JustPearlyThings - April 04, 2023


Boss Babe Tries To Check Pearl


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

206.13898

Word Count

2,402

Sentence Count

258

Misogynist Sentences

39

Hate Speech Sentences

16


Summary

In this episode, we discuss why women have a higher standard than men and why this is the reason why so many women are single and childless. We also talk about social media and the impact it has on the dating scene.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Women get away with everything.
00:00:02.000 Shout out to being a woman.
00:00:05.000 Anytime a guy has a standard, there's shame for it.
00:00:08.000 But you started off this conversation by saying,
00:00:10.000 don't you think women have too high standards?
00:00:13.000 They do.
00:00:14.000 That's why 50% of women are single and childless.
00:00:17.000 That contradicts exactly what you just said.
00:00:19.000 How does it contradict exactly what I said?
00:00:21.000 Because you just said, if men have a standard, they're kind of...
00:00:24.000 They're shamed for it.
00:00:25.000 Yeah, I'll give you an example.
00:00:26.000 What happened with the slut shaming?
00:00:28.000 Slut shaming, fat phobic, where's the equivalent of that for men?
00:00:31.000 They don't exist.
00:00:32.000 If anything, if I meet anyone and they ever say anything to me
00:00:36.000 and I need a statistic and it's about women and men,
00:00:39.000 I'm phoning Pearl.
00:00:41.000 Pearl has a statistic on everything.
00:00:45.000 Literally, it's amazing.
00:00:46.000 You're allowed to have standards as a woman.
00:00:48.000 What we're talking about is too high of a standard,
00:00:50.000 where it only encompasses 20% of men, that standard.
00:00:54.000 If you broaden your standard to include like, let's say 50%,
00:00:58.000 you would have a higher chance of being in a relationship, correct?
00:01:00.000 Because you have more people.
00:01:02.000 So that's what we're talking about.
00:01:03.000 The reason why a lot of you are single is because your standards are too high.
00:01:07.000 Men's standards are not the same.
00:01:09.000 Like the same with the two girls with the money,
00:01:12.000 it doesn't matter for me what she has.
00:01:13.000 The more likely I'll take the one with less,
00:01:15.000 because the one with more is going to come with complications.
00:01:17.000 She's going to be like, I'm the boss of this stuff.
00:01:19.000 I have the most money.
00:01:20.000 You can't tell me nothing.
00:01:22.000 I'm like, yo, I don't need to stress.
00:01:24.000 I find it really interesting that you say that,
00:01:27.000 because speaking to all of the women that I know who are currently single,
00:01:30.000 the issues that we always have are you go on dates,
00:01:33.000 you put yourself into somebody, you invest your time,
00:01:35.000 and they all seem to have commitment issues.
00:01:37.000 So that's why we're not in relationships.
00:01:39.000 Because you're dating with 20%.
00:01:41.000 I promise you the bottom 80% of guys,
00:01:44.000 they have no commitment issues.
00:01:46.000 None.
00:01:47.000 They're less attractive.
00:01:49.000 The man has commitment issues.
00:01:51.000 In my experience.
00:01:53.000 But that's what I'm saying to you,
00:01:54.000 because he's not going to tell you, listen, darling,
00:01:56.000 this is your problem.
00:01:57.000 This is B problem.
00:01:58.000 This is C problem.
00:01:59.000 This is D problem.
00:02:00.000 I'm just going to cut.
00:02:02.000 Or I'm going to stay there and not take you seriously.
00:02:05.000 If he's not committing to you,
00:02:07.000 it's because of something you're not doing,
00:02:09.000 or you're not fulfilling for him in terms of what you want.
