Body Positivity Made People DELUSIONAL
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In this episode, we discuss the role of food in society and the impact it has on our mental health. We also discuss the importance of eating in moderation and the role food has played in shaping the way we grow up.
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Can I just remind you all that body positivity isn't only like people with
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big black relatives. It's about unable people as well. People are born deformed,
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some people are born with disabilities. I think body positivity is also linked
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with that. But the main marketing component of body positivity is towards
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women to say you can be obese. I just don't think we should celebrate
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something that's a choice. You're celebrating it when you're putting on
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the cover of magazines. That's a reward. That's like a positive thing when you're
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you're specifically giving people parts because they're plus size. When you're
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specifically trying to put it out there make that the representation of in the
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media. And it's interesting too because earlier you said like that you seem to
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say like you couldn't lose the weight. Was that what you were saying earlier?
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Yes, I couldn't. But it's but it's like before we the podcast start you drink a
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Coke. I'm not trying to call you out but it's like. No, no, no, no. No, don't get me wrong.
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Yeah. Hello, I'm on your podcast. I want to have a good time, you know. I'm not at home.
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I don't need to be drinking all healthy stuff. The reason I say that is just
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because I'll hear people say that but then I like watch what they eat and I'm like it
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doesn't seem to add up. Do you know it's just about representation. It's it's basically the
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little things from like, there's, for example, you can go to a store, you can't get certain
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things. You can order something from online, you can't see, you can't actually because
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there's not the person wearing it, you can't see it. I was actually gonna say something. What I wanted
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to say is, um, it's actually just go and go and take it away. I think it's just the
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man thought just escaped. That's fine. I think it all starts as well from a young age and how
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you're brought up. Yes. And the way that your parents feed you and what they do for you being
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brought up. Well, and that's why I think it's so important to like get in control of your eating
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habits. If you want to have children because it's not fair to the next generation to be brought up
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with eating habits that will give you an early grave. And I even think about that with myself
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because I have like a horrible sugar addiction. I literally love sugar. It's so bad. So does
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everybody else. It's addictive. Right. But we do have like health problems because like a lot of
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people in my family eat a lot of, I forget what the early onset something. I don't know. I'm not a
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person, but, but like, I think of this even for myself, you know? So I think it's like important
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that we don't celebrate that sort of thing. Yeah. I agree with that because growing up for me,
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I used to see my mum forever doing different diets. Yeah. Going on the Cambridge diet, you know,
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when you just eat the shakes and you have those cardboard bars, you know, the kilo diet. Yeah.
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And I remember being at school and my mum was happy to say, I'd be like, mum, I want to go on a diet.
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And she'd pack my rivita with my fruit. And I was, I was at school at year eight, year nine. So it's 12,
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13. Yeah. And my mum was happy to do that. Whereas, you know, it's, it's, it's, it's created bad habits
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for me and unhealthy eating habits. Yeah. I think everything in moderation. Do you know what I
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realized too? I think it's, um, a problem that comes from moms not being in the home anymore.
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Yeah. Because when moms are in the home, they're watching like what everyone's eating.
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It's like they're full, full. It's, it's tough to do that to watch what everyone's eating when you're,
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you're working like 20, 30, 40 hours a week. In addition to that too, in addition to that, these,
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the, a lot of these food companies are behind the body, body positivity movement because they know
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that their food is not really food. It's like legislative poison. They have so much high fructose
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culture and stuff. And then in addition to that too, the rates of home cooking is going down
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all across the globe. Guilty. Yeah. And then, you know, people want to order Uber Eats and this
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and all that crap. And then you're just eating processed food. And I personally, this is me,
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I'm not, well, I don't have a food degree or whatever, my degree is in psychology, but I do believe
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that the rise that we're seeing, we're ever seeing an increasing rate of cancer in people.
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I think that's directly correlated to the amount of processed food that we're consuming.
