Can Modern Women Really Do It All (Call-in Show) | Pearl Daily
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Colorado Rep. Brittany Peterson flew from Colorado to Washington D.C. with her four-week-old infant baby in order to vote on a crisis bill on February 25th. She has been pushing for Congress to reinstate proxy voting for new parents.
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Welcome to the Just Pearly Things YouTube channel.
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So, ever since the 90s, it's been pushed that being a mom is the hardest job on the planet.
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You hear it all the time over daytime television and on these female-centered podcasts.
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I mean, mothers have it so hard, they might as well be modern-day superheroes.
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This praise and social infrastructure has convinced too many women that they can have it all.
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They can have the career and the kids and the lifestyle that they want.
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Like the late, great Kevin Samuel said, life is about choices and trade-offs.
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The mother's being able to have it all rhetoric prevents women from being prepared to handle the sacrifices that they're going to have to make when they make certain decisions, like having a child with a loser or paying a ton of money to have a baby when they wait too long to have one.
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So, that's what we're going to talk about it today.
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You've seen more and more stories of women bringing their babies to places where babies really shouldn't be.
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These women proved time and time again that they didn't plan to have their child or they weren't really ready for the reality of parenting.
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The biggest problem with these women is that they depend on everyone else while claiming that they are strong and independent.
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They depend on friends, family, and the kindness of strangers to make it through life.
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Many of their friends and family are emotionally blackmailed into helping these women and society is told that helping these women is the right thing to do.
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So, I was inspired by this topic after just watching all these broads.
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Watching all these broads in Congress bringing their kid to work.
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All right, so Congresswoman flew to D.C. with her four-week-old baby to vote on a budget bill.
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All right, Representative Brittany Peterson was elected to serve the people of Colorado's 7th Congressional District,
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and she has gone the extra mile to do so, literally.
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She flew from Colorado to Washington, D.C. with her four-week-old infant baby in order to vote on a crisis bill on February 25th.
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Congress makes no accommodations for new parents, she wrote on a website on January 27th.
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So, while I'm recovering and taking care of my newborn at this critical time,
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it's incredibly unfair that my constituents will not have a voice in Congress until I am physically able to return to Washington.
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Between January 13th, the last day her doctor cleared her to fly home on February 25th,
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She has been pushing for Congress to reinstate proxy voting for new parents.
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Today, with my newborn, Sam, who's just four weeks old,
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unfortunately, I wasn't given the opportunity to vote remotely after giving birth,
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but I wasn't going to let that stop me from being here to represent my constituents
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and vote no on this disastrous Republican budget proposal.
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Republicans and Trump promised to lower costs on day one,
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and instead, their priorities have been focused on ripping health care away from kids,
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It includes people like my mom who work for hourly wages but are still unable to afford health care.
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When you don't have access to health care, you show up in the ER.
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This is going to have a huge burden on our hospitals and, unfortunately, will have skyrocketing costs.
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It also slashes SNAP, taking food off the plates for seniors, veterans, and kids,
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all to fund tax breaks for billionaires like Elon Musk while increasing our national deficit by trillions of dollars.
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How can anyone show their face in their district after voting yes for this?
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So not only do women use their babies for clout, they also use it for sympathy, right?
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Okay, because now she's trying to say, poor me, woe is me.
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Okay, Congress introduced proxy voting as a way to keep its work moving forward during the pandemic
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Proxy voting was helpful not only for new parents but also for congressional leaders
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who were caring for aging parents recovering from cancer or simply experiencing a flight delay.
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Peterson and Anna Paulina Luna, a congressional representative from Florida,
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are working together to shore up bipartisan support to allow new mothers to vote remotely for six weeks
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Yeah, so this is, again, this is like exactly the type of husband I would expect this woman to have.
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I don't really care what women do, but please don't make it my problem.
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When you're bringing your kid to the middle of Congress, now this is, well, I ought to follow politics.
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In the meantime, Peterson was required to present to vote.
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So though she is still physically healing from childbirth,
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Peterson flew in and stepped up to the podium to address Congress while holding a swaddled Sam.
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I rise today with my newborn, Sam, who's just four weeks old.
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Unfortunately, I wasn't given the opportunity to vote remotely after giving birth.
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So again, this is a woman saying, I want special treatment because I'm choosing to have a child.
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And I don't expect special treatment if they choose to have a kid, right?
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They don't say, give me more, like special treatment at work because I'm a father.
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No, they say, okay, I'm going to have to sacrifice, okay?
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But I wasn't going to let that stop me from being here to represent my constituents.
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At one point, Sam out let a tiny yelp and Peterson, who sounded slightly out of breath, calmly said, I agree, Sam.
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All right, now she said, nobody fights harder than a mom.
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Soldiers at war don't fight harder than a mother.
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Caroline Leavitt takes a picture with her baby at work.
