JustPearlyThings - Average Woman CLAIMS That She's Not Average

00:00:00.000 Like, why aren't they perfect?

00:00:01.500 It's like, it's not perfect,

00:00:02.660 but it's like everybody's saying,

00:00:03.660 I need to have it as average, as average.

00:00:05.640 Why? I ain't average.

00:00:07.060 I am not average.

00:00:08.560 I'm going to let you know right now.

00:00:09.700 Well, make sure you're not average.

00:00:11.000 Because if I look at my age mates,

00:00:13.280 my successes, my achievements,

00:00:15.340 my personality, my drive,

00:00:17.140 my motivation is unmatched.

00:00:19.600 Can I just say something for once?

00:00:21.980 Are you a single parent?

00:00:23.740 I am a single parent.

00:00:24.320 You're average. I'm average.

00:00:25.540 I'm average.

00:00:26.520 Can you ask me why I was a single parent?

00:00:29.600 No, can you ask me why I'm a single parent?

00:00:31.620 I'm a divorcee first.

00:00:33.020 I'm a divorcee from a...

00:00:34.640 I was a single parent.

00:00:36.280 But you assume why I'm a single parent.

00:00:37.980 You think I just woke up and I bred

00:00:40.020 and I'm a single mum.

00:00:41.300 That's not how it happened.

00:00:41.960 I did all that.

00:00:43.180 I did all that.

00:00:43.780 I had my child in wedlock.

00:00:45.980 I did all that.

00:00:46.460 It's just that because sometimes,

00:00:48.820 as a single parent,

00:00:49.560 because you've been in a relationship

00:00:50.580 and you've been there before,

00:00:51.900 you've got different expectations.

00:00:53.280 No, I'm saying I didn't start as a single parent.

00:00:55.440 I met my husband and I had a child.

00:00:57.360 Nobody meets as a single parent.

00:00:59.280 I really don't like the way you guys

00:01:00.840 assume things about single parents.

00:01:01.800 My man was a single parent.

00:01:03.700 I'm not just going against the women.

00:01:05.580 My man was a single parent too.

00:01:08.000 My man was also a single parent.

00:01:09.080 So does that make her average

00:01:10.160 because she's a single parent? 0.82

00:01:11.320 Guys, why is average an insult?

00:01:13.460 What is wrong with average?

00:01:14.880 I ain't here to be average.

00:01:16.640 Guys, guys, guys.

00:01:17.600 Can I add something to me?

00:01:19.340 There's how many people in here?

00:01:21.060 Wait, eight?

00:01:22.300 Most of us are average.

00:01:23.360 Most people are average.

00:01:24.700 Can I say something?

00:01:25.220 And when you talk about drive,

00:01:26.820 that's not things that men look for.

00:01:28.600 I'm not looking for what men look for.

00:01:29.780 I'm looking for what I'm looking for.

00:01:31.080 This is the problem.

00:01:31.640 Okay, so when you speak about average, right?

00:01:33.760 Because remember,

00:01:34.320 everything we speak about

00:01:35.180 needs to be within context.

00:01:36.320 Definitely.

00:01:36.500 Okay, so when you spoke,

00:01:37.800 you said compare to my peers, right?

00:01:39.420 Yeah, my age mate.

00:01:40.600 So maybe compared to your peers,

00:01:42.860 you may not be average.

00:01:43.940 That was my evidence of why I'm not average.

00:01:45.680 However, however,

00:01:46.540 if we go to another context, right?

00:01:48.700 And then we compare you to people like

00:01:51.160 Rihanna, Beyonce,

00:01:54.000 Who are one in nine billion.

00:01:55.940 Hang on, right?

00:01:57.580 Because you're not...

00:01:58.200 We can't compare.

00:01:59.380 One second, you can.

00:02:00.640 Because I'll tell you why.

00:02:02.000 Let me explain why, right?

