JustPearlyThings - June 11, 2023


Bitter Feminist Downplays Pearl's Success


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Length

10 minutes

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211.20876

Word Count

2,123

Sentence Count

204

Hate Speech Sentences

1


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.440 To your point, you were talking about how you came here with a hundred pound.
00:00:05.160 I immigrated from Bulgaria with my parents and we lived in a single room.
00:00:11.420 It was just a single room, the three of us.
00:00:14.020 And right now I'm 21 and just like you, I wanted to do better for myself because I was an electrician.
00:00:20.760 And I wasn't happy with how things were going.
00:00:23.340 And I joined and all of a sudden I'm meeting high net worth individuals on a daily basis.
00:00:30.720 And I'm improving myself.
00:00:32.560 And you're here saying, I had to take myself from the toxic situations that I had in my life.
00:00:39.100 But everyone deals with them.
00:00:40.720 So that's really an excuse that you tell yourself.
00:00:43.420 That's true.
00:00:43.920 But can I say something?
00:00:46.020 For you can look like an excuse, yeah.
00:00:47.900 But what you're trying to say here, you had still your parents on your back.
00:00:51.160 You came with your parents on a single room, but you were with your parents.
00:00:55.820 You were not by yourself.
00:00:57.160 You were not providing food by yourself.
00:00:59.780 You were not paying your bills by yourself.
00:01:02.120 You were not looking around.
00:01:03.620 I was.
00:01:04.860 I was.
00:01:05.840 Yeah.
00:01:06.240 Okay.
00:01:06.660 So I understand her.
00:01:09.840 I understand her because I get it.
00:01:13.400 She, I don't know your past, but before moving to London, maybe you didn't.
00:01:19.240 Maybe you were just, I don't know.
00:01:20.860 You're going through life.
00:01:22.020 The difficulties of learning.
00:01:23.240 I was a recruitment consultant.
00:01:24.080 Well, I don't know.
00:01:24.860 Yeah, no, I'm telling you.
00:01:25.900 But you came to London and the thing is, I get it.
00:01:28.200 Because some people, they don't see it as, let's just go for it.
00:01:31.460 Some people want to better themselves and educate themselves.
00:01:34.240 And so that they know how to intellectually grow.
00:01:37.860 But I just think the people that are successful don't educate themselves.
00:01:42.160 They just do.
00:01:43.100 Exactly.
00:01:43.500 They don't, they don't spend time thinking.
00:01:44.880 Yes, but some people, some people, some people take years to even know that though.
00:01:48.580 Some people don't even know that.
00:01:49.740 Yes.
00:01:50.180 Yes.
00:01:50.300 Okay, hold on, hold on.
00:01:51.280 You know what I'm trying to say?
00:01:51.900 Yes.
00:01:52.180 But how am I 21 and I already know this?
00:01:54.840 But not everyone is the same.
00:01:56.580 Because you have the right education, bro.
00:01:58.760 I don't, I don't have education.
00:02:01.340 No, I'm saying you have the right people around you.
00:02:03.860 To educate you.
00:02:05.120 Do you know what I'm trying to say?
00:02:05.840 Not everyone is the same.
00:02:07.380 But you, but you choose, but okay, at 18, that's an excuse.
00:02:11.460 But at 40, you pick who you surround yourself with.
00:02:14.120 I'll give you an example.
00:02:15.200 One time I decided I wanted more rich friends.
00:02:17.840 I literally was just like, my friends are too broke.
00:02:19.800 I'm a bunch of brokies.
00:02:21.940 And so, you know, I lived, I lived in Milwaukee at the time and I worked, I worked a sales job.
00:02:27.020 So I was like, you know what, I want to just see if I can call some of these numbers and
00:02:30.520 see if any of these executives, because I definitely, I was trying to sell copiers and
00:02:34.000 I'm going to meet with me.
00:02:34.820 But I was like, I want to see if they'll get coffee with me and just like, and see if they
00:02:38.980 can mentor me, ask them about their success.
00:02:41.040 I got three C-level executives of multimillion dollar companies to literally sit down, spend
00:02:45.920 30 minutes with me just by asking.
00:02:48.580 Yes, I agree.
00:02:50.040 And then another time, another time, another time, this is for a YouTube video, right?
00:02:53.940 I was just bored one day.
00:02:55.160 And, you know, people will always, you know, say it's because I'm a girl or because of
00:02:58.540 this or because of that, whatever.
00:02:59.780 But like, honestly, I feel like I could do this with anyone.
00:03:03.200 I did this for a YouTube video.
00:03:05.060 I didn't have a job because I quit my job to be a TikToker.
00:03:07.700 I know.
00:03:08.440 And yeah, I quit.
00:03:10.120 I was working in sales and I was doing quite well, but I just quit it to do, to do TikTok
