Boss Babe Finally Sees the Light
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the benefits of being a stay-at-home wife vs. being a working wife. Is it possible to be a stay at home wife on a more normal wage? What does it mean to work from home and what would you do if your husband asked you to go back to work?
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could you guys respect a man that you make more money than starting here and
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then go around and just just just okay and just to give a little preface that
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means if he says quit quit your job tomorrow I have a plan that you'd
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go ahead I wouldn't respect a man that I make more money than but if I had a man
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that makes more money than me and is you know well put together I can see that I
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can trust his judgment and I know that you know he's got good morals he's he's
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got good faith yes if he says stop working that's what I want I want to sit
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at home I want to paint my toes I want to look cute I want to you know drive a
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nice car and have maids and all of that and if he's going to provide that for me
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and all I've got to do is pop a couple of utes out sit at home why not I don't
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think that's the typical stay-at-home mom's experience
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are you a stay-at-home mom yeah I am I am now is that what your life is like
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no no I'm talking about you know the the dream that I dream yeah the ideal um but
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if you're talking about a stay you could still be a stay-at-home wife on a more
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normal salary it just means cutting off like going down if he can if he can pay
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our rent and put food on the table and do everything that you know I would be
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working to provide half of absolutely fine I can do without the maid I can do
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without you know all of that let me just focus on our home you bring the money in
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and I'll make our home a home and that way I will be more happier because to be
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honest you know I am a working woman and I've got a child it's stressful you know
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that morning rush to get that little four-year-old ready and she don't
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understand why I'm rushing and she's you know money money money and I've got a
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rush her get her in the car drop her off I've done a whole shift before I've gone
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to work and then I've got to deal with people that I work with and then you know
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hard stop five o'clock I need to stop this meeting I need to rush out so you know to
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my colleagues you know I might look like you know oh don't put any meetings in
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her diary after five o'clock because you know she's a single mom and there's that
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stigma that you've got to deal with so the short answer yeah
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um I think I could I think in reality that I would have to I don't think it would be easy
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to but I would work at it because I don't like especially with the way it is to live
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now I would not leave an opportunity to make more money um because my man doesn't but I will
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always strive to respect him um and leave him to do the providing so essentially if I bought more
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money into the house that's just more spending money in my opinion I would allow him like I would
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leave him to his role basically yeah let me ask you this what is it like being a stay-at-home mom
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well do you know what it's it's fine it's good because to me I like raising my children
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is my priority and looking after my home is my priority everything else is extra
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but as long as I can give myself the space to do the extra I'm I'm happier that way if my whole life
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was just at home with the kids and maintaining my house I don't know how happy I would be
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only because I had a lifestyle before getting married that I had I liked and so I think here
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I have the best of both worlds but I think and actually I'm confused are you not a stay-at-home mom
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I just I am a stay-at-home mom but I I I do bits on the side so okay I yeah so um I'm I'm a stepmom
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coach yeah but my house doesn't depend on the money I make all the money I make it's fun money so you
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work from home yes I'm I'm yeah I'm always at home yeah unless I come out to to do a speaking gig or
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something like that yeah okay so yeah I would strive to respect but he will always be the provider
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and I'm okay with that whatever that looks like okay and just like you said also to her you know
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how you were saying um you can have a man on like a normal wage and still be a stay-at-home mom he
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doesn't have to be earning thousands that is very true like I essentially what we say in our culture
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is cut your coat according to your size whatever my husband makes our life I will maintain our life
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according to what he makes and as long as our necessities are are met there's really
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there shouldn't be a complaint I like you yeah thank you like you too um okay so could you respect
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a man that you make more than yes the answer is yes however I want to see him being ambitious he has
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to have a plan he has to be someone that gets up no no no that's not that that's not the guy you're
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dating no no that's like that's like the women trying to change men no he's he's making let's say
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what's whatever the average salary is here 35 000 pounds a year he will always he will always be
