JustPearlyThings - Black DUDE Explains What ALL MEN WANT...

00:00:00.000 but david bond is watching guys i got a question for all three of you

00:00:03.360 how do you think life would have win if you were honest with your intentions

00:00:06.400 during dating all the time i i am terrible i am

00:00:16.640 honest actually we had a conversation uh like we talked about um we talked about about you know

00:00:23.760 main going kind of physical escapades i'm straight up with that and i've had girls accept that but

00:00:32.160 but have you always been straight up you've been a liar before i'm not saying sometimes i'm saying 0.71

00:00:37.360 100 from child i'm talking about before before you could even become the person you are now with

00:00:42.800 the experience you have now i'm saying from birth you've always been honest about dating from the

00:00:48.240 get gold yo no no but i don't think it's a realistic question because i don't think anybody but that's

00:00:54.880 a good that's a good that's a good question but the reason why i'm saying it i'm saying you don't lie

00:00:59.040 anymore yeah right that's right you can still have the same okay okay you can still have the same game

00:01:06.560 that you've got you can still have the same type of you can still make a woman feel nice when you're

00:01:09.840 speaking to them all you have to do is just be honest in every single day i'll answer that i'll

00:01:13.840 i think that if i were to have been more honest about everything from the get-go i think i would

00:01:23.440 be way more confident than i am now you think yeah because the thing is this right at one when i was

00:01:29.760 dating those three main girls and i was juggling five yeah and i was directly honest with all them 0.90

00:01:37.840 i would like go to bed and i'm like damn i'm a man like these 0.98

00:01:41.680 bitches know the truth and they keep coming back for more but the thing is it is a short-lived 1.00

00:01:48.640 victory because eventually because every girl nowadays right they just think so highly of 1.00

00:01:53.360 themselves and they their ego can't handle the fact of truth and reality when that one girl's not good 0.98

00:02:04.720 enough for you as a man you know i think that really messes with them i think it's very difficult

00:02:11.360 to be entirely honest because as a guy i think maybe as a woman as well i think as a guy you know

00:02:16.640 we are programmed to want variety right and to have that conversation with somebody that you're in love

00:02:22.080 with and she's deeply in love with you is a very difficult conversation to have to sit down and say oh

00:02:27.600 babe this is so perfect look at the sunset oh such a beautiful evening over london do you know what

00:02:32.400 you know i kind of fancy other girls i don't know if if another if another shawley will pass now

00:02:36.400 i probably probably won't so i think this is what i've said and from the get-go in the sense of

00:02:41.360 okay that you are who i am truly investing in yeah who i'm taking seriously right and that

00:02:49.280 this isn't saying that i am definitely going to go out there be like trying to have such different

00:02:53.520 girls but it but it may happen where i do that now if that's not for you that's okay we don't 0.91

00:02:59.600 have to get into this yeah but then leave it i say it's up to you i think yeah no that's that's

00:03:04.240 a good way of doing it i think that sort of monogamous relationships though there's a sort

00:03:07.840 of almost like a shared fantasy that both parties enter into of like that's true i don't look at

00:03:13.040 anybody else and she's like i don't look at anybody else yeah and it's this kind of shared fantasy which

00:03:17.440 everyone sort of intellectually knows is not true right but you have to sort of pretend in order to to

00:03:23.520 maintain the status quo you know right right right for sure for sure i think i i don't know i i think

00:03:28.000 i don't want to sit down with my girl i don't want to sit well

00:03:31.760 how old is she going to be well well okay it's like for example so like

00:03:35.600 you know my girl now right we went to see which one but now stop it

00:03:47.920 we gotta give him another actor of the year

00:03:52.800 do you remember that conversation we were having on the balcony

00:03:54.880 we went to watch chris brown right we went to watch chris brown and like obviously chris brown

00:04:24.720 pulls girls on stage all the time right and i'll be honest this sounds courageous far

00:04:28.160 but i know she's amazing i was like look babe if he if he pulls you up that's chris brown like

00:04:33.120 cool do your thing i get it whatever right and she was like babe i would never do that to you

00:04:38.160 that's a good girl that's what that's a good girl like i wouldn't want to do that anyway even 0.55

00:04:41.840 though he's like my favorite artist that's a good girl you see little things like that that's a solid

00:04:48.720 even if let's say notice but let's say her body count was 25 or something mad let's say 0.92

00:04:53.600 it's not even close but i'm saying let's pretend yeah just hearing that element there of her saying

00:04:57.840 but babes i wouldn't even go on stage because i respect you and man values that up here yeah yeah

00:05:03.040 yeah absolutely a lot of women aren't taught this they keep thinking that oh wait okay big breasts 1.00

00:05:08.560 big ass look innocent that's what and and and and if anything outside of that they'll attack you for 1.00

00:05:13.360 it and it's like if they really understood the diameters of how deep it is i don't think the goal for 0.98

00:05:18.480 certain lies what are you what are you showing over there sorry his girl's texting him how sexy he is

00:05:25.520 from the event we just went to right she sent me these photos and i was like b why are you so pretty

00:05:29.600 she was like because i have a sexy man next to me good man lucky maybe i should stop this guys 1.00

00:05:34.720 you need that because you know it's guys nice men have emotions too you have to understand like

00:05:40.720 to some degree you're like it's not even about let's make this way it's about sometimes you just