00:02:03.280 When you meet a guy, right?

00:02:04.860 You can be very pretty.

00:02:06.180 You could be very attractive.

00:02:07.220 You could be like all of these things, right?

00:02:09.160 But he will still look at you as average

00:02:11.960 because if he can...

00:02:14.680 Look, there's always...

00:02:15.960 It depends what you compare the average with.

00:02:19.040 Okay, so like you said with your peers,

00:02:20.320 you can apply that to that.

00:02:21.540 But if you apply average on a larger scale,

00:02:24.060 okay, where people are millionaires,

00:02:25.900 people are mad famous,

00:02:27.600 millions of followers,

00:02:28.660 they all look at you as average

00:02:29.900 compared to that person.

00:02:31.360 Do you know what I'm trying to say?

00:02:32.160 But we're looking at percentages, though.

00:02:32.940 No, but we have to look overall

00:02:34.440 because you've got to remember,

00:02:35.640 people are being brainwashed out here.

00:02:37.120 They're looking at Rihanna.

00:02:38.300 They're looking at Beyonce.

00:02:39.500 They're looking at all of these people.

00:02:41.020 You know what the problem is with this?

00:02:41.260 The whole thing is...

00:02:42.340 One second, if you don't mind,

00:02:43.900 can I just finish what I was saying?

00:02:45.640 So that's the first thing I was going to say.

00:02:47.600 It's in context, right?

00:02:49.220 Who you're comparing yourself to

00:02:50.660 because nowadays,

00:02:52.400 guys are looking for girls,

00:02:53.580 the majority of guys,

00:02:54.520 because look,

00:02:55.080 I'm a woman, right?

00:02:56.480 But all my life,

00:02:57.600 I'm road.

00:02:58.680 I'm hood.

00:02:59.260 All my friends are savages.

00:03:01.040 They're all road men.

00:03:02.020 I don't chill with girls. 1.00

00:03:03.400 I've got one female that's my friend. 1.00

00:03:04.800 All my friends are males,

00:03:06.460 so I hear them when they speak.

00:03:07.900 This younger generation,

00:03:09.000 a lot of them are actually looking for girls

00:03:10.600 with money.

00:03:11.580 That's what they want.

00:03:12.140 Girls with money, 1.00

00:03:13.020 girls with cars, 0.90

00:03:14.000 girls with... 1.00

00:03:14.580 That's how they're thinking now.

00:03:16.460 Their thinking is completely different.

00:03:17.800 So a normal basic nine to five working person

00:03:20.460 or working class or whatever,

00:03:22.900 it's average to them.

00:03:24.120 It's average

00:03:24.620 because they're seeing these things every day.

00:03:26.680 So that's the first point I wanted to make, right?

00:03:28.700 The second point I wanted to make is

00:03:29.860 people are like,

00:03:30.760 oh, you know,

00:03:31.180 the man should be in control.

00:03:32.580 The man's...

00:03:33.500 You have to listen to the man

00:03:35.100 and the man's got the power.

00:03:36.040 But really and truly, right,

00:03:37.300 if you're married, right,

00:03:38.400 or you're in a serious relationship with a man,

00:03:40.480 you're the one that's in control.

00:03:42.120 You're the one that's in power.

00:03:43.140 And I'll tell you why.

00:03:43.740 Because when your husband respects you, right,

00:03:46.540 he'll do anything for you.

00:03:47.920 You ring him and say to him,

00:03:48.760 look, I need milk.

00:03:49.500 He's dropping everything

00:03:50.260 and he's coming.

00:03:50.820 He's bringing milk.

00:03:51.620 If you ring him and say to him,

00:03:52.620 I need this,

00:03:53.100 or something's happened,

00:03:54.040 or he's coming.

00:03:54.880 He's coming running straight for you.

00:03:56.060 So really,

00:03:56.740 you're actually in control.

