JustPearlyThings - June 19, 2023


Blondie DROPS This Red Pill On Modern Women

Topics
having children
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Length

9 minutes

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180.17

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1,647

Sentence count

204

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4

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12

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1

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In this episode, we talk about when is the best time to have kids, how old should you get married and when is a good time to start a family. We also talk about the biological clock and how long it takes to have a baby.

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00:00:01.000 When is the best,
00:00:03.400 when is the ideal time for you to have kids and get married?
00:00:08.120 That you guys would want to do that?
00:00:09.880 Hmm, that's an interesting question
00:00:12.520 because if you asked me like two weeks ago,
00:00:14.680 I'd probably said an older age,
00:00:16.460 but I think maybe sometime a bit younger, like late 20.
00:00:20.320 What's changed in the last two weeks?
00:00:22.720 Hmm, that's a good question.
00:00:24.240 I guess it was just coming to terms
00:00:26.480 with the sort of future I want to have
00:00:29.240 and kind of legacy I want to have, ideally a big family.
00:00:32.200 So, I mean, if you want that ideally,
00:00:34.120 you know, you want to start early.
00:00:35.520 Obviously, as a guy, you know, 0.74
00:00:36.800 you can keep busting nuts till you die,
00:00:39.040 but like, you know, the earlier you start, 0.85
00:00:41.640 you still got like a good, better chance
00:00:43.240 of having a bigger family,
00:00:44.200 which I think would be really nice.
00:00:45.840 Okay.
00:00:46.360 How old are you?
00:00:49.560 I'd prefer not to say if that's all right.
00:00:51.080 Oh, okay.
00:00:51.840 Did you not say your age at the beginning of the show?
00:00:53.760 You dodged it.
00:00:55.000 Did I?
00:00:55.760 I think you did.
00:00:56.760 Huh.
00:00:57.600 You cannot say your age on the show.
00:00:59.640 It's like four questions.
00:01:01.560 Okay, I'm 25.
00:01:02.560 Yeah, you said that earlier.
00:01:04.240 Did I?
00:01:04.840 Yeah, you did.
00:01:05.480 I don't remember, my bad.
00:01:06.560 I don't know.
00:01:07.080 So, you're 25.
00:01:07.920 So, you want like the next like four or five years?
00:01:10.480 Yeah, I'd say so, yeah.
00:01:11.480 Okay, cool.
00:01:12.320 What about you?
00:01:13.360 Um, preferably when I'm like 28, 29,
00:01:18.720 but I'll just want a kid like when I'm financially stable.
00:01:21.480 So, if I'm financially stable by next year,
00:01:23.560 I wouldn't mind to have a kid.
00:01:25.160 Okay.
00:01:25.680 But just when I'm good,
00:01:27.200 like when I know I can give my child a good life,
00:01:29.560 you know, proper education.
00:01:30.400 Do you have a boyfriend though, right?
00:01:32.000 Yeah, yeah.
00:01:32.920 So, what about, would you ever give up your job
00:01:35.960 to like just stay with him?
00:01:37.640 Like, he working?
00:01:39.000 Um, okay.
00:01:41.480 So, I've always said,
00:01:42.400 what I want to do in the future anyway,
00:01:44.480 I want to be like an entertainer,
00:01:46.240 so like a content creator.
00:01:47.520 He asked me what I want to do in the next four years.
00:01:49.200 Like, I want to have a talk show.
00:01:50.680 So, I've got like really big dreams,
00:01:52.800 but I've always said,
00:01:53.560 if I generally didn't have them dreams,
00:01:56.080 I generally wouldn't mind giving up my job,
00:01:58.400 looking after the children, being a housewife.
00:02:00.800 So, I'm good with that,
00:02:01.680 but it's cause I've got like proper big, big, big dreams
00:02:04.480 that I just couldn't,
00:02:05.720 like I couldn't give it up, like no way.
00:02:07.800 Okay.
00:02:09.760 Myself?
00:02:10.520 Yeah.
00:02:11.520 Um, the thing does,
00:02:13.520 we've got biological clock as women 1.00
00:02:17.520 and men have got financial clock 0.89
00:02:19.520 when it comes to children.
00:02:21.040 So, our biological clock,
