JustPearlyThings - May 27, 2023


Boss babe Wants An Emotional Man

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Pearl Wants This From Her Dream Man She Called DRAKE a Beta and GETS REKT

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Length

9 minutes

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172.26

Word count

1,699

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Misogyny

5

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3

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss what we look for in a man, what we want in a partner and what we are looking for from a romantic partner. We also discuss the issues of emotional unavailable men and how to deal with them.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 what are your standards like what what do you guys look for in a guy I think
00:00:05.880 come on maybe not the right person I think like lots of women know because
00:00:10.140 it's not look for anything no because I I know that lots of women they look I 1.00
00:00:21.120 just you know how much money my man is making how much you know good good life
00:00:25.260 yeah you don't have to say money it could be like whatever you look for me
00:00:28.940 is like having emotional support most of everything and you know having someone
00:00:34.580 that you know understands my needs you know on a mental level obviously you
00:00:38.840 know we need to you know do life together and navigate you know challenges and
00:00:43.580 everything but ultimately for me is about finding that compatible person which is
00:00:48.320 very difficult to do because you know you're gonna have always something you
00:00:51.800 know that as a some character traits that are not really you know men and women
00:00:56.780 are just different and as much as we want to play this card oh I want to be
00:01:00.200 like a man I'm never gonna be a man I wasn't born a man and I'm not gonna
00:01:03.680 understand woman so do you don't you think that asking him to understand your
00:01:07.660 emotional needs is asking a man to be a woman when he's not a woman a little bit
00:01:12.200 yes but not in a way like don't get me wrong yes maybe a little bit yes but at
00:01:17.060 the same time I don't want to call the person you know in front of me no you
00:01:20.780 know I want to have someone that's kind of empathic enough you know too hard to
00:01:26.900 find a warm a nice guy you think that's hard
00:01:29.780 there's gonna be loads of guys in the chat now I'm a nice guy I can emotionally support you I mean I
00:01:47.780 mean I want to you know I want to say this like there are lots of great guys
00:01:51.500 out there I don't want to be like oh yeah man it's just I find that this
00:01:56.000 particular time that we're living guys are like finding very difficult in
00:02:00.440 committing on the long term because you know a lot of pressure there is in this
00:02:03.860 society so it's like I can't provide to my woman because you know the bills are 1.00
00:02:07.640 going high you know the society is crazy at the moment you know and women wants 1.00
00:02:11.300 always more more more the last clothes the last you know trend that is there you
00:02:15.740 know I need to satisfy that and I feel like that it's quite detrimental so feel
00:02:21.320 like yes you're right maybe we can know a little bit our standards and stride trying
00:02:25.940 to be more realistic with what we really you know how old would you date like is
00:02:31.280 there an age range like you said you're 37 38 okay so would you date a 21 year
00:02:36.740 old guy I don't think so so there's age yeah because it's a question I mean yeah I
00:02:44.000 don't think so it has to be like you know mature enough for me to you know for
00:02:47.900 me to get deep conversations without what you're talking about without scaring
00:02:52.220 him and I think like when you're 21 you still need to figuring out a lot of
00:02:56.000 things I'm not saying that by 38 you're gonna have everything no you date a 55 0.99
00:03:00.980 year old guy that's okay no I don't think so okay so maybe maybe up until 45 45 yeah okay
00:03:12.440 or less yeah anything else so he just has to be emotionally available under the age of
00:03:16.880 45 funny over 30 maybe no no no no there's not an advert just as I said like for me the emotional
00:03:35.660 support without being too much a woman is very important and to be able to you know understand
00:03:42.440 like that trying to understand us because as we as women we're trying to understand men and we're
00:03:49.940 trying to get into that masculine energy which is quite like difficult to do and at the same time I
00:03:56.180 would love you know that the man trying to be a little bit more empathetic and trying to understand
00:04:00.260 without becoming a woman I mean it has to be men it has to be men have you dated guys that weren't 0.60
00:04:05.960 emotionally available before or emotional I forgot what words you said exactly but something like that you just
00:04:12.320 mentioned it a couple times so it's just I think there are lots of emotionally of unavailable men
