Ben Shapiro's OUTRAGEOUS Take On Marriage ｜ Pearl Daily Ep. 52
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A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage and why it is a bad deal for men in the 21st century. Also, my producer King is fighting at the BXGP Contenders show this Sunday in London.
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also find information in the description. And today guys, I think we have the final response from the
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Daily Wire. So as you guys know, I have been going back and forth with the entire Daily Wire. All right.
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I believe that marriage is a bad deal for men in 2023 and I think it is negligent to encourage young
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men to get married without informing them of the risks. And no, I do not think informing them of
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the risks is saying, yeah, the laws are bad, but just sign up anyway. And really, I would encourage
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the Daily Wire. I'm hoping now that I've red-pilled them on marriage that you're going to see just video
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after video after video after video demanding that the laws change for men, demanding that men get
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custody. This is going to be their first question that they ask all of the politicians, right guys?
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No, maybe not. I don't know. Let's see. Okay. So I couldn't believe it guys. When I was younger,
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I'm still a big Ben Shapiro fan, but I do think he has it wrong and is a bit naive when it comes to
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marriage. The reason being, I believe that Ben Shapiro is under the age of 45 and typically men that are in
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a higher socioeconomic status have a different experience with women in marriage. You know,
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Google says that Ben Shapiro is worth over $50 million. If you're worth over $50 million, I'm sure
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you have a lot easier time getting women to respect you and listen to you than say the average Joe that
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works down the street. Now, a lot of these influencers are a bit out of touch with the average
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middle American man. The average man in America makes about $55,000 a year. This is a completely
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different experience in the level of resources that they have access to. I mean, when you're worth
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millions and millions of dollars, you can afford the best divorce lawyers and child custody lawyers.
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You can't really do that when you're a working class American. And this is why I believe we are going
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to see marriage stay in the upper class and high society, but you are going to see it disappear
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from the average American family and middle America. So Ben Shapiro responds to me. And I will say I'm
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getting, they're getting a little bit nicer. You know, when I first, I first was, you guys remember
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personally attacked. I was called an old spinster by Matt Walsh's wife. But now, now Pearl's getting,
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getting some real criticism. So let's pull up the video.
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Well, folks, there's something called the red pill movement. It's sort of a far right movement
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that focuses in on saying the unsable. And now many of the red pilled have taken the position that
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it's bad for men to get married. A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage.
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It's really interesting. So there are a bunch of people on the so-called red pilled right
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who have now suggested that marriage is bad for men, that men should not get married.
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Now, the case that they're making is not the liberal feminist case that basically men are
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useless and terrible and a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle or anything like that. The
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case that they are making is that the stakes of marriage have been changed by things like no
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fault divorce, custody arrangements, child support payments, and all the rest, spousal support,
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that basically the legal regimen has made it not a bargain for men to get married. Now, I agree
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with the critique of all of those policies. I think no fault divorce is a disaster area.
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I think that the child custody arrangements that basically always go to mom no matter what,
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that is a serious problem. When you shift the incentive structure, there's a reason
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why the majority of divorces, the vast majority of divorces are now initiated by women.
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That is not because in the past women were wildly abused and today they are wildly liberated.
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What that really is is when you shift the incentive structure and it turns out that all the risk
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is now taken by men, women aren't going to be the ones who actually activate and push that
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divorce button. However, the red pilled have taken it one step further. And now they're telling
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you should not get married. It's too dangerous to get married. Don't get married. That's foolish.
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That's foolish. So let's go through some of these arguments because they become very popular
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on the right. So let's start with Pearl Davis. So Pearl Davis is an anti-feminist who has become
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pretty popular. A lot of people label her sort of a female Andrew Tate, although without the
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checkered past. And here's Pearl Davis talking about marriage.