00:03:14.020 and I moved home with my parents.
00:03:15.780 And I was like, maybe I'll see if I could find a job in a day.
00:03:18.400 So I went to this rich neighborhood and it's by Chicago.
00:03:21.580 It's like where all the rich people are.
00:03:22.800 And I was like, I wonder if I go door to door, I like snuck into the gated area.
00:03:26.020 I know.
00:03:26.500 And I was like, I wonder if I go door to door in this neighborhood and just ask people for
00:03:30.420 a job.
00:03:30.860 Within one day, I got an interview for a sales job.
00:03:33.960 Now, I didn't want the job, so I didn't end up taking it because I was just trying to do
00:03:36.900 YouTube.
00:03:37.820 But the point is like, it's all about like, you can, you have two choices in life.
00:03:42.620 Everything can be an excuse.
00:03:44.640 I haven't made any excuses.
00:03:46.200 But you have, you've made excuses the whole time.
00:03:48.080 I came, I came here 13 years ago.
00:03:49.740 I was learning, I only had a hundred dollars in my pocket, which is, but it is because
00:03:55.320 honestly, the people, and I'm telling you, I'm around these people, the people that are
00:03:58.480 really successful.
00:03:59.100 They don't talk about that.
00:04:00.640 They just talk about what they're doing.
00:04:01.940 They're so excited about this next project, this, this, and this.
00:04:04.700 And it's never, I'm excited about all the projects that I've got going on.
00:04:07.260 And maybe you are, but I'm saying the way you've represented yourself in this conversation
00:04:11.400 is it's always an excuse.
00:04:13.520 No, I wouldn't say that.
00:04:15.540 I think excuse is a very harsh word.
00:04:18.160 But it's, it's, it's, it's describing what it is.
00:04:20.800 It's describing, it's, wait, wait, it's describing outcomes.
00:04:23.900 And it's like, you've had 13 years.
00:04:26.140 Outcomes I had to deal with?
00:04:28.200 Everyone's got stuff to deal with.
00:04:29.780 What did you have to deal with at 26?
00:04:31.740 Did you leave home with nobody?
00:04:33.820 I came to this country by myself.
00:04:36.540 Well, okay.
00:04:37.660 I didn't know anyone in this country.
00:04:39.720 So, I mean, have other people had it harder?
00:04:42.160 Did you have it harder?
00:04:43.180 Sure.
00:04:43.600 But I'm telling you, I know people in worse situations that made more.
00:04:47.280 I don't know.
00:04:47.720 I feel like you're talking from a privileged place.
00:04:50.680 Yes.
00:04:51.820 You are.
00:04:53.540 But I'm talking from.
00:04:55.080 This is the thing.
00:04:56.820 And I'll tell you, I'm talking from.
00:04:58.380 A generational place.
00:04:59.420 No, no, no.
00:05:00.160 But I'm talking from a privileged place and being around these types of people.
00:05:03.940 So, I can tell you the people that have had good outcomes.
00:05:06.400 And I know people that have had good outcomes.
00:05:08.380 Wait.
00:05:08.800 I know people that have had good outcomes from the bottom.
00:05:11.480 I've known people that have had good outcomes from the top.
00:05:13.840 And I can tell you, the way they talk isn't the way you talk.
00:05:17.220 No.
00:05:17.400 Because they're not always talking about the reasons they didn't succeed.
00:05:20.520 They're talking about the way they're going to succeed.
00:05:22.360 You've got to answer questions, though.
00:05:24.880 You know what I mean?
00:05:26.560 I'm answering the questions that you're putting out there, you know.
00:05:29.740 Have you got a boyfriend?
00:05:31.020 No.
00:05:31.360 How old are you?
00:05:32.060 39.
00:05:33.020 So, I'm responding.
00:05:35.400 You know.
00:05:35.900 If you ask me now, okay, what do you do now?
00:05:39.500 Nobody's asked me that.
00:05:41.040 You're only like, oh, you're making excuses.
00:05:43.580 I'm not.
00:05:44.480 I'm revolving.
00:05:46.040 The information you gave you offered, it didn't really have much to do with the question I asked.
00:05:50.300 A response to the question, I believe.
00:05:51.880 Did you want to raise your hand?
00:05:53.580 Yeah, I just wanted to add to her point about you don't have any bills to pay when you're 18 living with your parents.
00:06:01.820 But everyone has their situations.
00:06:04.100 And in fact, during the coronavirus, I was maybe like 19.
00:06:08.200 I had to basically pay for the whole family.
00:06:11.900 My mom and dad went out of business.
00:06:13.640 And I was the only man in the house that was earning money and providing for the house.
00:06:18.540 So, there is different things that people go through.
00:06:22.340 And again, you can't judge on them.
00:06:24.460 And I'm not trying to judge you.
00:06:26.080 And to your point that you had £100 in your account when you came here.
