JustPearlyThings - May 02, 2023


Blue Pilled Only Fans Model Gets In His Feelings


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

216.46375

Word Count

2,009

Sentence Count

8

Misogynist Sentences

18

Hate Speech Sentences

14


Summary

In this episode, the brother and sister duo of the sit down and discuss the topic of single mothers leaving their kids with their partner. Is it a good or bad thing when a single mother decides to leave her kids with her partner? Is it something that should be talked about or is it something you should avoid?


Transcript

00:00:00.000 That's the other like that's the other issue. I've heard is like does she respect your authority over the kids because they're not your kids
00:00:06.900 Well, it depends how long you've been together because obviously if you're in the beginning of your relationship
00:00:11.780 It's not gonna but if you're not respecting him in the beginning, how does he know you'll respect him in the future?
00:00:16.100 You're respecting him, but in the same time you have to build that trust over time
00:00:19.980 How did you feel bro just out of curiosity giving back to those three kids?
00:00:23.400 Would you see it as some people insinuating as
00:00:25.880 Something that you wouldn't encourage your next man to go through. Do you regret it at all?
00:00:30.160 I don't regret it. I don't regret it. I mean, I think it's taken a mental toll on me
00:00:34.920 However, I don't regret it
00:00:36.320 I feel like the input which I put into those children's lives, you know has been positive and I think that one day when they grow up
00:00:42.320 They won't they will have really appreciate
00:00:44.320 But what have you sacrificed and that's what I'm saying. Yeah, it's like I wouldn't even like to have a breakup with a girl and her keep the dog
00:00:51.640 It would fuck me. I love dogs
00:00:53.640 Let alone like me attaching myself to a child and feeling like I love this kid
00:00:59.440 I feel like it's mine, but it isn't like literally nothing to do with me after that day
00:01:05.360 Would you encourage your son to do it?
00:01:08.860 To do what I wouldn't you know, I I'm personally I believe in hope and and you know positivity
00:01:14.920 So I would hope that you know if my son did go into that situation
00:01:18.740 He would be able to make the right decisions to make that relationship lost
00:01:23.500 And stick out for the long run because as I say, you know, a child needs a father
00:01:29.260 You can be that positive
00:01:31.260 Male model in someone's life then be it
00:01:33.260 Don't you know I'm in her to get back with the dad of her kids like isn't it better if the actual dad is in their lives? Yeah
00:01:39.700 Yeah, so my question is if she's leaving though, and I'm not talking about your personal
00:01:46.240 Yeah, yeah, but if she's leaving the mud like the father of her kids which more likely than not she did
00:01:51.940 Yeah, and it's like what incentive does she have to stay with you?
00:01:56.120 If she didn't even make it work with the guy who she had a child because we don't know
00:02:00.160 We don't know that the dad that she was with he might have been abusing her physically
00:02:04.080 You might have been and there's a little bit of a red pill on abuse not as many women that say they were abused were abused
00:02:09.840 And a lot of people don't know this because of the way the family court system is you have to ask if they filed a criminal case
00:02:15.200 And if the answer is no, they may not have been because the family court you don't need any evidence to accuse and even
00:02:21.000 Prattly sort of prosecute where there's legal consequences a guy of abuse
00:02:26.080 So there's a lot of girls that go around saying they're abused and they weren't I
00:02:30.520 Just think it's a good thing to do and I don't want to lose hope in you man
00:02:33.580 I
00:02:35.580 Wouldn't go as far to say that if you were to date a girl who has a child exclusively makes you a coward
00:02:41.040 But because of my personal experience fuck I'm gonna say don't make you a coward
00:02:44.340 But you have to definitely be scarce going into that situation with
00:02:48.500 You know what knowingly knowing that I would just say don't do it to be honest
00:02:56.660 I think that men deserve to have standards
00:03:00.400 Yeah, and if I if I know a guy and I think he's a good man and he's worked hard to have like to build a good career