00:03:58.340 As long as there's respect there,

00:04:00.300 right,

00:04:00.540 and there's the love there

00:04:01.400 and you're playing your role

00:04:02.300 and he's playing his role.

00:04:03.800 They say that a woman 1.00

00:04:05.140 is the neck to a man's head.

00:04:07.100 So you can turn his head

00:04:08.660 whichever way you want to turn his head.

00:04:10.460 You just got to know how to.

00:04:12.020 What were you going to say?

00:04:13.060 You want to say something?

00:04:13.640 I really hate how

00:04:15.240 being a single mother

00:04:16.460 diminishes your value as a human being.

00:04:19.320 How you can go from a 10

00:04:21.600 suddenly everyone's like,

00:04:22.600 oh, now you're a five

00:04:23.320 because you're a single mother. 0.98

00:04:23.980 That says nothing about

00:04:25.000 who you are as a person.

00:04:26.180 That says nothing about your mastery,

00:04:27.520 about your talent,

00:04:28.480 about the discipline

00:04:29.100 that it takes to get you there.

00:04:30.120 But now because somebody,

00:04:31.240 because somebody now has disrespected,

00:04:33.900 now something has happened

00:04:35.240 in her life.

00:04:35.740 That don't matter, bro.

00:04:36.260 That's such a shallow way

00:04:38.920 to look at life.

00:04:39.580 Listen, at the end of the day,

00:04:41.460 at the end of the day,

00:04:42.720 you have to just respect

00:04:44.560 what the market wants.

00:04:45.860 What?

00:04:46.360 At the end of the day.

00:04:47.020 Do you know how much man

00:04:47.620 want a single mom? 1.00

00:04:48.360 Let me just finish my,

00:04:49.480 because I'll let you lot talk.

00:04:51.060 Do your thing.

00:04:51.480 I will do my thing.

00:04:53.500 Yeah.

00:04:53.820 At the end of the day,

00:04:54.820 if you don't care

00:04:55.720 what the market wants

00:04:56.820 and you talk

00:04:57.700 and you tell yourself,

00:04:58.700 oh, I'm not average.

00:04:59.540 I'm not average, bro.

00:05:00.480 Like you're just going

00:05:01.100 to continue losing, bruv.

00:05:02.780 You should maybe

00:05:03.680 understand the market.

00:05:04.940 Guess what?

00:05:05.300 Coca-Cola understands its market.

00:05:07.140 That's why Coca-Cola

00:05:08.620 is successful, bruv.

00:05:10.400 So you can be deluded

00:05:12.340 and think I'm a 10

00:05:13.560 and this because I've got money

00:05:15.400 and I went to this school

00:05:16.800 and blah, blah, blah.

00:05:18.040 Like, bro,

00:05:18.940 I do these podcasts,

00:05:19.900 the same thing

00:05:20.640 and these women come 1.00

00:05:21.940 and say the same thing

00:05:22.760 because I went to this school

00:05:23.760 and I've got money,

00:05:24.760 but the market does not care

00:05:26.220 about that.

00:05:27.120 And I'm sorry to say,

00:05:28.800 I'm sorry to say,

00:05:29.920 like you're saying,

00:05:30.700 oh, but, you know,

00:05:31.820 a single mother diminishing

00:05:33.060 who you are as a person.

00:05:34.140 No, you could be a great person

00:05:35.340 and be a single mother.

00:05:36.080 You can be an excellent person,

00:05:37.180 but at the end of the day,

00:05:38.460 the market,

00:05:39.340 for the most part,

00:05:40.160 is not going to want to couple.

00:05:41.540 So what market?

00:05:42.560 It depends.

00:05:43.420 What do you mean the market?

00:05:44.480 Men is the market. 0.99

00:05:46.420 What's the market?

00:05:46.940 You're not my market.

00:05:48.840 The man in his 40s.

00:05:50.080 Men, I said men.

00:05:50.980 He's not my market.