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The Tradcon's Daily Wire conservatives were, are saying that Pearl's just a doom and gloomer
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who lies about stats, just focuses on the negatives, never the positives. And all the men complaining
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are just crybabies. And so one day he comes home and he finds out that his wife had called
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the police on him and told them that the first time they hooked up 10 years ago, he, um, he had
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quote unquote raped her. And the truth of the matter is when a man has children, they're not his kids.
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A man has no way to have children and those kids be actually his. They're always hers because the courts
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give the women custody 90% of the time. And rich men are really the only ones that have the money to
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fight it and the time. So I asked the Daily Wire, Jeremy Boeing, Matt Walsh, um, is this just crybabies?
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Are they just, are they just their crybaby, weak men who don't man up and want to risk that?
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So, you know, it's interesting because instead of demanding that the laws change and demanding women
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face repercussions for doing this stuff, you guys demand that men need to step up and take part in a
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system that discriminates against them. You say, Oh, find a girl that prays. She won't do it.
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But, and I had this thought too, until I found a Muslim girl that did the same thing. I found a
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Christian girl that did the same thing. I found a Catholic girl. It's happening all over. Whether
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you want to believe it or not, it is happening. I don't care about your religion. I don't care about
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your church. This happens everywhere. Okay. So the argument that she's making against all these
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marital policies, those are, those are correct arguments and nobody is disregarding the pain of
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men who have been wrongfully victimized under these circumstances where the incentive structure
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is completely stacked against them. That is true. However, the benefits of marriage are still
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unbelievable. It does matter who you marry to pretend that there is no difference between the
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person that you marry that it's happening with Christians and Muslims. And it's all the same.
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That's statistically untrue. There are things that you can do to mitigate against the risk of
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divorce. And the person that you marry is the chief mitigation. The truth is that in the Jewish
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community, we always have a backup plan in the sense that every marital contract is a prenup.
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Every marital contract is a prenup, right? A Jewish ketubah is a prenup. It guarantees
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certain levels of spousal support. For example, if you, if you give a get, then it makes prior
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arrangements and all the rest. But one of the things, throwing out the baby with the bathwater
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is not the solution. So how about both? How about we revise the system of law? But also in the meantime,
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you do need to find a spouse and get married to her. Okay. So I wanted to address a couple of things.
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One, they did cut out my whole point of that story that I was telling in the video.
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And the point of that story is what they're pushing drives men to commit suicide. You could
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speak to any father's rights advocate that works with men to get custody of their children and they
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will tell you the same thing. Many men in this process cannot stand the idea of living life where
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the entire world thinks they're an abuser, they have no money, and they're essentially paying for
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their ex-wife to get railed by other dudes. I mean, I'm sorry, I got to say it like that. But
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the idea of that really is death to a lot of men in this country. And a lot of men do end up
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committing suicide. So I think that men need to decide for themselves. And the biggest thing that
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I am against is shaming men for walking away from marriage. If I pushed a pill that had a 5%
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suicide rate after taking that pill, you would tell me that I am the bad guy for pushing that pill.
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Yet Daily Wire can push marriage onto men. And the CEO of the Daily Wire did in fact call men cry
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babies that complain about this stuff and did tell them to man up and get married. I think it is wrong
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to shame men for making the decision to walk away from women. And a lot of times the attributes that men
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attribute to marriage could easily be explained that women tend to marry rich men. Rich men, I would argue
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that people that make more money in general tend to be happier than people on the brink of poverty. So a lot
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of times, the way they talk about these stats kind of goes back to female narcissism and giving women
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credit for everything. The marriage, the women are absolutely the credit for the man making more money in
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marriage. Or maybe women just like rich men. The happier men are in marriage. Well, I would say that
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rich, handsome, successful men that women tend to pick tend to be happier. But they are quite unhappy
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and you will see that the suicide rate does increase after divorce. A man is much more likely to commit
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suicide after a divorce. Now you could say, you could come back and say Pearl's the bad guy because,
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well, the men are also, they might commit suicide if they're fat broken alone. Well, yeah, I don't,
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I don't promote that either. Why would the laws change if the politicians make money off of the
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system? If lawyers make money off of the system, the media makes money off of the system. Everybody
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makes money off of this system. So why on earth would the laws change if the Daily Wire keeps telling
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young men to sign up? Buckle up, boys, sign up. And another thing I'd like to point out is that in
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all actuality, marriage isn't the real problem. Ben is right where you can get a prenup that lowers
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the risk of marriage. The real risk for men in 2023 is having children. Again, I have spoken to divorce
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lawyer after divorce lawyer about this. And when men have children in this country, these children are not
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theirs. They have no rights to these children unless they maybe get lucky with the right judge and have
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the money for a lawyer that can fight it. But mind you guys, this is the exception, not the rule. And you
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can see this by the custody statistics where men overwhelmingly do not get custody of their children. Now, as
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a woman that grew up with nine siblings in a two-parent home, I am very grateful for that. I think that is the
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ideal. But until you start lowering the risk for men, regardless of what I say, you're going to see
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less men sign up. We need to increase the value that men get out of marriage and lower the risk.
