long after that. 110 in London?

00:02:04.700 No, in the UK. In the UK. That's really not a lot. One every three days. You don't think that's

00:02:09.100 110 for the whole year? So say from the whole year. Yeah, from the whole year. So from then to now,

00:02:14.700 so say at the, what percentage of deaths is that? That's got to be less than 1%. Do you honestly think

00:02:19.820 that a woman dying every three to four days is not a lot? I don't think it's like,

00:02:25.420 um, I don't think it's like a pressing, like if it's not one of the number, because it's not one

00:02:30.220 of the number one ways people are dying here. So like, like if, if we're going to talk about

00:02:35.100 if that, if that's the big issue, like then we should maybe put obesity.

00:02:40.620 Why is it always fat people when that alcohol is a drug and it's so normal?

00:02:45.900 Why is the default always fat? Why is the default always fat? It could be alcoholism.

00:02:51.260 Because, because, because that can, because the stuff that self and more people die,

00:02:55.580 what I think what I was trying to say is more people die each year from self-inflicted things

00:03:00.300 than something that's been inflicted on somebody else.

00:03:03.020 But that makes sense. Yeah, that's, that does make sense. But it doesn't excuse it.

00:03:06.700 Do you see what I mean? So say, so say when I wouldn't excuse it.

00:03:09.820 I don't believe anyone should. It's just putting it into context.

00:03:12.300 So if you take, if you take a number like 110 out of a country with like 60 million people

00:03:17.180 and try and make the case, because that's why. Well, because you're trying to generalize something

00:03:21.420 about men. But if you're going to, if you're going to make a generalization about men, I want to see,

00:03:26.460 is this prevalent among men? Is this really common? And when you said 110, I'm like, well,

00:03:31.020 okay, the UK is very populated. That doesn't sound like a lot of people. And when you put it into

00:03:35.260 context, but if you put into context, I don't think it's okay. I don't think. No, I'm not saying you do.

00:03:39.980 But then if you put it into context, the same amount of women have died this year, right? So it's one in

00:03:44.700 one every three to four days. So say from 2020, 2021, 2022, if you multiply 110, that's 330. Yeah,

00:03:52.780 that's close to a year. So out of three years, there was one year where a woman was dying every day.

00:04:00.060 That's mad. Will you put it like that? I don't, I don't think it's okay. But I just, if I had to guess,

00:04:07.340 if I had to guess, I would think that things like car crashes and obesity would probably be higher.

00:04:13.500 I don't know. But they're self-inflicted. So that's on them. I could walk down the street

00:04:17.500 and be murdered by a man. And what did I do to deserve that? Why does it have to be a man? You

00:04:23.820 could be murdered. But no, but I was talking about that statistic. When we're talking about domestic

00:04:27.340 violence, it's, it's men killing women. But my point, my point is, why would I make a generalization

00:04:32.140 about men when it's not a huge percentage of people that are dying at the hands of men, like from

00:04:38.060 domestic violence? Well, I think that's probably just the difference in the opinion, because I think one, 0.84

00:04:42.540 every three to four days is what to a week. I think that's wild. I mean, you can, you can manipulate

00:04:47.420 statistics to make them sound like it's a lot more prevalent than it is. But, but when you, when you

00:04:52.940 look at how many people, if I Googled right now, how many people are in the UK? It's like 60 million.

00:04:57.420 Yeah. 60 million people in the UK. But 110, that's not cool. But then when you put it down to one to

00:05:04.860 every three to four days, that doesn't, and like I said, about one, like a year, and that would have

00:05:10.060 been just women. But this is what I'm saying, get off this. But this is what I'm saying. This is why, 0.97

00:05:14.220 because there's a consequence for your actions. So as men, if you're going to enable other men and, and

00:05:19.660 whatnot, then it's a repercussion. How do men enable other men? We just saw in a clip where, when people were

00:05:26.300 attacked, when he was attacking a woman in public, people rushed to her defense. How was that

00:05:30.220 enabling? Well, the thing is, I understand that video, the video is terrible. But that's just one

00:05:35.260 incident. You could film that tomorrow. And, and there could be a different reaction. Because I

00:05:39.340 personally have seen three incidences of domestic violence with a woman being attacked. And I

00:05:44.060 haven't seen it. I was the one that went to see them. It was me. So I know full well that that happened.

00:05:49.660 So I'm not shocked by that video at all, because I don't know what people expect.

00:05:54.460 Do you, okay, do you feel like it's equal? Like people protect the genders equally?

00:05:58.620 I do. I do see what the problem with men, but in terms of how they're treated in society. But

00:06:06.540 a lot of it, I dare to say that the misandry is almost a bit of a pity party. Like if you ask someone

00:06:13.580 who's 50 plus about this, they ain't got a clue what you're talking about. But they've for the last 50

00:06:19.100 years seen women go through this, this, and this, and they're probably like, well, of course.