00:05:51.480 I said men.

00:05:52.300 I said men.

00:05:53.220 Guys, one conversation.

00:05:55.040 Thank you.

00:05:55.480 And it says something about,

00:05:56.500 it says something about

00:05:57.260 your decision making

00:05:58.240 if you become a single mother.

00:06:00.740 Are you all right?

00:06:01.880 Do you know what?

00:06:02.460 Do you know why I became

00:06:03.600 a single mother?

00:06:04.260 I have to disagree.

00:06:04.980 That's uncool for.

00:06:07.320 You don't know what I experienced.

00:06:08.680 You don't know what I experienced

00:06:09.560 as a married woman

00:06:10.500 to make a choice

00:06:11.720 to be a single mother.

00:06:12.620 So I must take.

00:06:13.920 It's either you don't pick

00:06:15.100 the right guys.

00:06:16.180 It's something about

00:06:17.880 your decision making.

00:06:18.920 Maybe you don't pick

00:06:19.600 the right guys.

00:06:20.440 So abusive women 1.00

00:06:21.180 that choose lovely,

00:06:22.940 amazing men

00:06:23.480 that just decide 0.93

00:06:24.660 to be physically abusive

00:06:26.400 because I chose that.

00:06:28.260 Yeah.

00:06:28.700 Is that what you're saying?

00:06:29.780 Say that again. 0.71

00:06:30.160 So I chose to be

00:06:31.040 a single divorcee

00:06:32.400 because of an individual's choice

00:06:35.340 to be violent.

00:06:36.320 Is that what you're saying?

00:06:36.980 It was your choice

00:06:37.460 to get in a relationship

00:06:38.440 with him.

00:06:38.940 Oh, because I didn't want

00:06:39.980 to see his psyche.

00:06:40.640 It's like life turns out

00:06:42.600 better if you take

00:06:43.220 accountability for your choices.

00:06:44.860 Sometimes.

00:06:45.960 Okay.

00:06:46.460 I disagree.

00:06:48.280 The abusive man

00:06:50.640 made her the single mother.

00:06:52.260 So why is the

00:06:52.960 accountability for him?

00:06:53.680 An abusive man.

00:06:55.340 He's wrong.

00:06:56.260 I agree with you.

00:06:57.400 But where do we take

00:06:58.400 accountability for the fact

00:07:00.900 that you pick the man?

00:07:02.580 People change, Pearl.

00:07:03.140 People change.

00:07:04.360 Sorry, Pearl.

00:07:04.940 Can I just,

00:07:05.480 I have to say

00:07:05.980 I disagree with you there.

00:07:07.580 I definitely disagree

00:07:08.860 with you there

00:07:09.200 and I'll tell you why.

00:07:09.860 Look, I'm 38.

00:07:10.740 I'm not a young girl.

00:07:11.460 I've been married

00:07:11.780 and I've been divorced.

00:07:12.660 I've got experience.

00:07:13.580 I've had a kid.

00:07:14.520 You know, I've been there.

00:07:15.460 I've done that.

00:07:15.760 So if somebody gets married

00:07:17.320 at a young age, right,

00:07:18.280 they're young.

00:07:20.460 Right?

00:07:20.760 So they're not that clued.

00:07:22.360 Right, look,

00:07:22.760 let me start from the,

00:07:23.500 look,

00:07:24.080 we always talk about a problem

00:07:25.340 but we never ever get

00:07:26.220 to the core of why

00:07:27.000 that problem occurs.

00:07:28.280 But everybody's young.

00:07:29.160 Everyone's young.

00:07:29.560 No, no, no, wait.

00:07:30.100 As a young girl,

00:07:30.920 I'm sure you'll all

00:07:31.800 agree with me, okay?

00:07:32.940 As a young girl,

00:07:34.100 we are brainwashed.

00:07:35.760 We are sold a fairy tale, right?

