JustPearlyThings - June 08, 2023


@AuntyJenny EXPOSES Modern Women


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

201.66307

Word Count

2,118

Sentence Count

244

Misogynist Sentences

17

Hate Speech Sentences

7


Summary

In this episode, the guys talk about how to go on a date, what to look for in a potential partner, and what to do if you don t want to pay for a date. Also, we get into who would you let your sister date out of the dudes?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 would you only go out on a date with someone that you saw as a potential
00:00:03.920 rather than just someone you wanted to have fun with?
00:00:07.600 Both, innit?
00:00:08.260 It depends what the P's are saying, though.
00:00:09.920 It depends on what you mean by P's.
00:00:11.260 It depends what the P's are saying.
00:00:12.480 Someone that you want to get,
00:00:14.100 that you see yourself getting into something serious with down the line.
00:00:17.380 I don't really have that.
00:00:18.840 I don't really have that.
00:00:19.460 But I think if I find someone attractive and she acts right,
00:00:21.540 then, you know, we'll meet up and do something.
00:00:24.460 But I refuse to take anyone out or do anything like that.
00:00:27.720 First, I don't really pay for dates.
00:00:28.960 I don't believe in that.
00:00:30.460 Why don't you believe in that?
00:00:31.360 It's 2022, bro.
00:00:32.200 We're equal, right?
00:00:33.160 And if you try it, I will set up that conversation from the start.
00:00:36.960 I'll be like, oh, right.
00:00:37.940 So what do you think about this?
00:00:38.740 Oh, it's crazy.
00:00:39.380 And then when we're having dinner and you're like looking at the bill,
00:00:42.240 I'll be like, oh, so you're not...
00:00:44.380 Just before this podcast, yeah, I met up with a friend.
00:00:51.500 And like, basically, we're not for drinks yet.
00:00:54.020 If the girl, yeah, she likes you, she will offer to pay for a round.
00:00:58.140 If she doesn't offer, she's not even...
00:01:01.600 Bruh, like, you go to the bar, she's just looking at her phone.
00:01:04.200 Bruh, she don't really like you.
00:01:05.320 She don't really rate you like that.
00:01:06.560 And if you want to seal the deal and she offers, you say, no, baby, I got you.
00:01:10.140 Can I just...
00:01:11.520 Can I just ask a question?
00:01:18.080 The friend that introduced you to the man you went on a date with,
00:01:22.700 a male or female friend?
00:01:24.420 It was actually a male.
00:01:26.380 He read the room wrong.
00:01:29.360 Simple.
00:01:30.440 No, I honestly think that if it was a male, thinking about it,
00:01:34.360 if it was a male, I think it would have worked.
00:01:37.800 With effort and compromise, I think it would have worked.
00:01:40.260 I personally think that you missed out.
00:01:43.660 I mean, personally, like, we went into...
00:01:45.720 We got into a relationship.
00:01:46.800 Okay, oh, that's all right.
00:01:47.840 We got into a relationship and we were together for like two, three years.
00:01:50.740 Okay.
00:01:51.380 No, because what I'm saying is that women lie to women.
00:01:55.260 And if you'd been on that date with your checklist,
00:01:57.840 you know, it wouldn't have worked.
00:02:01.640 No.
00:02:01.760 I would...
00:02:02.960 I've been on a date recommended by a female
00:02:06.320 and they always have other issues.
00:02:08.580 So if it's a female, don't trust her.
00:02:10.840 Lugs.
00:02:11.600 Don't trust her at all.
00:02:12.660 And that's all the thing that was going through my brain is,
00:02:15.400 I wonder if it was a female that introduced you, a male.
00:02:18.540 It was a male.
00:02:18.980 Because if it's a male...
00:02:19.880 And that's what we need to do.
00:02:21.580 Stop vetting with your vagina and ask your friends,
00:02:24.080 your male friends, to vet the men for you.
00:02:26.620 That's all I'm trying to say.
00:02:28.240 Even if it's the elders, your brothers, your uncles,
00:02:32.080 other male friends.
00:02:33.580 And you will find that you find better men
00:02:36.700 if you allow your men friends to vet them for you.
00:02:40.360 Because they know the truth.
