JustPearlyThings - May 17, 2023


Boss Babe Claims That She Isn’t A Feminist


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

194.50034

Word Count

2,030

Sentence Count

156

Misogynist Sentences

29

Hate Speech Sentences

19


Summary

In this episode, we discuss whether or not feminism is a disaster and what we would do if we were in the position of being a feminist. We also talk about the dangers of having multiple sexual partners and why we shouldn t sleep around.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Okay, so today's topic, is feminism a disaster?
00:00:04.480 So I'd like to go around and everyone say,
00:00:07.220 if you consider yourself a feminist, yes, no, and then why?
00:00:12.660 I'd say no.
00:00:14.660 I'm not a feminist because I think I believe,
00:00:19.740 I'm in between, I would say, but I'll say no,
00:00:22.120 because I don't think, there's things that men can do
00:00:25.940 and there's things that women can't do,
00:00:27.600 and there's things that women can do and there's things that men can't do,
00:00:30.220 if that makes sense.
00:00:31.200 So I feel that's why I'm in the middle
00:00:33.440 and I'm still saying a bit of, nah, I'm not a feminist.
00:00:37.100 Okay.
00:00:39.140 Yeah, me, I'm similar to Janay.
00:00:41.760 I don't think I'm a feminist because I do believe that,
00:00:44.900 I am like strong on like gender roles.
00:00:48.540 So I do believe that there's certain things that a woman should do in a relationship,
00:00:53.280 there's certain things a man should do in a relationship,
00:00:54.860 but I'm also like big on women empowerment.
00:00:58.640 I just don't feel like it collides.
00:01:01.540 Yeah.
00:01:01.980 Okay, go ahead.
00:01:03.460 I would say no.
00:01:05.240 I don't really identify with anything that feminism stands for anymore.
00:01:10.040 Okay, go ahead.
00:01:12.640 Yeah, I'm sort of like in between.
00:01:14.720 I would say I'm very much a traditional feminist,
00:01:18.840 not so much a modern feminist.
00:01:21.300 I still have those traditional values
00:01:23.920 and I feel like I do believe in female empowerment.
00:01:28.000 I do believe in the movement of feminism.
00:01:31.900 Yeah.
00:01:33.000 Okay, go ahead.
00:01:34.200 Yeah, I would say I'm sort of in between as well,
00:01:37.020 but it just gets a bit too technical.
00:01:39.340 I believe in them obviously opening doors for women,
00:01:42.580 but it gets too technical for me.
00:01:44.700 So for me, I'm in between as well, this feminist role.
00:01:47.700 Okay.
00:01:47.960 I do not consider myself to be a feminist whatsoever.
00:01:52.300 A man and a woman has complete different duties and roles.
00:01:55.620 They're not equal.
00:01:56.840 A man's purpose is to protect, provide, hunt and lead
00:02:00.740 and a woman's purpose is to nurture and reproduce
00:02:03.420 as far as I'm concerned.
00:02:04.960 They are not equal.
00:02:06.940 I'm not a feminist.
00:02:08.580 I'm very in tune with myself spiritually
00:02:10.400 and I feel like everything in the modern day world
00:02:14.020 just really collides with my spirit.
00:02:16.040 So definitely not.
00:02:17.940 Wow.
00:02:18.440 A whole room, not one feminist.
00:02:20.180 Wow.
00:02:21.700 Why do you guys think that is?
00:02:23.140 Where has it gone too far?
00:02:28.120 Promiscuity is promoted.
00:02:29.260 I think that's too far.
00:02:32.180 I think for women,
00:02:34.760 having multiple sexual partners
00:02:36.220 is really bad for your mental health.
00:02:39.480 It messes up your hormones biologically
00:02:41.600 and also like,
00:02:43.760 even if you're not technically sleeping with all of them,
00:02:46.840 what kind of person are you
00:02:47.940 if you're just an object on millions of people's screens
00:02:50.340 and all that object is,
00:02:51.940 is your boobs and bum.
00:02:54.380 They're not really seeing you for who you are.
00:02:56.260 And if you don't care about who you are enough