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Imagine, imagine women, imagine this. Women automatically get divorced if they get over 150
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pounds. Would more men sign up for that? Now, I kid, right? This is, this is a joke. But,
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but you see, that would be a way women staying in shape for a lifetime would be a way to add value.
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Another way to lower the risk is to get rid of some of the incentives that pay women to leave.
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I don't believe you will ever see a return to traditionalism until you start changing some of
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the laws. I also question and I wonder if traditionalism can ever come back. Now, I don't
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say this because I don't want it to, you know, again, as someone that grew up in a two-parent
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household with lots of siblings, I think that's the ideal. But I also wonder if social media has
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diluted the public so much that it's damn near impossible for it to come back. I don't know.
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You let me know in the comments. Now, now, um, Idol says this is a lot better than Matt's take.
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Yeah, because Matt attacked the person. Ben starts attacking the idea. Thank you for addressing the
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actual point. I don't think Pearl disagrees with you guys that men should never marry.
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It's the same point. The problem is there are no good ways to find a decent partner, especially for
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the average man. When the average man are always in situationships, ones that are devout of value,
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they're not thinking about marriage because it's not the right girl. The legal risks of marriage
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exacerbate that. Exactly. I am very much pro-marriage. I think marriage is a beautiful thing.
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I think the ideal is two virgins getting married. But I'm not blind to the world. And after interviewing
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hundreds and hundreds of men and women, and I had the epiphany that I've had women of all age groups
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on my show, no, we do not pick for specific types of women. Um, it's quite difficult to do that. At
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one point we were doing, I was either producing shows six days a week, um, with panelists in the
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studio, or I had a show of my own. That was six days a week. Imagine the amount of people I spoke to.
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I had the epiphany that I really could only out of hundreds and hundreds of people recommend five to
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10 women that I would recommend to my brothers. That is a problem. And I live in London, one of
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the most diverse cities on the planet. I used to live in a primarily Nigerian, African part of London.
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Now I live in a primarily Muslim part of London. On top of that, we have had people from all ethnicities
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and all parts of the world on the show. Um, I can think of people from Italy, Spain, Zimbabwe,
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Nigeria, the list goes on and on. These problems are coming everywhere. And as much as they want to
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discount the red pill and say that in some way it's hurting men, really, it's just talking about
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the reality of the situation. And the reality right now is that traditionalism was 50 years ago,
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and I hope that it's not dead, but it may be in the future. If you are truly serious, Daily Wire,
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about getting marriage to return, that needs to be the number one issue that you ask all of the
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politicians that you cover. And the number one issue that you ask in all of your interviews,
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what are the politicians doing to bring men back to marriage? What are they offering them in return?
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And until you start asking those tough questions, I do not believe that you really care about marriage
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coming back. So what I say in the meantime, men should just get married. I would say if you choose
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to do that, be extremely cautious. And I think that's the most honest answer that you can give.
