JustPearlyThings - Boss Babe Tries To Check Pearl

00:00:00.000 Women get away with everything. 1.00

00:00:02.000 Shout out to being a woman. 0.99

00:00:05.000 Anytime a guy has a standard, there's shame for it.

00:00:08.000 But you started off this conversation by saying,

00:00:10.000 don't you think women have too high standards? 1.00

00:00:13.000 They do.

00:00:14.000 That's why 50% of women are single and childless. 1.00

00:00:17.000 That contradicts exactly what you just said.

00:00:19.000 How does it contradict exactly what I said?

00:00:21.000 Because you just said, if men have a standard, they're kind of...

00:00:24.000 They're shamed for it.

00:00:25.000 Yeah, I'll give you an example.

00:00:26.000 What happened with the slut shaming? 0.94

00:00:28.000 Slut shaming, fat phobic, where's the equivalent of that for men?

00:00:31.000 They don't exist.

00:00:32.000 If anything, if I meet anyone and they ever say anything to me

00:00:36.000 and I need a statistic and it's about women and men, 0.63

00:00:39.000 I'm phoning Pearl.

00:00:41.000 Pearl has a statistic on everything.

00:00:45.000 Literally, it's amazing.

00:00:46.000 You're allowed to have standards as a woman. 0.99

00:00:48.000 What we're talking about is too high of a standard,

00:00:50.000 where it only encompasses 20% of men, that standard.

00:00:54.000 If you broaden your standard to include like, let's say 50%, 0.94

00:00:58.000 you would have a higher chance of being in a relationship, correct?

00:01:00.000 Because you have more people.

00:01:02.000 So that's what we're talking about.

00:01:03.000 The reason why a lot of you are single is because your standards are too high.

00:01:07.000 Men's standards are not the same. 0.75

00:01:09.000 Like the same with the two girls with the money, 0.66

00:01:12.000 it doesn't matter for me what she has.

00:01:13.000 The more likely I'll take the one with less,

00:01:15.000 because the one with more is going to come with complications.

00:01:17.000 She's going to be like, I'm the boss of this stuff. 0.96

00:01:19.000 I have the most money.

00:01:20.000 You can't tell me nothing.

00:01:22.000 I'm like, yo, I don't need to stress.

00:01:24.000 I find it really interesting that you say that,

00:01:27.000 because speaking to all of the women that I know who are currently single,

00:01:30.000 the issues that we always have are you go on dates,

00:01:33.000 you put yourself into somebody, you invest your time,

00:01:35.000 and they all seem to have commitment issues.

00:01:37.000 So that's why we're not in relationships.

00:01:39.000 Because you're dating with 20%.

00:01:41.000 I promise you the bottom 80% of guys,

00:01:44.000 they have no commitment issues.

00:01:46.000 None.

00:01:47.000 They're less attractive.

00:01:49.000 The man has commitment issues.

00:01:51.000 In my experience.

00:01:53.000 But that's what I'm saying to you,

00:01:54.000 because he's not going to tell you, listen, darling,

00:01:56.000 this is your problem.

00:01:57.000 This is B problem.

00:01:58.000 This is C problem.

00:01:59.000 This is D problem.

00:02:00.000 I'm just going to cut.

00:02:02.000 Or I'm going to stay there and not take you seriously.

00:02:05.000 If he's not committing to you,

00:02:07.000 it's because of something you're not doing,

00:02:09.000 or you're not fulfilling for him in terms of what you want.

00:02:12.000 It's purely the woman's fault. 1.00

00:02:13.000 If a man's not committing,

00:02:14.000 if you're not,

00:02:15.000 if a girl's asking for, 0.95

00:02:16.000 let's say she,

00:02:17.000 her asking prices this much.

00:02:19.000 And she says,

00:02:20.000 this is, this is the product.

00:02:21.000 This is what I'm selling.

00:02:23.000 Can someone buy it?

00:02:24.000 And nobody buys something's wrong with the product.

00:02:26.000 Good to know.

00:02:27.000 Or the price.

00:02:28.000 Or the price.

00:02:29.000 Or the price.

00:02:30.000 Or the price.