00:02:22.720 I think is until we're kind of 30, that age,
00:02:27.080 maybe after 30, I don't know, 32,
00:02:29.120 I don't know exactly.
00:02:30.640 But we start running out of the ability
00:02:34.480 of kind of having kids,
00:02:36.240 even though it's possible for a woman
00:02:37.920 when she's 40 something to have a child.
00:02:40.520 The quality of the eggs is not as great as we know.
00:02:43.200 Um, same with men.
00:02:44.400 So, I think, um, same with men as in financially.
00:02:48.480 So, they have financial clock.
00:02:49.600 So, once they're capable of providing for the family,
00:02:51.840 obviously, um, this is when they start thinking of,
00:02:54.400 you know, settling down, um, with kids.
00:02:56.720 So, I think having, um, being 24, I think I still have a fair couple of years to,
00:03:03.840 you know, to, to think about that.
00:03:05.280 But then, I'm thinking I wouldn't really just have children with anybody.
00:03:09.920 So, it's, it's a really tough one nowadays,
00:03:12.560 because I really want to have somebody I know I'm not going to leave,
00:03:16.000 and that I'm secure in a bubble with somebody I can trust,
00:03:18.880 that I can raise really good kids with, you know?
00:03:22.160 Okay, so, what age would you like to do that, ideally?
00:03:25.040 I think...
00:03:25.680 90% of your eggs are gone by 30.
00:03:28.160 Yeah.
00:03:28.720 Geriatric pregnancy starts at 35.
00:03:30.720 That's, yeah.
00:03:31.360 If you're single by 30,
00:03:32.560 you're more likely to not have a kid than have one.
00:03:35.200 Yeah, that's true.
00:03:36.320 So, just knowing those numbers, what age for you would be ideal?
00:03:40.240 If I had a child at 26 to 28, I think that'd be...
00:03:44.880 That'd be ideal.
00:03:45.520 Yeah.
00:03:45.920 Okay.
00:03:47.920 You got to start looking now, right?
00:03:50.640 I mean, yeah, I mean, you know, I'm dating people, so yeah.
00:03:53.520 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:03:54.160 Okay.
00:03:55.360 What about you?
00:03:56.640 Well, um, my answer kind of follows on from hers.
00:04:00.240 So, when my financial clock is at 11.30, then it'll be fine.
00:04:04.880 You know what I'm saying?
00:04:05.680 So, right now, I'm more concerned about amassing money than having a child.
00:04:12.320 So, um, when I'm with a woman who I believe, who shares the same core values as myself,
00:04:19.440 that's definitely going to make it a lot easier.
00:04:21.600 But I'm definitely more focused on money at the moment.
00:04:25.440 Okay.
00:04:26.480 So, what age?
00:04:31.600 Well, um, to tell the truth,
00:04:35.680 I'd be fine having a baby tomorrow.
00:04:40.400 Okay.
00:04:40.880 Okay.
00:04:41.120 If, um, if the lady and I share the same core values, do you know what I'm saying?
00:04:47.200 Okay.
00:04:47.520 But I would definitely like to have more money than I do right now.
00:04:51.600 Okay.
00:04:51.680 Even though I'm not hurting and whatnot.
00:04:53.200 Okay.
00:04:56.960 Uh, I would say, honestly, two, three years ago.
00:05:00.800 Okay.
00:05:01.200 I feel like I'm late to the party. 1.00
00:05:03.200 Uh, I just bought into the whole stupid consumerism thing. 1.00
00:05:05.920 Like, oh, just make a bunch of money, buy a bunch of shit. 1.00
00:05:08.720 And when you do that, you realize, like, family's the number one thing that matters, 0.99
00:05:12.000 at least to me, in my life.
00:05:14.080 So, I'm 37 now.
00:05:15.520 So, I'm looking for a wife. 0.77
00:05:17.760 I'm like, then I'm not out to, like, casually date anymore. 1.00
00:05:21.600 I'm done with that shit. 0.99
00:05:23.840 I want to have a family. 1.00
00:05:24.800 I want to have a lot.
00:05:25.440 I want, ideally, I want five boys.
00:05:26.960 Wow.
00:05:27.840 Five boys.
00:05:28.400 Yeah, I want a huge family.
00:05:29.360 I want a very, very big family.
00:05:31.200 So, I mean, everything's ready.
00:05:32.880 Just need to find the right person now.
00:05:34.160 Okay.
00:05:35.840 What about you?
00:05:37.760 I've not, I can have kids and I cannot have kids.
00:05:41.680 The position that I'm in now.
00:05:43.360 Either way, I think I'll deal with it.