00:05:44.800 want to feel nice as well you know and that respect is how i translate you are making me feel nice respect

00:05:50.560 is love for me respect is my type of that's like when you give me respect yeah i'm just like that

00:05:54.720 appeals to my emotions you know yeah that makes me feel positive happy door for me and kicks in my head

00:05:59.440 because i'm like to myself yo you respect to me makes me feel i've got a solid team to take on the world

00:06:04.000 but it's like you're not respecting me it's me versus you and the world bro and boom and that's

00:06:09.360 why that's why these girls they'll date a guy and he'll date him for like three four five years but 1.00

00:06:15.600 he'll never put a ring on her finger yeah but then he dates another girl and he dates one to two years

00:06:22.480 and boom you know you know why why because she gives him peace of mind i'm sorry i'm sorry i'm sorry 0.52

00:06:31.120 peace of mind amen you know i have to worry about her what are her hoe ass friends texting her yeah 1.00

00:06:37.680 what is she posting some haram shit on her instagram like a man a man every day has to wake up 0.99

00:06:45.280 and it doesn't matter if you're in the middle class top of the line whatever the case may be 0.99

00:06:49.600 every man every day a man has to wake up and fight the world damn straight and the last thing he wants 0.98

00:06:55.600 to fight is some ungrateful bitch in his life like he doesn't want to fight with that girl and a lot 0.99

00:07:01.680 of guys they fucking have to make a deal with the devil and kind of get with girls that aren't 0.99

00:07:06.800 necessarily checking all boxes i think that fight can be worse than than than any other fight really 0.99

00:07:12.080 no no it's it's the worst thing and a lot of guys settle because they don't have the they don't

00:07:16.080 have the abundance mindset yeah to think that they can get out there and get better or or get a woman of 0.99

00:07:21.600 quality but yeah that's what that that's a big thing that a lot of women don't understand if you 1.00

00:07:26.240 can bring your man peace of mind it's and especially

00:07:33.680 no hoe like peace of mind of you not going out there hoeing around like i need to go on this 1.00

00:07:38.720 girl's trip i need to go to the club with this i need to update my snapchat or any

00:07:43.840 shit like guys don't want to deal like when a guy loves you the last thing he wants to do 0.95

00:07:48.320 is imagine some dude banging you and if you're giving off all these symptoms of of ho 0.99

00:07:53.840 shit like i know like modern culture we're supposed to be well you shouldn't do that you should respect 0.96

00:07:58.000 the one more than a snapchat and all that but in a dot an ideal situation a guy doesn't want to have 0.98

00:08:04.560 to put up with that that's why when you have a girl that brings you peace of mind and

00:08:09.760 just not a drip of hoe activity around her he will give her the entire world you know he'll give 1.00

00:08:16.400 and that's why these girls like they'll they'll they'll date because the guy will date them and 0.99

00:08:20.000 put up with them for a couple years but then he dumps them and then he finds another girl who

00:08:24.960 gives him that peace of mind it's over do you feel like when men are ready to get married they

00:08:29.920 don't waste a lot of time yeah it yes but it it absolutely depends on the woman yes absolutely

00:08:37.200 depends on women you know like like like him like kid's girlfriend texting him right now like

00:08:42.880 i would never go on stage with chris brown and you're such a sexy man and stuff like 0.77

00:08:48.800 that right there that that's why he won the fucking australia best actor award because he got a great 0.83

00:08:54.480 woman at home supporting him that's a big part of it like oh you man man listen you know what like for 0.89

00:09:00.560 example you know who's a great woman in this world i don't know if you guys know who she is you guys

00:09:04.720 know who d devlin is no d devlin is conor mcgregor's uh wife and she had supported conor mcgregor from

00:09:14.000 day one yeah and he she he was on welfare and she was working full time to help that man out and you

00:09:20.720 could see when you watch these interviews with him that woman is like blindly loyal to mcgregor in a 0.96

00:09:27.280 great way and because and he says it all time if i didn't have this great woman with me there is no way

00:09:32.960 i would have been able to ascend to such great heights and and i'm not trying to like simp for

00:09:36.880 women but the reality is very very very very true when you have when you're a man and you have a good

00:09:42.880 woman by your side that does not give you stress and she makes you feel safe and she knows that you

00:09:49.760 like the world is yours there's no treachery yeah you know i mean that's why these guys conquer and then 0.96

00:09:54.560 the other side of the coin is when you have a treacherous bitch in your life and you have seen great men 1.00

00:10:00.160 fallen from these great heights because they got some fucking hoe in the house with them with a ring 1.00

00:10:06.800 on her finger and she thinks she knows some shit and that's how you see these guys well it's not even 0.99

00:10:11.200 necessarily treacherous it's just if she is not supportive of you and your goals and that's treachery 0.97

00:10:17.120 in my book yeah i've noticed it seems like just from what i've seen um guys it's like when they're ready

00:10:25.760 to get married it's kind of like that's like they're like a guy once he's got his money figured out

00:10:29.760 he'll kind of look at the girl next to him and be like is it her yes or no then dump her if it's a

00:10:34.480 no and then he's like on a mission to find the girl he's like right absolutely when a guy when a guy

00:10:39.440 really wants to get married he he does like in his mind because you do like you know i'm kind of at

00:10:44.960 that phase now like i have made all the money i've slept with all the girls and now i'm like i'm looking for

