JustPearlyThings - Boss Babe Finally Sees the Light

00:00:00.000 could you guys respect a man that you make more money than starting here and

00:00:08.220 then go around and just just just okay and just to give a little preface that

00:00:16.680 means if he says quit quit your job tomorrow I have a plan that you'd

00:00:21.160 go ahead I wouldn't respect a man that I make more money than but if I had a man

00:00:32.500 that makes more money than me and is you know well put together I can see that I

00:00:40.060 can trust his judgment and I know that you know he's got good morals he's he's

00:00:45.580 got good faith yes if he says stop working that's what I want I want to sit

00:00:50.560 at home I want to paint my toes I want to look cute I want to you know drive a

00:00:55.080 nice car and have maids and all of that and if he's going to provide that for me

00:01:00.880 and all I've got to do is pop a couple of utes out sit at home why not I don't

00:01:09.420 think that's the typical stay-at-home mom's experience

00:01:12.360 are you a stay-at-home mom yeah I am I am now is that what your life is like

00:01:20.520 no no I'm talking about you know the the dream that I dream yeah the ideal um but

00:01:30.840 if you're talking about a stay you could still be a stay-at-home wife on a more

00:01:35.180 normal salary it just means cutting off like going down if he can if he can pay

00:01:39.900 our rent and put food on the table and do everything that you know I would be

00:01:45.580 working to provide half of absolutely fine I can do without the maid I can do 0.97

00:01:50.640 without you know all of that let me just focus on our home you bring the money in

00:01:56.580 and I'll make our home a home and that way I will be more happier because to be

00:02:00.640 honest you know I am a working woman and I've got a child it's stressful you know

00:02:06.120 that morning rush to get that little four-year-old ready and she don't 1.00

00:02:10.060 understand why I'm rushing and she's you know money money money and I've got a 0.99

00:02:14.040 rush her get her in the car drop her off I've done a whole shift before I've gone

00:02:17.840 to work and then I've got to deal with people that I work with and then you know

00:02:22.580 hard stop five o'clock I need to stop this meeting I need to rush out so you know to

00:02:26.780 my colleagues you know I might look like you know oh don't put any meetings in

00:02:30.800 her diary after five o'clock because you know she's a single mom and there's that

00:02:34.100 stigma that you've got to deal with so the short answer yeah

00:02:37.280 um I think I could I think in reality that I would have to I don't think it would be easy

00:02:48.540 to but I would work at it because I don't like especially with the way it is to live

00:02:55.440 now I would not leave an opportunity to make more money um because my man doesn't but I will

00:03:04.980 always strive to respect him um and leave him to do the providing so essentially if I bought more

00:03:14.100 money into the house that's just more spending money in my opinion I would allow him like I would

00:03:20.860 leave him to his role basically yeah let me ask you this what is it like being a stay-at-home mom

00:03:26.060 well do you know what it's it's fine it's good because to me I like raising my children

00:03:37.080 is my priority and looking after my home is my priority everything else is extra

00:03:43.840 but as long as I can give myself the space to do the extra I'm I'm happier that way if my whole life

00:03:54.960 was just at home with the kids and maintaining my house I don't know how happy I would be

00:04:01.460 only because I had a lifestyle before getting married that I had I liked and so I think here

00:04:08.420 I have the best of both worlds but I think and actually I'm confused are you not a stay-at-home mom

00:04:14.860 I just I am a stay-at-home mom but I I I do bits on the side so okay I yeah so um I'm I'm a stepmom

00:04:22.600 coach yeah but my house doesn't depend on the money I make all the money I make it's fun money so you

00:04:28.420 work from home yes I'm I'm yeah I'm always at home yeah unless I come out to to do a speaking gig or

00:04:36.040 something like that yeah okay so yeah I would strive to respect but he will always be the provider

00:04:42.060 and I'm okay with that whatever that looks like okay and just like you said also to her you know

00:04:48.340 how you were saying um you can have a man on like a normal wage and still be a stay-at-home mom he

00:04:55.220 doesn't have to be earning thousands that is very true like I essentially what we say in our culture

00:05:01.160 is cut your coat according to your size whatever my husband makes our life I will maintain our life

00:05:07.320 according to what he makes and as long as our necessities are are met there's really

00:05:12.140 there shouldn't be a complaint I like you yeah thank you like you too um okay so could you respect

00:05:22.080 a man that you make more than yes the answer is yes however I want to see him being ambitious he has

00:05:30.720 to have a plan he has to be someone that gets up no no no that's not that that's not the guy you're

00:05:34.800 dating no no that's like that's like the women trying to change men no he's he's making let's say

00:05:42.240 what's whatever the average salary is here 35 000 pounds a year he will always he will always be

00:05:47.900 making 35 000 a year okay this isn't build a man but what kind of person is he the kind of guy that