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Now, this woman is supposed to be conservative.
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So why isn't she at home taking care of her kid?
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And all the conservative simps in the comments, the best press secretary ever.
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Like, I don't think the best press secretary ever is bringing her kid to work.
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Now, this guy, so it's okay for her to bring her kid to work, but the lady in Congress can't.
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So she's doing what average day-to-day stay-at-home mom or work-from-home moms do.
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The poor kiddo will never receive mom's full attention.
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Notice all the Christian nationalists are suddenly silent about this woman working and raising a family.
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Now, remember, Michaela Peterson was looking for someone to raise her kid on Instagram.
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So we got this young woman criticizing this, obviously.
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Caroline Levitt, it's undeniable that you're doing a fantastic job as White House press secretary, but I think you should quit.
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There's nothing conservative about leaving your baby at home while you work a highly intensive, important, time-consuming role.
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Going back to work when your baby is four days old is a form of neglect.
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Babies, especially newborns, need their mothers.
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And the conservative movement needs to stop pushing this rebranded version of feminist ideology that says that women can do both.
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Being a mother, especially a mother to newborns, is a full-time job.
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Everything in life comes with sacrifices and trade-offs, especially being a parent.
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What America needs right now is more present mothers.
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Okay, so now Michaela Peterson says her kid is going to think, my mom is awesome.
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The kid who's four days old is going to think, wow, I'm so happy my mom's a press secretary.
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Or the kid that's, let's say it makes it to five years, and now the kid's going to say, my mom's awesome.
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At five, they're going to understand what's going on.
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All right, now we got a woman bringing her baby to a college class.
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So, Lincoln University professor goes viral for holding a student's baby during class.
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The story of how a Lincoln University college professor ended up holding a baby during class was life-changing for a 21-year-old student who is finally able to take notes.
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I've always wanted to go to an HBCU, so I decided what's better than the first.
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So, I chose Lincoln, said Imani Lamar, who is now a senior at the Pennsylvania University.
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Two years ago, she was taking a class with Dr. Aquil Dix in the health sciences department.
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She had just come back from school after taking a semester off for giving birth to her son prematurely.
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Lamar's son had to spend months in the need of going to the hospital.
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Seeing him and not being able to help him was really, really hard.
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Christopher Murray, who Lamar had named for the father, had become her world and her schedule revolved around his.
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When she told Dix she had to miss class because she couldn't find a babysitter, her answer was no.
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No, he told me, and I was looking at him like, no, I can't miss class.
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I'm not going to have one of my students miss class because they have no one to watch their child.
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Instead, he told her to bring her son to school.
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I don't mind helping students whenever they need me.
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Lamar had reservations about bringing her baby to class.
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So when Dix was started lecturing, something changed for Lamar.
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To have somebody who's there for me really cares.
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Lamar is now a few months away from graduating, and she has two of her favorite guys, her mentor, and now healthy-year-old son to thank.
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BBC News this month to bring you stories showing America strong, which highlight the strength and resilience of people throughout our nation.
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Tonight, we want to introduce you to a local college professor who's doing more than teaching health sciences.
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He's also imparting life lessons and showing how it truly takes a village.
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Action News community journalist Becca Hendrickson has his story.
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The story of how this college professor ended up holding a baby was life-changing for the 21-year-old student who was finally able to take notes.
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I always wanted to go to HBCU, so I decided what's better than the first, so I chose.
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Which one of you put what or wouldn't in the chat?
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Now 23-year-old Imani Lamar had just come back to school after taking a semester off for her child, who was born premature and spent months in the NICU.
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It was really hard every day going to the hospital and seeing him, not being able to help him, and it was hard.
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Little Christopher Murphy, named for Imani's late father, became her world.
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So when she told Dr. Kiel Dick she had to miss class because she couldn't find a babysitter.
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And I just was looking at him like, no, I can't miss class.
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I'm not going to have one of my students miss class because they have no one to watch their child.
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You know, I don't mind helping my students wherever they need me.
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Imani had reservations about bringing her baby to class.
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Jet Village says, my situationship partner said she doesn't like me listening to your channel.
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She's never going to get into the relationship.
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But when Dr. Dick started lecturing, something changed for Imani.
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I never thought that it would ever come to that.
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And to have somebody who's there for me, who really cares and generally wants me to finish and finish strong, it meant a lot.
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And she has two of her favorite guys, her mentor, and her now two-year-old healthy son to thank.
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You really don't understand how much this meant to me.
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We have no idea how much special treatment we get.
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She's spending a lot of, she's going to be like, oh, he's so nice.
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And by the way, guys, we're going to do a call-in show.
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And this weekend, I'm posting the divorce documentary ad.
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But if you do want to donate, half a million dollars, we can finish this documentary.
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A million dollars, we can make it Netflix-grade level.
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So, you know, right now we're distributing it directly on our website.
