JustPearlyThings - March 20, 2023


Aunty Jenny’s thoughts On Boss Babes


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Length

10 minutes

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199.02458

Word count

2,054

Sentence count

193

Harmful content

Misogyny

15

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Hate speech

14

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Summary

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In this episode, we dive deep into the root cause of brokenness in men and how to heal from it. We discuss how brokenness is an effect and a cause, and how we can identify our own brokenness and heal from that brokenness.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I just want to say something from a loving place, and this is not just for you.
00:00:05.280 This is just for still being in the healing journey and process as myself.
00:00:09.000 But when you spoke about the brokenness in men and just in general, when we identify with people, it's a cause and it's an effect to things.
00:00:15.120 You spoke to the effect of it, right?
00:00:16.880 Oh, they are strung out.
00:00:19.720 They're homeless.
00:00:20.660 Whatever the effect of something may be, that's just the effect.
00:00:23.360 We have to go back to the root cause of where that came from, looking at the process and the different things that happen to them.
00:00:31.200 And I think when we do that, we might find that we align with them in more of a way that identifies our own brokenness and our own hurt and shows that we both have similar healing to do in that process.
00:00:42.760 And that's just the way I think about people.
00:00:44.060 I always ask myself, why?
00:00:45.380 Why did you do this?
00:00:46.380 Where is this coming from in your life?
00:00:48.380 And it started with me.
00:00:49.420 I had to say, okay, you got daddy issues, girl, but where did this come from?
00:00:52.400 And where have I seen this cycle reappearing in my life?
00:00:55.620 And let's go back to each and every one of them and reframe it and fix it and reframe it until my thinking at a default is reset and redone.
00:01:04.080 And that's a part of the healing process.
00:01:05.820 And it still has to happen over and over again because the brain is so powerful.
00:01:10.220 Our negative thoughts, they happen so quickly.
00:01:13.100 We have to, in order to rewire a negative thought, we have to think something positive a minimum of seven times.
00:01:18.920 And a negative thought just takes that because the impact of a negative thought, the emotional feeling of it is so powerful that it takes us rewiring that with positive thinking and shutting down the negative thought over and over again.
00:01:31.920 And then once you do that, you have to continue to do that.
00:01:34.320 And that's hard because we are our own worst critics.
00:01:36.960 And so when you are going through that healing process, it is work and it takes time, but you have to identify what the root trigger is.
00:01:44.260 What is the root factor of this that has caused me to go down this, the effect that I'm having, the brokenness?
00:01:49.140 I get you.
00:01:49.640 I'm a lover.
00:01:50.380 I love love.
00:01:51.460 And sometimes we can say that we crave it and we want it so bad.
00:01:54.260 But if we are compromising that and we are not ending up with the relationships that we want, at some point you have to look and identify itself.
00:02:00.900 I'm a good person.
00:02:01.600 I love heart.
00:02:02.440 But what is broken inside of me that I'm not getting that, that I'm not attracting that.
00:02:06.500 And to you, go ahead.
00:02:07.900 I just want to say that it seems like most women, most single modern women with businesses, they concentrate more on the business, improving the business and improving themselves. 0.65
00:02:20.220 Because it sounds like all the modern women out there with businesses need therapy. 1.00
00:02:25.240 They need some kind of help.
00:02:26.820 But rather than concentrating on themselves, they concentrate on the business.
00:02:30.680 And then they want to look for a man.
00:02:32.080 They might not give a shit about your business.
00:02:33.900 Do you know what I mean?
00:02:34.340 So the energy that you're putting into your business, put into yourself.
00:02:38.400 And then perhaps you'll get a man and he might support you having a business.
00:02:42.280 But right now, all I can hear is single women having business, they need therapy. 1.00
00:02:46.300 They're concentrating, their business is successful, but their brain's fucked up.
00:02:52.680 They need to concentrate.
00:02:54.420 Forget about your business because the men care more about you having a good mental health than having a good business. 0.88
