JustPearlyThings - June 11, 2023


Bitter Feminist Downplays Pearl's Success

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Pearl I. Thank
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Length

10 minutes

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211.21

Word count

2,123

Sentence count

222

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Toxicity

3

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1

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In this episode, I sit down with a good friend of mine, and we talk about how we got to where we are today, and how we ended up in the position we are in today. We talk about the importance of surrounding yourself with the right people, mentors, and people who can help you learn and grow.

Transcript

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00:00:00.440 To your point, you were talking about how you came here with a hundred pound.
00:00:05.160 I immigrated from Bulgaria with my parents and we lived in a single room.
00:00:11.420 It was just a single room, the three of us.
00:00:14.020 And right now I'm 21 and just like you, I wanted to do better for myself because I was an electrician.
00:00:20.760 And I wasn't happy with how things were going.
00:00:23.340 And I joined and all of a sudden I'm meeting high net worth individuals on a daily basis.
00:00:30.720 And I'm improving myself.
00:00:32.560 And you're here saying, I had to take myself from the toxic situations that I had in my life.
00:00:39.100 But everyone deals with them.
00:00:40.720 So that's really an excuse that you tell yourself.
00:00:43.420 That's true.
00:00:43.920 But can I say something?
00:00:46.020 For you can look like an excuse, yeah.
00:00:47.900 But what you're trying to say here, you had still your parents on your back.
00:00:51.160 You came with your parents on a single room, but you were with your parents.
00:00:55.820 You were not by yourself.
00:00:57.160 You were not providing food by yourself.
00:00:59.780 You were not paying your bills by yourself.
00:01:02.120 You were not looking around.
00:01:03.620 I was.
00:01:04.860 I was.
00:01:05.840 Yeah.
00:01:06.240 Okay.
00:01:06.660 So I understand her.
00:01:09.840 I understand her because I get it.
00:01:13.400 She, I don't know your past, but before moving to London, maybe you didn't.
00:01:19.240 Maybe you were just, I don't know.
00:01:20.860 You're going through life.
00:01:22.020 The difficulties of learning.
00:01:23.240 I was a recruitment consultant.
00:01:24.080 Well, I don't know.
00:01:24.860 Yeah, no, I'm telling you.
00:01:25.900 But you came to London and the thing is, I get it.
00:01:28.200 Because some people, they don't see it as, let's just go for it.
00:01:31.460 Some people want to better themselves and educate themselves.
00:01:34.240 And so that they know how to intellectually grow.
00:01:37.860 But I just think the people that are successful don't educate themselves.
00:01:42.160 They just do.
00:01:43.100 Exactly.
00:01:43.500 They don't, they don't spend time thinking.
00:01:44.880 Yes, but some people, some people, some people take years to even know that though.
00:01:48.580 Some people don't even know that.
00:01:49.740 Yes.
00:01:50.180 Yes.
00:01:50.300 Okay, hold on, hold on.
00:01:51.280 You know what I'm trying to say?
00:01:51.900 Yes.
00:01:52.180 But how am I 21 and I already know this?
00:01:54.840 But not everyone is the same.
00:01:56.580 Because you have the right education, bro.
00:01:58.760 I don't, I don't have education.
00:02:01.340 No, I'm saying you have the right people around you.
00:02:03.860 To educate you.
00:02:05.120 Do you know what I'm trying to say?
00:02:05.840 Not everyone is the same.
00:02:07.380 But you, but you choose, but okay, at 18, that's an excuse.
00:02:11.460 But at 40, you pick who you surround yourself with.
00:02:14.120 I'll give you an example.
00:02:15.200 One time I decided I wanted more rich friends.
00:02:17.840 I literally was just like, my friends are too broke.
00:02:19.800 I'm a bunch of brokies.
00:02:21.940 And so, you know, I lived, I lived in Milwaukee at the time and I worked, I worked a sales job.
00:02:27.020 So I was like, you know what, I want to just see if I can call some of these numbers and
00:02:30.520 see if any of these executives, because I definitely, I was trying to sell copiers and
00:02:34.000 I'm going to meet with me.
00:02:34.820 But I was like, I want to see if they'll get coffee with me and just like, and see if they
00:02:38.980 can mentor me, ask them about their success.
00:02:41.040 I got three C-level executives of multimillion dollar companies to literally sit down, spend
00:02:45.920 30 minutes with me just by asking.
00:02:48.580 Yes, I agree.
00:02:50.040 And then another time, another time, another time, this is for a YouTube video, right?
00:02:53.940 I was just bored one day.
00:02:55.160 And, you know, people will always, you know, say it's because I'm a girl or because of
