Bitter Feminist Downplays Pearl's Success
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Summary
In this episode, I sit down with a good friend of mine, and we talk about how we got to where we are today, and how we ended up in the position we are in today. We talk about the importance of surrounding yourself with the right people, mentors, and people who can help you learn and grow.
Transcript
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To your point, you were talking about how you came here with a hundred pound.
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I immigrated from Bulgaria with my parents and we lived in a single room.
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And right now I'm 21 and just like you, I wanted to do better for myself because I was an electrician.
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And I joined and all of a sudden I'm meeting high net worth individuals on a daily basis.
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And you're here saying, I had to take myself from the toxic situations that I had in my life.
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So that's really an excuse that you tell yourself.
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But what you're trying to say here, you had still your parents on your back.
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You came with your parents on a single room, but you were with your parents.
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She, I don't know your past, but before moving to London, maybe you didn't.
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But you came to London and the thing is, I get it.
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Because some people, they don't see it as, let's just go for it.
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Some people want to better themselves and educate themselves.
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And so that they know how to intellectually grow.
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But I just think the people that are successful don't educate themselves.
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Yes, but some people, some people, some people take years to even know that though.
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No, I'm saying you have the right people around you.
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But you, but you choose, but okay, at 18, that's an excuse.
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But at 40, you pick who you surround yourself with.
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I literally was just like, my friends are too broke.
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And so, you know, I lived, I lived in Milwaukee at the time and I worked, I worked a sales job.
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So I was like, you know what, I want to just see if I can call some of these numbers and
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see if any of these executives, because I definitely, I was trying to sell copiers and
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But I was like, I want to see if they'll get coffee with me and just like, and see if they
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I got three C-level executives of multimillion dollar companies to literally sit down, spend
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And then another time, another time, another time, this is for a YouTube video, right?
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And, you know, people will always, you know, say it's because I'm a girl or because of
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But like, honestly, I feel like I could do this with anyone.
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I didn't have a job because I quit my job to be a TikToker.
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I was working in sales and I was doing quite well, but I just quit it to do, to do TikTok
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And I was like, maybe I'll see if I could find a job in a day.
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So I went to this rich neighborhood and it's by Chicago.
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And I was like, I wonder if I go door to door, I like snuck into the gated area.
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And I was like, I wonder if I go door to door in this neighborhood and just ask people for
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Within one day, I got an interview for a sales job.
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Now, I didn't want the job, so I didn't end up taking it because I was just trying to do
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But the point is like, it's all about like, you can, you have two choices in life.
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But you have, you've made excuses the whole time.
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I was learning, I only had a hundred dollars in my pocket, which is, but it is because
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honestly, the people, and I'm telling you, I'm around these people, the people that are
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They're so excited about this next project, this, this, and this.
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And it's never, I'm excited about all the projects that I've got going on.
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And maybe you are, but I'm saying the way you've represented yourself in this conversation
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But it's, it's, it's, it's describing what it is.
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It's describing, it's, wait, wait, it's describing outcomes.
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But I'm telling you, I know people in worse situations that made more.
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I feel like you're talking from a privileged place.
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But I'm talking from a privileged place and being around these types of people.
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So, I can tell you the people that have had good outcomes.
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I know people that have had good outcomes from the bottom.
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I've known people that have had good outcomes from the top.
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And I can tell you, the way they talk isn't the way you talk.
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Because they're not always talking about the reasons they didn't succeed.
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They're talking about the way they're going to succeed.
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I'm answering the questions that you're putting out there, you know.
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The information you gave you offered, it didn't really have much to do with the question I asked.
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Yeah, I just wanted to add to her point about you don't have any bills to pay when you're 18 living with your parents.
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And in fact, during the coronavirus, I was maybe like 19.
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And I was the only man in the house that was earning money and providing for the house.
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So, there is different things that people go through.
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And to your point that you had £100 in your account when you came here.
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To be fair, you don't really need money to make money.
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I feel like in this conversation, we're trying to put the finger on each person.
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See, what I would say, although we're all having conversations and we're sharing experience and stuff about our own lives,
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we feel like we're being vulnerable because we're sharing information.
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Actually, I don't see that anybody here, it might feel like people are being personally attacked.
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And I'm hearing like, I can hear that you're feeling a bit, maybe getting a bit defensive.
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Yeah, I agree words are powerful, but it's also words are down to interpretation.
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So somebody could say to me that I'm making an excuse.
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I'm not going to be defensive at somebody saying I'm making an excuse.
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That might make me think to myself, okay, could I have done something more?
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It's all how we take it and how we understand it.
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As you said, maybe you felt like Pearl was talking from a place of privilege.
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Somebody else might think that you're talking from a place of privilege.
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You know, everyone's circumstances and situations are their own.
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All you have to do is know that you're doing the best that you can do.
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But it's also very important that you need to be realistic.
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I think as soon as we start being honest with ourselves and truthful with ourselves about where we lack,
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where we could do more, where we need to be more disciplined or the changes that we need to make,
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then you will really see like a propel of energy and you will go into the area that you want to go in.
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But I think that people spend a lot of time procrastinating and hesitating.
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And I'm not saying that you're doing that, but people do spend a lot of time procrastinating, hesitating.
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But they still believe that they're going to achieve the things that they want to achieve.
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But I don't think that you I don't think that the word excuse was supposed to be an attack on you.
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But you got to you got to you got to look at the timeline.
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But at the end of the day, you don't know the challenges one has to face to make me end up and sit next to you guys today.
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You know, you know, you know, you know, Pearl, right?
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You have a wonderful example of somebody that came to a new country that has created a significant following.
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I've met you today because now I'm evolving around these significant following, significant future.
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Yeah, but it's like I give you I tell you something and you argue.
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And you argue, you know, I have to stand my ground up because I know my heart.
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I've had successful people tell me that before.
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And my reaction is, oh, shit, you're probably right.
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I don't feel attacked or anything, but I'm a very strong woman and I will stand my ground and I would like to be heard and I'm going to be heard regardless.
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You know, I want you to understand, not even understand.
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You know, you know the type of background I'm coming from.
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If I tell you some horror stories that I've done, yeah, it will, it will, I had to change my mentality.