JustPearlyThings - July 06, 2023


Based Woman TRIGGERS Simp With This Fact


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10 minutes

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Word count

2,218

Sentence count

225

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Misogyny

15

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In this episode, we talk about how men don't know how to be men anymore and why it's time for women to be submissive to men. We also talk about skinny jeans and why they're a feminine thing to wear.

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00:00:00.000 Why didn't your parents stay together?
00:00:01.980 Like I said, I was young when they broke up,
00:00:03.920 so I don't really know the ins and outs of...
00:00:06.300 Would you say your mom was submissive to men? 1.00
00:00:08.960 My mom?
00:00:09.580 Yeah.
00:00:10.260 No.
00:00:10.580 No.
00:00:11.500 Because there's eight of us.
00:00:13.320 I'm the youngest of eight, and they're all for my dad.
00:00:15.040 So my mom stuck with one guy throughout the hard times about him.
00:00:18.800 Obviously, things happened, and it just obviously didn't work,
00:00:21.720 so they're separate.
00:00:22.140 But they're really good friends now.
00:00:23.860 No, I just think it's like the root of a lot of problems,
00:00:26.160 as women not being able to be submissive to men
00:00:28.320 because we've been told that we're their equals and we're not.
00:00:30.740 Okay.
00:00:31.840 Yeah.
00:00:32.560 Do you agree with that or disagree?
00:00:34.600 When you put it like that...
00:00:35.880 Kind of.
00:00:36.520 And men don't know how to be men anymore as well.
00:00:40.440 What do you mean by that?
00:00:41.260 I think...
00:00:41.840 What do you mean by that?
00:00:43.280 Well, I don't hear me by that.
00:00:44.080 What do you mean by that?
00:00:45.160 It's because of right now.
00:00:46.340 Right now.
00:00:46.880 Men don't know how to be men anymore.
00:00:48.680 Yeah, they don't know how to wear their crowns anymore.
00:00:52.280 I don't think it's men.
00:00:53.140 I think it's how things are in society, social media.
00:00:57.080 Like, look at, for instance, I said this on the other podcast that we did.
00:01:00.320 Like, look at some of men's clothes.
00:01:02.280 Their jeans, head are tight.
00:01:03.760 Why are men in skinny-ass jeans?
00:01:05.640 And then, again, women... 1.00
00:01:06.720 Are you really comparing with fashion trends?
00:01:08.160 No, no, no, no.
00:01:09.380 I can't get back on that.
00:01:11.380 I can't get back on that.
00:01:12.000 No, no, no.
00:01:12.960 She's right, though.
00:01:14.260 Sorry.
00:01:15.040 No, she's right.
00:01:16.020 Like, if you walk down the street,
00:01:17.680 it's like the men's clothes are becoming more feminine
00:01:20.080 and the women's clothes are becoming more masculine.
00:01:22.860 Like, you see more women in pants. 1.00
00:01:23.780 Bagging trousers and stuff, yeah.
00:01:25.120 Yeah, and if you look at the clothes...
00:01:26.440 Even down to the baby clothes as well.
00:01:27.640 Yeah, so she's right, honestly.
00:01:29.800 Because I think they literally train each other to be each other.
00:01:33.900 Yeah.
00:01:35.240 I disagree with that, though.
00:01:37.940 What?
00:01:38.640 I disagree with the fashion thing.
00:01:41.080 Same.
00:01:42.120 Because if you...
00:01:43.080 I just think that's another excuse that people try to use to cause confusion.
00:01:47.020 Because if you go throughout history, fashion has always changed the trend.
00:01:53.040 There were times when men wore tight-ass clothes.
00:01:56.080 There were times when men used to wear heels.
00:01:57.880 There were times when men were all still masculine men.
00:02:00.420 I just think that's another way that...
00:02:02.380 When did men wear heels?
00:02:03.840 In the olden days, actually.
00:02:05.680 Michael Jackson, in the 70s.
00:02:06.900 No, no, no.
00:02:07.940 But the 70s, they were doing the same propaganda.