00:10:49.520 the one like the not like saying like my soulmate or the one that i'm that i can trust bring into my

00:10:56.160 life and have children with right and when you're on that path like you're very vicious in the sense

00:11:03.360 like okay like one red flag you're out yeah exactly no no time to waste you know i'm out like you're 0.81

00:11:08.160 you did this no you're done you hate men no you're you have blue hair you're feminist no you're done 0.68

00:11:12.080 you know i mean and like when you're in that mode too because i i'll tell you this too and i don't

00:11:17.840 know if this is just subjective to me only but i feel like my like biological clock taking like i

00:11:25.120 i see kids like i want children i want a son yeah and i i feel it i like i feel that i want a son you're

00:11:30.400 37 37 yeah so this is what i feel like so you at 37 now you're on a mission you're you're looking for

00:11:37.120 a wife yeah because if i were to get because what tate was saying is too is so true like what am i gonna 0.73

00:11:42.320 do like go out there and just keep fucking hoes and keep like doing the same i already 1.00

00:11:47.680 am bored i think if a girl met you at 30 right do you think that she could have gotten you to marry 0.99

00:11:54.000 her at 30. no because i was too stupid yeah but that's that's what i i feel like sometimes girls 0.75

00:11:59.840 will get bitter because they might date a guy that's like at the wrong time yes yeah some girls 0.85

00:12:06.400 some girls can wait it out like if she met you at 30 and then at 37 like you look oh you look you're 1.00

00:12:11.600 ready to do that oh she's there yeah no no i definitely agree with you yeah um but like it

00:12:17.120 just it you know it just it's a timing thing too is it really it and it's timing based upon maturity and

00:12:22.720 i think some guys they never mature too there's there's some guys like everybody like i think the

00:12:28.880 world needs to realize like not everybody gets a happy ending i think like not everybody gets happy

00:12:35.200 but i do think it's a lot to do with maturity as well but there is a gigantic fear factor that

00:12:40.320 as a man i'm putting myself on the line if i get married right now true like in england in england

00:12:45.040 especially it's only horrible here because in england i'm not sure how the um the prenup thing works

00:12:50.400 exactly it doesn't exist here it doesn't exist here they do prenups here wow so it is yeah so so i

00:12:55.920 i checked and they also they also incentivize abuse allegations here because they give you a free

00:13:01.840 lawyer if she accuses you of abuse wow yeah yeah it's really i'm doing a documentary on divorce

00:13:06.720 right now okay i didn't know that before i'm so you can't even get a prenup now i'm curious what

00:13:13.920 you don't want to be me i can't remember if you said you want to get married i wouldn't legally no

00:13:18.400 i was i was talking to i'm gonna ask you next though don't worry oh me me personally um i i i i'd never

00:13:25.120 say never but getting legally married certainly is not high on the agenda no no no no do you want like

00:13:30.160 kids and stuff again i'd never say never but i wasn't i was never the most paternal of people

00:13:35.120 because i think because my family background was a bit screwed up and whatever so i think i think

00:13:38.880 there's been some some stuff there um so so yeah that's kind of where i'm sitting at it at the moment

00:13:44.960 i'm just okay so this question doesn't really apply so i'm just curious because 37 now you're looking

00:13:50.320 for a wife i'm curious when when's the ideal age for you you don't marriage isn't high on the priority so

00:13:56.000 what was the ideal age that you wanted to get married at me yeah you uh well i wouldn't get

00:14:02.800 legally married just because have children yeah uh if i'm being honest i think the earliest i would

00:14:09.040 look at would be like 35. how old are you i'm 29. okay okay okay yeah okay so 35 is the ideal age for

00:14:17.200 you what about you you're you're 25 33. yeah i'd say that for me with absolute honesty i don't know

00:14:26.960 when i'm ready when when i plan to be ready to be married only because it's like what i was saying

00:14:32.320 earlier on a lot of the what i look for in marriage is to do heavily with the person as well growing

00:14:38.160 into that marriage as well because like i could say to myself i'm ready for marriage yeah but if i don't

00:14:43.120 feel this person's ready for marriage or we're compatible fully or or so like not fully but

00:14:48.080 like it worked like like it has to do a lot with how the relationship has grown into that marriage too

00:14:52.960 as well and that's a difficult thing to predict it's hard to say like any like everyone that's ever

00:14:57.920 gotten with an ex before thought it was going to last forever everyone has got other things it didn't

00:15:02.800 it's statistics it's just probability happens no i think it's just more like when do you know your

00:15:07.040 world like what stage do you think you'd be like i'm ready to build a family with i'd say but this is

00:15:11.360 the thing i could probably be at that stage right now would not know it like my thing's really to

00:15:16.560 do with like how my relationship is yeah and how we're developing into coming into those stages

00:15:20.880 because it's it's me also looking at how another human beings move in i'm not completely judging

00:15:25.680 this off of my standard so it's based on the relationship you're in yeah yeah it's based the

00:15:29.120 relationship i'm in and it's really based off of like how things like develop like it's not to say

00:15:32.960 that like i'm not saying that oh we won't get married i just say that i'm literally i feel like

00:15:36.560 you're well i'm watching the process and it's like i feel like oh you see like how you're at a

00:15:41.280 stage of absolute certainty yeah i think that would just kick in for me when when we get to that stage

00:15:46.240 and that could just be like you know now when we're married but that could probably be tomorrow it could