00:02:12.000 It's purely the woman's fault.
00:02:13.000 If a man's not committing,
00:02:14.000 if you're not,
00:02:15.000 if a girl's asking for,
00:02:16.000 let's say she,
00:02:17.000 her asking prices this much.
00:02:19.000 And she says,
00:02:20.000 this is, this is the product.
00:02:21.000 This is what I'm selling.
00:02:23.000 Can someone buy it?
00:02:24.000 And nobody buys something's wrong with the product.
00:02:26.000 Good to know.
00:02:27.000 Or the price.
00:02:28.000 Or the price.
00:02:29.000 Or the price.
00:02:30.000 Or the price.
00:02:31.000 Or the buyer.
00:02:32.000 This is just so difficult.
00:02:33.000 You're basically saying there's,
00:02:34.000 there's no issue with,
00:02:35.000 so with the fact that it's so easily accessible,
00:02:38.000 to move on to the next person with having social media,
00:02:42.000 with having dating apps.
00:02:43.000 Now that that hasn't caused an issue in terms of individuals now
00:02:46.000 committing to relationships.
00:02:47.000 What does social media have to do with the conversation?
00:02:50.000 So I find that social media has a major thing to do with the
00:02:53.000 conversation in terms of dating,
00:02:55.000 because expectations are set so high in terms of what people expect.
00:02:59.000 I think it raises women's expectations more than men.
00:03:02.000 I think it raises men's.
00:03:03.000 I think it raises.
00:03:04.000 How does it raise men's?
00:03:05.000 Because women's DMs are flooded.
00:03:08.000 They are.
00:03:09.000 That's true.
00:03:10.000 Yeah.
00:03:11.000 And so it gasses women's up,
00:03:12.000 women up and think they're hotter than they are.
00:03:14.000 Cause they can get,
00:03:15.000 you can be an average chicken of an NBA player slide into your DMs.
00:03:17.000 It kills your confidence.
00:03:18.000 It's like,
00:03:19.000 as a dude,
00:03:20.000 as a dude,
00:03:21.000 don't get me wrong.
00:03:22.000 I,
00:03:23.000 I don't think it's great either way.
00:03:24.000 So I do think there's an issue in terms of it,
00:03:27.000 it sets expectations to be higher.
00:03:29.000 And then when you have so much access to speaking to,
00:03:33.000 you know,
00:03:34.000 hundreds of women on a daily basis,
00:03:37.000 men also become more picky.
00:03:39.000 Hold up.
00:03:40.000 Hold up.
00:03:41.000 Hold up.
00:03:42.000 It's a small,
00:03:44.000 it's a small percentage of men that are picky because again,
00:03:47.000 most.
00:03:48.000 Yeah.
00:03:49.000 Yes.
00:03:50.000 And that's what I'm saying.
00:03:51.000 You're right.
00:03:52.000 It is harder to get the small percentage of guys to commit.
00:03:55.000 Because if you find this guy attractive,
00:03:57.000 a lot of other women probably do too.
00:03:59.000 Why would he commit when he can just bang a bunch of chicks?
00:04:02.000 Let's put all the 20% on an island somewhere.
00:04:06.000 And we'll all live happier after.
00:04:07.000 You would go to the island.
00:04:08.000 No,
00:04:09.000 yeah.
00:04:10.000 Why am I going to the island?
00:04:11.000 No,
00:04:12.000 but in that 20%.
00:04:13.000 Don't tell me where the island is.
00:04:14.000 Don't give me a boat.
00:04:15.000 Where's the island?
00:04:16.000 Sorry.
00:04:17.000 Where's the boats?
00:04:18.000 What is the exact time and location?
00:04:20.000 I'll swim.
00:04:21.000 I'm a good swimmer.
00:04:23.000 You want to go to the island.
00:04:24.000 And only that,
00:04:25.000 if you take away the 20% of the guys and put them on the island,
00:04:28.000 then there'll be a new 20% of guys that you are not interested in.
00:04:30.000 Exactly.
00:04:31.000 Let everyone get a chance, man.
00:04:32.000 Yeah.
00:04:33.000 So you,