00:02:12.000 So, like, before 100 years ago.
00:02:13.960 Yeah, but I'm just saying, like,
00:02:15.240 I just think fashion is separate from masculinity.
00:02:18.120 You can be a masculine man and...
00:02:20.020 You don't think when they're putting hairy styles on the cover in a freaking dress... 1.00
00:02:25.020 No, that's different.
00:02:25.700 That's different.
00:02:26.460 I'm not my way of dresses, but...
00:02:28.420 Men don't know about that one. 1.00
00:02:30.020 Men don't know about that one. 1.00
00:02:31.480 But people trying to say, like,
00:02:33.180 men can't wear tight clothes.
00:02:34.440 I just think that's not right.
00:02:35.720 No.
00:02:36.060 Because there were even times when men used to wear, like,
00:02:37.800 tight-ass boot cuts,
00:02:38.920 where it's, like, very flurry at the bottom.
00:02:40.780 And then it's tight here.
00:02:41.980 And then they wear, like, tight-ass silk shirts.
00:02:44.000 But there were still, like, manly men in that era as well.
00:02:47.280 No, but you're not getting what I'm saying.
00:02:49.040 I'm saying in the sense of when they push it out in social media,
00:02:51.960 they do it in a feminine way. 1.00
00:02:53.620 So if a man is going out to buy skinny jeans,
00:02:56.180 he's got a feminine personality trait about him.
00:02:58.560 Because realistically, would you go out and look,
00:03:00.700 go into Zara and pick up a man's skinny tight jeans and wear it? 0.98
00:03:04.140 What type of skinny jeans are we talking about?
00:03:05.520 It depends on the type of...
00:03:06.180 My parts are skinny.
00:03:07.380 My parts are skinny.
00:03:08.480 I'm confused.
00:03:09.420 I'm so confused.
00:03:09.900 Are we talking about S-type skinny jeans?
00:03:11.860 You're talking about S-type skinny jeans.
00:03:13.860 I don't want to debate on the jeans.
00:03:16.600 I don't want to...
00:03:17.060 I actually want to ask...
00:03:18.220 So what do you mean when men don't know how to be men anymore?
00:03:21.300 I just feel they're not...
00:03:23.660 I don't know how...
00:03:25.260 What do men get for being men today?
00:03:28.420 They don't get enough...
00:03:29.380 They don't get no credit.
00:03:31.240 No, I mean, like, what do they get?
00:03:32.560 Do they get a good woman? 1.00
00:03:35.620 No.
00:03:36.180 No.
00:03:36.440 They get status.
00:03:37.280 I think...
00:03:39.360 They get degraded.
00:03:40.420 They get pulled down.
00:03:41.420 That's a good answer.
00:03:42.140 Go ahead.
00:03:42.580 Can I say something?
00:03:43.780 I think what you're supposed to say is, like, back in the days, like, not now, but back
00:03:49.400 in the days, men's mental health was looked down upon.
00:03:53.400 Nowadays, men's mental health is becoming such a thing where everyone's talking about it
00:03:59.000 more rather than back in the early 2000s.
00:04:02.320 No one was really talking about that.
00:04:04.020 Now everybody's talking about it.
00:04:04.860 Well, I think now they teach men to be women. 0.99
00:04:07.080 They teach men to emote like women. 0.99
00:04:09.460 Because they say you should talk about your feelings.
00:04:11.120 That's what women do. 1.00
00:04:12.400 I can't lie.
00:04:13.340 I feel like it's a thing where, like, if a man feels a certain type of way, I'm going
00:04:16.920 to feel that type of way.
00:04:17.680 And I don't care if you're a girl. 1.00
00:04:19.180 And I don't care if, like, you feel a certain type of way, because I feel like that.
00:04:21.940 Because really and truly, as I said, if a girl is a human, and I'm a human, and I feel
00:04:26.780 a certain type of way or something, I should deserve to feel that way.
00:04:28.960 No, it's true.
00:04:29.720 Regardless if you're a girl or not.
00:04:30.960 No, it's true.
00:04:31.440 Regardless if a man or not.
00:04:32.080 Because I feel that type of way.
00:04:33.140 My point is they tell men, like, how do I put it?
00:04:36.860 When you look at the way they tell men to deal with emotions and women to deal with emotions,
