00:00:00.000I just want to say something from a loving place, and this is not just for you.
00:00:05.280This is just for still being in the healing journey and process as myself.
00:00:09.000But when you spoke about the brokenness in men and just in general, when we identify with people, it's a cause and it's an effect to things.
00:00:20.660Whatever the effect of something may be, that's just the effect.
00:00:23.360We have to go back to the root cause of where that came from, looking at the process and the different things that happen to them.
00:00:31.200And I think when we do that, we might find that we align with them in more of a way that identifies our own brokenness and our own hurt and shows that we both have similar healing to do in that process.
00:00:42.760And that's just the way I think about people.
00:00:49.420I had to say, okay, you got daddy issues, girl, but where did this come from?
00:00:52.400And where have I seen this cycle reappearing in my life?
00:00:55.620And let's go back to each and every one of them and reframe it and fix it and reframe it until my thinking at a default is reset and redone.
00:01:04.080And that's a part of the healing process.
00:01:05.820And it still has to happen over and over again because the brain is so powerful.
00:01:10.220Our negative thoughts, they happen so quickly.
00:01:13.100We have to, in order to rewire a negative thought, we have to think something positive a minimum of seven times.
00:01:18.920And a negative thought just takes that because the impact of a negative thought, the emotional feeling of it is so powerful that it takes us rewiring that with positive thinking and shutting down the negative thought over and over again.
00:01:31.920And then once you do that, you have to continue to do that.
00:01:34.320And that's hard because we are our own worst critics.
00:01:36.960And so when you are going through that healing process, it is work and it takes time, but you have to identify what the root trigger is.
00:01:44.260What is the root factor of this that has caused me to go down this, the effect that I'm having, the brokenness?
00:01:51.460And sometimes we can say that we crave it and we want it so bad.
00:01:54.260But if we are compromising that and we are not ending up with the relationships that we want, at some point you have to look and identify itself.
00:02:07.900I just want to say that it seems like most women, most single modern women with businesses, they concentrate more on the business, improving the business and improving themselves.
00:02:20.220Because it sounds like all the modern women out there with businesses need therapy.
00:03:06.340Yeah, I was going to say, what you just said is so important.
00:03:09.120And honestly, you know, big ups to the content in the sector.
00:03:11.580And, you know, because it's not very humble to big up yourself, but, like, a lot of modern women today hate the content in the sector.
00:03:19.080But this content in the sector is what's going to help them to understand how fucked up their situations currently are.
00:03:25.440It creates the burning platform for them to want more and do more, just even you.
00:03:31.860And understanding that there might be a degree of brokenness within that.
00:03:34.680You wouldn't even quite come to that conclusion unless you were sitting in this particular platform right here to understand the burning platform.
00:03:42.300Once you begin to heal that brokenness, you begin to understand other thoughts, feelings, ideologies, or things that you believe then will begin to change.
00:03:50.240We had a whole conversation about the sex work thing before.
00:03:53.440I bet you if you become into an unbroken state, one where you say, that guy that I'm looking at right now, I'm in a good position to attract that guy.
00:04:02.540Once you get there, those feelings will change.
00:04:05.580But in a broken state, what's all around the brokenness is ideas that you have that have nothing to do with the togetherness mindset.
00:04:15.040Try, you know, I always say when they say manifesting, manifesting, try manifesting with actions.
00:05:14.580I'm looking for a connection, energy, trauma, toxic masculinity, my truth, healing, narcissistic ex-boyfriend, abusive ex-boyfriend, grape accusation with no evidence.
00:05:23.940Yeah, but manifesting equals I want to do no work and get the outcome.
00:05:27.600As a woman, I did too much and I let him walk all over me equals I like cheaters and toxic men and I will choose them and be toxic as well and not admit that I had any part to play except hashtag giving too much.
00:05:38.180I make the same mistakes that my parents made and I'm too dumb to learn from their mistakes and instead I will blame the same mistake and I will make the same mistake and blame it on them.
00:05:46.280In my feminine energy, men always stare and approach me.
00:05:48.980I will be submissive for the right man.
00:05:50.400Men are trash equals I take no accountability for the negative part that myself or any woman play in relationships.
00:05:55.800He needs to make six figures equals I have no emphasis on character.