00:02:58.540 this or because of that, whatever.
00:02:59.780 But like, honestly, I feel like I could do this with anyone.
00:03:03.200 I did this for a YouTube video.
00:03:05.060 I didn't have a job because I quit my job to be a TikToker. 1.00
00:03:07.700 I know.
00:03:08.440 And yeah, I quit.
00:03:10.120 I was working in sales and I was doing quite well, but I just quit it to do, to do TikTok
00:03:14.020 and I moved home with my parents.
00:03:15.780 And I was like, maybe I'll see if I could find a job in a day.
00:03:18.400 So I went to this rich neighborhood and it's by Chicago.
00:03:21.580 It's like where all the rich people are.
00:03:22.800 And I was like, I wonder if I go door to door, I like snuck into the gated area.
00:03:26.020 I know.
00:03:26.500 And I was like, I wonder if I go door to door in this neighborhood and just ask people for
00:03:30.420 a job.
00:03:30.860 Within one day, I got an interview for a sales job.
00:03:33.960 Now, I didn't want the job, so I didn't end up taking it because I was just trying to do
00:03:36.900 YouTube.
00:03:37.820 But the point is like, it's all about like, you can, you have two choices in life.
00:03:42.620 Everything can be an excuse.
00:03:44.640 I haven't made any excuses.
00:03:46.200 But you have, you've made excuses the whole time.
00:03:48.080 I came, I came here 13 years ago.
00:03:49.740 I was learning, I only had a hundred dollars in my pocket, which is, but it is because
00:03:55.320 honestly, the people, and I'm telling you, I'm around these people, the people that are
00:03:58.480 really successful.
00:03:59.100 They don't talk about that.
00:04:00.640 They just talk about what they're doing.
00:04:01.940 They're so excited about this next project, this, this, and this.
00:04:04.700 And it's never, I'm excited about all the projects that I've got going on.
00:04:07.260 And maybe you are, but I'm saying the way you've represented yourself in this conversation
00:04:11.400 is it's always an excuse.
00:04:13.520 No, I wouldn't say that.
00:04:15.540 I think excuse is a very harsh word.
00:04:18.160 But it's, it's, it's, it's describing what it is.
00:04:20.800 It's describing, it's, wait, wait, it's describing outcomes.
00:04:23.900 And it's like, you've had 13 years.
00:04:26.140 Outcomes I had to deal with?
00:04:28.200 Everyone's got stuff to deal with.
00:04:29.780 What did you have to deal with at 26?
00:04:31.740 Did you leave home with nobody?
00:04:33.820 I came to this country by myself.
00:04:36.540 Well, okay.
00:04:37.660 I didn't know anyone in this country.
00:04:39.720 So, I mean, have other people had it harder?
00:04:42.160 Did you have it harder?
00:04:43.180 Sure.
00:04:43.600 But I'm telling you, I know people in worse situations that made more.
00:04:47.280 I don't know.
00:04:47.720 I feel like you're talking from a privileged place.
00:04:50.680 Yes.
00:04:51.820 You are.
00:04:53.540 But I'm talking from.
00:04:55.080 This is the thing.
00:04:56.820 And I'll tell you, I'm talking from.
00:04:58.380 A generational place.
00:04:59.420 No, no, no.
00:05:00.160 But I'm talking from a privileged place and being around these types of people.
00:05:03.940 So, I can tell you the people that have had good outcomes.
00:05:06.400 And I know people that have had good outcomes.
00:05:08.380 Wait.
00:05:08.800 I know people that have had good outcomes from the bottom.
00:05:11.480 I've known people that have had good outcomes from the top.
00:05:13.840 And I can tell you, the way they talk isn't the way you talk.
00:05:17.220 No.
00:05:17.400 Because they're not always talking about the reasons they didn't succeed.
00:05:20.520 They're talking about the way they're going to succeed.
00:05:22.360 You've got to answer questions, though.
00:05:24.880 You know what I mean?
00:05:26.560 I'm answering the questions that you're putting out there, you know.
00:05:29.740 Have you got a boyfriend?
00:05:31.020 No.
00:05:31.360 How old are you?
00:05:32.060 39.
00:05:33.020 So, I'm responding.
00:05:35.400 You know.
00:05:35.900 If you ask me now, okay, what do you do now?
00:05:39.500 Nobody's asked me that.
00:05:41.040 You're only like, oh, you're making excuses.
00:05:43.580 I'm not.
00:05:44.480 I'm revolving.
00:05:46.040 The information you gave you offered, it didn't really have much to do with the question I asked.
00:05:50.300 A response to the question, I believe.
00:05:51.880 Did you want to raise your hand?
00:05:53.580 Yeah, I just wanted to add to her point about you don't have any bills to pay when you're 18 living with your parents.
00:06:01.820 But everyone has their situations.
00:06:04.100 And in fact, during the coronavirus, I was maybe like 19.
00:06:08.200 I had to basically pay for the whole family.
00:06:11.900 My mom and dad went out of business.
00:06:13.640 And I was the only man in the house that was earning money and providing for the house.
00:06:18.540 So, there is different things that people go through.
00:06:22.340 And again, you can't judge on them.