00:15:49.680 be two years from now it could be five it could be i don't i don't want to say an answer and like you

00:15:53.760 know yeah it's interesting how the age for marriage has sort of moved moved back so much like because

00:16:00.560 you're like 23 my dad was 24 when he had me you know what i'm saying and it was normal back then

00:16:06.800 yeah exactly exactly i don't know because they just they just have you on this consumerism hedonism 0.91

00:16:13.680 shit because like i thought like when you get rich like you're just going to be always happy shopping

00:16:20.080 at louis vuitton and going to these like high-end restaurants and stuff dan bilzerian talks about it 0.99

00:16:24.880 like dan bilzerian said back in the day i used to be really happy going to outback like outback was like a

00:16:30.320 10 out of 10 experience for him but then as he got rich like now it's like well going to flemings

00:16:35.600 is 10 out of 10 experience for me but even now going to flemings is like you know like a six out

00:16:40.800 of 10 because it's like a regular day just like same thing like when you sleep with a new girl like 0.99

00:16:44.800 when you first when you just have sex in general like yes i had sex but then you start having sex 0.83

00:16:49.360 with a bunch of girls like you know if you have sex like with two or three girls a day and you're 0.99

00:16:54.080 like kind of used to it you're kind of like well you know that was cool but you just keep on like you

00:16:59.360 have to keep on raising the bar to keep on stimulating your dopamine if you really want

00:17:05.040 to get down to it but then you become like this dopamine slave that you're just like on this

00:17:09.760 endless hedonistic treadmill that ultimately leads you nowhere and you have no fulfillment and i personally

00:17:16.960 think because i just had this revelation recently i went home and i hung out with my my brother my

00:17:22.000 brother got married when he was 20 he's now uh 31 and he has three kids he's been married since he was 20.

00:17:29.040 he has three kids and i was hanging out with my nieces and nephews and the house and everything

00:17:32.480 was just so chaotic and wild all the kids are hugging my legs they're like uncle john uncle john

00:17:37.760 uncle john and i was so happy and i was so thrilled and just having the time of my life i was like oh my

00:17:43.120 god this is free yeah like i'm not paying any money for this and i was just like i have all this money

00:17:49.520 have all these expensive suits have my fake teeth you know i have everything you know and i'm just like 0.73

00:17:57.040 fuck i missed the real reality of life i missed the meaning which is family and happiness i have a question 1.00

00:18:03.280 if you met um a real virgin like not not the girl in the couch no a real a real virgin to the point you 1.00

00:18:11.520 believed it and she said like i want to wait till we're married to have sex would you do it depends on how 0.98

00:18:17.040 attractive she was and because you're just like a 200 pound virgin but she's cute let's just say she's 1.00

00:18:22.960 cute honestly and she was like and i could know there was no treachery in her and she's down to make

00:18:27.920 children yeah you could i mean you wouldn't know for sure but you you're you've got feeling she's

00:18:32.800 telling the truth that you're discerning oh yeah you're discerning with yeah absolutely oh wow i would

00:18:37.920 do it how long would you date her before you i mean i'm not trying i'm not gonna go two years no sex

00:18:44.960 so like what six months if if everything's in line and like i meet her parents and everything's good 0.98

00:18:50.320 and i'm like this bitch is not out for me for my money yeah you know like i would do it like i would 1.00

00:18:55.200 do it like two months three to six months i'd do it and that's the thing it's like like i feel like 0.97

00:19:00.640 if younger women heard that like that's the quickest way to get marriage from what do you think about 1.00

00:19:05.760 what do you think about the counter argument that people sometimes bring on these shows though because

00:19:08.640 what if you did that and then you're married to her and then somehow the sex is no good or you're kind of

00:19:13.680 sexually compatible would that matter to you listen sex is like ice cream it's never really bad it's

00:19:20.800 just like you know it's pretty good no matter what like i don't know bad sex bad sex has to be 0.85

00:19:26.800 like she's got her legs locked up and she's like you know just like me like pushing you away like 0.61

00:19:33.120 this is hurting too much like no sorry uh corn stars right are never sexually incompatible 0.82

00:19:40.960 like you can become good at sex yeah that's a lie everyone can become good and that's what hoes 1.00

00:19:46.000 say hoes like what if the sex was bad like okay i know you're a ho because your entire value is based 0.99

00:19:51.840 upon sex don't even say that's mouth no like that's the thing like if you okay here's the thing uh when 1.00

00:19:58.160 you love a woman and and you're really in tune with her and like mentally you're connected you're like damn 0.98

00:20:05.440 i love this woman somebody stormed in this house i would kill everybody to like defend her yeah 0.99

00:20:10.400 right missionaries enough yeah missionaries i don't need her to like jumping off me and throwing 1.00

00:20:16.960 it back and all it actually if a woman like that speaking about my ex when a woman is like that's 1.00

00:20:23.360 another thing she'd tell me she wasn't a sexual experience but she'd do some i was like 0.94

00:20:26.320 where did you learn that you know as long as you are doing it consistently because let's say that

00:20:34.480 you like like what would what would be the setting like if that's the type of sex and it's long breaks

00:20:40.080 in between do you think that would be an issue for you or do you think like or do you think that

00:20:43.600 wouldn't be an issue for you for me personally like in my relationships like i need sex when i want it

00:20:49.440 to say something um no not as such i think i i kind of agree with john actually i was kind of being