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But as of now, we're in talks with some people.
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And as a single mom, this is something I've always feared becoming my reality.
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Mainly because I thought it was, if you ever had to bring your kid to work with you, because yesterday I had to.
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And as a single mom, this is something I've always feared becoming my reality.
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Mainly because I thought it was going to be embarrassing to have to tell a manager that, hey, I can't take care of my kid.
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Or I can't find someone to take care of my kid.
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And that is the exact feeling I felt when I had to do that today.
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But I'm extremely grateful and lucky that I have a manager who's not only a parent, but also an amazing person.
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So they were extremely understanding of the situation.
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But when I got to work, I decided to pray and just try to find some clarity in this whole situation.
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Because I was extremely embarrassed, but also overwhelmed.
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My daughter just entertained herself for the most part.
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There's so many toys in my work and so many things to do.
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So it was fun for both of us, but also a learning experience for me.
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So now we've got women bringing their kids to work.
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And here we've got a woman adding a play area to the office.
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So since women are going to be old mothers, single mothers, or childless,
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it's going to be kind of interesting to see what's going to happen in the next 20 years.
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Because women are going to keep out-earning men in these useless jobs, right?
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I really think these daycares might be semi-common.
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If any of you guys have ever worked at a place where people brought their kids to work, call in.
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I don't know what it's like to bring your kids to work.
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My dream is to actually have a kids area in the head office because 90% of the staff at Lux to the Shore are women and young women.
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So like, let's say we're expanding the office and this whole boardroom area was a kids play place.
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It had like little video games, books, coloring things.
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I just want to show you guys that there's going to be an area that, if we don't use it,
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Tits out with your kids in the TikTok is diabolical.
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Thirst trapping with your kids, diabolical, man.
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Now, can women, are there jobs that I could foresee being good for mothers?
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And so she would do night shifts and she would, at the end of her shift, take the kids to school.
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Yeah, no, she looks like she's going to the club.
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So we're going to put the link in the chat, guys, and then I'm going to do announcements while I wait for you guys to call in.
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Um, do you know any mothers that actually had it all and did it well?
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Or do you know mothers that thought they could have it all and then found out they couldn't?
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A lot of women say they can have it all, but they really just hire someone to do it for them.
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It's like, yeah, I can do it all, but then I throw my kids in daycare.
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Well, I mean, they're kind of doing it for you.
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Um, has a woman, has women leaving children, all right, has women having children affected your workplace?
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If so, how did you ever have a coworker bring your child to work?
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Um, so feel free to call in, um, I'm sure Doug MPA is going to come up first.
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Let me know when he's on, but I do have a quick announcement before, while we're waiting.
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All I know, I've met mothers who want to try to live the delusion of having it all off
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So the women that would say that they have it all, they won't talk about the sacrifices
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everyone has to make for them to live in that delusion.
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So if they're able to work and have their high flying career, odds are family members are
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having to help them with their kids, or they have a nanny, or the government is paying for
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something, someone, someone has to pay for their shortcomings for not being there for
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their children, especially single mothers, single mothers.
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One of the biggest problems with single mothers is that single mothers make a unilateral decision
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that will affect all of the people around them.
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And so, or if a woman is married, right, have you ever met a couple, Pearl, where the
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The woman's like a part-time worker or a stay-at-home mom, but she has some kind of side business
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or some kind of multi-level of marketing, and the guy has to feed her this delusion that
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she somehow contributes financially to the household.
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And she's like, oh yeah, my wife's business, and she's, and he has to delude her into thinking
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that somehow she's on par with him when she barely earns any money.
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It's just people around them are contributing their time and effort for her to live in this
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And usually a lot of times if she has a rich husband that's well-connected, she'll give
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And everybody knows, they're like, yeah, this woman isn't making any money, but...
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The sad part about it is, women will always use that mother trump card that being a mom
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So anything the husband does, he can be curing cancer, he could be on an oil rig making $300,000
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a year risking his life every day, and she'll say, I'm still a mom.
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And that's more important than anything that you do as a man.
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It's one of the biggest problems with these women.
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They honestly believe that being a mom trumps anything a man does.
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And it's almost insulting because I'll look at, like, guys' life on, like, an oil rig.
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Like, there are jobs, um, I think I, I listened to, what is it, Mike Rowe?
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Where he's on, he talked about the hardest jobs, or, like, the most dangerous jobs, and
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they're, like, he talked about, like, fishing boats in Alaska, where there's, one did, like,
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two people that die every single time to get us crabs.
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Yeah, I think it's, like, one or two guys die a week in the oil fields in one of the Dakotas.
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Yeah, it's just women, I'm telling you, they give them, they've been allowed to give themselves
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And once again, women want what they want, and they're going to do anything to get it.