00:04:34.000 you always want the top.
00:04:35.000 You can't settle.
00:04:36.000 Settle.
00:04:37.000 At all for what you like.
00:04:38.000 It's like.
00:04:39.000 Lower your expectations.
00:04:40.000 Lower your expectations.
00:04:41.000 I don't think that's,
00:04:42.000 I don't think that's a hot take,
00:04:43.000 but.
00:04:44.000 What?
00:04:45.000 Go ahead.
00:04:46.000 I don't think it's the hot take to.
00:04:47.000 So,
00:04:48.000 I guess my opinion on this is a bit more nuanced than that.
00:04:50.000 Yes,
00:04:51.000 everyone has,
00:04:52.000 you know,
00:04:53.000 expectations that can vary.
00:04:54.000 And sometimes they can be a bit ridiculous.
00:04:56.000 So,
00:04:57.000 but I don't think that's a bad thing.
00:04:58.000 I actually,
00:04:59.000 I actually enjoy the hustle.
00:05:00.000 And I don't think it's a hot take to tell women that,
00:05:02.000 Hey,
00:05:03.000 you should,
00:05:04.000 you should settle for less.
00:05:05.000 You should settle for the average X,
00:05:06.000 Y,
00:05:07.000 be that,
00:05:08.000 that top person.
00:05:09.000 You're either a beta or you're a successful man.
00:05:11.000 Go on.
00:05:12.000 Say again.
00:05:13.000 Inside,
00:05:14.000 inside of this,
00:05:15.000 in the dating game.
00:05:16.000 Cause only a man that's winning will say that.
00:05:18.000 Yeah.
00:05:19.000 I will tell you,
00:05:20.000 I'm not necessarily winning.
00:05:21.000 I could be doing better,
00:05:22.000 but,
00:05:23.000 you know,
00:05:24.000 and I,
00:05:25.000 I think I'm far from a beta.
00:05:26.000 I just,
00:05:27.000 that's just my,
00:05:28.000 my nature.
00:05:29.000 Are you virgin?
00:05:30.000 No.
00:05:31.000 So you're,
00:05:32.000 so you're winning then because you're,
00:05:33.000 you're in the higher percent,
00:05:34.000 you're in the smaller percentage of men.
00:05:35.000 That's actually being sexually active.
00:05:37.000 I do quite well.
00:05:38.000 There you go.
00:05:40.000 Wait,
00:05:41.000 wait,
00:05:42.000 wait.
00:05:43.000 It doesn't,
00:05:44.000 it doesn't favor you to change it.
00:05:45.000 Maybe like it doesn't 50.
00:05:46.000 It's,
00:05:47.000 it's,
00:05:48.000 it's more about like the attitude though.
00:05:49.000 I think it's more like,
00:05:50.000 cause when you went,
00:05:51.000 when I say I do quite well,
00:05:52.000 but I probably go out more than you.
00:05:53.000 I probably put in more time and energy into understanding the game than you.
00:05:56.000 Probably had more experiences that affected my dating experience.
00:05:59.000 You know,
00:06:00.000 these people,
00:06:01.000 so people act like,
00:06:02.000 you know,
00:06:03.000 it just happens.
00:06:04.000 It takes work and I'm going to keep working on it.
00:06:05.000 You're right.
00:06:06.000 There is a group,
00:06:07.000 there is a group of men that like are addicted to corn,
00:06:09.000 right?
00:06:10.000 They just play video games.
00:06:11.000 They're not working on themselves and they have bad results and you don't really feel bad for them for having bad results.
00:06:15.000 But on the other hand,
00:06:16.000 you have women that are super overweight asking for a guy that makes six figures.
00:06:20.000 And like,
00:06:21.000 you don't see that type of male delusion.
00:06:23.000 Wow.
00:06:24.000 Well,
00:06:25.000 you actually do see some of that.
00:06:26.000 Cause I know,
00:06:27.000 I know a lot of gamer boys with very poor social skills that think they're entitled to,
00:06:31.000 you know,
00:06:32.000 top shelf women.
00:06:33.000 But being real,
00:06:34.000 do you really feel like it's at the same rate?
00:06:35.000 I mean,
00:06:36.000 it's processed differently.
00:06:37.000 That guy gets shut down.