00:02:31.000 Or the buyer.

00:02:32.000 This is just so difficult.

00:02:33.000 You're basically saying there's,

00:02:34.000 there's no issue with,

00:02:35.000 so with the fact that it's so easily accessible,

00:02:38.000 to move on to the next person with having social media,

00:02:42.000 with having dating apps.

00:02:43.000 Now that that hasn't caused an issue in terms of individuals now

00:02:46.000 committing to relationships.

00:02:47.000 What does social media have to do with the conversation?

00:02:50.000 So I find that social media has a major thing to do with the

00:02:53.000 conversation in terms of dating,

00:02:55.000 because expectations are set so high in terms of what people expect.

00:02:59.000 I think it raises women's expectations more than men.

00:03:02.000 I think it raises men's.

00:03:03.000 I think it raises.

00:03:04.000 How does it raise men's? 0.79

00:03:05.000 Because women's DMs are flooded. 1.00

00:03:08.000 They are.

00:03:09.000 That's true.

00:03:10.000 Yeah.

00:03:11.000 And so it gasses women's up, 1.00

00:03:12.000 women up and think they're hotter than they are. 1.00

00:03:14.000 Cause they can get,

00:03:15.000 you can be an average chicken of an NBA player slide into your DMs.

00:03:17.000 It kills your confidence.

00:03:18.000 It's like,

00:03:19.000 as a dude,

00:03:20.000 as a dude,

00:03:21.000 don't get me wrong.

00:03:22.000 I,

00:03:23.000 I don't think it's great either way.

00:03:24.000 So I do think there's an issue in terms of it,

00:03:27.000 it sets expectations to be higher.

00:03:29.000 And then when you have so much access to speaking to,

00:03:33.000 you know,

00:03:34.000 hundreds of women on a daily basis, 0.98

00:03:37.000 men also become more picky.

00:03:39.000 Hold up.

00:03:40.000 Hold up.

00:03:41.000 Hold up.

00:03:42.000 It's a small,

00:03:44.000 it's a small percentage of men that are picky because again,

00:03:47.000 most.

00:03:48.000 Yeah.

00:03:49.000 Yes.

00:03:50.000 And that's what I'm saying.

00:03:51.000 You're right.

00:03:52.000 It is harder to get the small percentage of guys to commit.

00:03:55.000 Because if you find this guy attractive,

00:03:57.000 a lot of other women probably do too. 1.00

00:03:59.000 Why would he commit when he can just bang a bunch of chicks? 0.71

00:04:02.000 Let's put all the 20% on an island somewhere. 1.00

00:04:06.000 And we'll all live happier after.

00:04:07.000 You would go to the island.

00:04:08.000 No,

00:04:09.000 yeah.

00:04:10.000 Why am I going to the island?

00:04:11.000 No,

00:04:12.000 but in that 20%.

00:04:13.000 Don't tell me where the island is.

00:04:14.000 Don't give me a boat.

00:04:15.000 Where's the island?

00:04:16.000 Sorry.

00:04:17.000 Where's the boats?

00:04:18.000 What is the exact time and location?

00:04:20.000 I'll swim.

00:04:21.000 I'm a good swimmer.

00:04:23.000 You want to go to the island.

00:04:24.000 And only that,

00:04:25.000 if you take away the 20% of the guys and put them on the island,

00:04:28.000 then there'll be a new 20% of guys that you are not interested in.

00:04:30.000 Exactly.

00:04:31.000 Let everyone get a chance, man.

00:04:32.000 Yeah.

00:04:33.000 So you,

00:04:34.000 you always want the top.

00:04:35.000 You can't settle.

00:04:36.000 Settle.

00:04:37.000 At all for what you like.

00:04:38.000 It's like.

00:04:39.000 Lower your expectations.

00:04:40.000 Lower your expectations.

00:04:41.000 I don't think that's,

00:04:42.000 I don't think that's a hot take,

00:04:43.000 but.

00:04:44.000 What?

00:04:45.000 Go ahead.

00:04:46.000 I don't think it's the hot take to.

00:04:47.000 So,

00:04:48.000 I guess my opinion on this is a bit more nuanced than that.