00:06:23.660 I want to go. Okay. Um, do you guys hear a buzzing? Yeah, there's a little buzzing in the

00:06:30.780 headphones. My mind. Yeah, I can hear slightly. Um, but what did you guys think of that clip?

00:06:36.620 So I want to start with Alex, because you were there. What were you thinking yesterday?

00:06:41.660 Um, I would say I was, I was just thinking, she's just very, very miss, uh, misinformed, 0.99

00:06:49.660 very ignorant. And you know, she has this, like, um, she's obviously been like highly influenced by 0.88

00:06:55.020 extremist groups. And so all her points were just kind of in that line of just like, I experienced,

00:07:00.300 I know someone who experienced this, therefore it's an issue of society. Um, I didn't like how she

00:07:06.220 dismissed men's issues. Cause I thought that was very kind of, uh, she kind of threw herself under the 1.00

00:07:11.420 bus there where if you claim you care about equality and women's rights and then say men's rights,

00:07:15.500 misandry is a pity party. It's kind of like extremely, extremely ignorant. So yeah. 0.99

00:07:24.940 Um, what did you think of the clip?

00:07:27.020 In my opinion, um, I feel like she's been for a lot of things because for her to talk like that,

00:07:32.780 she has experienced a lot of things when it comes to men. So that's why I can't judge what

00:07:37.100 she's saying. And I'm saying, cause I, I, I, from my experience, I've been around a lot of people

00:07:41.500 when they tell me their stories about, could be about a guy or female, but the way to go into it,

00:07:47.260 I deeply listened to it so hard. And I can just tell that they've been going through a lot. So for,

00:07:51.740 for her to talk like that, I can't judge cause she's, she's hurting and I can just hear in her voice,

00:07:56.620 she's hurting. That's why I ain't judging that.

00:07:58.460 She looked like she wanted to cry on you. 1.00

00:07:59.820 A hundred percent.

00:08:00.380 It felt bad when she was speaking.

00:08:02.460 Can I?

00:08:02.940 Yeah, go ahead.

00:08:03.420 I mean, I'm sure she was pretty hurt. Like you can actually tell that she's gone through

00:08:08.700 some sort of rough experience. However, I maybe like Alex think that she's those kind of people that

00:08:16.220 would manipulate the information for you to take the message the way she wants you to have it. Does

00:08:21.900 that make sense? And that is where you lose that, you know, understanding because the statistics went

00:08:29.020 from every other day for every three days and then one year and then three years, you know,

00:08:34.300 it's like taking the same issue and then molding it to favor your point of view. So that is not fair

00:08:40.540 because it has to be objective. Like, I don't know, that's how I feel about it. But it's clearly that

00:08:45.420 she's gone through some rough experiences.

00:08:48.300 Can I say something? I think obviously she just represents some of the biggest problems that we 0.85

00:08:53.740 have nowadays, which is where people are talking without having the capacity to be talking on the

00:08:58.620 topics they're talking about. That's why she misused statistics. That's why she didn't quite 1.00

00:09:04.220 make a coherent argument. However, the sentiment and the words that she's trying to say, I fully

00:09:09.420 sympathize. And I actually kind of agree with what she's saying. Yes, there's domestic violence towards

00:09:14.620 men. Yes, yes, yes, yes. But traditionally, culturally, socially, politically, economically,

00:09:21.100 everything, women tend to kind of be the ones that are on the losing side. And I say that not just 0.94

00:09:27.020 from my own experience. I say that from my own research into this. I say that from my own, like,

00:09:32.220 life experiences in other people. And the losing side of the topics that she's talking about. Of

00:09:37.100 course, think about it, even in Latin America, for example, in Africa, in Asia, there's a lot of

00:09:42.780 women that die in the hands of men. And that even though that's outside of Europe and the world that

00:09:46.940 we live in, that's just another example of how actually the world is somewhat like... Can we stick to the

00:09:51.580 West? Even in the West, even in the West is the same thing. They're like, if I'm gonna,

00:09:55.980 I'm not gonna lie, I bet you that if I walk, even let's say just London, if I walk around London,

00:10:00.620 and I ask a few girls, like, has a man ever slapped you? A lot of them will say yes. 0.93

00:10:04.780 How do you know that? Because I've already done it. How do you know they didn't deserve to be

00:10:09.180 slapped though? But that's not even... And that's, again, deserving to slap somebody or somebody

00:10:16.860 deserve to be slapped. That's subjective again. Most abuse is mutual, meaning both parties are

00:10:22.220 hitting each other. So a lot of girls will hit guys often first and then claim and cry abuse when 1.00

00:10:28.060 he hits back, but you hit him first. Yeah. Okay. And most, so they looked at abuse, abusive situations

00:10:35.420 and the ones that are one-sided, which means one party's hitting the other and the other is not

00:10:39.500 returning. Women are more likely to do that than men. Okay. I understand that completely. I've been in

00:10:45.740 that situation before. Of course I hit back because I'm not here to take slaps for no reason, right?

