JustPearlyThings - December 29, 2022


Brittany Renner Confesses this...


Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

209.41168

Word count

2,093

Sentence count

4

Harmful content

Misogyny

3

sentences flagged

Hate speech

15

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about child support and why it s so complicated and why we need to be better at fighting for our kids in court. We also talk about why we should be out of the business of the court system and how it should be handled.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 matter what i want because i'm asking him this is what our bills are this is how much it would be
00:00:04.720 very reasonable number based on again you can't lie in the financial affidavit it's like they
00:00:10.000 subpoena everything so that's where there's full transparency it's not like you can get a chanel
00:00:15.360 bag with this child support this is literally to cover your child's needs this is not alimony
00:00:21.120 people get confused like a hundred thousand dollars for a kid like that's it depends on their
00:00:25.520 lifestyle i'm saying like this is like this is why the men like see these laws as unfair and this
00:00:31.840 is this is why they don't see this as fair because i hear 2500 a month and i i personally think and
00:00:38.000 this is i grew up in a one percent family okay like this is i i had the life like sort of we were like
00:00:44.000 kind of like rich people that like dressed poor you know what i mean but but it's like like i i hear
00:00:50.320 2500 a month i'm like that's plenty for a kid and i'm not i'm not trying to no that's fine i don't
00:00:56.160 think it's gonna like like damage a kid if they once in a lamborghini once in a honda civic but i'm
00:01:01.360 telling you that's up to judge that's up to the judge and that's up to law and again so if you're
00:01:05.920 if you are in it like i said it's like greater than equal to so if you're using a 1.6 million dollar
00:01:11.200 house a 500 000 house 400 000 house makes sense like i'm not saying you have to be 1.6 million like
00:01:17.120 that's not what it is so like i said people are allowed to feel that way i would love if people
00:01:22.080 were just out of the business in general the court system and there was something that could be worked
00:01:26.800 out but just between families like that's it but that's again that's a fucking ideal world that we 0.79
00:01:32.000 don't fucking live in well and and the feedback i've gotten from men is a lot of times like we would 0.90
00:01:36.640 get more if we didn't drag their ass in court and like this this is the feedback like if you just give 0.85
00:01:42.640 them time start like a lot of times you get more than you think you would have because most most men
00:01:48.640 want like that i know want to take care of their kids but it's just like when when a woman because 1.00
00:01:53.760 in their head and to them it's like you're dragging me to court you're doing all this you're asking me
00:01:57.680 for all this money and it's like in their head they're like well fuck like fuck you no well and to 0.75
00:02:03.120 also yeah um where that point is not relevant to me is because he served me i didn't take this to
00:02:10.720 court he wasn't paying me child support i had to get a lawyer to figure out what to do next but he
00:02:16.320 served me first people don't know that so i got a paper in the letter in the mail and said this is
00:02:21.280 all about to do he's taking you to court yes okay i don't serve to you so it just means he serves you
00:02:26.640 with papers so it's not like so for you saying oh well you know if you didn't take him to court maybe
00:02:30.960 he would well he's taking me to court so again i hear you and maybe for majority situations that's
00:02:37.920 what it is but i was served so then i had to retain a lawyer and like i said all i did was got a
00:02:43.360 consultation just trying to figure out he's not paying anything in child support what do i do and
00:02:48.480 then i got served so i had a retainer so that's why i'm saying my situation is like i get it it's
00:02:53.680 just not uh the typical like yeah maybe if i was just a little more this way he would give me that no
00:02:58.800 he served me i can't really i can't go i have to just defend myself that's it so that's where we're at
00:03:05.440 like again hearts don't break even people have their own motives and their own reasoning to do
00:03:09.520 whatever they do i i never wanted the internet in our business but when you tweet you was faking
00:03:14.640 it all along and putting people in the mix and playing up a narrative you know people think about
00:03:18.080 me oh you feel like you so you feel like he started it on the internet when we broke up yes okay okay
00:03:23.360 tell me tell me about that because well when we broke what i think of i like you're a social media
00:03:27.600 influencer i just assumed you were first no but that's why i'm saying nobody really looks at
00:03:32.800 the facts and really what unfolded so when we broke up he had tweeted you were faking it all
00:03:37.760 along and he said that they were lyrics from a song but thousands he got thousands of retweets
00:03:44.000 and then i became the big bad gold digging whore who just used him and had a baby and bounced on him 1.00
00:03:49.600 and then i became this pedophile psycho that is just vindictive and he started it you put the internet 0.74
00:03:58.000 in our business i literally just had a baby my stitches in my vagina were just healing 1.00
00:04:03.200 why would i want to go to the internet and have it be some spectacle for everybody to see
00:04:08.640 that we broke up why would i want that like after all the stuff i've learned even then that doesn't
00:04:14.640 even make it's not logical and now we have a child my child has his name so what do i gain from going
00:04:21.200 back and forth my baby daddy my son has his name so why would i want to make him look stupid and have