00:21:06.880 a playing devil's advocate there a little bit because i think you're right i think especially

00:21:10.080 for guys i mean come on the sex is always kind of good sex is always good so so i do i do take your

00:21:15.360 point i think if you seriously if i suppose the only issue is if you're then marrying her quite

00:21:20.160 quickly in this hypothetical situation would you know would you have enough time to be able to really

00:21:25.120 evaluate if she is the right person as a partner that's that's maybe that's what pearl saying like

00:21:29.120 if you know if you really knew and everything was lined up yeah you know what i mean but i think that's

00:21:34.000 in all to that question personally i also think i also think as well just just just just just no

00:21:40.400 just part that one second just just to add to what john's said actually i think actually

00:21:44.880 it's kind of going to be a funny thing for me to say but i think sex is actually overrated 0.93

00:21:48.160 somewhat i think guys we place too much emphasis oh yeah man sex blah blah blah yes

00:21:54.160 actually like like because when you're particularly when you're looking at a long-term relationship

00:21:58.240 yeah the sex is gonna i don't say die off but it's it's gonna diminish it yeah yeah yeah yeah and and

00:22:05.040 and that's that for me that's the number one way for me to spot a hoe as she's like when she talks 1.00

00:22:10.080 one of her leading points is like sex or the quality of sex i'm like oh you you street walker

00:22:16.720 you know like even the other way around girls gonna be like oh a guy that's talking about how 1.00

00:22:20.720 big his dick is his dick clearly has to be small yeah yeah you know what i'm saying like i think it's 0.99

00:22:25.680 like when when people lead with the insecurity we can spot the insecurity right i really think that's 0.99

00:22:30.320 what it is but me personally i don't think i would um get like for marriage so could you repeat the question

00:22:37.360 for me please was it um like if would i get married when was the ideal age for you to get married no

00:22:43.280 no it was the virgin one um oh the virgin oh would you wait till marriage yeah no the reason the reason

00:22:48.880 the reason the reason why i wouldn't wait till marriage is only because like i really think you

00:22:54.240 truly know a woman when you start becoming sexual with her it's not to do with the sex i think things

00:23:00.320 get revealed about their characteristic only because like you see you have to understand sex is a very

00:23:04.800 vulnerable thing to do with someone so there's certain characteristics here certain ways that

00:23:09.120 she'll act towards you more confidently after you two have sex maybe she can be more confidently clingy 1.00

00:23:14.320 with you like like how many times you as they you know it's interesting i notice these like answers

00:23:19.520 change with guys like kind of right around the time they really want a wife and so when they're younger

00:23:26.880 they're like oh i don't care like we need to do yeah no it's true can i have sex with other people 0.83

00:23:33.360 what oh sorry so she's like uh we can't have sex but i'm guessing i can't that's the thing right 0.97

00:23:40.880 you gotta be that's when you're a mafia status you got your mistress on the side to handle you 1.00

00:23:46.240 i just think you see more of a person when you when you like when you have sex with them it'd be 0.96

00:23:49.680 interesting to ask but i i think you know going back to this because uh like i i agree with troy 0.87

00:23:57.600 because you know we're i think all of us on the panel are we get enough sex we're like ah sex is

00:24:02.480 overrated i'm in a relationship guys well but i i i think the number one thing is this too like when you

00:24:13.680 like and i know like the red bill community is like anti-love but like when you actually love a woman

00:24:19.920 like it's really not like the sex is amazing it's just icing on the cake because you already love her

00:24:27.600 yeah yeah you know i mean sex doesn't make you fall in love with a woman like her personality her goodness 1.00

00:24:33.680 like you know like if she makes the bed in the morning like like she massages you stuff like that

00:24:40.240 that's what you would fall in love like you know that's that's what makes you fall in love like you know

00:24:44.240 when you like i was dating a girl one time and i went hiking on a mountain and she's like i got you

00:24:49.120 these like feet things to like put on your feet to like help you after that i was like i will kill 0.86

00:24:55.360 every man in the world for you you know emotion i think kills relationships when the women get 1.00

00:25:06.880 spiteful when it starts to be about keeping score what do you mean yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah what do

00:25:12.320 you mean exactly that's like you can almost see women when they're older like in their in their 40s 0.99

00:25:16.640 and you can just tell they've been keeping score for like 20 years that's like building up resentment

00:25:21.760 over a little tit for tat yeah yeah yeah you know let's like when you're when you hang out with your

00:25:26.320 boys too like you know if you're really good friends with your boys you're like all right

00:25:29.920 sit down i'm paying like you know you're just fighting like i'm paying i'm paying i'm paying but

00:25:33.600 if you're like with a phrase like oh i paid last time so you gotta pay this time like you listen 1.00

00:25:36.880 here you cheap fuck yeah get the fuck out of here you know your boys like listen i know you're broke 1.00

00:25:45.200 shut the fuck up i'm gonna pay you start finessing but that's why i don't think these like 50 50 we 1.00

00:25:51.520 have equal say equal partnership relationships work because no you're constantly keeping score of who 0.99

00:25:57.040 made the decision last time or what time you like no listen all all of these it's supposed to be a

00:26:02.240 default to him no listen all of the all of these like all these anti red pill channels all these 0.97

00:26:09.360 anti-conservative channels all these libtards all these people trying to talk shit about saying that 1.00