00:02:58.860 to put that out there
00:03:00.320 and all you want to put out there is your body,
00:03:02.440 then I think that shows that
00:03:03.740 maybe there's something not quite right inside
00:03:07.200 that maybe you don't value in yourself.
00:03:09.160 So you only value the exterior part of yourself.
00:03:12.860 Do you guys know women that can sleep around
00:03:14.620 and are genuinely happy doing it?
00:03:16.460 No.
00:03:17.060 I don't think I've ever met one.
00:03:18.880 Really?
00:03:19.500 No.
00:03:20.500 No one?
00:03:21.240 No.
00:03:21.740 So why do you think it's pushed so much
00:03:23.460 if the outcomes aren't good for women?
00:03:24.820 Because I feel like people,
00:03:28.500 like people that maybe,
00:03:30.140 this is just like from me watching,
00:03:33.800 but I feel like people that maybe do sleep around a lot,
00:03:37.380 maybe if they don't actually like know who they are
00:03:39.920 or like know what they stand for completely
00:03:42.040 and they want to act like they're happy,
00:03:44.460 so they'll tell people,
00:03:45.360 yeah, this is what makes me happy.
00:03:46.480 This is what I do.
00:03:47.480 So you do it too.
00:03:48.460 So it's like,
00:03:49.240 it's like some whole gang thing.
00:03:50.960 Like even Amber Rose,
00:03:52.900 for example,
00:03:53.720 this,
00:03:54.120 what is that thing she does,
00:03:55.060 a nude walk?
00:03:56.260 The slut walk.
00:03:57.220 Oh,
00:03:57.500 slut walk.
00:03:58.180 Yeah,
00:03:58.660 the slut walk.
00:03:59.940 Wait,
00:04:00.160 okay.
00:04:00.720 Would anyone go to a slut walk?
00:04:02.160 Anyone here?
00:04:02.720 No.
00:04:03.000 Okay,
00:04:03.200 continue.
00:04:04.160 Yeah,
00:04:04.340 I'll go,
00:04:04.740 no,
00:04:04.900 I can't lie.
00:04:05.600 I would go for fun,
00:04:07.160 like to watch it.
00:04:08.020 I would do interviews.
00:04:09.600 Yeah,
00:04:09.960 I thought,
00:04:10.300 yeah,
00:04:10.600 that's exactly what I was going to say.
00:04:11.800 I would go to like interview people
00:04:13.340 and say,
00:04:13.860 you know,
00:04:14.120 what is it?
00:04:14.960 But I don't think I would take part
00:04:16.620 in a slut walk.
00:04:17.680 No.
00:04:18.500 Yeah,
00:04:19.340 definitely.
00:04:19.780 No,
00:04:20.040 I don't think so.
00:04:21.080 But yeah,
00:04:21.420 what I was going to say about the Amber Rose
00:04:23.100 slut walk,
00:04:24.360 I feel like with feminism now,
00:04:26.800 it's,
00:04:27.840 if you show your,
00:04:28.560 the more body you show,
00:04:30.340 the more empowered you are as a woman.
00:04:32.160 And I feel like there's so much more to that.
00:04:34.580 And it's like,
00:04:35.300 they try and talk for all women as a whole,
00:04:37.960 when really this is your opinion.
00:04:39.920 So even in dating now,
00:04:41.780 it's like men,
00:04:43.320 they'll come and talk to you.
00:04:44.580 In a certain way,
00:04:45.820 like you're a feminist already,
00:04:47.100 like they just think you're a feminist.
00:04:48.480 I don't know.
00:04:49.300 I don't have to explain it,
00:04:50.100 but yeah.
00:04:50.680 Do you think older women sabotage younger women?
00:04:53.440 Yeah.
00:04:54.220 Yeah.
00:04:55.740 Yeah.
00:04:56.360 I feel like,
00:04:57.940 going back to what we were just talking about as well,
00:04:59.840 like I feel like women are trying to compete with men.
00:05:03.480 And I think that is literally where the problem is.
00:05:06.120 We are trying to compete with men.
00:05:07.940 Why is it okay for a man to sleep with loads of women,
00:05:10.480 but it's not okay for me?
00:05:11.980 And actually,
00:05:12.600 do we actually enjoy that?
00:05:14.920 Like we have to actually ask ourselves,
00:05:17.660 like,
00:05:17.980 do we actually enjoy casually giving our body like that?
00:05:23.680 And,
00:05:23.980 you know,
00:05:24.320 because we have emotions and we,
00:05:26.160 you know,
00:05:26.380 we feel things.