00:05:53.120 wakes up and plays video games and just he goes to work okay and makes 35 000 a year okay comes

00:06:00.540 home sometimes he plays video games sometimes he doesn't the same way you know it's like they

00:06:05.500 we can complain about the video games but how many girls are on social media for hours 1.00

00:06:09.920 we're just as bad no you know what you're right I think I could because I've been in that situation

00:06:17.360 and I've been very happy with that okay why aren't you with him he's in Australia oh so this was

00:06:26.300 recent yeah okay I don't know what he makes it's none of my business but I know he's not like the

00:06:31.840 richest guy in the world but he's lovely and he actually made me feel safe in every way so how do

00:06:36.800 you know that you earn more than him I don't but if I did I'd be okay with it because he was that

00:06:41.520 wonderful okay okay so yeah sounds like you need to go back to Australia finish your healing

00:06:49.680 get your man well uh that was the plan not for him though but I would like to see him again 100%

00:06:56.700 oh do you think you're healed enough though um wait I'm confused so when was the okay so wasn't

00:07:03.780 the the old guy eight months ago yeah that was in June okay and then when did the the Australia guy

00:07:09.800 come in literally this month oh oh and he left to Australia no I was in Australia she went away to

00:07:16.940 Australia for six weeks see this is why when men it's like everything the guys say so this is why

00:07:23.080 when guys say like you're healing they just think you're I mean they don't have that yeah you're just

00:07:28.240 sleeping with other dudes um no because it wasn't quite like that it took me a long time to even go

00:07:34.800 on a date with someone like it wasn't until I went to Australia I even considered that I was just

00:07:40.260 completely right but you told me you were healing earlier in Australia yeah and now you're telling me

00:07:45.960 you met the guy in Australia it's no it's no hate to you I'm just no it's fine I'm just observing

00:07:50.100 he's a healer that if I'm honest because I said that to him because he was going through his own

00:07:56.400 thing which I won't discuss on here that's his business and I was going through mine and I said

00:08:02.380 to him for whatever reason I walked into your life and you walked into mine because it was an accident

00:08:06.300 you know I was walking down the street oh you met him on the street what happened was I just come

00:08:10.740 back from the gym I was in a bad mood I smell I was covered in sweat I was spotty I was like

00:08:16.180 you know on my period so I was like bloated and I did not look appealing at all and this stunning man

00:08:21.520 walks towards me and when I fancy someone I get shy and I just look down and he starts talking to me

00:08:28.480 and I'm just like in my head I'm like why today why today and then he's like you should smile you

00:08:33.820 know it looks good on you and then we were just talking and um I felt really good around this person

00:08:43.600 he made me feel safe there's something about his energy that just made me feel really good

00:08:47.940 so you were able to trust him it was more I know that sounds wild because even I look back and I think

00:08:56.300 how did I do that to an extent yeah because I said to him what are you doing later let's go out

00:09:01.040 it was me that initiated it and then when he went in to kiss me he said he asked my permission he's

00:09:06.900 this is after the date he said can I kiss you you know he was asking my permission he was respectful

00:09:11.920 of my boundaries he was you know but you know how you said that you were going through your stuff and

00:09:16.340 he was going through his stuff you said that about your ex the one who was obviously dealing with

00:09:21.200 anorexia you said um he his traumas and your traumas like were able to go together and now you're

00:09:27.400 saying basically the same thing with this guy yeah yeah it's because I'm aware I'm not a perfect

00:09:32.880 person but don't you think that you said you're you're healing right yeah if you're healing and

00:09:37.800 then you're now meeting this guy and you're acknowledging the fact that you're going through

00:09:41.600 your ish he's going through his ish and we've meshed together you're acknowledging the fact that

00:09:46.340 you're entering the same pattern again yeah just because the guy is you know but it's always when

00:09:51.100 you're not looking for someone they just pop up and then you click I can't explain it but

00:09:54.800 they're not denying what you're saying though you're right but don't don't you think you should

00:09:58.060 just not that you should but I guess what I'm saying is if you want to heal to have a fruitful

00:10:06.160 relationship that's not going to be toxic that's not going to have any of the repeated patterns

00:10:11.040 just have that discipline in yourself and be like actually you know what I do really like you as a

00:10:15.900 person but let me get to a place where I know that I'm strong with in who I am I'm not dealing with

00:10:21.800 the same whatever from the last person and bringing that into the new person because all that's going

00:10:26.980 to happen is yeah you're going to be in the same predicament yeah it's just going to be a different

00:10:30.720 story I wouldn't say it's a personal thing on me I'm definitely strong in who I am but you're right

00:10:35.640 I'm definitely not over what happened and I'm I appreciate what you said thank you I just think

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JustPearlyThings - May 29, 2023

Boss Babe Finally Sees the Light

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