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Especially these mothers, and these, that want to have the career and the lifestyle, and
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they'll step on anybody, they'll use emotional manipulation, anything to give what they want.
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And then what's about it is that delusion becomes everyone's normal.
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So, the normal of the husband, the normal of the parents, the normal of everybody around
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this woman, is making her seem like she can have it all.
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Hopefully, you see this, and I can bring you back up.
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What industry are you in, and what part of the country?
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I'm in Tennessee, and I'm a supply chain logistics manager.
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There's a decent amount of women in logistics, aren't there?
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When I was in school, I met a lot of business majors that did supply chain that were women.
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They're not actually in the distribution or the quality.
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So, did you ever have any of them bring their kids to work?
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And did you know any women that really did have it all?
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Did you know anybody that did successfully do that?
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They were either good wives and good mothers, and I know some, but they certainly had to make
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I just, certainly not of her own merit, certainly not without a ton of favors, either from her
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I'm not necessarily saying women shouldn't work or have jobs, but, so, yeah.
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So, did you know any mothers, like, personally that thought they could have it all and it
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My mom was a stay-at-home mom, and my dad was in the military.
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And, now, there were times where she had, like, a little part-time gig at, like, a bank
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For the most part, she was a stay-at-home mom and raised her children, so.
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So, you don't have a lot of women in your actual workplace, right?
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The, you know, like I said, the supply, the warehousing, the distribution, the actual
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There are some, but, like I said, they're usually upstairs in the office.
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Like I said, more on the brokerage side or more on the HR side or, you know, that sort
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When you were younger, did you ever work in a workplace where there were a lot of women?
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I actually worked for child support enforcement.
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Well, let me just say, I'll answer that, Pearl.
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But before I do, if you'll allow me just a minute, I worked for child support enforcement
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And I got to tell you, that was the one job that I was actually good at that I regret.
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And what I mean by that is, well, let me just, before I get to that, I was one of two men
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The other man that was in there, he was the attorney for the office.
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And he was an older, late, middle-aged, older man, very non-confrontational, just kind of
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And they, surprisingly or shockingly, they weren't actually that bad.
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But I had a couple of black women up in there that just, they're just hard.
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They were just horrible people and just had attitudes.
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And there was a couple of black women in there.
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One of them was a fat, uglier version of Angie Stone.
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And I don't know how you can get much uglier than her.
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And I really think she was mad that nobody wanted to touch her or actually have sex with
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her to give her a child, to put them on child support.
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That first woman, can I just keep it a buck here?
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These bastards, son, these pookies, these pookies of these singlehood rap mothers, they
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When I see these women, and again, I'm just keeping it.
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84 percent, 84 percent of black women between the ages of 18 and 34 are morbidly obese.
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And there's Negroes out there still having sex with them.
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And if anyone don't like that, anybody that don't like that, anybody that don't like that,
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I was S-Y-S-B-M and Team Snow Bunny from when my dad was stationed in Germany and I was a
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So I just knew then, but to get back on track, that's my little rant.
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Like I said, I worked in child support enforcement and I'll never forget this.
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Um, we, we, we would have, we would have to go to court, uh, to try and get the, um, parties
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And then it would go before the judge and you agree to this.
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And if there were, if somebody said no, then they would say, okay, you know, go back to
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Um, in fact, I was, I was written up and nearly fired for it because I saw a case where, because
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again, um, I don't know about other States, but in the state of Tennessee, if you owe so
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much in arrears, that can be, uh, an arrestable offense and you can have a warrant put out for
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Now the, the person, the non-custodial parent does have a right to have a hearing, but when
00:37:02.320
that happens, um, there's really no advocate on his behalf.
00:37:08.220
There's an advocate on behalf of the custodial parent, which a lot of times is the mother,
00:37:14.880
In other words, the, the, the, the man that's in, in the, that's been locked up for failure
00:37:21.780
And one day we were in court where their true story, Pearl, there was baby, baby mama
00:37:33.600
I said, why would you get pregnant by this dude?
00:37:37.140
You saw, you, you see what he's done to three other women.
00:37:41.060
And, uh, miss, miss, miss Timu Andrew stone that I worked with overheard it and she didn't
00:37:52.040
And she told the bosses and again, they, like I said, surprisingly, my, my, my two bosses,
00:37:54.820
they were two white ladies, surprisingly, they were very nice and very friendly to me.
00:37:59.100
It was mostly the black women in there that, that were mean and nasty to me.
00:38:02.580
And so, yeah, I said, this is something that I just can't do because, you know, just, just
00:38:11.920
So, uh, what you're doing, Pearl is, is literally the second best thing next to sharing the gospel
00:38:21.800
I'm going to ask you, so what are the biggest differences between your work environment
00:38:25.700
of all, besides no B-dubs, what are the biggest differences between working in, what is the
00:38:35.320
biggest difference between working in that environment with all the women and then working
00:38:46.780
Now, again, you've got a lot of Negroes that are raised by these single hood rat mothers
00:38:50.980
and they would have drama, but, um, uh, there was just no issue.