00:05:27.280 And like for men,
00:05:28.340 it's different.
00:05:28.900 They can go and do that and have zero emotion.
00:05:31.720 Whereas with women,
00:05:32.760 it's completely different.
00:05:33.760 And we can't,
00:05:34.820 you know,
00:05:35.360 deny that.
00:05:36.720 So is it though?
00:05:38.400 Like,
00:05:38.700 do you actually think like,
00:05:40.020 do you actually,
00:05:40.380 most of my friends,
00:05:41.860 I feel like,
00:05:42.840 you know,
00:05:43.740 they tell me stories and they sleep with someone and they get attached.
00:05:49.280 Like,
00:05:49.680 so you don't think men do,
00:05:51.560 or do you think they're just better hiding their emotions because of like,
00:05:54.140 no,
00:05:54.840 they don't.
00:05:55.820 Because I think so.
00:05:56.840 No,
00:05:57.240 I,
00:05:57.540 I,
00:05:58.120 men can literally go and do that and have a zero emotion.
00:06:01.480 They can do that.
00:06:02.580 And,
00:06:02.880 and they're programmed to be like that.
00:06:04.440 Whereas why are we trying to compete with that?
00:06:07.240 But,
00:06:07.880 but just because someone's programmed to be like something,
00:06:10.540 I don't feel like they're being completely open and saying like,
00:06:13.940 they can just go and sleep around with anyone and they don't feel any,
00:06:16.800 like,
00:06:17.060 I don't believe that.
00:06:18.560 Like,
00:06:18.980 I actually,
00:06:19.660 I don't think they've got to the root of the problem of why they can do that
00:06:22.400 because that's not humane.
00:06:23.540 But,
00:06:23.640 but the thing is like when men have money,
00:06:25.120 power and status,
00:06:25.820 they do do it.
00:06:26.660 So it's like easy for a guy.
00:06:28.240 It's a trend for a man.
00:06:29.400 It's like,
00:06:29.440 is Chris Brown like saying,
00:06:30.740 stop,
00:06:31.180 stop.
00:06:32.520 No,
00:06:32.960 of course they're loving it.
00:06:34.000 Don't sleep with me.
00:06:34.880 Of course they're loving it.
00:06:35.900 But I feel like there's effects that is just,
00:06:38.000 it's not attached to,
00:06:39.400 okay,
00:06:40.100 you're sleeping with loads of people.
00:06:41.440 This is why you feel like that.
00:06:42.460 I feel like they might feel type of ways,
00:06:44.680 but they're not attaching it to,
00:06:46.040 oh,
00:06:46.260 cause I'm just going around sleeping with loads of women.
00:06:48.220 Cause I've got loads of male friends and I see the after effect that it has
00:06:52.420 with them sleeping with loads of women,
00:06:53.620 but they won't actually admit it.
00:06:55.780 Yeah.
00:06:55.980 They won't actually admit it or pinpoint it on that.
00:06:58.480 But I think that sort of goes back,
00:07:00.900 that sort of goes back to like the whole peer pressure with men and
00:07:04.460 maintaining this image of like,
00:07:06.640 you know,
00:07:06.900 when you become successful and you have money,
00:07:09.260 the girls come with it.
00:07:10.440 And I feel like a lot of men are trying to force that.
00:07:14.460 And that's probably why your friends are feeling some type of way afterwards
00:07:18.440 because they're doing something,
00:07:19.880 but maybe they don't really want to be doing it.
00:07:22.900 But also I'll be real.
00:07:24.780 Like when men obviously sleep around,
00:07:27.660 their body's not going to change.
00:07:29.160 If a woman sleeps around,
00:07:30.680 your body's a temporary,
00:07:31.440 your body's going to change.
00:07:32.320 It's going to adapt to whoever you're sleeping with.
00:07:34.140 So that's where,
00:07:36.640 you know what I mean?
00:07:37.200 I'm saying like,
00:07:38.620 okay,
00:07:39.540 the levels of women and men financially are like the same,
00:07:43.460 but like following,
00:07:45.520 being full of fashion,
00:07:47.460 like it's like,
00:07:49.540 you're the mean,
00:07:50.340 like you're,
00:07:50.960 you're lowering your standards and your body changes.
