JustPearlyThings - August 05, 2023


Based Woman DEBUNKS 50⧸50 Relationships

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Team Selena Justin Bieber
Pearl Puts EVERYBODY On The Spot With This Question Why Modern Women Pick Bad Partners

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9 minutes

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209.75

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2,011

Sentence count

197

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30

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21

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In this episode, we discuss what makes a good wife, and what it takes to be a good partner in a relationship. We discuss the benefits and drawbacks of being a good husband, and how to make the most out of your partner.

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00:00:00.000 What do you think makes a good wife? 1.00
00:00:03.780 So, in all honesty, I think just being there as the other half.
00:00:13.400 Like, I know you discuss about it as being...
00:00:15.440 You just complete them, basically.
00:00:17.040 Yeah, I know you discuss it as being like, you know, a woman has a role in a relationship, 0.96
00:00:21.540 but I'm actually bisexual, so to me, it could work either way.
00:00:25.060 Okay.
00:00:25.280 And to me, I feel like 50-50 is where that kind of stuff needs to fall into place.
00:00:30.920 50-50 on everything?
00:00:32.360 Not necessarily.
00:00:33.520 Give and take.
00:00:34.720 Okay.
00:00:35.040 So, if you have to look at the person's attributes, what they give to a relationship,
00:00:40.140 and break it down that way, I don't think it's a one-size-fits-all.
00:00:43.420 I don't think everyone can say, right, you're going to do this, you're going to do that,
00:00:47.860 because you're the man. 1.00
00:00:49.200 That man could be shit. 1.00
00:00:50.520 He could be really bad at it. 1.00
00:00:52.060 But he could also be...
00:00:53.060 He could be amazing at it.
00:00:54.220 Yeah.
00:00:54.380 Perfect.
00:00:55.280 Let them work to their strengths.
00:00:56.660 I think that's what works in a relationship, when you let the other person work to their strengths.
00:01:00.240 I agree with you working together.
00:01:01.180 Yeah.
00:01:01.440 Sure.
00:01:01.800 Sure.
00:01:02.120 But I think there are some things that, regardless whether you're traditional or not,
00:01:06.260 there are some things that, naturally, a man might be better at, a woman might be better at, 1.00
00:01:11.000 we're very different biologically.
00:01:12.760 So, there's always going to be things that a man's going to be slightly better at than a woman, 1.00
00:01:16.420 unless you're an anomaly, and you're going to be 10 times stronger than a man.
00:01:20.860 That's unlikely.
00:01:22.180 So, I think, yeah, give or take.
00:01:24.380 I think everything has to be looked at retrospectively, and it has to be broken down about each person's
00:01:29.480 attributes and what they can give to the situation.
00:01:31.200 So, what do you think makes a woman a good wife? 0.99
00:01:35.440 Like, what's just specific?
00:01:36.860 Because this is just a bit broad, so I'm just trying to rein it in.
00:01:40.260 Fair enough.
00:01:40.760 So, being able to provide in a sense that you can provide emotionally, whether you can provide financially is irrelevant.
00:01:50.200 If the other person can provide financially, perfect.
00:01:52.940 You then need to make up for the other gaps.
00:01:54.960 So, as a wife, you might need to be able to kick, be able to look after children, or be able to look after the man, 1.00
00:02:01.580 or the man be able to look after you, and you be receiving to that.
00:02:05.560 Because I think a lot of women nowadays look at a relationship and think the man should have to make the first move. 1.00
00:02:12.160 Do everything.
00:02:12.720 Do everything.
00:02:14.520 But that makes a lot of men very, not a lot of men, but nowadays, it makes them quite intimidated.
00:02:20.380 And then they get nervous, and then they think, oh, what if I can't do that?
00:02:24.340 You have to be receptive to what they want to do.
00:02:26.320 If they want to buy food for you, let them.
00:02:28.500 If they want to take you out on a date, and they want to pay for everything, let them.
00:02:31.280 Yeah, okay, but I'm asking, what does she have to do? 1.00
00:02:33.040 She has to be receptive to it.
00:02:34.780 Other than receive, what else does she have to do? 0.99
00:02:37.000 Well, um, again, see, because it's something that I personally don't, yeah, it's something that I wouldn't really have values on.
00:02:46.800 So I don't really think what I'm going to say is going to give you much, much information, to be honest.