00:39:02.040
Um, and there literally, literally was, I think maybe one or two women and they worked
00:39:13.320
And I'm no fan of, of, of union shops, but I mean, at least we got things done.
00:39:21.460
And if we had any arguments or disagreements, we settled it and handled it like men.
00:39:25.280
And we spoke and there was just never any issues.
00:39:27.900
And again, I'm not saying necessarily that women should not be allowed to work or have
00:39:35.900
Um, they certainly ruined the American workplace and specifically ugly women have ruined the
00:39:44.100
American workplace because let me tell you something.
00:39:47.860
Feminism is nothing more than ugly women with no discernible skills trying to make themselves
00:40:02.480
And that's, and so what they did was, is they invented something called HR, human resources.
00:40:08.140
And I, and I call human resources, the principal's office for adults, because that's essentially
00:40:17.480
The next evolution to HR was the DEI department.
00:40:26.040
And one of the best things that our great orange leader is doing is getting rid of this DEI
00:40:38.600
Esteban, let me ask you, because, because I have a working theory about women in the workplace.
00:40:44.640
Um, women have brought these mindsets that aren't conducive to the bottom line of a company as
00:40:55.400
So example, one of the biggest differences between men and women is that women think that
00:41:00.740
they deserve to be happy at work and have a job that matters, even if they have like
00:41:06.300
a social work degree or no degree at all, they think they have to be important.
00:41:10.040
Whereas men, we don't enter into the workforce at 16 years old, expecting to save the world,
00:41:18.720
We don't care if we're happy at work, as long as we get a job that we get respect at work
00:41:24.700
and we have the finances to be able to support a family.
00:41:29.860
They want status in a job that has none, that they want to be placated to, that they want
00:41:37.980
And it's just not conducive to the bottom line of a company.
00:41:43.940
Well, there used to be a conservative, uh, commentator radio host.
00:41:51.000
I think he used to fill in for Rush Limbaugh from time to time.
00:41:55.000
And he was based out of Atlanta and his name was Neil Bortz.
00:41:58.960
Now I haven't heard, I haven't heard anything from Neil Bortz in a long time.
00:42:03.820
I don't even know if he's still alive, but Pearl, he, he said something.
00:42:09.200
He said, if I had a company, if I had a company, he said, I would not hire anyone, anyone, uh,
00:42:19.360
from any demographic that could potentially bring a lawsuit against me.
00:42:26.360
And he said, companies should actually have the right to be able to do that.
00:42:34.500
He said, companies should not be forced to hire people that are at a greater risk of bringing
00:42:42.820
And again, take that for whatever you want, however you think he, whatever you think he meant.
00:42:54.200
Um, but I understand where he was coming from on that.
00:42:57.760
And, uh, we're going to, uh, we're, we're going to get like 20 more seconds.
00:43:11.860
And believe me, I know, you know, you have them just, just know this Pearl, all the,
00:43:17.680
Just know the reason why they're coming at you is because they know you could take them in.
00:43:22.640
That's not me simping, but it's, it's, it's, it's a fact.
00:43:26.160
Some of the hate that I seen thrown at your way.
00:43:28.260
And I'm like, you're literally the only person really speaking about, uh, some of the things
00:43:33.860
that, uh, you do or are one of the few, I should say.
00:43:37.020
So I know there's going to be some idiots out there saying I'm simping, blah, blah, blah.
00:43:43.300
Well, thanks so much for calling in, calling anytime.
00:43:48.700
Okay, next up we have, we're going to do, uh, we're going to do, Iman.
00:44:22.780
So we're going to go to nevermarrieddating.com again.
00:44:37.300
I'm hopefully this is the first time I've called into your show.
00:44:42.160
Yeah, well, I'm more wondering about your personal experience.
00:44:54.740
Did you ever work in a place where, did you ever work in a place where there are a bunch
00:45:00.280
of women that went out on maternity leave and you had to pick up the slack or anything
00:45:10.840
Did you have a general question for, for Pearl at all?
00:45:17.640
She is such a, you know, expert in the, um, dating world.
00:45:21.780
I really looked to her a lot and I wondered what her thoughts were.
00:45:26.480
Rush, I, I, uh, trying to figure out, I read the poll 25%, that's 25% of 40 year olds in
00:45:34.120
the United States have never been married and it's actually increased from 20% in 2010.
00:45:45.840
Um, they're trying to do everything like Trump is going to get $5,000 and JD Vance told people
00:45:55.420
Just the people will just decide not to have children.
00:46:01.660
I would say women don't want children as much as we previously thought.
00:46:06.740
So women are a hundred percent in control of reproduction now.
00:46:25.940
A lot of women aren't going to put up with that.