00:04:40.880 the woman's way of dealing with emotions is always assumed to be correct. 1.00
00:04:44.620 So they always say, like, men, you should cry more because women cry more.
00:04:47.940 So they're always assuming that, like, the woman's way of doing things is correct, where 0.99
00:04:51.020 the men who fight on the playground are wrong.
00:04:52.960 The men that are aggressive are wrong.
00:04:54.140 But how do we even know what's right or wrong?
00:04:55.720 Well, I'm saying in schools, let's say, if a dude cries, like, he doesn't get in trouble.
00:05:00.880 But if they fight on the playground, they do.
00:05:02.360 And so, like, the woman's, like, so there's a lot of systems that I think that tell men
00:05:06.480 to be more feminine.
00:05:08.460 I don't feel like that.
00:05:09.120 I feel like it depends on how the guy deals with his, like, you know what I'm saying?
00:05:12.660 With his emotions.
00:05:13.820 I can't lie.
00:05:14.280 Back in the day, I'm not going to, I can't lie.
00:05:16.260 If I wanted to cry, I'm leaving the classroom.
00:05:19.080 I am not crying around Amanda.
00:05:22.080 I am not crying around Amanda.
00:05:23.640 If I need to cry, I'm not crying around Amanda.
00:05:25.240 I'm not trying to look like a waist man.
00:05:26.480 She did.
00:05:26.820 But my point is, like, you've never seen that in the media.
00:05:32.720 Them saying, like, men need to learn how to be more emotional.
00:05:35.600 They need to be more in touch with their emotions.
00:05:37.580 You've never seen that in media?
00:05:39.660 Nobody?
00:05:40.320 I've never seen that.
00:05:41.940 Men need to learn how to release. 0.81
00:05:44.000 They need to cry more.
00:05:45.020 You've never seen that?
00:05:45.940 No.
00:05:46.940 No, no.
00:05:47.480 I've heard that.
00:05:48.440 I've heard it on some Instagram posts.
00:05:51.240 Yeah, I've seen it on Instagram.
00:05:52.660 Some people post it up on Instagram.
00:05:54.880 People like men's emotions matter. 0.95
00:05:56.780 Yeah.
00:05:57.440 But I think they're putting that out there regarding their mental health.
00:06:00.200 Because like he said, it's now being spoken about more.
00:06:02.300 Because obviously, as men, sometimes you guys do find it hard to release your emotions.
00:06:07.880 So that's why I think they're kind of pushing it out there.
00:06:09.620 So, no.
00:06:10.000 I don't think they give a shit about men's mental health.
00:06:12.940 Because if they did, they would get rid of the systems that make men commit suicide.
00:06:17.020 And one of those is the way that the divorce is set up today.
00:06:20.540 Oh, my gosh.
00:06:21.060 And like the fault.
00:06:21.860 Like women can make one call and falsely accuse a guy of a crime. 0.99
00:06:25.480 And there's systems that support her and fund her doing that. 1.00
00:06:28.440 So it's like if they really cared about men's mental health, they would get rid of those systems.
00:06:32.260 Go ahead.
00:06:32.840 I had a question for the girls, actually.
00:06:35.540 If your man cried in front of you, how would you feel?
00:06:39.920 Would you see him the same way?
00:06:42.040 Be honest.
00:06:43.460 I want to complete honestly.
00:06:45.140 It depends about what happened.
00:06:46.280 You mean like sobbing or like?
00:06:48.220 Like you're not going to cry.
00:06:49.420 Like if your mum, something happened to your mum, are you not crying?
00:06:52.000 Oh.
00:06:52.880 Exactly.
00:06:53.340 You're going to be crying.
00:06:54.240 Fair enough.
00:06:54.780 It depends on what they're crying for.
00:06:57.300 It's about death and stuff.
00:06:58.840 Then.
00:06:59.420 What if they're like, oh, they're overwhelmed at work, man.
00:07:02.020 Then like loads of stress.
00:07:03.820 They've got loads of stress.
00:07:04.920 Like how would you feel?
00:07:06.020 Oh, gosh.
00:07:07.440 They're crying like that.
00:07:08.260 You know what I'm trying to say?
00:07:09.000 Like, yeah.
00:07:09.280 There's studies that have come out that have shown that women lose respect for men when they're