00:10:50.220 But it still remains like the fact that even for, and this goes to your question, should women fear men,

00:10:56.700 right? A man is way stronger than a woman. Do you get? So why are you even hitting in the first 1.00

00:11:01.740 place? You shouldn't. And yet they do are more race than women do. And some, yes, cry victim and some of 1.00

00:11:06.540 them can cause a situation, but let's not run away from the fact that there's a lot of women that are 1.00

00:11:10.700 actually victims to the toxic masculinity that is out there. Can I just say something? Toxic masculine.

00:11:16.140 Go ahead, auntie. Bullshit. Word. That's what I can say. As somebody that's been in an abusive relationship, 1.00

00:11:23.260 bullshit. What she's saying, bullshit. As far as I'm concerned, she's going from one side. 1.00

00:11:29.660 She's going from one side. If you go onto the internet and you look for women who have been 1.00

00:11:36.300 abused, you're going to get one set of figures. What about the men that have been abused? There's

00:11:41.260 men out there that have been abused, that are being abused. There was a, I think there was a program,

00:11:46.300 I think I mentioned it when Osara shows, there was a guy and he almost lost his life through

00:11:52.700 being with his partner. How many of these, how many men suffer in silence? A woman will go out 1.00

00:11:58.540 there and she will slap a man. Right. And if the man goes and calls the police, is the police going to 0.99

00:12:03.740 come and arrest him and take him? Is that going down as a statistic? And I'm not even defending

00:12:07.820 the man because as far as I'm concerned, no one deserves to get hit, but you've got to be fair about

00:12:11.340 it. A woman will turn around, slap a man. And I'm talking like I've seen it happen. I know 0.99

00:12:16.300 if it happened. A woman will turn around, slap a man, call the police. If the man slaps her back 1.00

00:12:21.580 and they will take the man. How many men out there are getting slapped by women and that will call 1.00

00:12:26.060 the police and say, this woman slapped me. How many men are going out? Women are too, so quick to 1.00

00:12:30.700 easy and turn around and say, oh, I've been abused. How is it for a man? If women, if that society 0.96

00:12:37.740 would accept that men get abused, they will speak up more and then you'll see the statistics change.

00:12:42.540 So as far as I'm concerned, all that talk about we should fear men and whatever, I've been battered

00:12:46.780 by a man. I do not fear men because that is a rare occasion. That is a rare occasion. That is rare.

00:12:54.300 I'm not going to go around and say, oh, because I got abused, all women out there are getting abused 0.98

00:12:59.100 because I know that men get abused out there and it's not publicized. And if there were statistics for

00:13:04.220 men, and I'm not defending anybody getting abused, but you've got to be fair about it.

00:13:08.700 And as far as I'm concerned, she don't even look like she's suffered. She look like she's been around

00:13:13.020 people, they're fed up this, go on the internet. Sometimes you need to turn off the internet and

00:13:17.980 use your brain. And all she's doing is getting her information from the internet and from,

00:13:23.100 she looks traumatized. Go and get counseling girl or something like that. She reminds me and just 0.99

00:13:27.820 going by the way she looks, I don't care where people hate me. She looks like a plain, bitter, feminist, 1.00

00:13:33.420 lesbian. Nothing about her says, nothing about her says, I'm sorry, I'm going to say nothing 1.00

00:13:38.780 about her says feminine. Nothing about her says, oh, this is what's going on. She just looks like 0.98

00:13:44.780 she's on one agenda and that's the way she was going. So I'm getting tired of hearing that. Oh,

00:13:49.180 this is what happens to women. I want to hear what happens to the men because the men out there are 0.98

00:13:53.420 suffering in silence. And it's because of society that men do not speak up. Men do not speak up

00:13:59.340 because they're so busy feeling fearful that they're going to get called a beta. Oh,

00:14:05.100 how can you let that woman slap you? Or how can you let that woman stab you up? There's men, 1.00

00:14:09.340 they're suffering, but because of society, they're not saying nothing. So if they're going to turn

00:14:13.020 around and say, oh, what she's saying is right. Oh, we should fear men. Bullshit.

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JustPearlyThings - March 15, 2023

Aunty Jenny goes on an Epic Rant

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