00:03:05.160 And he has a lot going for him. I would never tell him to risk that by dating a single mother
00:03:09.660 It's not I don't have anything personal against single mothers
00:03:12.280 But if I'm talking to my brother or someone I love
00:03:14.860 No, I wouldn't want them to do that
00:03:16.860 Okay, because I mean looking back in the situation how much of my finances really went into raising these children and they're not actually my children
00:03:23.860 And what did you get out of my time?
00:03:25.860 Yeah, I haven't got much out of it
00:03:27.860 You did you refer to them as three beautiful children
00:03:32.860 You are passionate about them, you care about them
00:03:34.860 And they care about you
00:03:35.860 No, but we have to remember he's not disposable
00:03:36.860 That's priceless
00:03:37.860 Their mum could just turn around to me
00:03:38.860 But you're disposable
00:03:39.860 If it is your children
00:03:40.860 No, it's another guy that's not going to come into
00:03:42.860 Okay, I'm trying to get my head around this life
00:03:44.860 If it is your kid biologically, what makes you think that the woman is going to stay with you more so than if it's not your kid?
00:03:49.860 If she was to leave you, she's going to leave you regardless if it's your kid, if it's your dog, if it's your cat
00:03:52.860 Right, right, right
00:03:53.860 But what's the best predictor of future behaviour?
00:03:55.860 Yes
00:03:56.860 Past behaviour
00:03:57.860 So if she's done it before, she's likely to do it again
00:04:00.860 But we need to understand why
00:04:02.860 No, but you need to know the whole story
00:04:04.860 What's to say that she
00:04:06.860 The why is very important
00:04:07.860 Right, but something's wrong with her decision making
00:04:10.860 No, but it may not have been with her
00:04:12.860 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait
00:04:13.860 Something is wrong, okay
00:04:14.860 Because I genuinely believe everything in life is your own goddamn fault
00:04:17.860 You are the product of your choices, okay
00:04:20.860 So if she is a single mother, she either likes abusive and toxic men
00:04:23.860 Which means you won't live up because she likes the drama
00:04:26.860 She likes something about it, that's what she picks
00:04:28.860 Or, or she leaves when it gets hard
00:04:32.860 But maybe there's other, there's other situations
00:04:35.860 But what about if, what about if, okay, you're saying
00:04:39.860 Okay, she's the one that left, okay, let's flip it and reverse it
00:04:43.860 He was the one that left her and then made her a single mother
00:04:47.860 Good question
00:04:48.860 Do you feel that she now, because he decided to walk away from the responsibility
00:04:54.860 Because it got too much for him
00:04:55.860 I would first
00:04:56.860 Would you feel that it's okay for her to just be right off because he chose to leave?
00:05:01.860 I would say she has a poor choice in men
00:05:04.860 Yeah, I would say, I would say that says
00:05:06.860 How could you say
00:05:07.860 How could you
00:05:08.860 Yeah, you're still blaming her
00:05:09.860 No, I think he shouldn't leave
00:05:11.860 I think it's wrong for him to leave
00:05:13.860 But I know too much about the court system here
00:05:15.860 Like I know too much
00:05:16.860 A lot of women, no, a lot of women keep the kids away from the fathers
00:05:20.860 Facts
00:05:21.860 They absolutely do
00:05:22.860 And so a lot of men grow up thinking their dad's a deadbeat and he's not
00:05:26.860 And that's another risk you're going to get with the single mom
00:05:29.860 You're only hearing her side of the story
00:05:31.860 No, and I understand that
00:05:32.860 So you don't know the full picture
00:05:34.860 So if she's saying, oh, he abused me, he this
00:05:37.860 Well, now I know that you're accusing a guy of abuse
00:05:40.860 She could accuse you of abuse
00:05:42.860 Because you don't know if she's telling the truth
00:05:44.860 No, I understand that
00:05:45.860 No, I understand that
00:05:46.860 So like these are just all risk factors that go up
00:05:49.860 So I think men deserve to have standards
00:05:51.860 I think men can demand
00:05:52.860 I want an in-shape, childless woman
00:05:54.860 I think men have every right to say that
00:05:56.860 And they should
00:05:57.860 Because genuinely I think women wouldn't leave as much
00:06:00.860 If men stopped putting up with this
00:06:02.860 If women knew if I have two kids and I don't make this work