00:26:15.120 their way of doing things is superior we've been doing it that way and everybody is fucking miserable 0.99

00:26:22.480 you walking in the streets people are not happy in today's modern times women's misery index is the 1.00

00:26:28.400 highest it's ever been in america they are not happy so when they're trying to say like oh we gotta

00:26:33.760 do like we've read this study that was funded by these people from john hopkins university and they

00:26:38.720 said that we should do it this this this this way it's like yeah well we've been doing that and there's

00:26:43.120 like a million women crying on tick tock about how miserable they are and how single they are i don't 1.00

00:26:48.320 want to be independent you know how many videos i've been seeing of that recently yeah it's so beautiful

00:26:53.120 it's so beautiful i love it i love it so much no like the way that things are going right now

00:26:57.920 are that's why people like andrew tate are celebrating he's literally the most googled man in

00:27:02.400 the world like that because he's pretty he's preaching traditional values you know we've we've given this

00:27:08.720 like new age order their chance and they have completely failed everyone well and i had like a red pill

00:27:16.640 moment the other day where i realized like most people have never seen a real traditional relationship

00:27:22.560 yeah because behind the scenes the moms usually run the show and you can look at that in consumer buying 1.00

00:27:27.600 decisions like men are supposed to make the financial decisions in a household that's 0.95

00:27:32.480 traditional 80 women make 80 of consumer buying decisions most people have not seen it most people's

00:27:38.080 mothers will not say okay if the father makes a decision she disagrees with and a lot of times

00:27:43.200 there's like a whole generation of dads that are just trying to make their wives happy yeah

00:27:48.160 i have a curious question for you is there anything andrew tate has said that you've seen that you disagree with

00:27:53.840 me uh all right this question to everyone actually i don't question everyone but it was many yeah the

00:27:58.000 first time i didn't i saw him i didn't like him because he had um he had a cheating party

00:28:05.200 so the first time i reacted to it i was like i was like i think i probably it's like i think i

00:28:10.800 insulted him or something i don't remember what i said because i was just like what is this attention

00:28:15.360 seeking god like why would you do why would you bring all the girls you're dating put a minute

00:28:22.720 and he was like oh they're crying and i was like that's cold i think the whole pushing for like

00:28:30.480 you know multiple women like when you when you're an average guy and you make like sixty thousand 1.00

00:28:36.400 dollars a year and you're like have a regular you know middle class job and you're like listen

00:28:40.960 bitch i'm about to go get another hoe like it is that's just not realistic so i don't think that's 1.00

00:28:48.160 good advice because when you give advice you want to give advice that is good for the majority of 0.97

00:28:52.960 people yeah now could some men pull that off i mean yeah they could but the majority people will fail

00:29:00.080 and then your message is perpetuating a life of misery for average people so i def i just think that

00:29:06.960 that needs to stop like i think these guys saying like oh well you know i have multiple women and 0.99

00:29:12.000 this and that like i think that's just terrible advice like you guys like one is nothing like the

00:29:18.000 reality is this too like tate had multiple women right and he's in romanian prison to this day like

00:29:26.080 even though it's false like he or there's no real evidence he's not been really officially locked down 0.97

00:29:32.160 he's in he's in prison because of that shit or he's you know he's on house arrest and dealing and 0.95

00:29:37.360 like in literally the worst time of his entire life based upon his own advice so i just think that's 0.99

00:29:44.880 one thing i wholeheartedly disagree with i do think the the me too allegation could happen from a wife

00:29:51.280 too though yeah i don't think you necessarily just because i with the divorce documentary there's so many

00:29:56.240 guys where it was their wife that did it to um yo yeah it just kind of transfers the the power you 0.73

00:30:02.560 know um you could argue it's more likely though with i think the main thing that like i want to

00:30:07.040 say this is a disagreement i think it was just like a realization when i clocked it like i say when he

00:30:12.000 first came out yeah and the way he explained his points yeah it would be with like a um with a level

00:30:17.440 of tenacity in it and obviously first looking in i could be like oh that's a bit harsh but then i think

00:30:21.680 i i've probably seen him say it or something like that of him say yo i'm playing a character

00:30:26.880 to some type of to some degree to gain a certain amount of attention and it was working and i think

00:30:31.680 the second that he said that i think that's when i like i actually truly like rated the guy only

00:30:36.160 because it's because he set a goal and he got the result and the foundations of the points aren't

00:30:42.720 destructive against what i believe in so like let's say okay be strong okay cool be like you know make

00:30:49.120 sure you're so financially stable okay cool keep yourself mentally um depression doesn't exist

00:30:53.280 obviously i can see how that can be controversial but keep yourself mentally good like because the

00:30:57.280 foundations yeah are like you know very like aligned with how i am as a person yeah is that's what makes

00:31:02.640 me agree but then let's say that flip in i don't know let's say you've heard of the the mizzy guy for

00:31:07.200 example yeah yeah imagine if you i thought he was you for a second when i met you because she said we're

00:31:14.000 gonna be busy she said yeah no i interviewed him he's probably gonna come back tomorrow for a show

00:31:21.120 actually yes but even even with that for example like let's say that okay him he's someone that's

00:31:26.560 blown up and he's playing but let's say that he's he's saying yeah kids need to jump into yards and

00:31:31.600 start like i couldn't agree with the foundation of the point like even if he's coming with the same