00:04:50.000 Yes,

00:04:51.000 everyone has,

00:04:52.000 you know,

00:04:53.000 expectations that can vary.

00:04:54.000 And sometimes they can be a bit ridiculous.

00:04:56.000 So,

00:04:57.000 but I don't think that's a bad thing.

00:04:58.000 I actually,

00:04:59.000 I actually enjoy the hustle.

00:05:00.000 And I don't think it's a hot take to tell women that,

00:05:02.000 Hey,

00:05:03.000 you should,

00:05:04.000 you should settle for less.

00:05:05.000 You should settle for the average X,

00:05:06.000 Y,

00:05:07.000 be that,

00:05:08.000 that top person.

00:05:09.000 You're either a beta or you're a successful man.

00:05:11.000 Go on.

00:05:12.000 Say again. 0.87

00:05:13.000 Inside,

00:05:14.000 inside of this,

00:05:15.000 in the dating game.

00:05:16.000 Cause only a man that's winning will say that.

00:05:18.000 Yeah.

00:05:19.000 I will tell you,

00:05:20.000 I'm not necessarily winning.

00:05:21.000 I could be doing better,

00:05:22.000 but,

00:05:23.000 you know,

00:05:24.000 and I,

00:05:25.000 I think I'm far from a beta.

00:05:26.000 I just,

00:05:27.000 that's just my,

00:05:28.000 my nature.

00:05:29.000 Are you virgin?

00:05:30.000 No.

00:05:31.000 So you're,

00:05:32.000 so you're winning then because you're,

00:05:33.000 you're in the higher percent,

00:05:34.000 you're in the smaller percentage of men.

00:05:35.000 That's actually being sexually active.

00:05:37.000 I do quite well.

00:05:38.000 There you go.

00:05:40.000 Wait,

00:05:41.000 wait,

00:05:42.000 wait.

00:05:43.000 It doesn't,

00:05:44.000 it doesn't favor you to change it.

00:05:45.000 Maybe like it doesn't 50.

00:05:46.000 It's,

00:05:47.000 it's,

00:05:48.000 it's more about like the attitude though.

00:05:49.000 I think it's more like,

00:05:50.000 cause when you went,

00:05:51.000 when I say I do quite well,

00:05:52.000 but I probably go out more than you.

00:05:53.000 I probably put in more time and energy into understanding the game than you.

00:05:56.000 Probably had more experiences that affected my dating experience.

00:05:59.000 You know,

00:06:00.000 these people,

00:06:01.000 so people act like,

00:06:02.000 you know,

00:06:03.000 it just happens.

00:06:04.000 It takes work and I'm going to keep working on it.

00:06:05.000 You're right.

00:06:06.000 There is a group,

00:06:07.000 there is a group of men that like are addicted to corn,

00:06:09.000 right?

00:06:10.000 They just play video games.

00:06:11.000 They're not working on themselves and they have bad results and you don't really feel bad for them for having bad results.

00:06:15.000 But on the other hand,

00:06:16.000 you have women that are super overweight asking for a guy that makes six figures. 1.00

00:06:20.000 And like,

00:06:21.000 you don't see that type of male delusion.

00:06:23.000 Wow.

00:06:24.000 Well,

00:06:25.000 you actually do see some of that.

00:06:26.000 Cause I know,

00:06:27.000 I know a lot of gamer boys with very poor social skills that think they're entitled to,

00:06:31.000 you know,

00:06:32.000 top shelf women. 1.00

00:06:33.000 But being real,

00:06:34.000 do you really feel like it's at the same rate?

00:06:35.000 I mean,

00:06:36.000 it's processed differently.

00:06:37.000 That guy gets shut down.

00:06:38.000 It's embarrassing.

00:06:39.000 Yeah.

00:06:40.000 That's what I'm saying.

00:06:41.000 Like,

00:06:42.000 men are faced with reality quick.

00:06:43.000 Women aren't because we lie to each other. 1.00

00:06:44.000 That guy's not happy.

00:06:45.000 Yeah.

00:06:46.000 We have all these movements like,

00:06:47.000 you know,

00:06:48.000 slut shaming,

00:06:49.000 right?