00:06:38.000 It's embarrassing.
00:06:39.000 Yeah.
00:06:40.000 That's what I'm saying.
00:06:41.000 Like,
00:06:42.000 men are faced with reality quick.
00:06:43.000 Women aren't because we lie to each other.
00:06:44.000 That guy's not happy.
00:06:45.000 Yeah.
00:06:46.000 We have all these movements like,
00:06:47.000 you know,
00:06:48.000 slut shaming,
00:06:49.000 right?
00:06:50.000 Fat phobic.
00:06:51.000 We have all these movements to like cushion us.
00:06:52.000 Yeah.
00:06:53.000 And don't get it twisted.
00:06:54.000 I have my frustrations with women as well.
00:06:55.000 Like I think in the casual dating game,
00:06:57.000 there is definitely expectations are quite high.
00:07:00.000 And I think personally,
00:07:01.000 a lot of women don't understand how to have a healthy casual relationship.
00:07:04.000 I think people mix it up with very sentimental sentimentality.
00:07:08.000 And that's why they get played by the same guys.
00:07:10.000 Cause these guys know you want a connection.
00:07:11.000 You're saying you're a big girl,
00:07:13.000 but you know,
00:07:14.000 when they mess with me,
00:07:15.000 they're like,
00:07:16.000 Oh, why aren't you texting me at night?
00:07:17.000 Cause we're a casual relationship.
00:07:18.000 I'm not,
00:07:19.000 I'm not going to kiss you.
00:07:20.000 Good night.
00:07:21.000 You can have a healthy casual relationship.
00:07:22.000 That's my view.
00:07:23.000 Yeah.
00:07:24.000 Yeah.
00:07:25.000 Absolutely.
00:07:26.000 It just takes maturity.
00:07:27.000 You just have to be transparent,
00:07:29.000 be transparent,
00:07:30.000 be mature.
00:07:31.000 Um,
00:07:32.000 yeah.
00:07:33.000 I don't think women are biologically predispositioned for it.
00:07:38.000 Like statistically,
00:07:39.000 they're not.
00:07:40.000 They're not.
00:07:41.000 And,
00:07:42.000 and I think as a guy,
00:07:43.000 you're like,
00:07:44.000 yeah,
00:07:45.000 you can have a healthy casual relationship.
00:07:46.000 Cause that's a man's point of view.
00:07:47.000 And some,
00:07:48.000 and some girls can do it.
00:07:49.000 But like,
00:07:50.000 in my experience,
00:07:51.000 typically like they've just had a bunch of sex to the point.
00:07:53.000 They don't care anymore.
00:07:54.000 In my experience,
00:07:55.000 every time we orgasm,
00:07:56.000 we fall in love with this guy.
00:07:57.000 So the casual relationship,
00:07:58.000 we're going to,
00:07:59.000 not,
00:08:00.000 not every time I'm saying early on.
00:08:01.000 So,
00:08:02.000 girls typically bond more with the first couple of guys they slept with.
00:08:05.000 Yeah.
00:08:06.000 Okay.
00:08:07.000 And,
00:08:08.000 and so,
00:08:09.000 and they tend to do that through orgasm.
00:08:10.000 Yeah.
00:08:12.000 Here's the problem.
00:08:13.000 In my experience though,
00:08:14.000 that the people,
00:08:15.000 the women who tend to be able to be able to do this,
00:08:17.000 they tend to be older.
00:08:18.000 They tend to be like over 27.
00:08:19.000 Yeah.
00:08:20.000 They,
00:08:21.000 they don't necessarily have a high body count,
00:08:22.000 they're normally very educated.
00:08:23.000 They have that.
00:08:24.000 They're independent.
00:08:25.000 They have their own lives.
00:08:26.000 So my,
00:08:27.000 my ideal woman is actually what a lot of people would say is the women that will give them the most stress.
00:08:31.000 Because these guys say,
00:08:32.000 Oh,
00:08:33.000 well,
00:08:34.000 this woman thinks she won the show.
00:08:35.000 Yeah,
00:08:36.000 you can run the show.
00:08:37.000 I'll see you once every two weeks.
00:08:38.000 Women who are still in love with some other dude.
00:08:40.000 Cool.
00:08:41.000 You can see him in the two weeks.