00:46:30.180
And it's really, I, I only see marriage, um, becoming for the upper class.
00:46:34.440
If I'm being honest, I see it disappearing completely from the middle class.
00:46:38.640
It's the only men that are going to do it are the ones that can afford a divorce.
00:46:47.200
We, um, we launched our, uh, website for never marry people and, uh, it's the world's only
00:46:55.860
Hope we can get that plug out there for everybody.
00:46:58.620
You don't want to get married or if you want to get married either way, but anybody can
00:47:03.280
join the website, but it's, it's definitely designed for never marry people.
00:47:37.680
Iman, uh, he doesn't, he's, he's on mute, so let me put him back in the, uh, waiting
00:47:49.680
What, the women that you work with, Doug MPA, are they mostly, like, how do they watch their
00:47:59.940
Like, you work with a decent amount of women, don't you?
00:48:02.500
Yeah, but, you know, I work in a place that's rather conservative, so most of them, most
00:48:13.180
I'm, I'm going to, thank God I'm in a conservative area where there's a lot of conservatives.
00:48:17.920
All of my supervisors, all of my higher-ups are married.
00:48:24.160
You know, most of the women are married, so they do the, you know, the husband and the
00:48:28.720
wife work, but they have, uh, a network of people.
00:48:31.920
They have family that help them watch the kids, friends and stuff.
00:48:36.120
Yeah, so my area's really, really good about that.
00:48:38.380
So, would you say the women that you work with can do it all then?
00:48:43.400
Uh, well, they're under no illusion that they, they don't, I haven't heard any of these women
00:48:50.380
say that, that they have it all, but they recognize that, well, because, okay, at my
00:48:56.180
job, I've, I've seen, there are women who have had to go to therapy because they had to
00:49:03.320
work and miss their younger, their children's younger years.
00:49:07.300
That's a rising part of therapy when, you know, a woman gets out of maternity leave
00:49:14.600
after six or eight weeks and then their whole attitude changes because all of a sudden their
00:49:20.000
job's not what's most important, but they put themselves in a position where they have
00:49:24.220
So, I don't work with a lot of women who are under this illusion that they're these
00:49:27.740
high-flying women and they're making an impact and stuff like that.
00:49:30.940
I think it's because they're rather conservative, but they realize that they made their choice.
00:49:36.180
Now they have to lay in the consequences, you know what I'm saying?
00:49:41.640
They like know they did have to sacrifice and that they, so I'm curious, do they do daycare
00:49:46.940
or do their husbands have different, the one woman that I know from growing up that balanced
00:49:55.900
She was a nurse and she did the night shift and so her husband worked during the day.
00:50:02.220
So, I'm sure her marriage probably, they ended up getting divorced actually, so nurses, right?
00:50:10.060
And where I live, uh, daycare is $18.50 a child.
00:50:15.520
So, if you have two kids, most of the time you're in daycare, you're paying more for daycare
00:50:39.280
Uh, what industry are you in and what part of the country?
00:50:42.220
Um, I'm in the West Coast and I, uh, work in the law enforcement.
00:50:54.240
Um, so, the particular part of the country I work in, they're pushing for 30% of our department
00:51:10.900
Yeah, I actually lived in the East Coast and did corrections out there and, uh, it's not
00:51:17.820
So, I moved back, but, uh, yeah, but over here on the West Coast and even on the East Coast,
00:51:23.300
they want to raise the population of female officers, um, to 30% is the majority of some
00:51:31.740
of these departments, which is going to be a detriment to, to safety overall, um, because
00:51:43.840
Yeah, I've seen how the, are they, like, sleeping with everyone at work?
00:51:52.560
Um, yeah, I mean, I've had, we've had women who have fallen in love with inmates, um, which
00:52:07.440
to me is, like, the most bewildering thing I've ever encountered in my entire career.
00:52:13.940
I've just never understood women's dynamic to be attracted to losers, but, you know,
00:52:23.720
Um, so, um, have, how have they, do the women you work with, do they have kids, or?
00:52:31.500
Uh, yeah, some of them have kids, um, I mean, it's, are they all single mothers, the ones
00:52:40.060
Because I know that it's hard for male cops to stay married, but female cops, I would imagine
00:52:47.040
Um, I, well, I mean, we have, you, you have both sides of everything.
00:52:52.700
So, I mean, you have the single mothers, you have the married mothers who are sleeping
00:52:57.020
with other officers that aren't their husbands.
00:52:59.340
Their husbands may even know that they're sleeping with other officers and they're turning
00:53:03.340
them out, um, and, uh, and they're, and they remain married.
00:53:09.200
Um, and then you have the ones who have been cheating on their husbands the whole time and
00:53:14.080
their, um, uh, husbands who work with them in the same prison have no idea.
00:53:23.420
You don't want to tell them, you don't want to break the news?