00:07:37.560 We are all thinking,

00:07:38.340 oh, we're going to wear

00:07:38.840 this white dress

00:07:39.480 and we're going to get married

00:07:40.140 and we're going to be in love.

00:07:41.320 No, we shouldn't have

00:07:42.580 been taught that.

00:07:43.400 We should have been taught

00:07:44.100 the realness.

00:07:44.940 Marriage is very hard.

00:07:46.100 It's a struggle.

00:07:47.020 You've got to make sure

00:07:47.560 you know who you're marrying.

00:07:48.340 Look, and also,

00:07:49.220 people change over time.

00:07:51.000 Somebody, you can marry them 0.98

00:07:52.020 and when you married them,

00:07:52.800 they were okay

00:07:53.300 and over time, gradually,

00:07:54.640 they got mental breakdown.

00:07:55.820 They became a psychopath.

00:07:57.280 They became antisocial.

00:07:59.620 But again,

00:07:59.960 we all grew up

00:08:00.620 in the same society

00:08:01.460 and people have different outcomes

00:08:02.600 based on their choices.

00:08:03.720 So if you make a choice...

00:08:04.700 Sorry, can I finish

00:08:05.360 what I was saying?

00:08:06.080 I think what you're saying,

00:08:07.460 everything that we say

00:08:08.300 has to be within context.

00:08:09.780 You know,

00:08:09.980 some people might get married

00:08:10.840 and their husband dies

00:08:11.560 and they become a single mother.

00:08:13.600 You know, there's...

00:08:14.380 Right, but we're not

00:08:14.640 talking about exceptions.

00:08:15.560 We're talking about the rule.

00:08:16.680 Are the majority

00:08:17.200 of single mothers widows?

00:08:18.460 No.

00:08:19.180 But does it go the other way?

00:08:20.340 No.

00:08:20.600 Does men's value diminish

00:08:22.340 when they become...

00:08:23.620 No, it doesn't.

00:08:25.000 No, because they can just get up

00:08:26.480 and they can go

00:08:27.100 and remarry. 0.95

00:08:27.940 Personally, for me personally,

00:08:30.200 I don't...

00:08:30.600 I'm not into the guys with kids.

00:08:32.000 That's not my thing.

00:08:32.720 But in general, no.

00:08:33.740 I mean, most guys I know

00:08:34.620 that have kids say 1.00

00:08:35.320 it helps them in dating.

00:08:36.380 Girls like it. 1.00

00:08:38.160 Yeah, no.

00:08:38.780 A guy can just get up

00:08:39.540 and start all over again.

00:08:40.500 He can literally...

00:08:41.100 So there's not a talk about

00:08:41.880 accountability when it comes to men,

00:08:43.400 but as soon as...

00:08:43.880 It's not about accountability,

00:08:45.200 it's about outcomes.

00:08:46.440 Like, what outcomes do you get?

00:08:47.600 What is the outcome?

00:08:48.100 And the outcome is

00:08:49.320 that single mothers 0.99

00:08:50.020 have a harder time

00:08:50.740 in dating than single women. 1.00

00:08:51.820 And the outcome for men

00:08:55.100 is oftentimes when men...

00:08:56.340 Not always,

00:08:57.080 but oftentimes when men have kids,

00:08:58.960 their outcomes are better.

00:09:00.360 They get more girls 0.96

00:09:01.000 because women like to see... 1.00

00:09:02.420 Women like to see a guy 1.00

00:09:03.640 that can take care of a kid. 1.00

00:09:04.880 It signals to us that like,

00:09:06.640 you know, again,

00:09:07.160 it's not my thing.

00:09:07.860 As many of you know,

00:09:09.320 I was just banned on TikTok

00:09:11.380 and we are demonetized

00:09:13.100 on a daily basis

00:09:14.340 on this platform.

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JustPearlyThings - April 23, 2023

Average Woman CLAIMS That She's Not Average

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