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making 35 000 a year okay this isn't build a man but what kind of person is he the kind of guy that
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wakes up and plays video games and just he goes to work okay and makes 35 000 a year okay comes
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home sometimes he plays video games sometimes he doesn't the same way you know it's like they
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we can complain about the video games but how many girls are on social media for hours
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we're just as bad no you know what you're right I think I could because I've been in that situation
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and I've been very happy with that okay why aren't you with him he's in Australia oh so this was
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recent yeah okay I don't know what he makes it's none of my business but I know he's not like the
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richest guy in the world but he's lovely and he actually made me feel safe in every way so how do
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you know that you earn more than him I don't but if I did I'd be okay with it because he was that
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wonderful okay okay so yeah sounds like you need to go back to Australia finish your healing
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get your man well uh that was the plan not for him though but I would like to see him again 100%
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oh do you think you're healed enough though um wait I'm confused so when was the okay so wasn't
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the the old guy eight months ago yeah that was in June okay and then when did the the Australia guy
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come in literally this month oh oh and he left to Australia no I was in Australia she went away to
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Australia for six weeks see this is why when men it's like everything the guys say so this is why
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when guys say like you're healing they just think you're I mean they don't have that yeah you're just
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sleeping with other dudes um no because it wasn't quite like that it took me a long time to even go
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on a date with someone like it wasn't until I went to Australia I even considered that I was just
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completely right but you told me you were healing earlier in Australia yeah and now you're telling me
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you met the guy in Australia it's no it's no hate to you I'm just no it's fine I'm just observing
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he's a healer that if I'm honest because I said that to him because he was going through his own
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thing which I won't discuss on here that's his business and I was going through mine and I said
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to him for whatever reason I walked into your life and you walked into mine because it was an accident
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you know I was walking down the street oh you met him on the street what happened was I just come
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back from the gym I was in a bad mood I smell I was covered in sweat I was spotty I was like
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you know on my period so I was like bloated and I did not look appealing at all and this stunning man
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walks towards me and when I fancy someone I get shy and I just look down and he starts talking to me
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and I'm just like in my head I'm like why today why today and then he's like you should smile you
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know it looks good on you and then we were just talking and um I felt really good around this person
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he made me feel safe there's something about his energy that just made me feel really good
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so you were able to trust him it was more I know that sounds wild because even I look back and I think
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how did I do that to an extent yeah because I said to him what are you doing later let's go out
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it was me that initiated it and then when he went in to kiss me he said he asked my permission he's
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this is after the date he said can I kiss you you know he was asking my permission he was respectful
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of my boundaries he was you know but you know how you said that you were going through your stuff and
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he was going through his stuff you said that about your ex the one who was obviously dealing with
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anorexia you said um he his traumas and your traumas like were able to go together and now you're
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saying basically the same thing with this guy yeah yeah it's because I'm aware I'm not a perfect
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person but don't you think that you said you're you're healing right yeah if you're healing and
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then you're now meeting this guy and you're acknowledging the fact that you're going through
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your ish he's going through his ish and we've meshed together you're acknowledging the fact that
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you're entering the same pattern again yeah just because the guy is you know but it's always when
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you're not looking for someone they just pop up and then you click I can't explain it but
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they're not denying what you're saying though you're right but don't don't you think you should
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just not that you should but I guess what I'm saying is if you want to heal to have a fruitful
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relationship that's not going to be toxic that's not going to have any of the repeated patterns
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just have that discipline in yourself and be like actually you know what I do really like you as a
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person but let me get to a place where I know that I'm strong with in who I am I'm not dealing with
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the same whatever from the last person and bringing that into the new person because all that's going
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to happen is yeah you're going to be in the same predicament yeah it's just going to be a different
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story I wouldn't say it's a personal thing on me I'm definitely strong in who I am but you're right
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I'm definitely not over what happened and I'm I appreciate what you said thank you I just think