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This is what I wanted to say earlier. Body positivity is important. And the reason why it's important
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is because people have grown, grown up watching different things. They've watched a certain
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type of people. They've watched a certain type of behaviour and people, there are some people
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that don't leave their house. There are some people who travel. There are some people who don't
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experience much. And they don't know, they judge people, they have certain behaviours, what was
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taught on telly. And that's why it's important. It's not because it's important, like big people
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should be promoted. It's important because some people actually aren't nice and some people do judge
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and some people speak, use a certain language. And if there was, while growing up, if there was a mixture
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of people, if there were a mixture of cultures, mixtures of backgrounds, all these things, yeah,
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body positivity wouldn't be needed. But unfortunately, we've been programmed to think this is beautiful,
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that is beautiful. I don't think so. No, no, because if you try, if you look at, because they did a study
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on this, this is what I do for a living, so let me just tell you. So they did a study on female
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attractiveness across all cultures, over multiple different generations and time periods. And what
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guys like is still the same. Small hips, nice butt, big breasts. Shall I tell you why? I have something here,
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too. It says, obese women are 20% less likely to marry. This is a survey of over 10,000 people,
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which is a huge sample size. According to a large 2022 social survey on dating, 65% of men would
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would assign a rejection score to three out of five women, meaning they would, they're more likely to
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reject them. And 18% of men assign a five out of five rejection score, meaning they would definitely
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reject them. So on that, I'd like to point out that we are talking about obese people,
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because fatness is seen as the monolith of body positivity and fat people are an easy target.
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We can have skinny people on the covers of magazines and no one will say anything.
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You won't hear a peep, but their help is still in danger in many instances.
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No, they did in the early 2000s. They said the girls were too skinny.
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I actually remember that. Yeah, no, they definitely did.
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Anorexia was literally a thing. Models were, yeah, they were demonizing it.
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The casting directors were getting sued all sorts.
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Yeah, that's what I'm saying. People complained.
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You think they're being replaced by fat people?
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Let's look at, let's look at the Victoria's Secret fashion show.
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You cannot tell me that that was not one of the most competitive,
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like everyone wanted to be a Victoria's Secret model.
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Since they've switched to Victoria's Secret has been bleeding money.
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You need to think about how these brands are moving as well.
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With Victoria's Secret, it was this tall woman.
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Yeah, she's a certain looking type and you really see a difference
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She's involving a whole load of rage and she's getting the sales.
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So Victoria's Secret didn't move with the time and now the event is taking over.
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I don't think we should have to adjust because of people's choices.
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Like I don't like, because if you make a choice to be overweight,
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Why does there have to be representation on the cover of magazines?
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Why do they have to make specific stores for bigger people?
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When really, we should be focusing on losing the weight.
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You're tall and imagine you going to, I'm guessing loads of places you go
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I can't actually, I can't include myself in that.
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And I have to pay extra money, but I live, you know.
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There are different types of reasons why people are big.
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Some people, well, look at, I'll personally, and I'll put this on the podcast.
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Anyone says they have, that they have no choice in being big,
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I'll pay for their personal training and their nutrition.
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Well, Pearl, if I want to lose weight, okay, if I want to lose weight,
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can I get in touch with you if I want to lose weight?
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But then look, there's certain laws of physics too that are like,
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Like the only way you get fat is from over consuming calories.
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My mom just came to Tokyo and I told her to you,
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I'm going to take care of you, but you got to be in fat camp.
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And so I brought her over and I had to teach her the fundamentals of losing weight,
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fasting, physical fitness training, muscle training, and all these things, right?
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She was grossly, grossly undereducated on these things.
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So, but you know what she told me before she came to Tokyo?
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She's like, well, I have been going through menopause.
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But that is literally impossible for you just to spontaneously create fat cells.
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Like it is understanding your daily calorie needs.
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And then if you over consume those daily calorie needs,
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your body will convert the remainder of food into fat.
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So I'm not saying, I understand what you're saying, like being fat isn't choice,
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but because I think people are just undereducated.
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Because when you do over consume food, because a lot of people like, you know,
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when I see these girls drinking these like venti size Starbucks with like 800,