00:02:52.480 Okay, no worries.
00:02:53.580 All right, so question.
00:02:54.560 Do you want to be a husband?
00:02:55.900 Do I want to be a husband?
00:02:56.840 Um, I am not enthusiastic about it with the way that marriage is, with laws, and just with the way the culture is in general.
00:03:07.480 Um, and I've been that way for a long time.
00:03:09.440 I mean, like, as it was, my parents divorced when I was a kid, so I never really had a great argument, you know, a great example for sort of marriage and that kind of thing anyway.
00:03:19.440 And obviously, as time's gone on, you know, we've seen what's happened in terms of the way that society is here in the USA and Canada and Australia, you know, those Western countries.
00:03:28.300 It's, it's, it's not a good deal, to be honest.
00:03:31.160 It's never been something that I've been particularly keen on.
00:03:33.060 I've become less keen on the idea as I've gone on, really.
00:03:36.380 Now, in a sense, I agree with what you said, because I think long-term relationship, fine.
00:03:41.340 Commitment, fine.
00:03:42.500 Do you want to put a ring on it?
00:03:44.480 Probably not.
00:03:45.400 You know, there'd have to be a very good reason for doing it, or do it somewhere else.
00:03:48.860 Like, do it over in, um, maybe one of the Latin, you know, Latin American countries or something like that.
00:03:53.880 Okay.
00:03:54.060 Yeah.
00:03:54.540 And, um, out of, what did you hear?
00:03:57.160 Who would I marry out of them?
00:03:58.480 No, no.
00:04:01.520 I was going to say, what, what did you hear today?
00:04:04.260 Was there anything you heard that you thought, yes, that would make a good way?
00:04:06.720 I think a lot of the women were a bit light on specifics, to, to, to be honest, you know, 0.89
00:04:13.620 there's a lot of stuff, yeah, support and blah, blah, blah, but there's, there's, there's
00:04:16.620 a lot, there wasn't much specifics in terms of what, what is the woman actually going to 0.99
00:04:20.260 bring to the table?
00:04:20.880 So, um, I would say that, but I mean, I, I think really you want somebody who is going
00:04:30.620 to support you, who's going to be easy to be around, you know?
00:04:34.140 Um, and I think marriage worked pretty well back in the day when things were more traditional
00:04:40.740 to, to be honest.
00:04:41.640 And I think now we've come away from that.
00:04:43.620 It just doesn't work as well, you know?
00:04:45.740 And, um, we're seeing that and, you know, as we know, the majority of divorces are
00:04:50.500 caused by women, you know, 70% of divorces are initiated by women. 1.00
00:04:54.020 So it's women who are, which is why modern women are shitty wives. 1.00
00:04:57.860 Exactly. 0.99
00:04:58.780 But that's, but that's another reason, another reason I'm not keen to, to go into it.
00:05:02.460 Cause for guys, it's a bit of a bad deal because, you know, the women are very keen to get married. 0.86
00:05:07.240 You know, women will try to push the agenda of like, oh, you know, where are we? 1.00
00:05:11.800 Are we going to get engaged?
00:05:12.600 Are we moving in together?
00:05:13.280 Are we going to get married?
00:05:14.760 But then they get fed up, you know, 10, 15, 10, 15 years, like down the line and they initiate
00:05:18.760 a divorce. 0.72
00:05:19.200 And then the guy's screwed. 0.90
00:05:20.500 So, but why is she fed up? 1.00
00:05:22.820 Why is she fed up? 1.00
00:05:24.360 I, well, I think, I mean, there's going to be many different reasons for that and we could
00:05:28.600 go into lots of different examples, but I think a lot of it is that they lose the, the, you
00:05:33.080 know, the butterflies go and it's inevitably going to go over a longer period of time because
00:05:37.580 we all know you have that honeymoon period and then, you know, it gets, yeah, then it
00:05:41.860 gets, it gets a bit boring.
00:05:42.860 And the problem with that is that if you're then putting that into a legal contract where
00:05:46.360 one of the parties can just say, I'll sod that and walk out, that's a dangerous ground,
00:05:51.080 I think.
00:05:51.220 I don't know, like, I've got, I don't know, like, I've just got a thought.
00:05:54.940 Like, obviously you said women leave in a marriage, of course, which I understand. 0.79
00:06:01.760 But I'm 21, like, I know I'm still young, but I feel like there's a specific time period
00:06:08.560 to have kids and to marry and settle down.
00:06:13.220 And I feel like, I don't know, like, there's a lot of pressure because if I put myself in
00:06:18.820 a guy's perspective or shoes, like, I'm not bearing a child and that changes your body.
00:06:26.240 It does.
00:06:26.640 It changes your body.
00:06:27.300 Of course, we have the biological clock where we're all aware of it as women. 1.00