00:06:05.860 Nobody is going to want me
00:06:07.860 I think they would figure it out a lot more
00:06:09.860 But they always think the grass is greener on the other side
00:06:12.860 And a lot of times it's not
00:06:14.860 You know what?
00:06:15.860 Sometimes I have to disagree
00:06:16.860 But in this instance she's kind of right
00:06:18.860 No, no, no
00:06:19.860 I get what you're saying
00:06:21.860 But I mean like you were saying
00:06:24.860 Where does that leave
00:06:25.860 It's just, it's unfortunate
00:06:27.860 A whole magnitude of young kids and broken women
00:06:31.860 Are going to be ostracised and marginalised
00:06:33.860 That's not nice
00:06:34.860 Whether it's good or not, it's just not a nice thing
00:06:36.860 But it's honest
00:06:38.860 No, it is honest
00:06:40.860 But at the same time
00:06:42.860 It hurts me, it breaks my heart
00:06:44.860 It kind of, you know
00:06:45.860 It's, I don't know
00:06:46.860 Like I totally received and understood everything that you just said
00:06:50.860 Facts, facts, factually
00:06:51.860 But there is a part of me that I have to say that I can't wholeheartedly go 100% and say I agree with that
00:06:58.860 Because like you stated
00:07:00.860 Like, you know, your father wasn't there
00:07:03.860 Never
00:07:04.860 And another person stepped in
00:07:06.860 Idiot
00:07:07.860 And like you said it didn't fill the gap
00:07:09.860 But he's the exception of the rule
00:07:10.860 And those men who are willing to do that
00:07:12.860 They're great guys
00:07:13.860 You know your stepdad, great guy
00:07:15.860 He's my role model
00:07:16.860 And I'm certainly not saying that men who do that are bad guys
00:07:19.860 They're great
00:07:20.860 I mean
00:07:21.860 But equally
00:07:22.860 As he found out
00:07:23.860 It's a risk
00:07:24.860 All this energy
00:07:25.860 All this money
00:07:26.860 All this time
00:07:27.860 And then have nothing to show for it
00:07:28.860 And don't get me wrong
00:07:29.860 Yes, the memory is in those kids' minds and all of that
00:07:31.860 That's a lovely thing
00:07:32.860 But reality is
00:07:33.860 What did it take out to him?
00:07:35.860 And if I was giving advice to my kid
00:07:37.860 And I think
00:07:38.860 If I was having an open and honest conversation with none of these cameras here with my boys
00:07:41.860 We'd all say ideally
00:07:43.860 It's not the ideal scenario
00:07:44.860 Yeah, but to say it's a risk
00:07:46.860 It's almost to insinuate that it's risk-free
00:07:48.860 I would go further
00:07:49.860 I would say never do it
00:07:50.860 I would say don't do it
00:07:51.860 But you can't say that
00:07:52.860 I mean
00:07:53.860 Go through what I went through
00:07:54.860 Yeah
00:07:55.860 And being in the relationship
00:07:57.860 And having these children sort of
00:07:59.860 If I can paint the picture
00:08:00.860 You know
00:08:01.860 One of the children was
00:08:02.860 Two years old when I came into her life
00:08:05.860 You know what I mean?
00:08:06.860 So she only really saw me as a father figure
00:08:08.860 The other two children were a little bit older
00:08:10.860 So they knew their dad
00:08:11.860 Yeah
00:08:12.860 And knew him to be doing father activities and stuff
00:08:15.860 But
00:08:16.860 When I came in
00:08:17.860 I was like their dad
00:08:18.860 So from when we broke up
00:08:20.860 And I have
00:08:21.860 I no longer have
00:08:22.860 Access to them children as much as I did
00:08:24.860 If I was to get into a love relationship now
00:08:27.860 If the person had children
00:08:29.860 I wouldn't totally write off
00:08:30.860 But I would
00:08:31.860 Be cautious
00:08:32.860 Yeah, be cautious of being around them children
00:08:34.860 I probably wouldn't have much of a relationship
00:08:35.860 And that's understandable from your experience
00:08:37.860 I understand
00:08:38.860 I understand it logically and practically
00:08:39.860 But what I don't like
00:08:40.860 Is the
00:08:43.860 The reference to risk
00:08:45.860 Riskiness
00:08:46.860 This term
00:08:47.860 Because life
00:08:48.860 Life is a risk
00:08:50.860 Life is a risk
00:08:51.860 You marry a woman
00:08:52.860 Exactly
00:08:53.860 Down the aisle
00:08:54.860 And you say
00:08:55.860 Yeah I do
00:08:56.860 Mate, if you think
00:08:57.860 You are risk free from her cheating on you
00:08:58.860 You're crazy
00:08:59.860 Everything's a risk
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