00:02:41.760 Yeah.
00:02:43.660 Oh, wait, wait.
00:02:44.520 But don't forget, boy.
00:02:45.820 Wait, wait.
00:02:46.280 When you have a girlfriend,
00:02:48.200 don't be upset she got man friends.
00:02:50.500 Wait, I want to pick...
00:02:52.740 I was thinking,
00:02:54.700 what if we had someone in this room
00:02:56.600 pick who would be a good person to date
00:02:59.300 out of the people on the panel?
00:03:01.760 Phil, Phil.
00:03:03.420 I want Phil to do this.
00:03:06.140 I'll pick.
00:03:07.300 Phil, Phil.
00:03:08.520 Okay, your sister was here.
00:03:11.560 Okay.
00:03:12.300 Who on the panel would you let your sister date?
00:03:14.800 Out of the dudes?
00:03:15.700 I thought you meant who would I pick out of the ladies?
00:03:17.420 No, no, no, no.
00:03:17.480 Out of the dudes.
00:03:18.160 So your sister's here.
00:03:19.020 All right.
00:03:19.400 First of all,
00:03:20.100 everything she said is what I'm trying to say.
00:03:22.160 It's literally what I was trying to express.
00:03:24.220 It's like,
00:03:24.700 I'm being honest with you as a dude.
00:03:26.240 I'm going to tell you the truth.
00:03:27.080 I tell my sister.
00:03:27.840 I tell them the truth.
00:03:29.720 This is what he's doing.
00:03:30.780 This is why he's doing it.
00:03:31.660 So who would I pick to date?
00:03:32.540 Yeah, yeah.
00:03:32.720 So who, who,
00:03:33.540 so you go,
00:03:34.280 no, go around.
00:03:35.080 Like, yes or no to your sister dating them?
00:03:38.920 Dating?
00:03:39.420 Like a relationship?
00:03:40.360 You're in a relationship.
00:03:41.080 Like, like,
00:03:41.880 she, he,
00:03:42.580 she goes on a date.
00:03:43.320 I said,
00:03:43.620 I went on a date with this guy.
00:03:44.900 What do you think of him?
00:03:46.080 No.
00:03:47.100 Yes.
00:03:48.040 Yes.
00:03:48.920 No.
00:03:49.700 Yes.
00:03:50.500 What about Zuby?
00:03:51.580 You're on Zuby.
00:03:52.320 Yes.
00:03:53.580 And,
00:03:53.940 but for reasons,
00:03:55.260 not because he's not a good dude
00:03:56.780 and not because he's not a good guy.
00:03:58.740 It's not,
00:03:59.280 has nothing to do with that.
00:04:00.320 It has to do with they are me.
00:04:03.140 Right?
00:04:04.340 I know where they are.
00:04:06.340 I know where they've been.
00:04:07.460 I know what their mindset is.
00:04:09.360 I know where he is.
00:04:10.320 I've had a private conversation with him.
00:04:11.600 I know exactly where he is.
00:04:12.520 This brother,
00:04:13.280 girl's beards.
00:04:14.380 I know exactly where he is.
00:04:15.320 He's got a very good mind.
00:04:16.240 His brother's looking for something righteous.
00:04:18.360 So I get it.
00:04:19.180 Zuby as well.
00:04:19.860 Zuby,
00:04:20.180 I see Zuby,
00:04:21.280 me and Zuby about to go do Joe Rogan.
00:04:22.940 He don't even know what that is.
00:04:24.740 So Zuby,
00:04:25.880 I know,
00:04:26.500 but I,
00:04:27.100 there's a reason is because I'm also,
00:04:29.480 I'm looking at not that I care about my sisters,
00:04:32.480 like deeply I do,
00:04:33.580 but I know them and their type.
00:04:35.800 And I know what they're,
00:04:37.840 what they would say yes and no to,
00:04:40.220 and how they would treat and what they,
00:04:41.760 and who could handle that.
00:04:44.460 That's what that is.
00:04:45.420 I also wouldn't put them in a situation where I'm like,
00:04:48.040 this is my sister,
00:04:49.600 bro.
00:04:49.860 Like,
00:04:50.180 I'm sorry.
00:04:51.540 Yeah.
00:04:52.460 Oh,
00:04:52.740 I want to say some more.
00:04:53.820 Can I,
00:04:54.200 can I please?
00:04:55.720 Okay.
00:04:56.260 Okay.
00:04:56.580 Really quick.
00:04:57.380 Really quick.
00:04:58.980 Okay.
00:04:59.180 Okay.
00:04:59.460 Okay.
00:05:00.100 Okay.
00:05:00.340 Okay.
00:05:00.640 Yes.
00:05:01.300 Yes.
00:05:01.760 Definitely.
00:05:02.240 No.
00:05:02.500 Definitely.
00:05:02.880 No.
00:05:03.580 And I'd need to vet you.
00:05:06.040 Bam.
00:05:06.400 Okay.
00:05:06.800 Yes.
00:05:06.980 Can't vet me.
00:05:07.640 Okay.
00:05:08.940 Okay.
00:05:09.620 So I'm going to change the topic a little bit.
00:05:12.800 So with modern women,