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Now, um, another thing they say is that just find a good woman that prays. And the issue that we get
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with this is whenever the stats say something that the left and the right doesn't like, they'll continue
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to argue with me for a lifetime. For example, there's one stat that followed 40 year marriages,
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marriages that have been married 40 years or longer. And they found that the real divorce rate is 67%.
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So the divorce rate, remember the divorce rate now, 40, 50%. And a lot of those marriages,
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they include people that are separated, dead bedrooms, and just haven't divorced yet.
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Now there is a content creator called the Joker Better Bachelor. He's a very talented content
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creator on YouTube. And he actually sent out a tweet that says, watch what women do, not what
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they say. Christian and right wing women always speak from their high horse about how they fight
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for men in traditional fairness and equality under the laws. Let's look at some divorce stats,
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shall we? They sure do divorce a lot. And I bet they fight for majority custody of their kids,
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a statistics show, and duke it out for a child support and alimony, just like the vast majority of
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women do. I find it funny to see conservative women get big mad when men speak out on issues
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and then saying right wing men have turned on them. I'm not right wing and neither are many of
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the fed up men with everything. But since you can't put us in a defined box, you don't know what to do
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now, do you? If right wing women really cared, they'd help change the laws, push for even more
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handled child custody and not get divorced. But as usual, they do the same thing that other women do,
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then claim they're different or traditional and conservative. Nice try, ladies, but it's the
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same blame game as always, so try again. This is from Pew Research with a reasonable sample size.
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Divorced or separated adults and the religious composition of divorced or separated adults.
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74% identify as Christian. Let me repeat that for you. 74% identify as Christian. And the typical
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attack that I get back from the Christians is those just aren't the real Christian. And then it just
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becomes a holy off. Who's the most holy and how can I virtue signal? If you prayed every day, then you
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would be a real Christian. You can't get divorced if you're a real Christian. Well, the women identified
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as real Christians in their 20s and conveniently at 44 decided no more. Now, I don't say this in a happy
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way, although I'm quite a friendly, happy person, so I can't help, you know, if that's how it comes
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across. But it really, truly does make me sad. I look at the places in the world that used to be
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filled with children and families, and overwhelmingly, I see more singles. It's becoming a very different
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world to what I grew up with, and I'm 26 years old. I would argue that the Daily Wire has more political
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poll than Fox News nowadays does with conservatives. So you guys taking a stance on no-fault divorce and
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asking politicians the tough questions on how they will incentivize men to get married again
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and reduce the risks for men, I would even go as far to push for men automatically getting custody in
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divorce. If the data has proven that men raise better children, why do we not automatically give
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them custody unless there is some sort of drug addiction or abuse situation? Men over the age
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of roughly 45, 50-ish have a very different view on marriage. Even the men that are happily married
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have likely witnessed a friend or family member go through a traumatic divorce and would not necessarily
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recommend young men to get married. Now, we have a clip that is going viral of an elderly person
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advising young men not to get married. What advice would you give to your younger self?
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Don't get married. You're free, man. You're free in the world. So don't get married, please.
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You know, forget about population. It will grow automatically. You know, don't get married. Don't lose your freedom
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and individuality. You know, and your pride, man. You're a man. You're always wanted. I'll tell you.
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You're always wanted. But once you got it, you're jailed. And this is the reality of the situation.
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Many men are demasculated every day in marriage. And really, a man that goes home every day and is
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disrespected by his wife and children is a man in prison. Modern marriage is a prison for men.
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They lose their freedom and have to have man caves in the corner of their houses to get away
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from their wives. They're constantly told that their wife's happiness dictates the future of
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their marriage. On top of that, we have phrases like it's cheaper to keep her. You see products
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sold that say his side and her side and her side is the majority of the bed. Why is a man providing
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protection and provisioning to a household and yet is stuck in a corner of the house in his man cave?