00:05:47.040 So, at what age would I have had kids?
00:05:49.520 I don't think I would have changed it.
00:05:50.960 I don't think I would have said, yeah.
00:05:52.000 Two, three years ago, five years ago, wouldn't I have it?
00:05:55.120 Do you care if you have children or not?
00:05:56.880 Like, is that important to you?
00:05:58.320 Really?
00:05:58.720 No.
00:05:59.280 Have you always been like that or is that new?
00:06:02.800 When I was young, I thought it was something that I had to do.
00:06:05.520 It was my job to do something like that.
00:06:08.240 Mm-hmm.
00:06:08.800 Um, but now it's, I don't feel so much of the pressure.
00:06:13.440 I think maybe because I don't want it as much as when I was younger.
00:06:18.240 My views have changed.
00:06:19.440 I'm just curious, like, when did it change?
00:06:21.600 Was it?
00:06:22.720 Okay.
00:06:23.040 So, when I wanted a, like, marriage and my family and all of that,
00:06:28.560 maybe when I was 15, 16, I had those ideals.
00:06:32.080 Yeah.
00:06:32.720 So, when did you stop having them?
00:06:34.560 When I stopped having those ideals, probably in my 20s, mid-20s.
00:06:39.760 Was it after, like, a breakup or something or?
00:06:43.760 It's multiple reasons.
00:06:45.600 Let's say it could be after a breakup, after big life changes,
00:06:50.240 maybe work changes, mental changes, all of those things.
00:06:53.920 Mm-hmm.
00:06:54.640 Yeah.
00:06:54.880 I'm just wondering, like, what was it for you?
00:06:56.480 Because it's just interesting to me because I feel like most girls
00:06:59.360 start off wanting to have kids.
00:07:00.960 And I'll meet women like you that, you know, they're like, 1.00
00:07:03.840 yeah, I could, I couldn't.
00:07:04.960 It doesn't really matter to me anymore.
00:07:06.880 So, I just, I always wonder, like, what sparks the change?
00:07:09.520 Like, is it your career was really great and maybe that got in front of it?
00:07:13.280 Or a relationship you're in didn't work out?
00:07:16.320 Like, what happened?
00:07:16.960 It could be one of the factors, because there's always many factors.
00:07:20.720 Mm-hmm.
00:07:21.120 One of the factors is that I want to give my child at least what I had.
00:07:26.800 Mm-hmm.
00:07:28.160 And where I can't do that, I don't feel like I want to have a child
00:07:33.600 and not give it what I had.
00:07:35.440 Mm-hmm.
00:07:36.400 So, with that, I'm okay with having children, not with having children.
00:07:40.080 Adoption, I don't, that's open as well, but it's not open for everyone
00:07:44.880 that I do understand.
00:07:46.080 Mm-hmm.
00:07:47.040 Me, personally, I'm okay with it.
00:07:48.640 Mm-hmm.
00:07:51.200 I had a question, but I forgot what it was.
00:07:53.040 I had a question for you.
00:07:56.800 It was, what?
00:08:01.120 I don't remember, sorry.
00:08:02.160 I might come back.
00:08:03.120 I know, I was like, it was a good question, too, though.
00:08:05.360 So, this is bothering me.
00:08:07.920 Okay, how, I'm curious on the panel, how many kids does everybody want?
00:08:13.040 Three.
00:08:14.560 Okay, actually, I want to do raise a hand.
00:08:16.720 So, one kid.
00:08:18.000 That's keep it up until it's not.
00:08:21.840 Yeah, just raise your hand when you, when you are, two kids.
00:08:25.760 Three kids.
00:08:27.200 Three.
00:08:27.840 Three kids, okay.
00:08:30.560 I'm happy with all of them.
00:08:31.680 I think I'll keep my hand up.
00:08:32.800 Okay, okay.
00:08:33.120 Okay, okay.
00:08:33.680 Four kids.
00:08:37.040 Three.
00:08:38.320 Three to four.
00:08:39.440 Okay, four kids.
00:08:42.000 Five kids.
00:08:43.600 Oh, you two.
00:08:44.320 Five, okay.
00:08:45.320 I'd say about six.
00:08:45.980 Six?
00:08:46.560 Okay, cool, cool.
00:08:47.920 So, it's interesting, though, because it seems like in order to have that type of family,
00:08:54.080 everyone would have probably had to have started younger, right?
00:08:57.840 Maybe not the guys, but the girls, at least.
00:09:00.240 Well, I'm 21, so. 1.00
00:09:01.760 Oh, shit, you're 21. 0.99
00:09:02.720 I'm sorry. 0.99
00:09:03.280 I'm sorry.
00:09:04.080 She's on the right path.
00:09:05.200 Yeah.
00:09:05.600 I know.
00:09:06.080 I know.
00:09:06.480 I know.