JustPearlyThings - December 29, 2022


Brittany Renner's Ideal Man


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

195.40651

Word Count

1,954

Sentence Count

1

Misogynist Sentences

2

Hate Speech Sentences

6


Summary

In this episode, I sit down with a good friend of mine to talk about her experience with online dating and what it s like being a content creator online. We talk about the pros and cons of online dating, how to deal with the stigma of being an only female content creator, and how to navigate online dating in the 21st century.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 do this but I really wish I could have interviewed him or like had him on my
00:00:04.140 show like that's the one person that I I just we used to watch it's like you
00:00:08.280 watched him so much you felt like you knew him absolutely and I don't talk to
00:00:11.760 I think I talked to him twice like once about my channel and once about an ex
00:00:15.840 like boyfriend of mine and it was like I don't know you just like felt like you
00:00:21.600 knew him even though like I'd only talked to him twice really yeah and I
00:00:24.480 think people underestimated how much he really cared he put a lot of time energy
00:00:28.080 and effort into talking about family structures and talk and having people
00:00:31.920 be accountable and calling out the the I have a PhD you know die with a dog like
00:00:37.580 he called out a lot of things that are gonna be people's reality if they don't
00:00:41.520 look at their lives now so I think that's why a lot of his content was rub people
00:00:46.020 the wrong way my perspective you know everyone has their own feelings but
00:00:49.860 because he was necessary he was about outcomes not really what felt good yep
00:00:53.820 and a lot of people would like I hate it when people would like question is
00:00:58.060 intentions are like that it is you know what I'm just like what who cares his
00:01:02.140 outcomes are good he has people making videos about how they got married because
00:01:05.980 of him yeah and it's like how can you argue with outcomes right what do you so
00:01:13.780 did you answer did you take his advice yeah I started focusing more on the
00:01:19.120 business and figuring out like what do I even like to do like how do I plan to make
00:01:23.260 money like what is gonna change here like there's relationship advice that
00:01:29.260 what oh relationship advice um well we talked more about business okay yeah our
00:01:35.800 like the stuff that we talked about it like when we would talk on the phone
00:01:39.580 every now and then um funny you talk to me about business yeah first time more
00:01:44.080 business so that's why I like when it came to relationships we didn't really talk
00:01:50.260 about that stuff not really mm-hmm to be honest because I just feel like that I
00:01:54.880 wasn't really focused on that I was trying to figure out my life I have a kid
00:01:57.980 now and I feel like he was you know he was really insightful that first of that
00:02:02.920 perspective and topic so yeah I'm looking at the question what are the pros and cons
00:02:09.580 only fans only fans are we talking about like typically what people post on only fans are
00:02:17.560 like are these people like posting like like cooking corn oh or corn to to nudes nudes okay um
00:02:26.800 I have I think it's easy money I don't think there's gonna be much longevity with it and I
00:02:39.580 for me I don't like the idea of selling a picture of me like a personal picture
00:02:48.280 that maybe I'd send a guy like well you can subscribe for like $10 and you can
00:02:52.240 see it and I think it just takes away intimacy for me um I think it's too
00:03:01.060 invasive but there are people who obviously make money sex workers that do can I say
00:03:05.760 that sex workers okay um sex workers that make bank and they serve their like
00:03:13.800 there's an audience for that they say they fulfill their audiences desires but
00:03:18.240 it's not for me I wouldn't want to do it no I don't like taking the easy way out
00:03:23.580 either and that's just my opinion I think it's an easy way out but it's not
00:03:26.880 like you're not actually asking yourself what you want to do and you're not
00:03:30.840 thinking about longevity unless you're using that money to like invest in other
00:03:35.580 things but most likely or not and then not only now you kind of have to carry
00:03:39.840 that stigma of you sell content online and there's guys that don't care about
00:03:45.660 that but like the stuff we've been talking about there's more guys that care that
00:03:49.620 you're an OnlyFans girl than not so I feel like why do it if you don't have to you know
00:03:54.520 because it's just like I feel like it has such a mark yeah see we we agree again
00:03:59.740 yeah I would avoid it I'm like I already got enough fucking shit okay I can't be
00:04:05.500 adding now and I just feel like it's easy way out do you think you could
00:04:09.100 respect a man and submit to a man that makes significantly less than you so forty
00:04:13.840 five thousand dollars a year yes but it's it's not about the money that brings the
00:04:18.080 respect it's about it's about the Mufasa energy and like really caring about me
00:04:22.120 and respecting me and valuing me have you ever met a guy that makes 45k a year
00:04:26.260 that has the Mufasa energy the only guy I've talked to besides like my first
00:04:34.720 boyfriend and the lawyer I don't even I really haven't had many guys oh wait I'm
00:04:40.900 trying to think I talked to a trainer mm-hmm we talked about the last night
00:04:45.460 what was the question again could I could you respect like you submit to him
00:04:50.020 yeah cuz I respect him I'm gonna submit to him that's naturally what I want to do