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Why are houses decorated the way the women want and not the men want? Men deserve respect and
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husbands deserve to have authority over their own home. Until women start understanding this,
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you will see marriage disappear forever. And unfortunately, this is rampant even in Christian
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and Catholic churches. As a Catholic, this makes me very sad. But unfortunately, there are women's
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groups that absolutely ruin marriages today. They teach things like mutual submission and
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only submitting to your husband when he's submitting to God. Now, while on paper, that sounds nice.
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Why does the wife get to determine when he's submitting to God? On top of that, they have started
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to allow women preachers to preach in the church and women to impose their will on men. No, no, no,
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no, no, no, no, no, no. All of this nonsense is really driving men from churches. You're going to
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start looking around in your local church and you're going to notice that men under the age of 35 are
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gone. Nayski nada. Couples are disappearing because in all honesty, many of the men in churches don't have
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a backbone and still appeal to the whim of what women want. What women want comes second. What men want
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should come first. I am really tired of seeing these simps and modern women ruin churches. Patriarchy
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is a good thing. Men are supposed to be the head of the household. Now, speaking of bailing women out
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of their bad decisions, I am now seeing this phenomenon of giving porn stars rewards. Mia Khalifa
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was a huge porn star. I don't know much about it. All I know is that this woman was huge. And I've seen
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her go on podcast after podcast after podcast talking about exploited she was and how she really regrets
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her decision. Then this woman comes out with an OnlyFan. How on earth can you be exploited and regret
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your decisions while also being on OnlyFan? It sounds like you were just bad at negotiating a good
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deal. Now this woman is being taken seriously as an actual runway model. How insulting is it to the
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real models that represent grace and beauty that we have a tatted up porn star on runways? This is a
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disgrace. If I was a woman that took modeling seriously and broke my back to become a model, I would be
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absolutely offended and protesting that a post-wall porn star is now beating me for a gig. This is
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ridiculous. We need to stop catering to women and cater to men. That is not what men want or want to
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see, a tatted up porn star. Maybe for the night, but when I think of a model, I think of beauty and
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elegance and not this nonsense that they're pushing today. Giorgio says you are not a model. Well,
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no shit, Giorgio. Obviously she's not. So I would ask whoever's in charge of the modeling industry.
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It's not an industry I know much about. I thought that models were supposed to be beautiful and
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represent the most beautiful women in society. Why on earth do you have a tatted up porn star up there?
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This is pandering and catering and us women are sick of being sold a dream. We are sick of being
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pandered to. And at some point us women need to get together and tell them we are tired.
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So I don't spend a lot of time on Reddit. That's a new, um, I don't really understand how it works,
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but I guess there's an entire, um, thread of Reddit's opinions of just pearly things. So I guess
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my producers are giving this to me today. Let's pull it up. All right. Opinions on just pearly
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things also known as Pearl Davis are divided. She advocates for men's rights and criticizes feminists,
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but some find her arguments controversial and problematic. Okay. Pearl suggests that if a
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woman gains weight during pregnancy, it's fair for the man to leave her. Some see this as unfair
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to women who undergo pregnancy related weight gain. Really ladies? Really? It was, it was the
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pregnancy. It wasn't the Doritos you were eating. I mean, I, I think this is a good thing. Honestly,
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weight is in your control. These women act like, you don't think in a way a woman's choosing to get
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divorced. If she knows, if she knows her husband doesn't like fat chicks and then gets fat in that
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form of fraud too. She claims that women initiate divorce 80% of the time, implying they break up
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families. Critics say she oversimplifies divorce reasons and should respect divorced couples choices.