00:03:00.580 So forget about your business and concentrate on your own mental health.
00:03:04.240 You know what's crazy about that?
00:03:05.560 Sorry, go ahead.
00:03:06.340 Yeah, I was going to say, what you just said is so important.
00:03:09.120 And honestly, you know, big ups to the content in the sector.
00:03:11.580 And, you know, because it's not very humble to big up yourself, but, like, a lot of modern women today hate the content in the sector. 1.00
00:03:19.080 But this content in the sector is what's going to help them to understand how fucked up their situations currently are.
00:03:25.440 It creates the burning platform for them to want more and do more, just even you.
00:03:31.860 And understanding that there might be a degree of brokenness within that.
00:03:34.680 You wouldn't even quite come to that conclusion unless you were sitting in this particular platform right here to understand the burning platform.
00:03:40.920 And here's the thing.
00:03:42.300 Once you begin to heal that brokenness, you begin to understand other thoughts, feelings, ideologies, or things that you believe then will begin to change.
00:03:50.240 We had a whole conversation about the sex work thing before.
00:03:53.440 I bet you if you become into an unbroken state, one where you say, that guy that I'm looking at right now, I'm in a good position to attract that guy.
00:04:02.540 Once you get there, those feelings will change.
00:04:05.580 But in a broken state, what's all around the brokenness is ideas that you have that have nothing to do with the togetherness mindset.
00:04:15.040 Try, you know, I always say when they say manifesting, manifesting, try manifesting with actions.
00:04:21.360 Yeah.
00:04:22.320 Everybody sits there and they want to manifest this idea, man, but nobody puts in the hard work.
00:04:27.640 Boom.
00:04:27.800 Oh, I have, oh my gosh, I have something so fun to share with the panel.
00:04:33.180 Uh-oh.
00:04:33.560 Okay.
00:04:33.960 Something so fun.
00:04:35.020 That's the evil smile that is.
00:04:36.180 Melody's, Melody's already seen this.
00:04:38.020 Um, ha, ha, ha.
00:04:41.200 Okay.
00:04:41.680 Shoot, is that the list?
00:04:42.660 Is that the list?
00:04:43.840 So I made a list.
00:04:44.140 Okay.
00:04:44.760 And I'd like, I'd like, um, TR, if you have any words that we should add to this list, Auntie, I'm open to feedback.
00:04:51.160 Same with the ladies. 1.00
00:04:51.840 Let me know if you think any of these words are unfair to have on this list.
00:04:54.880 Let me know if I'm just chatting shit, you know, I've got the British slang.
00:04:58.200 I'll be allowed to chat.
00:04:59.220 I'll be allowed to add to this.
00:05:00.660 Yes.
00:05:01.060 Yes.
00:05:01.320 Okay.
00:05:01.640 Okay.
00:05:01.920 So I'm going to say words that us as women should get rid of in our vocabulary.
00:05:07.780 Okay.
00:05:08.020 So this is, okay.
00:05:12.920 Partner, horoscope signs.
00:05:14.580 I'm looking for a connection, energy, trauma, toxic masculinity, my truth, healing, narcissistic ex-boyfriend, abusive ex-boyfriend, grape accusation with no evidence.
00:05:23.100 Don't judge.
00:05:23.780 Yeah.
00:05:23.940 Yeah, but manifesting equals I want to do no work and get the outcome.
00:05:27.600 As a woman, I did too much and I let him walk all over me equals I like cheaters and toxic men and I will choose them and be toxic as well and not admit that I had any part to play except hashtag giving too much.
00:05:37.500 Generational trauma.
00:05:38.180 I make the same mistakes that my parents made and I'm too dumb to learn from their mistakes and instead I will blame the same mistake and I will make the same mistake and blame it on them.
00:05:46.280 In my feminine energy, men always stare and approach me. 0.95
00:05:48.980 I will be submissive for the right man.
00:05:50.400 Men are trash equals I take no accountability for the negative part that myself or any woman play in relationships.
00:05:55.800 He needs to make six figures equals I have no emphasis on character.
00:05:59.300 I don't need a man, but I want a man.
00:06:00.960 My ring needs to cost this much.
00:06:02.560 Financial abuse.
00:06:03.500 I became feminine.
00:06:05.860 I need a man to maintain you. 0.99
00:06:07.320 We need to vibe.
00:06:08.100 I feel like I'm traditional when I have done no work to become traditional.
00:06:12.980 Manish.
00:06:13.380 I will be submissive for the right man who hurt you.
00:06:15.500 Internalize misogyny.
00:06:16.560 I am leveling up together.
00:06:18.080 I need a man to be on my level.
00:06:20.860 Boss B, I'm a bad bitch. 1.00
00:06:22.660 These men are broken, dusty.
