Boss babe Wants An Emotional Man
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss what we look for in a man, what we want in a partner and what we are looking for from a romantic partner. We also discuss the issues of emotional unavailable men and how to deal with them.
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what are your standards like what what do you guys look for in a guy I think
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come on maybe not the right person I think like lots of women know because
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it's not look for anything no because I I know that lots of women they look I
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just you know how much money my man is making how much you know good good life
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yeah you don't have to say money it could be like whatever you look for me
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is like having emotional support most of everything and you know having someone
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that you know understands my needs you know on a mental level obviously you
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know we need to you know do life together and navigate you know challenges and
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everything but ultimately for me is about finding that compatible person which is
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very difficult to do because you know you're gonna have always something you
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know that as a some character traits that are not really you know men and women
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are just different and as much as we want to play this card oh I want to be
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like a man I'm never gonna be a man I wasn't born a man and I'm not gonna
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understand woman so do you don't you think that asking him to understand your
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emotional needs is asking a man to be a woman when he's not a woman a little bit
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yes but not in a way like don't get me wrong yes maybe a little bit yes but at
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the same time I don't want to call the person you know in front of me no you
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know I want to have someone that's kind of empathic enough you know too hard to
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there's gonna be loads of guys in the chat now I'm a nice guy I can emotionally support you I mean I
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mean I want to you know I want to say this like there are lots of great guys
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out there I don't want to be like oh yeah man it's just I find that this
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particular time that we're living guys are like finding very difficult in
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committing on the long term because you know a lot of pressure there is in this
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society so it's like I can't provide to my woman because you know the bills are
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going high you know the society is crazy at the moment you know and women wants
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always more more more the last clothes the last you know trend that is there you
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know I need to satisfy that and I feel like that it's quite detrimental so feel
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like yes you're right maybe we can know a little bit our standards and stride trying
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to be more realistic with what we really you know how old would you date like is
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there an age range like you said you're 37 38 okay so would you date a 21 year
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old guy I don't think so so there's age yeah because it's a question I mean yeah I
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don't think so it has to be like you know mature enough for me to you know for
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me to get deep conversations without what you're talking about without scaring
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him and I think like when you're 21 you still need to figuring out a lot of
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things I'm not saying that by 38 you're gonna have everything no you date a 55
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year old guy that's okay no I don't think so okay so maybe maybe up until 45 45 yeah okay
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or less yeah anything else so he just has to be emotionally available under the age of
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45 funny over 30 maybe no no no no there's not an advert just as I said like for me the emotional
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support without being too much a woman is very important and to be able to you know understand
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like that trying to understand us because as we as women we're trying to understand men and we're
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trying to get into that masculine energy which is quite like difficult to do and at the same time I
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would love you know that the man trying to be a little bit more empathetic and trying to understand
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without becoming a woman I mean it has to be men it has to be men have you dated guys that weren't
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emotionally available before or emotional I forgot what words you said exactly but something like that you just
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mentioned it a couple times so it's just I think there are lots of emotionally of unavailable men
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out there because it's everything has to do with I think traumas and things they they've been
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experiencing in life so if a man is emotionally unavailable it's just because it went maybe through
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something that is not capable of you might feel something but it's just not capable to just put
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everything out there not saying that everyone he's like that but I think a lot of people I mean again
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talking with a lot of friends and people they are all saying men they don't want to commit you know
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they don't want to see the long term they always but I feel also like maybe we need to look at
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ourselves and say like what's wrong with me why this is not working and trying to fix you know things
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what about you what do you look for in a guy what are you ambition again emotional support as well
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because I feel like a lot of men do not know how to give emotional support and when you do question it
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they end up arguing with you or backing away again like she said because of traumas and stuff that goes
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like wrong in their life and then they bring it into the relationship for from past experiences or being
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cheated on um so I think it is it's very tough to find that um as well what else um someone so you
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said ambitious um can we put a dollar amount to it is there a money how much because how old did you
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say you were 32 so how what old is the guy roughly how old yeah do you want him to be um my age and I'll
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say up to the age of 40. okay so let's say he's 40 okay how much does he have to be making roughly
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um I just think he just needs to be able to be a provider um especially if you're going into
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relationship you it's because I'm quite old school so I think a woman should play their role and a man
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should play their role um so if you're able to provide and you know pay um sorry run the household
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then then it's okay I don't think it how much does that cost well that depends on where you're
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living you could be living outside of London inside of London it that all depends um it's how many
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bedrooms you have it yeah it really all depends a rough could I get a rough number um I don't have
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um maybe about 40 40 40 that's like 50 I'm American so 55 000 that's like average salary right
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yeah okay that's not bad so average salary what else 40 30 30 to 40 roughly is what you said
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yeah your age or um average salary what else um yeah so you need to be be able to support me
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emotionally as well um again you need to you know have some sort of attraction there
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that's it really what about height how tall oh you need to be you need to be tall you need to be
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taller than me how tall are you I'm five six okay so five six is good about five seven five seven and
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I'm making forty thousand dollars a year yeah that's emotionally available it doesn't seem that
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hard it is very hard I just feel like yeah a lot of guys are just not there anymore they're just very
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bigger their minds elsewhere to be honest it's just interesting 40 like
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you said you you're old school right yeah do you think that women should be virgins the same way that
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men should be providers no why isn't that a double double standard because like if we expect them to
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be traditional providers shouldn't we be traditional virgins yeah but again I am old school but you have
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to know that this is the modern world as well so that's not really gonna happen so wouldn't you say
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the same thing with that provider guy like oh it's not gonna happen you need two incomes to survive
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to a certain aspect yeah yeah okay what do you look for go ahead a man that can support me like I can
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support him and that doesn't just mean money I'm talking about generally and stuff that I like to do
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support me and what I like to do and I'm very big on supporting a man as well like I love to
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give them the encouragement and be their cheerleader and I just want the same and being able to see a
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future with that person and us having the same goals which means a family building a house together
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would he be a great father figure I wouldn't know unless he has kids already um loving me just
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having a lovable home yes he has to work because I'm not having a man doesn't work because I work so
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we both have to work um I'm not really bothered about I'm happy to go 50 50 if I have to you know I
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I mean you can pay the mortgage and I could pay for the gas and electric you know I'm all right
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with that too as many of you know I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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