Boss Babes Have The Most Selfish DESIRES
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In this episode, we discuss the idea of a working mom and a stay-at-home mom and discuss the pros and cons of working moms vs. stay at home moms. We also discuss the benefits and disadvantages of working vs. staying at home and what it means to be a working mum.
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what do you guys think for the women who want to only contribute zero to 20% of the household cost
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do you expect to do 80% of the household chores yeah yeah I expect to do all of them yeah all of
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them yeah 100% of that because the my answer specifically when I said I'd like to work 20%
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of the time um that's me taking that extra responsibility on myself at my leisure um I
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yeah 100% 100% of the housework and obviously you know when the children are young you're there
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the majority of the time the dad will come home and do what he can what he wants to do if he wants
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to play with the kids or whatever and but you're the one home all day you should be putting the
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dinner on the table cleaning up making sure that he can relax after going out and providing the
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money that puts a roof over yours and your kids heads yeah I agree what percent of you would want
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to be working moms not me no I wouldn't know not over if your choice was to be a stay-at-home mom
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versus a working mom stay would anyone here prefer to be a working mom um I feel like
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because I'm a working mom I feel like I would I don't know if I'd be comfortable staying at home
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all day I like to be I'm creative so I would like to maybe have a business or run something
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and be in charge of a business my own earnings basically um and probably I'd be very bored at
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home I know there's a lot to do at home but it would just be very boring for me so I would like
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to have my own business or be active can I ask you a question why would you prefer to be creative
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and be active with someone else's business rather than be still creative no it would be my business
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being a mother it would be my business so being a mother yeah I would still be doing that but I feel
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like I would want something else of my own I don't I wouldn't want to sit at home I get it people might
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want that their husband going out working and just living off him but at the same time I would like to
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have my own I can't I'm active I can't just sit at home cook clean it will get boring but then being a
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mother doesn't consist of sitting at home you have to raise your children I'm very active I do know that
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I'm a mom but what I'm saying is I like to be a mom but also have something on the side I'm not
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saying I'll do it nine to five every single day or seven days a week but I'm saying I would like to
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have something so whether it's three days a week or if it's based on the experience that you want
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something in the back like as a backup because no it's not backup it's just my preference I like
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to be doing something I like to have I agree wouldn't you rather make money wouldn't you rather do the
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creative stuff with your kids yeah I'll do that too no you can't do everything no but you can do as
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much as you you desire to do so that I could know from my own experiences I worked I worked two jobs
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at one time I still looked after my child still took to her activities who watched the kid when
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you're at work she went to school and then I had her or her dad at the time but I'm what I'm saying
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is it depends but if when he finished work it all rotates what I'm saying is personally staying at
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home maybe five days a week and then two days I'm doing something of my own like creative with my
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daughter or showing her something like I like fashion so something like that or selling something
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just just something to keep me active I think when you're working like I work a lot and yeah
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I take responsibility and I believe that my child misses out a lot because I work so much
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I just think I just that's all I want to say really I just think it there's no way you can do both like
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I'm aware that my child misses out and I wouldn't choose this I will say I wouldn't choose it I take
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responsibility for the poor choices that I've made and I'm accountable but I just think if I had a
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choice yeah if I could rewind and I'm younger and I make a better decision then I probably would make
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a better decision but obviously I take responsibility so you could ask your question you would stay at
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home every single day I love the idea of staying at home I'm very home orientated but I have to take
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responsibility for the poor choice that I made and I'm accountable but if I had a choice rewind in time
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which is what everyone would say my I'd say in this circumstances well most people I'm sure I
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don't know but I just that's my belief anyway what about after the because obviously you said that you
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had your child fairly young um can't you do the creative stuff when they're older like at like 16
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why my question would be um why now why why when the child is is younger um why not why now because
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there's no better time than now I don't know what I'm gonna I might want to be doing
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something different and so do you believe that you can work and devote your whole time to your
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child you can't work do you believe your child's missing out when you're fulfilling yourself your
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business because I'm gonna take responsibility and say my child definitely misses out my well my
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business is not like it doesn't require me to be present my business and mine is even mine is and
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I work from home and I just hate the fact that I have to be on the computer I work now I work around
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my child because I'm fortunate enough to do that so she's missing out then no she's not missing out
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anymore because I'm more present now whereas before in the beginning I'm just saying working
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from home is work it's the same as being in an office your child okay it's not getting your
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attention okay so I work um I have a business so a fashion business okay um and I also work with my
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family so my family own a children's home so it's very flexible so I choose my working hours I can work
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when my daughter's at school so do I yeah my child don't go to school and I still believe that she
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misses out okay but personally I also okay so you're saying that she misses out however there
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is a percent when you're a single mom your child is going to miss out however I make sure that I
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give she does gymnastics swimming dance and I take her to everything so and not only that we go on
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holidays so we I know that she's going to miss out but at the same time I fill in the spaces so when
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she's on half term I take off work I'm with her every single day so I can't be superwoman however I know
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that she's going to miss out on certain days because I'm not present however I'm able to take
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off days and be with her and do extra stuff holidays activities she doesn't miss out any of that however