00:04:16.880 out there because it's everything has to do with I think traumas and things they they've been
00:04:22.940 experiencing in life so if a man is emotionally unavailable it's just because it went maybe through
00:04:29.780 something that is not capable of you might feel something but it's just not capable to just put
00:04:35.060 everything out there not saying that everyone he's like that but I think a lot of people I mean again
00:04:41.820 talking with a lot of friends and people they are all saying men they don't want to commit you know
00:04:47.100 they don't want to see the long term they always but I feel also like maybe we need to look at
00:04:51.720 ourselves and say like what's wrong with me why this is not working and trying to fix you know things
00:04:58.560 what about you what do you look for in a guy what are you ambition again emotional support as well
00:05:06.400 because I feel like a lot of men do not know how to give emotional support and when you do question it
00:05:12.220 they end up arguing with you or backing away again like she said because of traumas and stuff that goes
00:05:21.420 like wrong in their life and then they bring it into the relationship for from past experiences or being
00:05:26.820 cheated on um so I think it is it's very tough to find that um as well what else um someone so you
00:05:35.740 said ambitious um can we put a dollar amount to it is there a money how much because how old did you
00:05:41.480 say you were 32 so how what old is the guy roughly how old yeah do you want him to be um my age and I'll
00:05:50.660 say up to the age of 40. okay so let's say he's 40 okay how much does he have to be making roughly
00:05:57.160 um I just think he just needs to be able to be a provider um especially if you're going into
00:06:05.620 relationship you it's because I'm quite old school so I think a woman should play their role and a man
00:06:11.380 should play their role um so if you're able to provide and you know pay um sorry run the household
00:06:18.920 then then it's okay I don't think it how much does that cost well that depends on where you're
00:06:25.140 living you could be living outside of London inside of London it that all depends um it's how many
00:06:31.880 bedrooms you have it yeah it really all depends a rough could I get a rough number um I don't have
00:06:40.920 um maybe about 40 40 40 that's like 50 I'm American so 55 000 that's like average salary right
00:06:51.180 yeah okay that's not bad so average salary what else 40 30 30 to 40 roughly is what you said
00:06:59.100 yeah your age or um average salary what else um yeah so you need to be be able to support me
00:07:06.180 emotionally as well um again you need to you know have some sort of attraction there
00:07:13.400 that's it really what about height how tall oh you need to be you need to be tall you need to be
00:07:21.000 taller than me how tall are you I'm five six okay so five six is good about five seven five seven and
00:07:28.660 I'm making forty thousand dollars a year yeah that's emotionally available it doesn't seem that
00:07:41.680 hard it is very hard I just feel like yeah a lot of guys are just not there anymore they're just very
00:07:49.600 bigger their minds elsewhere to be honest it's just interesting 40 like
00:07:54.420 you said you you're old school right yeah do you think that women should be virgins the same way that 0.80
00:08:01.520 men should be providers no why isn't that a double double standard because like if we expect them to 1.00
00:08:09.400 be traditional providers shouldn't we be traditional virgins yeah but again I am old school but you have
00:08:15.980 to know that this is the modern world as well so that's not really gonna happen so wouldn't you say
00:08:20.560 the same thing with that provider guy like oh it's not gonna happen you need two incomes to survive
00:08:27.200 to a certain aspect yeah yeah okay what do you look for go ahead a man that can support me like I can
00:08:35.060 support him and that doesn't just mean money I'm talking about generally and stuff that I like to do
00:08:40.740 support me and what I like to do and I'm very big on supporting a man as well like I love to
00:08:47.300 give them the encouragement and be their cheerleader and I just want the same and being able to see a
00:08:56.220 future with that person and us having the same goals which means a family building a house together
00:09:03.120 would he be a great father figure I wouldn't know unless he has kids already um loving me just
00:09:13.500 having a lovable home yes he has to work because I'm not having a man doesn't work because I work so
00:09:19.980 we both have to work um I'm not really bothered about I'm happy to go 50 50 if I have to you know I
00:09:30.600 I mean you can pay the mortgage and I could pay for the gas and electric you know I'm all right
00:09:34.380 with that too as many of you know I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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