00:06:31.880 So, yeah, it's harder for us, I think.
00:06:34.220 That's why, probably why we want to lock it down.
00:06:36.180 Oh, yeah, yeah, sure, sure.
00:06:37.720 Yeah, yeah.
00:06:38.220 And, like, with women leaving, again, this is such a broad subject, so I'm not, I'm not
00:06:43.680 on about just cheating, by the way.
00:06:45.080 Yeah.
00:06:45.700 But, yeah, one-off, it's like, I get and understand why men do, like, cheat and leave and go for
00:06:54.960 younger women.
00:06:55.660 Well, one out of, it's actually not.
00:06:57.620 It's such a broad thing, though.
00:06:59.300 Well, men don't typically leave for younger women.
00:07:01.660 They don't even leave most of the time.
00:07:02.280 No, they're just going to cheat and stay. 0.67
00:07:04.180 They want to cheat and stay.
00:07:05.020 I mean, but women cheat in their own way. 1.00
00:07:07.120 I mean, I think, personally, I think that sex is to men as attention is to women. 0.77
00:07:12.440 So I think women need attention, like, like, men need sex, but women are never expected 1.00
00:07:18.040 to close off their social media. 0.99
00:07:20.220 Yeah.
00:07:20.780 Yeah. 0.93
00:07:21.060 But men are expected to stop having sex with other girls.
00:07:23.440 How is that fair? 1.00
00:07:24.620 But women can post ass pics on their Instagram. 1.00
00:07:26.720 Well, I don't know about ass pics on their Instagram. 1.00
00:07:30.180 But, you know, nobody can touch it. 0.99
00:07:32.080 What?
00:07:32.360 Nobody can touch it.
00:07:33.540 Yeah, but it's like advertising.
00:07:35.060 I mean, I was even looking at, I was, okay, this is, can we pull up, can we pull up Hailey
00:07:39.680 Bieber's Instagram?
00:07:41.040 Oh.
00:07:41.260 Can you imagine?
00:07:42.460 Okay.
00:07:42.880 Team Selena, by the way. 0.99
00:07:44.640 Team Selena. 0.97
00:07:45.440 Team Selena, too. 0.72
00:07:46.740 Okay. 0.95
00:07:46.980 I don't know shit about the Selena, Hailey, whatever. 0.90
00:07:49.640 I don't, I don't care. 0.94
00:07:50.480 What I was looking at was her Instagram.
00:07:52.320 I was like, she's married to a world famous pop star.
00:07:55.180 Yeah.
00:07:55.680 And I know she's a model, right?
00:07:57.340 But he's a world, but he's, he's got groupies.
00:08:00.560 Yeah.
00:08:00.800 And he's also very religious, apparently.
00:08:04.060 And so it's like, you're married to a world famous pop star and you still got.
00:08:11.260 Look at, look at the booty one. 1.00
00:08:12.920 Look at it.
00:08:13.660 Yeah.
00:08:14.060 Look at that.
00:08:14.680 Yeah.
00:08:15.640 Okay.
00:08:16.140 And the funny thing is he comments on it as well.
00:08:18.440 So it's bizarre.
00:08:19.540 As long as he's okay with it.
00:08:21.000 He's like, oh my God.
00:08:22.380 Yeah, but would she be okay with it?
00:08:24.500 If he was to be commenting under somebody else's post?
00:08:27.740 No.
00:08:27.920 Would she be okay with it?
00:08:29.280 I think it works one of two ways.
00:08:31.300 Like you can't, you can't take one side just because one's a female and then not back 0.99
00:08:36.520 the other side.
00:08:37.280 Like pick your own battles all, all the same, but don't.
00:08:41.260 Don't come at the man for cheating.
00:08:44.300 If she's going to put it out there as if she's going to cheat as well.
00:08:47.060 Well, interesting that you say that.
00:08:48.700 Well, I just think of it as like, like mating strategies.
00:08:50.940 Like women want to get attention from high status men. 1.00
00:08:53.140 That's Instagram.
00:08:54.500 Yeah.
00:08:55.100 Where men want to screw as many people as possible. 1.00
00:08:57.900 So like how many, I don't know anyone that got married and closed their Instagram.
00:09:01.280 I don't know anyone that did it.
00:09:02.460 Like my age anyway.
00:09:03.440 Actually, I told you, you're right.
00:09:05.740 So yeah. 1.00
00:09:06.260 So I'm saying modern women are shitty wives. 1.00
00:09:07.620 Have you done that? 1.00
00:09:07.920 Why would you close your Instagram?
00:09:09.240 I don't understand that.
00:09:10.360 Because it's advertised.
00:09:11.560 I'm just having more.
00:09:13.020 You'll boot it.
00:09:14.220 Pull up, pull up, pull up. 0.98
00:09:15.240 Can you just say that?
00:09:16.800 I don't get that.
00:09:17.580 Can we, can we, can we, pull up, pull this up?
00:09:19.600 I mean, I think it really depends.
00:09:21.420 You can't tell me that's not advertising.
00:09:23.880 I mean, she is a model. 0.94
00:09:25.100 I mean, yeah, she's a model. 1.00
00:09:26.100 That's her job. 0.97
00:09:27.060 Yeah, but you could argue Justin Bieber's job is to screw groupies on tour.
00:09:31.900 Yeah, but he's a singer.
00:09:33.180 That's not.
00:09:33.840 That's different.
00:09:34.560 He's not a model.