00:04:54.160 like I want somebody who's gonna love he says he says don't go don't go out would
00:04:58.540 you would you delete your Instagram that's my moneymaker so if I'm not if I
00:05:03.760 don't care about a guy's money that means obviously I'm taking care of like
00:05:07.240 myself and providing the lifestyle that I want for myself so I wouldn't delete my
00:05:10.960 moneymaker now would you would you go down in lifestyle for a family go down in
00:05:15.920 lifestyle but what does that mean because I provide my own okay so okay so
00:05:19.760 this is this is like often Kevin Samuels would talk about how women don't want a
00:05:24.320 husband they want the lifestyle I know you you've kind of agreed with that a
00:05:28.080 little bit because a lot of people do want a lot of people do because they
00:05:31.080 don't have any earning potential so and I like his point was back in the day you
00:05:35.540 would work you both would work at times and you'd have to work twice as hard
00:05:40.460 just to have children so it's like you wouldn't you and he wouldn't make like
00:05:44.600 more money so it would be like try not to butcher this too much sorry Kevin
00:05:49.880 Samuels okay but so the whole point is like you don't get to go on trips you
00:05:54.980 can't go to London for a week you can't I mean this is different because you but
00:05:59.060 you see what I'm saying you don't get to go on trips you don't get to eat at
00:06:01.660 like even growing up we even though we were in a 1% family like I was very much
00:06:05.720 jealous of some of the lifestyle that some of my friends lived like where they
00:06:10.400 would eat out they had cable like we didn't have cable TV my parents like I
00:06:14.160 want to say we still went on vacations but we never flew and it's like a lot of
00:06:18.160 times like women would rather have the lifestyle than a family well to me what
00:06:22.820 you're describing sounds like money management because that's you make money
00:06:26.660 and the reason that your family has stayed wealthy is because they don't eat
00:06:30.580 out every night they're not taking trips here they're everywhere they are even
00:06:35.600 though you guys could do that right it's like that sounds like just money
00:06:39.220 management they do they do now I will say yeah but that sounds like money
00:06:43.180 management that sounds smart so yeah if you have more kids it doesn't make sense
00:06:46.960 to go out and spend $300 at Outback when you could buy groceries right but the
00:06:51.280 whole point is like let's say you deleted your Instagram tomorrow you you could
00:06:55.120 hypothetically get a part-time job make 20,000 a year date a guy that makes
00:06:58.900 $50,000 a year that's 70k you could live off of that it just wouldn't be the
00:07:03.100 lifestyle you'd want yeah and so that's that's the whole question is like would
00:07:07.020 you go down and lifestyle for a family because you get you get a family out of
00:07:10.980 it and that's like legacy that's like what we all want yeah it's like a lot of
00:07:15.640 times as women we don't want to give up you know the nails done the hair done the
00:07:21.220 makeup yeah all of that you know my answer is gonna be no because that's
00:07:26.640 something I can provide for myself so I would never downgrade my lifestyle
00:07:30.900 because again I'm not asking a man to provide something I can't provide for
00:07:34.160 myself so again I feel like I'm very I've gotten so much better at money
00:07:39.800 management not spending $600 at Sephora you know what I mean I feel like
00:07:43.820 there's because I have a son now because I have to think of money and be a lot
00:07:48.540 smarter I have downgraded my lifestyle already so to go from this six figures a
00:07:55.280 year to 20,000 doesn't make sense like I want to tap into my fullest potential me
00:08:00.020 tapping into my fullest potential does not entail working 20,000 working a $20,000
00:08:04.160 a year job it just doesn't that's not what I'm here to do I wouldn't be given
00:08:07.940 this platform I wouldn't be given this voice if I was if I was meant to have a
00:08:11.260 $20,000 a year job that's just what it is like and I'm just speaking for me mm-hmm
00:08:15.740 like I'm meant to do this so I just can't relate to that now do you think it's
00:08:20.900 possible to find traditional women in today's world traditional no no you
00:08:27.960 don't know exist uh I want to go looking for one I would say yeah I'm gonna say
00:08:33.980 now let me know in the comments where do you find them yeah I feel like they
00:08:37.560 would probably have to be like super maybe super religious all right I'm not
00:08:42.220 trying to I'm only reading the question yes so but no I don't what is your ideal man
00:08:46.780 now I'm still figuring that out I feel like there's like like what kind of how
00:08:55.660 we were talking about off-camera as well I have not liked what I've been
00:08:59.440 attracting mm-hmm so I'm going into my inner world mm-hmm and right moving some
00:09:07.120 things around addressing some shit answering questions like even this I
00:09:11.380 don't know I don't know what to tell you right now there are things that in
00:09:15.340 myself that require more attention than like what do I want in a guy mm-hmm like
00:09:19.240 I'm art like it is my thought process I'm already looking at a small percentage
00:09:22.720 of men so why am I gonna dedicate ideally what I would want in a guy mm-hmm I'd
00:09:30.160 rather just keep it open like if I go to the mall and say I want a red bottom
00:09:34.360 with spiked heel and it has a pink bow and it has to have this I go to the mall
00:09:38.920 and it's nowhere to be found mm-hmm what if I just as many of you know I was
00:09:42.880 just banned on tick-tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this
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