00:06:50.000 Fat phobic.

00:06:51.000 We have all these movements to like cushion us.

00:06:52.000 Yeah.

00:06:53.000 And don't get it twisted.

00:06:54.000 I have my frustrations with women as well. 1.00

00:06:55.000 Like I think in the casual dating game,

00:06:57.000 there is definitely expectations are quite high.

00:07:00.000 And I think personally,

00:07:01.000 a lot of women don't understand how to have a healthy casual relationship. 1.00

00:07:04.000 I think people mix it up with very sentimental sentimentality.

00:07:08.000 And that's why they get played by the same guys.

00:07:10.000 Cause these guys know you want a connection.

00:07:11.000 You're saying you're a big girl,

00:07:13.000 but you know,

00:07:14.000 when they mess with me,

00:07:15.000 they're like,

00:07:16.000 Oh, why aren't you texting me at night?

00:07:17.000 Cause we're a casual relationship.

00:07:18.000 I'm not,

00:07:19.000 I'm not going to kiss you.

00:07:20.000 Good night.

00:07:21.000 You can have a healthy casual relationship.

00:07:22.000 That's my view.

00:07:23.000 Yeah.

00:07:24.000 Yeah.

00:07:25.000 Absolutely.

00:07:26.000 It just takes maturity.

00:07:27.000 You just have to be transparent,

00:07:29.000 be transparent,

00:07:30.000 be mature.

00:07:31.000 Um,

00:07:32.000 yeah.

00:07:33.000 I don't think women are biologically predispositioned for it. 1.00

00:07:38.000 Like statistically,

00:07:39.000 they're not.

00:07:40.000 They're not.

00:07:41.000 And,

00:07:42.000 and I think as a guy,

00:07:43.000 you're like,

00:07:44.000 yeah,

00:07:45.000 you can have a healthy casual relationship.

00:07:46.000 Cause that's a man's point of view. 0.99

00:07:47.000 And some,

00:07:48.000 and some girls can do it. 1.00

00:07:49.000 But like,

00:07:50.000 in my experience,

00:07:51.000 typically like they've just had a bunch of sex to the point.

00:07:53.000 They don't care anymore.

00:07:54.000 In my experience,

00:07:55.000 every time we orgasm,

00:07:56.000 we fall in love with this guy.

00:07:57.000 So the casual relationship,

00:07:58.000 we're going to,

00:07:59.000 not,

00:08:00.000 not every time I'm saying early on.

00:08:01.000 So,

00:08:02.000 girls typically bond more with the first couple of guys they slept with. 1.00

00:08:05.000 Yeah.

00:08:06.000 Okay.

00:08:07.000 And,

00:08:08.000 and so,

00:08:09.000 and they tend to do that through orgasm. 0.99

00:08:10.000 Yeah.

00:08:12.000 Here's the problem.

00:08:13.000 In my experience though,

00:08:14.000 that the people,

00:08:15.000 the women who tend to be able to be able to do this, 1.00

00:08:17.000 they tend to be older.

00:08:18.000 They tend to be like over 27.

00:08:19.000 Yeah.

00:08:20.000 They,

00:08:21.000 they don't necessarily have a high body count,

00:08:22.000 they're normally very educated.

00:08:23.000 They have that.

00:08:24.000 They're independent.

00:08:25.000 They have their own lives.

00:08:26.000 So my,

00:08:27.000 my ideal woman is actually what a lot of people would say is the women that will give them the most stress. 0.66

00:08:31.000 Because these guys say,

00:08:32.000 Oh,

00:08:33.000 well,

00:08:34.000 this woman thinks she won the show. 1.00

00:08:35.000 Yeah,

00:08:36.000 you can run the show.

00:08:37.000 I'll see you once every two weeks.

00:08:38.000 Women who are still in love with some other dude. 0.80

00:08:40.000 Cool.

00:08:41.000 You can see him in the two weeks.

00:08:42.000 I'm not seeing you,

00:08:43.000 you know?

00:08:44.000 And,

00:08:45.000 and if you think like that,

00:08:46.000 that's called frame though,

00:08:47.000 because I have nothing to prove.