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if I'm going to work she's going to miss out on something it's it's not even if it was the other
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way around her dad she's going to miss out on her dad prefer to work than be at home with you I prefer
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to work so I can provide for her what am I what do I want her to do just just look at the tv
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I'm saying if the man was providing for you and you was at home and you had a choice can you
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you said you would prefer to work still I would still prefer to do something yeah because I'm
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active I don't I couldn't just sit at home even though your child no one said parenting is sitting
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at home it's no but what I'm saying to you is I couldn't just be at home drawing pictures of my
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daughter like I'd we do that anyway but I couldn't do that every single day it just wouldn't
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fulfill me cooking with them you know yeah I could cook like from scratch yeah Auntie Jenny will bring
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the kids over and they'll just like cook from scratch yeah see my daughter you could do with your
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kids there's so much stuff me and my daughter we do so much however I couldn't do that every
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single day it's just not me some women that's them it's it's interesting so you said it would
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you would get bored right yeah why do we never hear men talk about getting bored what getting bored
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because they're not are they at home every day with their children bored of what a lot of them are
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not the majority of them I feel like we just never really hear men talk about getting bored in a
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relationship or getting bored at home even when they're single fathers yeah I get bored very easily
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I like I feel like I'm someone that has to be continuously doing something definitely get
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bored that's how do you get bored of being a mother when that's what you're naturally supposed to I'm
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not saying I'll get bored of being a mother I'll get bored of the routine I get your point you want
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your own identity in your own so it's not even that I just want to be able to I just don't want to be
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sitting at home okay wake up at six my having a child at home I don't think having children is
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like you how could you get bored of having your child I'm not saying you're not you're misinterpreted what I'm
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saying I'm not saying I'm getting bored of having my children I'll get bored what you need to get
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away you don't have to do with me but who said you have to make it the same for me is not the same
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okay maybe because of the lifestyle that I live so the job that I do is no days the same so nothing
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is the same whereas if you're staying at home I feel like it would just be it just wouldn't suit me
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I'd like to define a home life then I suppose but for me it just wouldn't what I imagine for a
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stay at home mom wake up every day look after your children cook clean provide that's what I'm
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imagining so what is it is that even when you've got that high value man that's providing everything
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or is that if he's just earning a like less than that what I didn't actually think of it like yeah
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that's the first thing that came to maybe that's what it is because I feel like if you you had that
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option of to sit at home and your husband's working and you're looked after I don't think you would
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want to do that maybe I don't know because I'm quite business minded I would still want to run
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something I'm very business I've run businesses since I was like yeah but me and you are different
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13 I'm just saying yeah but I would still what I'm saying is I'm very ambitious but when my man
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was at home like I don't want to do nothing I just want to be with my child like all day I want to
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spend as much time as I can my man looks after me and like if my man's ambitious like me which he was
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like I just want to support what he's doing to get it I want him to do better yeah so like all my
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energy then is going to my man because like we can build together as a family and you're building
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a unit then what would you have for yourself yeah my family that's everything yeah but see she values
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her kind of success yeah her career she wants to make something that's more like a modern mindset
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because it's me before the family where she's saying it's she's saying it's the family before
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I put family first I family for me if you know who knows me I'm very big on family I'm very family
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this is my cousin sitting beside me we're very together but I'm asking you a question
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that that that and you're saying I would rather do something for me versus the family no I'm not
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saying that I was saying no because because we asked if you would choose to work what I said
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is I wouldn't work it wouldn't be working if you had the option to be with your family versus versus
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a job but what I'm saying was your business it would be a business that doesn't require much of me
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so I could still like it would be one not possible it's not possible no there is possible to set up
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something and it doesn't have to I don't have to be present I've got businesses like that I work from
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home do the work once and I never have to touch it again but but there's always that element and I
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could sit and ask my child which I do sometimes I talk to her would you prefer mommy to be like this
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good yeah wish wish you could put the laptop down I wish you could do this because all she sees at
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home is me working but that's the role I have to live by but that's now that's now that's not
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what I'm saying what I'm saying to you is there's there's no way you can have a business without
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putting any time in it if that was easy I'm not saying about putting any time in it but I would
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reduce my time because I would understand that I'm a stay-at-home mom I've cut my hours to spend
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more time with my child okay but I'm talking about in that sense so you said I will stay at home I would
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make sure that okay two days a week I would devote to my business and the rest I'll be at home looking
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after my child that is just my preference I can't imagine and yeah so you value your career more
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than you know I value it's about I value my family a lot I also think it's important I think we're
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forgetting that it's 30% of the time almost pardon me that's 30% of the time you would devote to the
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work and two days a week 28.5 I just yeah I would I would do I would do two days a week and that would
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be satisfying for me that's my she's at school but and also she would be at school so she wouldn't
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actually be missing out on much because she's at school but but the whole point is a more traditional
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mindset it it would be to stay at the family when you look at the definition of a modern mindset versus
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a traditional mindset traditional mindset is the family before me yeah or modern is me before the
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family and your answer it is modern I'm not saying I don't even like send it I don't