00:07:12.760 That's right.
00:07:13.200 That's right.
00:07:13.860 That's right.
00:07:14.400 How would you guys feel?
00:07:17.360 Mental.
00:07:17.820 How would you guys feel?
00:07:18.580 Yeah.
00:07:19.000 I would lose respect.
00:07:20.260 Okay.
00:07:20.660 Thank you.
00:07:21.400 But for this reason, not for like something very, uh, uh, like as death or something.
00:07:27.360 I understand, yeah, men have emotion, but if I'm relying on you and you're, you show
00:07:33.180 me weakness on something very, that should be very like, uh, normal for you.
00:07:38.180 Yeah.
00:07:38.620 How, how would you want me to respect you?
00:07:41.100 Wait.
00:07:41.320 So do you not think that's when it's your position to actually like bring him up instead of tearing
00:07:45.300 him down?
00:07:45.600 No, I'm not tearing him down.
00:07:47.160 Word, word, word, word.
00:07:47.620 Sorry, let me not cut you off, yeah?
00:07:49.060 So let me say this is, this is his very first time.
00:07:51.340 Like he's built, he's built up this tension of work actually like getting on his nerves
00:07:56.640 and it's the first time this guy's broken down in front of you.
00:07:59.640 So is it going to be a thing where this guy's a waste, man?
00:08:03.180 Or it's going to be like, oh my gosh, I've never heard, this is the first time I'm hearing
00:08:11.040 this.
00:08:11.700 Baby, are you okay?
00:08:12.940 Like, is that like, is there something you need to tell me?
00:08:15.160 Like, cause I feel like that's where I'm going to need you to be my backbone.
00:08:20.840 Like, that's how I feel.
00:08:22.180 If it's a thing where it's repeated, repeated, and you've comforted me and you've given me
00:08:26.600 options, like you could do this, you could do that.
00:08:29.080 And now it's like, okay, I can't lie.
00:08:30.920 I've tried helping you.
00:08:31.880 You haven't even taken on my advice and you're still coming here crying to me like
00:08:35.940 on waste, man.
00:08:37.200 Then I can understand where you're coming from.
00:08:39.080 But if it's the first time and this guy actually feels this way, again, he's human.
00:08:43.640 It doesn't matter if he's a man.
00:08:44.340 I give you credit.
00:08:46.480 I think she's being honest and I think that women will cap about this and they could say
00:08:50.660 what you want to hear, which is, oh, we don't lose respect for you.
00:08:53.660 But if you're honest, the studies will show you that women do lose respect for men when they 0.95
00:08:57.760 cry. 0.75
00:08:58.280 It's not to say you can, you're going to get left the first time you cry.
00:09:01.380 And I'm sure she's not going to leave the first time, but it's like we could say what's
00:09:05.020 honest or what sounds nice.
00:09:07.460 So what advice are you going to give someone to cry in front of your girl?
00:09:11.340 That's a good idea.
00:09:12.300 So if it was your best friend that's a girl and she cried about the same thing, would you
00:09:15.640 react the same way?
00:09:16.680 Of course not.
00:09:17.520 But that's the thing.
00:09:18.500 Men and women are different.
00:09:19.540 That's the thing.
00:09:20.200 Let me just finish my point.
00:09:26.260 This is it.
00:09:27.260 If a man cries in front of me, I'm not just like going to let him down just like this.
00:09:31.840 But in my subconscious mind, I made a little note that, oh, why did he do this?
00:09:37.340 I mean, he could have spoken to a mate and yeah, I'm here for him.
00:09:41.920 Like not in a way that I'm not giving him like support, support.
00:09:48.160 Yes.
00:09:48.520 But in my subconscious mind, I will just have this little click and I'm speaking from the
00:09:54.020 truth.
00:09:54.660 It doesn't have any regards to the relationship extent.
00:09:58.680 Like I'm not going to leave him for crying.
00:10:00.800 But like in my subconscious mind, there is something that's going to question it.
00:10:04.620 Yeah.
00:10:05.340 But what you're not thinking about that.