00:04:28.400 people in our ship so what did you do after the tweet did you come and like defend yourself or what
00:04:32.960 no and that's because i was silent because literally oh and that's when all the videos came out yes so
00:04:39.440 that's what happened because when all like i'm telling you i have been through some different things
00:04:45.360 giving birth how i felt after i don't know it was just like a crash like hormonally i don't
00:04:54.240 i was going through all this stuff and you just feel like for me i just felt like i was like
00:04:58.800 he just wanted to die right and when he said that i was like delete the tweet you know like he ended up
00:05:07.360 deleting it but the damage already been done all the blogs picked it up all these stories started
00:05:10.880 circulating and i did not tell my story because quite frankly nobody gives a fuck nobody cares that 0.82
00:05:19.760 i was cheated on nobody cares what i went through when i was pregnant nobody fucking cares so what do 0.97
00:05:26.960 i look like going on live crying about my baby daddy about a decision i made ultimately right this is why
00:05:32.800 i picked to be my child's father i don't need your fucking sympathy and i don't need your 0.98
00:05:37.200 fucking empathy you're not going to understand even if i even just at this interview right here 0.88
00:05:40.720 people may have a better idea but you're still going to think what you want to think about me
00:05:45.600 so i for months i was silent but you know what i did i leaned into being a villain okay well you
00:05:51.920 guys think i'm a piece of shit you think i'm a monster well i'm going to show you what a monster 0.92
00:05:56.080 really is so then i'm on jackson state's campus taking selfies hide your sons because you guys
00:06:02.320 were already saying that in my comments so instead of crying that's kind of funny no it was funny
00:06:07.600 it was it was hilarious i loved it you know so i'm like let me just laugh at my pain just like with
00:06:14.240 you like when people say mean stuff about you okay this is what it is this is how i feel you're not
00:06:19.760 going to use this and hurt me and that is probably something like so you're almost like sometimes you're
00:06:26.480 you're trolling the comments oh yeah absolutely but people don't know my personality people think you're
00:06:32.320 being serious because they don't because they don't know my humor they don't know my personality
00:06:36.640 they don't actually even know how i cope and i have been on social media since july of 2012.
00:06:43.360 i have seen instagram in its many phases before there was even videos on there right
00:06:49.040 i don't know another way because if you read and you obsess about it you're crying in the car
00:06:56.320 right it's i feel like kind of a guinea pig because i'm one of like the original instagram
00:07:02.720 girls right so i just feel like i don't like to explain myself to strangers now me and you are
00:07:08.800 talking where i want you to understand you're asking me questions i'm telling you the truth right
00:07:13.360 but to a bunch of strangers who have no desire to listen to me as you are i'm not explaining myself
00:07:18.240 go hide your son i don't care you already think i'm this anyways i can't convince you otherwise and 0.61
00:07:22.800 again i'm not jehovah's witness i don't convert people you ain't a believer i ain't here to convert
00:07:26.800 you so yeah a lot of it is like my personality people don't really know how i am now now moving
00:07:31.680 forward i don't really like to troll as much because i realize how damaging being something i'm not a
00:07:38.960 villain how damaging it has been because that's not my truth like you've seen me i'm really just a
00:07:44.000 little sweetie pie that's just kind of how i am i don't like people to see me vulnerable and nice and
00:07:48.400 she's actually likable because i would at one point i would have rathered people fear me think
00:07:55.200 i'm a succubus evil whore because i i didn't want people to see this mushy part because it's disgusting 0.91
00:08:01.760 right and that's why i've always judged that part but i've told myself i'm going to authentically be
00:08:05.520 myself if it's not as exciting as being a villain right if i don't get as many clicks if i don't get
00:08:11.440 any more followers moving forward today at least i can say i'm being myself because all that
00:08:16.560 shit show that wasn't me being myself that was me playing into a character that is like 0.74
00:08:20.400 not even a fraction like five percent of who i am what do you think about the phrase life is about
00:08:25.680 choices and trade-offs i agree i mean i love kevin samuels i feel like that was definitely a message
00:08:31.280 like that he would preach a lot and it's true what was it like meeting kevin
00:08:37.440 and he's much taller in person and did you take any of his advice second part
00:08:47.120 i felt like i started to think about my life and what i wanted to do moving forward
00:08:52.800 which kind of i don't say it's scary i don't want to judge it but like
00:08:57.840 he talked about a lot of uncomfortable truth about the perception of men and like family structure and
00:09:03.360 my situation and um it was a lot of difficult truths that were really hard to hear and i feel
00:09:09.200 like i started thinking more of a having more of a business mentality after i spoke to kevin and i
00:09:14.720 think he's was very kind i listened to him a lot when i was pregnant and i felt like his message often
00:09:19.920 went missed because they would sensationalize um him being hard on women i've heard him be hard on men
00:09:26.640 i've heard both you know but the internet's gonna run with what's the most viral but no i i loved meeting
00:09:32.320 him he was a fellow pisces like myself he's very charming he's very funny very open-minded but he
00:09:38.720 he was tough he was just like tough love so yeah i miss him you know as many of you know i was just
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