Brittany Renner Admits This About Herself
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about growing up in a dual parent household and how that affected our relationships with our parents and how it shaped us into the women we are today. We also talk about the importance of a good relationship with a partner and how important it is to have a partner in your life.
Transcript
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From your perspective, Brittany, how was it for you, correct me if I'm wrong, you grew
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So I was raised by my mom until about like nine, and then my grandma kind of took over.
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So when I was growing up, I thought my mom just didn't want to be around, but my grandma
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So like she kicked my mom out, and my grandma was my caretaker, my grandma and grandpa.
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So I was raised by my grandparents the other half of my life.
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Okay, how was that for you in terms of just learning how to be a woman whenever you reached
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I felt like a lot of their ideas were just really outdated.
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I felt like they were really strict, and it was smothering.
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So even just going to a simple party or going to a friend's house, like as an adult, do I
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see why maybe parents aren't so quick to let you go over to someone's house?
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Yes, but it was to a place where you couldn't even explore.
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I didn't really learn too much from my grandma about being a wife or how to be in a relationship
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because I always felt like they just tolerated each other.
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It's just always something I've known to be true, but I've never seen anybody do it.
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So I felt like my grandma was trying to get me to cook and do little stuff like that,
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but it just was never something I really took an interest in.
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I genuinely never felt like I belonged in the kitchen.
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And that's where, too, I resented my thought process a lot growing up because I'm like,
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why can't I just be a little bit more simple, a little bit more obedient, maybe a more agreeable,
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not have such a strong opinion, not be so introspective?
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So I feel like my grandma tried to teach me maybe how to cook, but as far as catering to
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And that's where I think sometimes maybe I get a little frustrated with the internet's
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perspective because I'm like, you don't even know what I've had to go through to even
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Like, I've had to bump my head so many times to just be able to sit in my car and tell you,
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So I just never felt like I really was prepared to be a wife ever, genuinely.
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Like, I mean, how many, I don't think the stuff that we talk about on these podcasts would
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be so shocking if women weren't lied to for 50 years.
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And I think it's like, even talking to Andrew today, like, wasn't it helpful?
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Like, when he was talking about stuff, I was, even me, and I listened to this stuff all
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Like, when he was talking about how to get a guy to stop playing video games, I was like,
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Do you think that coming from a two-parent home and it's like a loving environment, it's
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for everybody, that it sets you up more for success to be able to operate in relationships
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or be willing to submit to whoever the man is because you've seen it growing up?
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I know a lot of people who grew up in dual-parent households and they saw their mother getting
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And like, I know, like someone recently, they were married for like 25 years or so, or 23
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years, and she left basically when the kids were old enough to just, like, none of them
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Um, and I, I remember when I was talking to her, she felt like she was setting her kids
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up for success because we're all under the same roof.
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Um, they have a better chance of whatever, right?
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And it still was damaging because you are witnessing your mother tolerate disrespect for, uh, security.
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It was something that this particular situation, it was, I know one instance was like one of
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It was, it was one of the family friends they were cheating on or is that told them?
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Um, no, it was, they were cheating with one of their family friends.
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So like, someone like, oh, we go over to her house all the time, but my dad is sleeping
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It, I'm not exactly, I don't, I don't think it was, they physically saw it, but it was something
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that the mom would share, um, that they would hear arguments too.
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Like if they weren't, even if they weren't involved in the actual argument, they would overhear,
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um, which obviously, you know, showing, exposing your kids to that stuff is one thing.
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But the other instance was, um, the dad was going out to the club with like the son and
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So it's like that direct, like, I don't respect your mom in this way.
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So that's where I feel like it really depends on what's going on in that household because
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seeing your mom be basically disrespected for comfort, it's like, it sends the wrong
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Like blatant dislike, I can't believe he brought his son to a club and she like that.
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But I just think sometimes, you know, we never talk about like the women's part to play in
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And like one, one in four marriages are sexless.
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And so I just think if you're going to starve a man and he's begging you to sleep with him
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and someone comes on a platter, like, that's why I say we never talk about why the men cheat.
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And a lot of people will take this out of context.
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Like I believe in cheating, but like there are times where the woman is not sleeping with
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the man and then he cheats, but he's not naturally inclined to.
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And that's a conversation we don't really have.
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I'm not saying it's okay, but it's almost like, what did you, what did you expect?
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But at the same time too, like, again, like, let's just, like I said, make it with me and
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you, like, if you're my girlfriend and you don't want to sleep with me, the, the, my
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first go-to isn't to go try to sleep with someone else.
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I would want to explore the emotional depths of whatever you're feeling.
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But like, like men, it's just, come on, you know how guys are.
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Like, I'm sure you, you especially, like, like, like being, being as beautiful as you
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are, like most guys, if you put yourself on a platter in front of them would be down.
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Like men, men have, if you're giving him sex, he'll still cheat because there's options.
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I would say most men that have women on them on a silver, for them on a silver platter will
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Like I would say most, but not all men, most, most men work a normal nine to five.
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There's maybe one or a couple of girls in the office, whatever they, he might cheat there,
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but most men, girls aren't really checking for.
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So if you date an average guy, unless you're starving him of sex, it's a lot of work for
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That's why I say, what part did you have to play in him cheating?
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Like, okay, if you were, you were with an elite athlete, right?
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That's just, I see the normal, I saw D3 basketball players.
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But like your average nine to five Joe, it's a bunch of work for him to go out and get a
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A lot of women are always nagging on their husbands.
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They got, they gained a bunch of weight after they had a kid, Brittany showing us firsthand.
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And, and it's like, then they stopped sleeping with him.
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And the men are like, wait, wait, wait, wait, I thought I got 120 pound wife that was going
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Now she got the ring where I'm locked into a contract for life.
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And you could take my kids with me and my money and put me on child support, all this
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And now you're going to gain a bunch of weight and not sleep with me.