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Three, Pearl argues that men have it harder due to a higher suicide rate, but some disagree,
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highlighting women's unique challenges. Four, she denies the existence of a patriarchy and a gender
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gap. Critics point out that historical inequalities and ongoing challenges women face in various aspects
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of life. Opinions on Pearl vary with some supporting her views while other finding them insensitive to
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women's issues. I think I've heard enough about women's issues. Yes, I get it. You have trauma from
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your ex-boyfriend cheating on you. Yes, I get it. Periods are hard. Yes, I get it. Men hit on you
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at work. Boo hoo, cry me a river. I'm tired of hearing about it. I'm tired of hearing about how
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special women are and amazing when the truth of the matter is that you can't improve as a woman
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if you are told you're amazing and special all the time. And what you're going to continue to see
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is an influx of narcissistic women who are just told they're so awesome and special and who cannot admit
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basic truths like younger women are hotter. Okay, so they said, I think she's experienced abuse and is now
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trying to be perfect in the eyes of a male society. I think it's a subconscious defense mechanism or she's
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a smart businesswoman who doesn't care about society. So let me get this straight. It's either I'm a
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businesswoman or I have been abused and now I'm perfect and now I'm trying to be perfect. You know, it's so
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funny. Reading these comments shows me why men should never open up to women because what women
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will do is if you ever open up to them and tell them a sad story, they will attribute everything
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you do for a lifetime to that sad story. That's why I think it's better for men to never tell women
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anything because they will weaponize your stories and past against you just to be an asshole. Whereas
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I think she's rage farming and doesn't believe half the shit she says. I also have a hunch that she
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isn't even interested in men and is closeted. There they go. Now the same insults they throw at me
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are the same insults they throw at men. Gay. Oh my gosh. One, why does the left use this as an insult?
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And two, if I have a different opinion than you, I must be gay. I must be gay. I must like women.
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No, no, no. I actually even think the bi shit that girls do nowadays is gross. I don't like it.
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No. Okay. So cultural context. I've read that she's worth a hundred K to 300 K for a 26 year old.
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She's learned that having controversial opinions pay. I couldn't find much about her family except
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her parents have money and their software entrepreneurs. I'm guessing she's been
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studying the business of influence and to the point, um, and to your point, doesn't care about
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society. That's what they do. Now they'll start researching my family and everybody around me in
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order to come up with, with how on earth I came up with an opinion. Very funny behavior.
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Yes. My dad is an entrepreneur, but couldn't you argue that I don't actually need money. And maybe
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I just think this stuff is truth is true. Truth is truth, regardless of who said it. And you can shoot
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the messenger, but it doesn't make that message untrue. And here we go again. Misogyny sells.
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She's just a hustler. She will ironically make the most money from men by catering to their thought
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process. The funny thing is I used to have an 80% female audience on Tik TOK. You can actually make
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far more money marketing to women than to men. Every entrepreneur knows this. Women are dummies.
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They just buy damn near anything. Men are a lot harder to sell because they're logical, smart people.
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All right. I have one word to describe her. It rhymes with the word runt. Oh, I had to think
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about what that was. All right. She's horrible to women. It puts them down. She thinks it's okay
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to tell women how they mean nothing unless they're young and pure and pretty. That's not what I say.
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I never said nothing. I say that the most ideal women are young, pure, and pretty. Don't shoot the
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messenger. And shooting me, the messenger, will not change the reality of the situation. Yes,
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guys. Sometimes in life, us women need to take L's and stop crying about it. I've talked to hookers,
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OnlyFans models, and many sex workers that understand this reality. And they don't cry about
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it. They just deal with the situation. And the truth of the matter is reality will hit you in the
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face one way or another, whether you like it or not. She's always spouting out these facts and
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statistics, but I'm starting to think she makes them up or get them from sources that lie. And that's
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another thing that the left will do. They will try to discredit you by whining about your sources,
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and you can provide them source after source after source, and they still will not care because they
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want to believe what they believe. She's just horrible to other women, which is probably the
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worst thing. Okay, so she doesn't agree that women should be promiscuous. That's her opinion. Fine.
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It's not what I think. It's what men desire. Don't shoot the messenger for telling you what men like.
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But does she have to make women who like casual sex look and feel like crap? I can't stand her.
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I can't make you feel anything. The way you feel comes from within. Nobody can make you feel shame.