00:06:24.160 I am the table.
00:06:25.180 I am a ton.
00:06:25.980 He needs to add to what I have going on in my life.
00:06:29.860 Not all women equals that is a problem with women, but I won't admit it's a problem. 0.97
00:06:34.300 I need someone to match my energy.
00:06:36.280 I am his piece.
00:06:37.120 I read it better than I read the Super Chats because I've spent a lot of time writing that.
00:06:58.000 Sometimes people, because of the letters, people spell things wrong in the Super Chats.
00:07:02.980 It's okay because you only get so many characters, so you're kind of making out what they say.
00:07:07.500 Thanks.
00:07:07.780 Anyways.
00:07:08.400 You should have had us clock you for that.
00:07:09.840 You know, like start the clock, somebody.
00:07:11.460 Yeah, yeah.
00:07:12.180 Anyway, so what did I get wrong?
00:07:14.320 I didn't hear astrology signs with me.
00:07:16.260 She said that.
00:07:16.880 She said that.
00:07:17.460 Oh, good.
00:07:18.960 Anything.
00:07:19.840 Anything.
00:07:20.460 Okay.
00:07:20.860 Can we add one?
00:07:22.440 Okay, yeah.
00:07:23.160 Go ahead.
00:07:23.600 Add.
00:07:23.780 The one we have to add is broken men because women are broken, too, but it's more mainly
00:07:27.840 for broken men.
00:07:27.860 I'm sorry.
00:07:28.500 This is calling you out.
00:07:30.860 I'm sorry.
00:07:31.580 Women are also broken, but see, it took, like I said, it took this panel to show you 1.00
00:07:35.620 that you actually were broken.
00:07:36.600 And I just want to say, women say men are F boys, but how do you know he's an F boy if 0.96
00:07:42.140 you didn't let him F?
00:07:43.940 Yes.
00:07:44.560 So does that make you an F girl?
00:07:46.040 Does it make you easy?
00:07:46.920 Does it make you for the street?
00:07:47.900 You don't want a man to say you're for the street, but you can call him an F boy. 0.95
00:07:51.340 I don't deal with F boys.
00:07:52.560 So, like women who protect their box, they're not dealing with that energy. 0.92
00:07:57.420 But if you've been F'd and ran through, you have to say to yourself, I've allowed this 0.99
00:08:01.300 man to be an F boy to my most precious possession on the dating market, which is my womb, my body.
00:08:09.400 And we say, you know, my body, my choice, and don't objectify me.
00:08:13.740 But a lot of times, we objectify ourselves, the way we dress, the way we present, and
00:08:18.080 then we blame a man.
00:08:20.040 But, like, I never heard the term F boy until I started getting on TikTok and I dealt in
00:08:25.480 these spaces, and I'm like, well, why did you let him hunch on you?
00:08:29.860 You guys know what hunch is?
00:08:30.840 I added that.
00:08:31.420 You added, men are F boys.
00:08:33.140 I don't cook, I don't clean.
00:08:34.340 My body, my choice.
00:08:35.560 Oh, my body.
00:08:36.520 That's what I got from her.
00:08:37.600 Right.
00:08:38.000 So then only if an F boy hunches on you, then that was your body and your choice. 0.77
00:08:42.880 Yeah.
00:08:43.240 No, I mean, for the list.
00:08:44.640 Yeah.
00:08:44.860 No, no, no.
00:08:45.340 I mean, I'm agreeing with you.
00:08:46.520 Yeah.
00:08:46.620 Of course.
00:08:47.160 Equal lefts, equal rights.
00:08:49.260 No, no.
00:08:49.820 They need to say that.
00:08:51.260 No, no.
00:08:51.500 They need to say that.
00:08:52.840 They need to say that.
00:08:53.960 No, no.
00:08:54.440 Equal rights, equal lefts.
00:08:55.640 I can't say it.
00:08:55.840 This list is removing.
00:08:56.700 Yeah, you can.
00:08:57.080 Put it down.
00:08:57.640 No, this is what we're not saying anymore.
00:08:59.540 Oh, right.
00:09:01.940 Oh, then we're not going to say, he hit me first.
00:09:04.500 Or, he hit me harder than I hit him.
00:09:06.800 That was the one that came up.
00:09:08.440 He hit me harder than I hit him.
00:09:10.160 Oh, damn.
00:09:11.540 It's still a hit.
00:09:12.160 What about body positivity?
00:09:14.140 Like, is that mainly for a specific body?
00:09:17.060 It's only for women. 1.00
00:09:18.440 It's only for women. 1.00
00:09:19.480 Where have you seen a 300-pound man on the front of Cosmo or any other magazine?
00:09:24.600 It's only for women. 1.00
00:09:26.260 And you will see the same women who will put down men or shame them for their height. 1.00
00:09:32.180 But where's your body positivity for a man who's five feet tall?
00:09:36.360 But you want a man to accept you as you are.
00:09:39.300 Accept him as he is.
00:09:40.560 But see, it's not equal.
00:09:42.820 And that's why I don't understand.
00:09:43.840 You know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:09:46.640 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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