00:31:36.080 tenacity as andrew the foundations of his point lie in a negative direction towards what i believe in

00:31:41.360 but then something like what andrew takes is more positive towards what i believe in so i really

00:31:45.120 focus on the foundation of the point you're making not how you're saying it yeah i'm gonna i'm gonna

00:31:51.360 read super chats um okay i don't think sparkly water is necessarily going yeah still water's nice

00:32:01.600 i would say sorry just quit i said the the only thing i not primarily the main thing i disagreed when

00:32:06.320 he said that oh as a father he would go away for two weeks and then come back personally for me

00:32:11.040 i'd rather have a strong presence well i agree i agree with kid on that as well like you can't

00:32:18.800 just be like a pop in and out dad yeah that's for me i might disagree just slightly on this one i'm not

00:32:25.520 sure what i think it's an interesting one but that isn't sort of at the heart of because what i like

00:32:30.080 what i like one of the things i liked about the tights is they're quite sort of they're very much about

00:32:34.720 going out for your own path and not getting tied down in the normal domesticity that people get tied

00:32:38.800 into but that they're sort of the weight their work around as far as having kids is concerned

00:32:43.760 is well the father is there and he's the supportive but he doesn't need to be there

00:32:46.960 the whole time and a lot of people would disagree with that but a father being present is like

00:32:50.960 they have they have a study that if a father is just present in a household not if he doesn't even

00:32:59.840 talk if he doesn't even communicate but if a father is just present anxiety goes down depression

00:33:06.400 goes down the probability of her being a hoe goes down yeah this like not even being involved but 0.97

00:33:10.960 the fact of the father is just there so i can't i can't agree with like this whole like you know just 0.98

00:33:16.320 fuck off and you know be pop pop and be like a dad once every month you know what's interesting i actually 0.88

00:33:22.640 was like sort of that kid because my dad um he would go to india for like two weeks at a time 0.99

00:33:28.640 yeah um and so i think what you have to think about is you really can't have everything yeah

00:33:35.040 so what you know what i realized is that you know my dad was doing that because he loved us

00:33:40.880 and now i i could spend all the time i want with my dad because he was able to work so hard when we

00:33:45.760 were younger and now he's retired where a lot of my friends dads are still working into what was it

00:33:50.080 was it every month he was gone for half the month um i don't remember to be honest like are you telling the

00:33:56.800 truth i am i for a period of time i know he was gone a lot um so i i don't know how long that you

00:34:06.240 know your childhood's kind of blurry like yeah yeah i think i don't remember how long but but you

00:34:11.120 know because i i used to think about that would i rather had him like around more and i just was

00:34:15.520 like you know i don't have college debt i can spend all the time i want with my dad now which there's

00:34:21.040 way more time in the future than the past like i don't know i think i see where they're coming from

00:34:26.320 where like if you have to go build something yeah you're like your family will be okay if you have

00:34:31.440 to i definitely see where they're coming from because because when you think about it if you

00:34:34.320 go back a few generations the father was actually even if i look at my own family like my grandfather

00:34:39.440 quite quite a remote sort of figure yeah they weren't as like caring and sharing and nurturing as

00:34:44.480 as far as a sort of encouraged to be today so if you look about and look like back to victorian times

00:34:50.480 the father was actually quite remote from the family and often in upper class families you know the kid

00:34:55.600 would just get set off to boarding school anyway now you could argue well you know what was the

00:35:00.160 psychological outcome on the kids of that but that seemed to work pretty well for building the empire

00:35:07.920 my dad's actually the most selfless like person i know and the day that i realized that everything

00:35:14.080 that he did was for us that was the day like we had the best relationship yeah because every everything

00:35:20.320 my dad built was for us he he just wanted us to not have to pay for college because he spent like

00:35:25.760 most of his 20s in debt from all this college debt from a degree he didn't even get yeah my dad the same

00:35:30.880 and yeah and all he like wanted was like i remember one day when i was like younger um i was like

00:35:37.120 bitching about my dad to my mom i was like i was like mom like like dad this dad like i was just being a 0.99

00:35:42.800 teenager right you know yeah well i was i didn't always speak this highly you know people are stupid 0.89

00:35:47.600 teenagers yeah for sure and she just like looked at me and she's like do you know what he did for 0.99

00:35:51.280 you today and she's like he did this he took your bags out of the car he drove an hour and a half to

00:35:55.600 come see you play your volleyball game this this this this this she paid for this this this and i've

00:36:01.440 never been so humbled in my life i was just like okay yeah i'm a brat but i just think it's like important

00:36:10.000 that you teach the kids like that mindset that's like everything they're doing is for you oh yeah and and

00:36:15.040 for the record i i think for me i wouldn't say that oh i'd have i would be there 24 7 and i've

00:36:20.560 even had this conversation like i was saying oh would you be okay if i was there for like three days a

00:36:24.320 week and then had my own place for like four days a week but i did see a clip or when andrew taters

00:36:28.640 talked about his dad would be gone for like two three months at a time yeah i think for me two

00:36:32.400 months is a bit much like ideally at least two months yeah that's what i'm saying yeah it's a lot

00:36:38.960 it's a little extreme i think that i'd want a stronger presence but like what uh what kid

00:36:45.680 is saying that's actually healthy for the relationship like you do need a degree of

00:36:50.480 separation in your relationships because when you're constantly on top of each other you're 1.00