00:53:27.220
Um, no, uh, I, because when you were, you have a double-edged sword.
00:53:36.120
So when you go and do stuff like that, and we all know, we all understand the pecking order
00:53:41.900
amongst men, um, prison isn't a place where you go and you snitch and you tell everybody
00:53:58.500
So, um, so have, do you know any women like personally that thought they could have it all
00:54:04.060
and couldn't, or how have the women you worked with like balanced kids?
00:54:07.580
Um, you know, this, this is kind of, it's equal for men and women in regards to like
00:54:17.240
parenting and being, uh, being in law enforcement.
00:54:20.580
It's very hard to raise children in general and do a shift work type of job.
00:54:27.460
And then you, and then you add the, the, the danger, the mental health and all that stuff
00:54:33.920
that goes along with our side of, of work, it doesn't really matter if you're male or
00:54:38.420
female, um, and with parenting, you're going to bring some of that home.
00:54:44.420
Your, your, your parenting is going to be affected.
00:54:46.820
You're not going to be around your children like you should a daycare or a babysitter is
00:54:52.640
If you're in that line of work, especially if you're a single parent, doesn't really matter
00:54:56.260
if you're a male or a female, but the females don't handle the, um, the issues of work as,
00:55:07.480
And it's, you know, men are, we're very good at compartmentalizing our problems and compartmentalizing,
00:55:16.540
Um, women on the other hand have a little bit harder time regulating their emotions and
00:55:20.920
checking their emotions when they go through those particular same situations as men do in
00:55:31.240
Cause my father told me when I was young, he said, when you turn 16, you're going to,
00:55:35.920
I'm sorry, the journey of a man, you have one way in life.
00:55:40.860
You're going to get a job when you're 16 and you're going to work until you're dead.
00:55:46.040
Hopefully along the way, you get a highly valued skill, highly valued trade, uh, highly valued
00:55:52.060
education, to be able to put yourself in the best position to live life on your own terms
00:55:59.460
So when the going gets tough, you know, you don't have a choice, especially at a job.
00:56:03.860
Women deep down know that, that this is optional for them.
00:56:08.620
They have other ways to navigate life besides a job and a career.
00:56:14.520
So when the going gets tough, they'll want to try to something else like get married and
00:56:20.460
That's why 50% of female physicians will stop practicing medicine before they're 45, 50%
00:56:27.900
of women in STEM, science, technology, engineering, and math will, will leave the industry if they
00:56:34.900
have a kid or by the time they're 43 and then female CEOs, their career life is two to three
00:56:42.920
The, uh, a male CEO is seven to eight years because women know that is that, uh, success
00:56:53.060
Oh, it's 100% mandatory for, for, for men to seek and be driven towards success of any kind,
00:57:01.720
whether it's in the workplace, whether it's within their own family or whatever.
00:57:06.300
And that, that burden's always going to be on them.
00:57:11.860
Um, with, with women, I, I just wish in a general statement with women that they would
00:57:18.620
realize that the most important thing they could ever be is excellent wives and excellent
00:57:24.780
They're wasting their time going to school, um, and, uh, chasing these careers because
00:57:35.420
We don't care what your successes are on the outside world.
00:57:38.040
We want to know if you're going to be a good wife and if you're going to be a good mother,
00:57:45.560
And if we had more women who were on the same page, then it would allow us to have an opportunity
00:57:50.440
to allow, um, more activism against, uh, the government to change that, to maybe add some
00:57:58.120
propaganda, um, throughout our country to encourage women to stay home and raise their
00:58:05.640
And especially the intelligent women, the intelligent women should be the ones staying home even
00:58:15.340
If you see the more, like the more educated women are, the less likely they want to stay
00:58:21.980
You couldn't pay, you couldn't pay women to stay home and watch their kids.
00:58:34.800
Women are so susceptible though, Pearl, to, to propaganda in general, that this would be
00:58:42.780
It wouldn't be something that would happen overnight, but if you, if we were pushing
00:58:47.580
the propaganda, no, you can't market, you can't look at, no, you can't market things
00:58:55.180
So if I run an ad on you for makeup, you're not going to buy it cause you don't want it.
00:59:02.060
The reason it works is because that's what women want.
00:59:07.260
But you, you can make that same argument when it came to, um, when it came to, uh, gay
00:59:15.600
marriage or something like that, you had a bunch of people who didn't want it, but the
00:59:19.440
more and more society kept pushing that lifestyle onto people who didn't agree with it, the more
00:59:29.440
Which is another good reason why they should stay home and not vote.
00:59:32.320
But, but I'm, I, I know, but that's my point is women wanted that and it wasn't propaganda.