00:07:53.280 Like women,
00:07:54.180 we're very,
00:07:55.220 we all adapt to a man.
00:07:56.780 Well,
00:07:57.600 not me,
00:07:58.120 but you know what I'm saying?
00:07:59.300 As for men,
00:08:00.320 they just,
00:08:00.960 you know what I mean?
00:08:01.400 They can go around,
00:08:02.860 do what they're doing,
00:08:03.540 honky dory.
00:08:04.180 Their body's not going to change.
00:08:05.640 A woman's body does change.
00:08:07.340 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:08.020 You're a key.
00:08:09.460 So.
00:08:10.300 Yeah,
00:08:10.920 very true.
00:08:11.740 Yeah,
00:08:11.980 very true.
00:08:12.380 And I feel like as women,
00:08:13.540 we,
00:08:13.760 we just have a lot more to lose and that there's a lot more at stake for us.
00:08:18.060 So that's why we are naturally going to be very,
00:08:21.240 you know,
00:08:22.340 picky and selective.
00:08:24.040 And,
00:08:24.760 you know,
00:08:26.260 I,
00:08:26.560 I pride myself in being selective and,
00:08:29.200 you know,
00:08:29.520 not giving my body freely to just anyone.
00:08:32.620 Like,
00:08:33.380 do you think you guys could respect a guy and follow his lead?
00:08:39.080 If you make more money than him?
00:08:40.400 Subconsciously,
00:08:42.900 I don't think.
00:08:43.400 Whoa.
00:08:45.080 No.
00:08:45.680 I don't mind like in terms of finances,
00:08:48.020 it doesn't make a difference to me.
00:08:49.500 Yeah,
00:08:49.660 I wouldn't mind if my partner made more money than me.
00:08:52.400 It's as long as you talk to me with the same level of respect,
00:08:54.700 because I'm still earning.
00:08:56.060 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:56.340 So what if you were paying 80% of the bills and you had to buy a house?
00:09:00.220 So let's say you pay.
00:09:01.560 That don't make sense.
00:09:02.200 Yeah,
00:09:02.320 let's say,
00:09:02.880 let's say that I'm just taking it to the,
00:09:04.960 like to the extreme.
00:09:05.920 You're paying 80% of the bills and he says,
00:09:08.900 we're buying this house.
00:09:10.400 And you don't like it.
00:09:11.280 You hate it.
00:09:12.000 Are you going to go with it?
00:09:13.080 No.
00:09:13.940 You'd have to convince me why we're buying it.
00:09:16.260 You'd have to make logical sense.
00:09:18.040 I personally,
00:09:19.180 I think.
00:09:20.020 The whole point is that you're not submitting if he has to convince you.
00:09:23.440 True.
00:09:23.680 That's like,
00:09:24.000 if it's your boss and he tells you to do something,
00:09:26.000 you just do it.
00:09:26.860 True.
00:09:27.300 True.
00:09:27.400 So it's kind of,
00:09:28.220 I mean,
00:09:28.560 I think when we're being honest,
00:09:29.760 it's hard to submit to someone if they don't make more money.
00:09:32.820 And I feel like a man is meant to be,
00:09:34.860 well,
00:09:34.920 if you're married provider,
00:09:37.100 we're not sole provider,
00:09:38.540 but the provider.
00:09:40.260 And I don't feel like if you're not earning more than me,
00:09:43.200 you could provide for me.
00:09:44.660 Like fully.
00:09:45.900 And if we're buying a house together and I don't like it,
00:09:47.960 I'm not going to,
00:09:48.520 and I am providing basically more.
00:09:50.500 It's going to be more my decision.
00:09:51.960 I think it would be hard for me to submit to someone who isn't basically
00:09:55.600 being able to lead me.
00:09:56.900 You're going to have to be able to lead me.
00:09:58.480 And if you're not earning more than me,
00:09:59.600 it's going to be harder for me to agree or listen to you.
00:10:03.140 It might sound,
00:10:04.320 oh,
00:10:04.400 that's not nice,
00:10:04.900 but that's how I feel.
00:10:05.700 I can't listen to someone that isn't earning more than me.
00:10:09.420 But why is that though?
00:10:10.120 I was just banned on Tik TOK and we are demonetized on a daily,
00:10:15.600 basis on this platform.
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