00:08:42.000 I'm not seeing you,
00:08:43.000 you know?
00:08:44.000 And,
00:08:45.000 and if you think like that,
00:08:46.000 that's called frame though,
00:08:47.000 because I have nothing to prove.
00:08:48.000 And when we want to escalate the relationship,
00:08:49.000 then there are a lot of ways that you can build closeness.
00:08:52.000 But I'm just,
00:08:53.000 I'm just someone where I know what,
00:08:55.000 what,
00:08:56.000 when,
00:08:57.000 what I'm doing is building a more intimate relationship than our relationship is actually at.
00:09:01.000 So you're the side guy.
00:09:03.000 No,
00:09:04.000 I'm the main guy,
00:09:05.000 actually.
00:09:06.000 if she's got a husband,
00:09:07.000 a partner,
00:09:08.000 and you see,
00:09:09.000 you see her in between the relationships,
00:09:11.000 you're like the side guy.
00:09:12.000 No,
00:09:13.000 this is not married women.
00:09:14.000 This is just women who are around.
00:09:15.000 Maybe they may be seeing multiple guys.
00:09:17.000 I don't ask because I don't care.
00:09:18.000 So you're winning in the game then?
00:09:20.000 Casual relationship.
00:09:21.000 In the casual game.
00:09:22.000 But it's a mindset though.
00:09:23.000 That's the thing.
00:09:24.000 No,
00:09:25.000 no,
00:09:26.000 I'm asking if it's,
00:09:27.000 I'm saying,
00:09:28.000 are you winning?
00:09:29.000 Yes or no?
00:09:30.000 I do.
00:09:31.000 All right.
00:09:32.000 So wouldn't it,
00:09:33.000 wouldn't it be like,
00:09:34.000 bad for you if the game was to change and women to stop having casual sex with you?
00:09:35.000 Would it be counterproductive?
00:09:36.000 Would it be counterproductive?
00:09:37.000 If women to stop having casual sex?
00:09:38.000 Yes.
00:09:39.000 I guess so.
00:09:40.000 Right.
00:09:41.000 So you're not,
00:09:42.000 right.
00:09:43.000 So you're not,
00:09:44.000 you're not advised to give advice,
00:09:45.000 the right advice.
00:09:46.000 Because,
00:09:47.000 because you telling girls to sleep around benefits you.
00:09:48.000 Exactly.
00:09:49.000 Yeah.
00:09:50.000 But it can also benefit them as well.
00:09:52.000 What is the most conducive to building families?
00:09:56.000 A stable emotional relationship.
00:09:58.000 Yeah.
00:09:59.000 Yeah.
00:10:00.000 And so like,
00:10:01.000 that's why you see 50% of women over 30 being single and childless.
00:10:04.000 And then you have the least happy group of women are 45 that make over $50,000 per year.
00:10:09.000 That's the least happy group of women.
00:10:11.000 So casual relationships leave women unhappy in the long term if they don't have a family.
00:10:16.000 Yeah.
00:10:17.000 But that also depends on the mentality of the people around them, the men at the time.
00:10:20.000 So a woman you can consider quite pious now,
00:10:23.000 you could go back 10 years and she's now someone who is acting completely wiling out.
00:10:28.000 Oh yeah.
00:10:29.000 Part of it is like the society you're in.
00:10:31.000 Birth control changed dating forever.
00:10:33.000 Yeah.
00:10:34.000 Like in a way,
00:10:35.000 you can't go back.
00:10:36.000 Absolutely.
00:10:37.000 But yeah,
00:10:38.000 I personally,
00:10:39.000 I don't think casual sex is the worst thing.
00:10:41.000 But it has to be approached with care.
00:10:42.000 It's not something you do carelessly.
00:10:44.000 The idea that, yeah, just sleep around, shag whatever you want, whatever,
00:10:47.000 is the reason that a lot of these girls are out here getting played and crossing two things,
00:10:52.000 casual and intimate.
00:10:53.000 And they don't even know.
00:10:54.000 But I know that.
00:10:55.000 Okay.
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