00:06:24.460 And I'm not trying to judge you.
00:06:26.080 And to your point that you had £100 in your account when you came here.
00:06:31.660 To be fair, you don't really need money to make money.
00:06:34.920 As long as you're willing to do it.
00:06:36.280 I feel like in this conversation, we're trying to put the finger on each person.
00:06:41.100 And be like, oh, you did, you did.
00:06:42.640 Each person is different.
00:06:43.940 Each person is a different character.
00:06:45.420 No, no, no.
00:06:45.980 Each person is different.
00:06:48.160 See, what I would say, although we're all having conversations and we're sharing experience and stuff about our own lives,
00:06:53.200 we feel like we're being vulnerable because we're sharing information.
00:06:55.720 Actually, I don't see that anybody here, it might feel like people are being personally attacked.
00:06:59.980 But it's not.
00:07:00.740 And I'm hearing like, I can hear that you're feeling a bit, maybe getting a bit defensive.
00:07:04.100 No, because words are powerful.
00:07:06.880 Yeah, I agree words are powerful, but it's also words are down to interpretation.
00:07:10.420 So somebody could say to me that I'm making an excuse.
00:07:12.660 I'm not going to be defensive at somebody saying I'm making an excuse.
00:07:15.400 That might make me think to myself, okay, could I have done something more?
00:07:20.660 Could I have done this?
00:07:21.820 It's all how we take it and how we understand it.
00:07:24.860 So everyone's circumstances are their own.
00:07:27.500 There's no competition.
00:07:28.720 As you said, maybe you felt like Pearl was talking from a place of privilege.
00:07:31.700 Somebody else might think that you're talking from a place of privilege.
00:07:35.140 You know, everyone's circumstances and situations are their own.
00:07:37.700 All you have to do is know that you're doing the best that you can do.
00:07:40.980 But it's also very important that you need to be realistic.
00:07:44.120 I think as soon as we start being honest with ourselves and truthful with ourselves about where we lack,
00:07:49.640 where we could do more, where we need to be more disciplined or the changes that we need to make,
00:07:54.220 then you will really see like a propel of energy and you will go into the area that you want to go in.
00:08:00.980 But I think that people spend a lot of time procrastinating and hesitating.
00:08:04.200 And I'm not saying that you're doing that, but people do spend a lot of time procrastinating, hesitating.
00:08:09.500 They're not in the right circles.
00:08:10.780 They're not having the right influences.
00:08:12.400 But they still believe that they're going to achieve the things that they want to achieve.
00:08:16.540 That's OK.
00:08:17.560 You can still believe that.
00:08:19.240 But I don't think that you I don't think that the word excuse was supposed to be an attack on you.
00:08:24.120 I think excuse is what a lot of people do.
00:08:26.840 Yeah, it is a lot what people do.
00:08:29.960 But you got to you got to you got to look at the timeline.
00:08:33.640 You know, the timeline.
00:08:34.680 But that's just for your personal.
00:08:36.040 That's for your personal.
00:08:37.280 I could have probably done this a bit more.
00:08:39.240 I could have done this.
00:08:40.060 I could have went to college earlier.
00:08:41.180 But at the end of the day, you don't know the challenges one has to face to make me end up and sit next to you guys today.
00:08:49.300 You know, you know, you know, you know, Pearl, right?
00:08:51.020 You know, Pearl, you've met.
00:08:52.240 You have a wonderful example of somebody that came to a new country that has created a significant following.
00:08:59.360 I've met you today because now I'm evolving around these significant following, significant future.
00:09:05.880 Yeah, but it's like I give you I tell you something and you argue.
00:09:08.900 And you argue, you know, I have to stand my ground up because I know my heart.
00:09:13.080 And if you're saying, oh, you've made excuses.
00:09:16.460 I've had successful people tell me that before. 1.00
00:09:21.280 And my reaction is, oh, shit, you're probably right. 0.99
00:09:23.940 Because they know something you don't. 1.00
00:09:26.120 You have to be open to it.
00:09:27.300 Yeah, and so it's like, it's not an attack.
00:09:30.260 I don't feel attacked or anything, but I'm a very strong woman and I will stand my ground and I would like to be heard and I'm going to be heard regardless.
00:09:41.080 You know, I want you to understand, not even understand.
00:09:44.160 I want you to overstand like the way you did.
00:09:46.560 You know, you know the type of background I'm coming from.
00:09:49.580 If I tell you some horror stories that I've done, yeah, it will, it will, I had to change my mentality.
00:09:58.180 I had to deprogram and reprogram.
00:10:01.580 I, I, you know, I.
00:10:02.780 Thank you so much.
00:10:03.060 Bye-bye.