00:06:31.660 To be fair, you don't really need money to make money.
00:06:34.920 As long as you're willing to do it.
00:06:36.280 I feel like in this conversation, we're trying to put the finger on each person.
00:06:41.100 And be like, oh, you did, you did.
00:06:42.640 Each person is different.
00:06:43.940 Each person is a different character.
00:06:45.420 No, no, no.
00:06:45.980 Each person is different.
00:06:48.160 See, what I would say, although we're all having conversations and we're sharing experience and stuff about our own lives,
00:06:53.200 we feel like we're being vulnerable because we're sharing information.
00:06:55.720 Actually, I don't see that anybody here, it might feel like people are being personally attacked.
00:06:59.980 But it's not.
00:07:00.740 And I'm hearing like, I can hear that you're feeling a bit, maybe getting a bit defensive.
00:07:04.100 No, because words are powerful.
00:07:06.880 Yeah, I agree words are powerful, but it's also words are down to interpretation.
00:07:10.420 So somebody could say to me that I'm making an excuse.
00:07:12.660 I'm not going to be defensive at somebody saying I'm making an excuse.
00:07:15.400 That might make me think to myself, okay, could I have done something more?
00:07:20.660 Could I have done this?
00:07:21.820 It's all how we take it and how we understand it.
00:07:24.860 So everyone's circumstances are their own.
00:07:27.500 There's no competition.
00:07:28.720 As you said, maybe you felt like Pearl was talking from a place of privilege.
00:07:31.700 Somebody else might think that you're talking from a place of privilege.
00:07:35.140 You know, everyone's circumstances and situations are their own.
00:07:37.700 All you have to do is know that you're doing the best that you can do.
00:07:40.980 But it's also very important that you need to be realistic.
00:07:44.120 I think as soon as we start being honest with ourselves and truthful with ourselves about where we lack,
00:07:49.640 where we could do more, where we need to be more disciplined or the changes that we need to make,
00:07:54.220 then you will really see like a propel of energy and you will go into the area that you want to go in.
00:08:00.980 But I think that people spend a lot of time procrastinating and hesitating.
00:08:04.200 And I'm not saying that you're doing that, but people do spend a lot of time procrastinating, hesitating.
00:08:09.500 They're not in the right circles.
00:08:10.780 They're not having the right influences.
00:08:12.400 But they still believe that they're going to achieve the things that they want to achieve.
00:08:16.540 That's OK.
00:08:17.560 You can still believe that.
00:08:19.240 But I don't think that you I don't think that the word excuse was supposed to be an attack on you.
00:08:24.120 I think excuse is what a lot of people do.
00:08:26.840 Yeah, it is a lot what people do.
00:08:29.960 But you got to you got to you got to look at the timeline.
00:08:33.640 You know, the timeline.
00:08:34.680 But that's just for your personal.
00:08:36.040 That's for your personal.
00:08:37.280 I could have probably done this a bit more.
00:08:39.240 I could have done this.
00:08:40.060 I could have went to college earlier.
00:08:41.180 But at the end of the day, you don't know the challenges one has to face to make me end up and sit next to you guys today.
00:08:49.300 You know, you know, you know, you know, Pearl, right?
00:08:51.020 You know, Pearl, you've met.
00:08:52.240 You have a wonderful example of somebody that came to a new country that has created a significant following.
00:08:59.360 I've met you today because now I'm evolving around these significant following, significant future.
00:09:05.880 Yeah, but it's like I give you I tell you something and you argue.
00:09:08.900 And you argue, you know, I have to stand my ground up because I know my heart.
00:09:13.080 And if you're saying, oh, you've made excuses.
00:09:16.460 I've had successful people tell me that before.
00:09:21.280 And my reaction is, oh, shit, you're probably right.
00:09:23.940 Because they know something you don't.
00:09:26.120 You have to be open to it.
00:09:27.300 Yeah, and so it's like, it's not an attack.
00:09:30.260 I don't feel attacked or anything, but I'm a very strong woman and I will stand my ground and I would like to be heard and I'm going to be heard regardless.
00:09:41.080 You know, I want you to understand, not even understand.
00:09:44.160 I want you to overstand like the way you did.
00:09:46.560 You know, you know the type of background I'm coming from.
00:09:49.580 If I tell you some horror stories that I've done, yeah, it will, it will, I had to change my mentality.
00:09:58.180 I had to deprogram and reprogram.
00:10:01.580 I, I, you know, I.
00:10:02.780 Thank you so much.
00:10:03.060 Bye-bye.