00:05:17.300 the epidemic is that even with birth control,
00:05:20.780 we're getting more abortions than ever.
00:05:25.060 Does,
00:05:25.740 if a girl gets an abortion,
00:05:27.000 does that take her out of the wife category?
00:05:29.760 100%.
00:05:30.320 Why?
00:05:31.100 Million percent.
00:05:32.840 Million percent.
00:05:33.680 Why?
00:05:34.220 Complete moral misalignment.
00:05:36.140 Oh.
00:05:36.480 Okay.
00:05:37.280 Why?
00:05:37.780 But,
00:05:38.180 but,
00:05:38.740 but,
00:05:39.040 but,
00:05:39.100 but,
00:05:39.140 but,
00:05:39.600 but,
00:05:39.980 Zuby it's a fetus.
00:05:41.480 No,
00:05:41.840 I'm very,
00:05:42.320 very strongly pro-life.
00:05:43.460 So tell me,
00:05:43.680 tell me why.
00:05:44.360 No,
00:05:44.640 absolutely not.
00:05:45.600 Tell you why?
00:05:46.200 Yeah.
00:05:46.340 Yeah.
00:05:46.500 Why?
00:05:47.220 A woman who can happily kill her own child.
00:05:50.700 Mm-hmm.
00:05:52.020 Well,
00:05:52.260 if she was a victim of grape.
00:05:54.080 Yeah,
00:05:54.340 exactly.
00:05:55.440 That's less than,
00:05:56.360 that's fewer than 1%.
00:05:57.600 It's fewer than 1%.
00:05:59.220 So let's talk about.
00:06:00.320 about the 99%.
00:06:01.440 Yeah,
00:06:01.500 yeah.
00:06:02.060 Why does it,
00:06:03.000 why is it that whenever a dude makes a point,
00:06:04.920 we always got to bring up the exception as women?
00:06:06.740 It's not,
00:06:06.960 it's not even a common exception.
00:06:08.460 It's like a common thing for women to experience.
00:06:10.660 No,
00:06:10.880 no,
00:06:11.160 it's not.
00:06:11.640 No,
00:06:11.760 it's not.
00:06:12.300 What grape is.
00:06:12.900 It happens,
00:06:13.420 but it's not common.
00:06:14.600 It's not common.
00:06:15.020 It's not common.
00:06:15.940 Not necessarily pregnancy for grape,
00:06:17.700 but grape in general is.
00:06:19.280 No,
00:06:19.480 it's not.
00:06:20.200 No,
00:06:20.380 it's not.
00:06:20.640 That's my job.
00:06:21.160 I deal with them clients every single day of the week.
00:06:22.940 What's the percentage looking like?
00:06:24.140 But that's because,
00:06:24.720 I think that's because that's your job.
00:06:26.800 So you get to see them a concentration,
00:06:29.540 but if you look in the whole of the UK,
00:06:31.820 you see that.
00:06:32.800 But if you,
00:06:33.160 it's a minority.
00:06:33.900 If you look,
00:06:34.580 if you look,
00:06:35.400 no,
00:06:35.720 I'm saying like,
00:06:36.380 if you,
00:06:36.620 if you look at stats,
00:06:37.580 that's not true.
00:06:38.200 It's not the majority of women.
00:06:39.180 It's actually a very small percentage.
00:06:41.200 Because otherwise we're just going off of he said,
00:06:43.060 she said,
00:06:43.440 and she can say anything.
00:06:44.680 If it was a majority,
00:06:45.720 then most of these women.
00:06:46.600 I'm not saying the majority of women have experienced grape.
00:06:49.040 I'm saying there's quite a large percentage of women that have experienced it.
00:06:52.940 But no,
00:06:53.620 not,
00:06:54.000 not statistically.
00:06:55.700 It's not,
00:06:56.320 it's not the large majority.
00:06:58.160 It's a minor,
00:06:58.860 it's a very small minority.
00:07:00.200 I'm not going to lie to you.
00:07:01.320 Yeah.
00:07:01.620 Just being super real and understanding about the life that we're trying to live now.
00:07:06.220 And what like the status of the world is.
00:07:09.960 I mean,
00:07:11.040 as long as you're willing to deal with the consequences of your choices,
00:07:14.360 my friend,
00:07:15.100 save yourself and save your child.
00:07:16.540 Because sometimes you get into an accident with somebody that is definitely not the man that you need to be having a child with.
00:07:23.060 And you're definitely not in the right space of mind.
00:07:25.220 So instead of you putting like a child into your chaotic world,
00:07:28.720 just,
00:07:29.040 you know,
00:07:29.760 be more responsible.
00:07:31.060 Kill it instead.
00:07:31.500 It's not kill it,
00:07:32.440 but like before he gets to a stage where it's like super gone,
00:07:35.600 like at the end of the day,
00:07:37.360 now you've got the option of like taking a little bit of control.