00:36:55.120 gonna like i don't fucking want to kill this bitch like you know you just like you're when you're on 1.00

00:36:59.440 top of each other you have no room to separate and appreciate you you got to give your girl an 1.00

00:37:06.320 opportunity to miss you but you know you know what i mean though like i think my standpoint's like a

00:37:12.000 bit of a different perspective to what everyone said as well is because my parents like on are

00:37:16.400 separate like they like i grew up not seeing my parents hug or kiss like if i'm being honest with

00:37:22.400 you if i saw my mom and dad kiss each other right now that would be weird to me because i've not grown

00:37:27.920 up with that psychologically being normal to me because i haven't seen that so i'm used to the ideology of

00:37:34.160 me just being at my mom's then me going to my dad's when i need to go see my dad then me coming

00:37:38.880 back to mama and see my mom and because of that that that that um that's that separative element 1.00

00:37:43.760 that i grew up with it's also not necessarily affecting my okay it's it's probably affecting

00:37:48.720 me for relationships where i'm saying when i grow up i don't want that for my kids where i do want to

00:37:52.640 i do want them to be able to see what their parents are like together but at the same time yeah

00:37:56.400 i'm also looking at the impact he had on me whilst i was growing i feel yeah that even though

00:38:01.360 them two were separate my dad was a very present father he like i'd only have to see him once every

00:38:07.120 three weeks but it's in that in that few seconds i've seen him yeah it would be my whole like that's

00:38:12.160 all i needed you know like like just go to the park a bit kicking the ball a bit going for a bike ride

00:38:16.320 that little thing yeah i'll take that memory over my mom shouting at me in the morning to clean up

00:38:20.240 something 20 times yeah and it'll be the same level because it's like it's not to me say that i love

00:38:24.480 my dad more than my mom it's just that like as the the father is pretty impactful on the child and

00:38:30.080 and especially when you're a male and father is going to help solve your problems in a way that

00:38:34.320 women just like can't because we're too emotional and we get like stressed yeah and so when you like 1.00

00:38:39.680 when we have all these problems like you bring your mom a problem it's like there's stress to it but

00:38:44.320 it's like dads are so focused on like fixing the problem and like i i see why like stoicism is so

00:38:50.720 needed in society because we just cannot do what men do we are not the same and we keep painting to 0.99

00:38:56.400 women that we can be the same and we are just not um yeah sorry what what you're saying um is 0.89

00:39:03.920 kind of in line with what tate's saying isn't it because because tate was saying you know his father

00:39:07.200 was away for months on time but his father was also such a strong presence in his life and they still

00:39:13.200 talk if my father wasn't there we wouldn't have the relationship that we have now and and you could

00:39:18.240 you could argue i mean obviously tate is in the situation he's in now but he became the most

00:39:23.120 google man in the world yeah so the fact that his father wasn't there the whole time he still

00:39:27.760 got on to like he didn't need yeah yeah you know so there's there's i can see arguments on both sides

00:39:33.680 also as well i do find that for example i have a friend that's in a relationship right now in it

00:39:37.840 and obviously i know what life was like when me and him were both single and me and him were both just

00:39:42.480 men just in society just going through university just being men in it and i also seen the changes in

00:39:47.840 him when he when he became a father and he settled down in a relationship and don't get it twisted

00:39:53.440 his relationship is his happiness it's his pride it's his family he loves his family so and so forth

00:39:57.680 but there was an element yeah of and this is just pure honesty from my side you know that inner animal

00:40:03.920 that inner drive that that thing that that kick there was an element of that lowering like he loved

00:40:10.560 music now he's not doing he doesn't want he can't be about to do this was your friend this is my

00:40:14.240 this is my friend i like my friend he's a male he's a male friend of mine oh and he's in a relationship

00:40:19.360 he's in a relationship and he has a child and the thing is that like the relationship he loves the

00:40:23.600 relationship i'm not saying that anything's wrong with that element however yeah i know i know what

00:40:28.640 he looked like when he was just on his own and that drive that i saw in him to just do to just do

00:40:34.080 regular tasks when he got into a relationship yeah he wasn't less more he was less he was less

00:40:39.520 motivated yeah like when i was speaking to him he was less oh yeah the baby's crying all day i'd like

00:40:44.560 i don't know how megan i don't know how my girlfriend those who all day she's strong she's 0.95

00:40:47.680 strong for that but like me i was baby and it's like it's not to say no don't get this year he he

00:40:52.560 loves that child and he loves that woman that is his family but that element has decreased because

00:40:58.880 of that relationship to some degree what's your opinion go on you're gonna say somebody's gonna drop

00:41:03.200 the testosterone thing yeah so your testosterone drops when you're in a relationship but

00:41:07.600 particularly when you're in a domestic relationship you know it's funny though the

00:41:10.400 one thing that stops your testosterone from dropping in those relationships go on do you know

00:41:15.280 do you guys know what is it try and you cheat on your girl i'm not involved oh my god

00:41:24.240 i'm just a scientist i'm just a scientist savage savage yeah i guess you're still out there but

00:41:29.600 yeah statistically speaking your testosterone does drop especially when you have children so what does

00:41:33.440 that mean so how do you like translate that information you got to cheat

00:41:37.600 you're just like don't lie don't lie don't lie don't lie don't lie don't lie oh the

JustPearlyThings - August 25, 2023

Black DUDE Explains What ALL MEN WANT...

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