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If you feel shame, that comes from somewhere, and you need to deal with it. She has a nasty
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personality and is just ugly. I can't stand her and how she tries to make modern women look like
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the worst thing in the world. I wouldn't say the worst thing in the world, but maybe one of the
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worst things. And I'm sorry, guys. Okay. Electrical head. I'm right wing female late 20s. I don't agree
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with everything she says. She seems to choose a narrow view of things and sticks to her guns
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regardless of if she's wrong. She has an interest. You know, it's so funny. They'll say she sticks to
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her guns regardless of if she's wrong. And yet I'll give you point after point of things I've changed my
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opinion on. I am always willing to change my opinion with new information. What I'm not going
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to do is have leftists convince me that water is not wet, the sky is not blue, and that men love
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whores for wives and mothers. I'm sorry, you can give me some corn statistics with MILF. No, that will
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not convince me that men are dying to wife up single mothers. Water is wet, the sky is blue, and they want
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to shoot the messenger. One thing I'll say, though, is I find her personality to be extremely
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irritating. I feel like sometimes she isn't really stating a clear point. She's just jabbing at
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people to be controversial. She caters to her male guests. So it's so funny. They go into all this
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stuff. She gets some enjoyment of playing the cool girl, but they can't say you're wrong. Do you notice
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that? Do you notice that? They just keep going on and on about my attentions and da-da-da-da-da.
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Oh, she's doing this for money. But they can't say, Pearl, you're wrong. And if they do, it's usually
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some bullshit. It's usually. And, you know, I am all for developing a new opinion. I didn't understand
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why men would fear marriage when I first got into this space. But when you start to interview the men
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that have been through it, you start to understand very quickly why men fear marriage. Now, to end
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this episode, my producers have gotten me a Reddit story. Now, I have not read this until now, so let's
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see what the Ask Pearl advice. Oh, my wife cheated eight times, but I still love her. I've been married
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to my wife for a short time, but we've been together for six years. She's always struggled
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with mental health issues like depression, ADHD, and anxiety, which seemed to worsen during COVID.
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She lost her job but found another with irregular hours, and I've always tried to support her.
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What is she doing? Stripping? After her wedding, she got COVID twice and suffered from long-lasting
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symptoms. During her recovery, she started going out more, going to bars late, staying out late,
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and sometimes came home drunk. I thought that this was an unhealthy coping mechanism, but my attempts
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to discuss it were met with defensiveness. One day, I discovered she had cheated on me during her
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outings. I confronted her, and she expressed deep remorse, attributing her actions to a desire for
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attention and feeling trapped. Her therapist seemed to initially blame me, but my wife later took some
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responsibility. Now, she wants space but hasn't been home much. I fear she may demand a separation,
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and I'm torn between wanting her to be healthy and the perception that I'm controlling.
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I just want her back. How do you guys think I can get her back? She's the love of my life.
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I have done everything for her. It just breaks my heart that she's with some guy at the bar.
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Women will never respect you unless you are willing to walk away. I don't say this in a happy way,
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but this mentality repulses women. It is absolutely repulsive that a woman can cheat on you eight times and
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put up with it. Now, a lot of times people ask me my opinion on men and women cheating.
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I think that men should be able to leave when women cheat and women should not.
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I think, I think that, and now this might be hypocritical, but I think men and women are
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different. When women cheat, they typically cheat to leave or to do better. They typically are cheating
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with the intention of divorcing and leaving. Men, on the other hand, cheat. It's more of a casual
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one-time thing because the sex was there and available. Most cheating is a one-time thing.
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This is abnormal to cheat eight times. That is crazy. Now, I'm not wanting to push for divorce,
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but I do think that this calls for it. And this mentality is sad. Why would you want a woman back
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that's cheated on you eight times? Guys, women will not respect you unless you are willing
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to leave and not put up with their bullshit. Now, guys, let me know what you think in the
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comments and feel free to submit Reddit stories to me on Instagram for Ask Pearl. Make sure you like
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the video on your way out and subscribe to the channel. Bring that notification bell and I'll talk