00:08:48.000 And when we want to escalate the relationship,

00:08:49.000 then there are a lot of ways that you can build closeness.

00:08:52.000 But I'm just,

00:08:53.000 I'm just someone where I know what,

00:08:55.000 what,

00:08:56.000 when,

00:08:57.000 what I'm doing is building a more intimate relationship than our relationship is actually at.

00:09:01.000 So you're the side guy.

00:09:03.000 No,

00:09:04.000 I'm the main guy,

00:09:05.000 actually.

00:09:06.000 if she's got a husband, 0.87

00:09:07.000 a partner,

00:09:08.000 and you see,

00:09:09.000 you see her in between the relationships,

00:09:11.000 you're like the side guy.

00:09:12.000 No,

00:09:13.000 this is not married women.

00:09:14.000 This is just women who are around. 1.00

00:09:15.000 Maybe they may be seeing multiple guys.

00:09:17.000 I don't ask because I don't care.

00:09:18.000 So you're winning in the game then?

00:09:20.000 Casual relationship.

00:09:21.000 In the casual game.

00:09:22.000 But it's a mindset though.

00:09:23.000 That's the thing.

00:09:24.000 No,

00:09:25.000 no,

00:09:26.000 I'm asking if it's,

00:09:27.000 I'm saying,

00:09:28.000 are you winning?

00:09:29.000 Yes or no?

00:09:30.000 I do.

00:09:31.000 All right.

00:09:32.000 So wouldn't it,

00:09:33.000 wouldn't it be like,

00:09:34.000 bad for you if the game was to change and women to stop having casual sex with you? 1.00

00:09:35.000 Would it be counterproductive?

00:09:36.000 Would it be counterproductive?

00:09:37.000 If women to stop having casual sex? 1.00

00:09:38.000 Yes.

00:09:39.000 I guess so.

00:09:40.000 Right.

00:09:41.000 So you're not,

00:09:42.000 right.

00:09:43.000 So you're not,

00:09:44.000 you're not advised to give advice,

00:09:45.000 the right advice.

00:09:46.000 Because,

00:09:47.000 because you telling girls to sleep around benefits you.

00:09:48.000 Exactly.

00:09:49.000 Yeah.

00:09:50.000 But it can also benefit them as well.

00:09:52.000 What is the most conducive to building families?

00:09:56.000 A stable emotional relationship.

00:09:58.000 Yeah.

00:09:59.000 Yeah.

00:10:00.000 And so like,

00:10:01.000 that's why you see 50% of women over 30 being single and childless. 1.00

00:10:04.000 And then you have the least happy group of women are 45 that make over $50,000 per year. 1.00

00:10:09.000 That's the least happy group of women. 1.00

00:10:11.000 So casual relationships leave women unhappy in the long term if they don't have a family. 1.00

00:10:16.000 Yeah.

00:10:17.000 But that also depends on the mentality of the people around them, the men at the time.

00:10:20.000 So a woman you can consider quite pious now, 0.75

00:10:23.000 you could go back 10 years and she's now someone who is acting completely wiling out. 1.00

00:10:28.000 Oh yeah.

00:10:29.000 Part of it is like the society you're in.

00:10:31.000 Birth control changed dating forever.

00:10:33.000 Yeah.

00:10:34.000 Like in a way,

00:10:35.000 you can't go back.

00:10:36.000 Absolutely.

00:10:37.000 But yeah,

00:10:38.000 I personally,

00:10:39.000 I don't think casual sex is the worst thing.

00:10:41.000 But it has to be approached with care.

00:10:42.000 It's not something you do carelessly.

00:10:44.000 The idea that, yeah, just sleep around, shag whatever you want, whatever,

00:10:47.000 is the reason that a lot of these girls are out here getting played and crossing two things, 1.00

00:10:52.000 casual and intimate.

00:10:53.000 And they don't even know.

00:10:54.000 But I know that.

00:10:55.000 Okay.

00:10:56.000 I'm going to read super chats.

00:10:57.000 As many of you know,

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00:11:18.040 Anyway.

00:11:19.040 So,

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JustPearlyThings - April 04, 2023

Boss Babe Tries To Check Pearl

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