00:07:40.440 If that puts bad energy into the universe,
00:07:42.240 deal with the consequences.
00:07:43.580 But at the end of the day,
00:07:44.240 you'd rather do that than to like bring a traumatized child into the world.
00:07:48.420 I would like to hear zoomies.
00:07:49.840 I actually have a question.
00:07:50.980 Do you think that poor kids are less valuable than rich kids?
00:07:54.140 Because,
00:07:54.640 you know,
00:07:54.880 when you think about it,
00:07:55.560 we're all rich because most people in all of human history have been,
00:07:58.620 even poor people are richer than most people were in all of history.
00:08:01.500 I would say that that's definitely not true because I'm African.
00:08:06.180 I know what,
00:08:06.920 what like what it means to be poor and still be happy and still be privileged and blessed.
00:08:11.320 What I do mean is,
00:08:12.480 for example,
00:08:13.060 there are people that are just not in the,
00:08:14.720 in the best state of mind,
00:08:15.880 or even in a relationship that could be supportive of bringing a healthy citizen into this world.
00:08:21.000 And then if people don't have this sort of control,
00:08:23.980 it gets to a stage where everybody's going to be messed up because their parents are making mistakes.
00:08:27.660 At the end of the day,
00:08:28.320 instead of us judging abortions,
00:08:30.080 let's just first deal with sexual education,
00:08:32.560 sexual discipline,
00:08:33.340 and then we can avoid abortions.
00:08:34.640 Other than that,
00:08:35.320 what do you mean?
00:08:36.260 We're talking about taking a human life here.
00:08:38.380 No,
00:08:38.860 we're talking about taking control of something that actually hasn't got to that stage yet.
00:08:42.460 It depends on how you feel about it.
00:08:43.960 It's not feelings.
00:08:45.120 You're,
00:08:45.300 if literally taking,
00:08:46.100 you can sugarcoat it how you want.
00:08:47.640 It's the taking of an innocent human life.
00:08:49.520 Of course it is.
00:08:50.660 That's literally what it is.
00:08:52.200 To an extent.
00:08:52.480 It depends on how emotionally.
00:08:54.900 You can have your feelings about it.
00:08:57.440 I'm just saying that's literally what it is.
00:08:59.160 Let's move away from euphemisms and feelings.
00:09:01.000 That is what it is.
00:09:02.320 Right.
00:09:02.640 Can I just say something?
00:09:04.740 To both women together.
00:09:06.940 When I first came to your show,
00:09:09.280 remember I said to you,
00:09:10.020 there's not a situation that I haven't experienced.
00:09:12.660 You remember I said that two ages ago.
00:09:14.960 Now I was in a relationship.
00:09:16.660 I was young.
00:09:17.320 I was 16.
00:09:18.900 And I wouldn't say I got put into a relationship,
00:09:22.920 a very abusive relationship.
00:09:24.980 And I had a child through grape.
00:09:28.920 I was 17.
00:09:30.600 I was on the pill.
00:09:32.780 So 17,
00:09:34.320 I couldn't say I had loads of money because I was still living at home.
00:09:37.520 And as far as I'm concerned,
00:09:39.040 I had my child.
00:09:40.720 At 17 years old,
00:09:42.220 no money and I worked and I kept my child.
00:09:46.100 And when everybody keeps on talking about grape and abuse,
00:09:49.160 yes,
00:09:49.440 Pearl,
00:09:49.620 I did report it.
00:09:50.860 Right.
00:09:51.480 I had it down,
00:09:52.440 injunctions and everything.
00:09:53.820 I still got my child.
00:09:56.440 Everybody was against it because in those days,
00:09:59.580 I brought shame on the family.
00:10:01.220 But nobody knew why I had my child.
00:10:04.180 And to this day,
00:10:05.680 I've still got one child because I was only able to have one child.
00:10:10.640 And because I don't believe in abortion and I was a foster carer and I fostered and looked after 10 children as a single parent.
00:10:18.820 And I don't care how poor you are.
00:10:21.240 I don't care what situation you're in.
00:10:24.000 Unless your life is in danger,
00:10:26.420 I still don't believe in abortion.
00:10:28.320 Can I say something to you?
00:10:29.220 I was on the pill.
00:10:30.140 I was on the pill.