00:59:42.520
Not, not ultimately because even in the women's suffrage movement, the mass majority of women
00:59:47.800
didn't want the responsibility of having a vote because they knew what was going to come
00:59:52.420
But it was the propaganda over the next several generations that then told women to be boss
00:59:59.140
Well, yeah, but if we flip the script, but it's, but it's stated, but it's stated preferences
01:00:08.260
You can say that you want one thing, but what did they do?
01:00:14.560
It's like the fat person that says they want to lose weight, but they never diet.
01:00:18.280
And then he's like, Oh, the propaganda made me fat.
01:00:23.060
It's the same way if women wanted to be mothers, we would be.
01:00:28.320
I mean, do you think at the end of the day that maybe instead of pushing the propaganda
01:00:32.560
for, to encourage women to want to be mothers more so than the boss babe, then to maybe,
01:00:38.280
um, uh, have them want to care more about like people just push parents to want to raise their
01:00:50.580
children to care about more about raising a good family instead of, you can't make someone
01:00:57.000
But I think you, but I think women are, if, if we address the idea of how they get you,
01:01:02.600
that's how they get you guys, you know, like, it's like kind of like the women that say I
01:01:06.800
was like propaganded to banging Chad and Tyrone.
01:01:10.780
And I was just like coerced and that's how they get you guys.
01:01:14.080
So they convince you it was propaganda, not what they wanted to do, but you can keep like
01:01:19.500
giving them a, you can keep giving them, you can keep, don't over talk me on my show.
01:01:23.900
You can, you can keep giving women a get out of jail free card if you want.
01:01:28.160
But if women wanted to be mothers, like women, if I download a dating app, I have a thousand
01:01:34.660
matches, a thousand, like we have the, we have the choice to do whatever we want and
01:01:40.320
the more freedom we got, unfortunately it just showed we didn't like men as much as we
01:01:49.640
And I think I, I, I, I don't disagree with you on that.
01:01:52.700
I think that we've, we've, we've given women a lot more freedom to do whatever they want.
01:02:00.360
Um, but it's to the detriment of, of our society.
01:02:05.260
Ultimately, we don't, we have a crashing birth rate and I think we should be having some sort
01:02:12.540
So at least we have some semblance of a country here in the future.
01:02:16.440
Um, I'm not saying that, um, I'm letting women off the hook.
01:02:22.200
I think that we've, men have done a horrible job at holding women accountable for their actions
01:02:28.080
of, out of fear of, um, retribution from them and, uh, criticism for maybe our peers or
01:02:42.600
So it's probably, it's probably, it's probably, it's probably a pretty warranted fear.
01:02:47.980
How, how could a man, how could a man hold a woman accountable?
01:02:54.780
If you have a wife and you said, have kids, no, I don't want to, what is he going to do?
01:03:08.460
Well, I, I, I, I wouldn't, I mean, that's, wouldn't be a woman that I would even address
01:03:17.860
Anyways, um, I deal with those kinds of women all the time and I, uh, and I always thank
01:03:25.540
I tell them, thank you for not procreating and please don't ever.
01:03:33.460
Was it like propaganda that made them want to do that or did they just not want to?
01:03:39.400
No, it's the, it's the, um, at least like if we were to go back into my like line of
01:03:44.140
work and dealing with the women in there, a lot of the women, especially in the younger
01:03:48.900
age groups, you know, 30 or, or younger that come into that field, they get all this attention
01:03:55.820
Because when you go into the prison system as a woman, as an officer or any other position
01:04:07.840
And as soon as you walk into that prison, you become a seven or an eight and then these
01:04:14.500
And then before, and then by the time they're ready to settle down, they've been turned out
01:04:18.500
and none of the men around them want them, which is their own doing.
01:04:22.500
Um, yeah, but they could just go somewhere else and then no one would know.
01:04:27.060
Like again, if, if they wanted to, they could like, they could just go to get it, go to a
01:04:34.700
No one will know, well, well, I mean, they, they, they, not really not in our field.
01:04:41.580
Cause that all, that all follows you, believe it or not.
01:04:43.900
Cause it's, it's an, it all interworks within the whole state.
01:04:50.380
We're going to, we have a couple more callers coming in.
01:05:17.900
And if you don't, I'm on on three, I'm on two, I'm on one.
01:05:36.820
Um, yeah, that, what I think on that subject is, uh, coach Craig Adams said the best women
01:05:54.900
And realize that this whole career thing is not fun because feminists have rewritten history.
01:06:00.960
They tried to say in the forties and the fifties and the sixties, men got to work and women
01:06:13.400
So women have this romanticized view of, I'm going to work some job and contribute and
01:06:19.400
save the universe with my social work degree that cost me $140,000 to get enough women are
01:06:25.600
going to have to, there's going to have to be a couple of generation of women that are
01:06:29.360
going to have to dispel this romanticized view of working and career.
01:06:34.460
See men, we know that work sucks, but we have to do it because we have to eat.
01:06:39.300
But women have this romanticized view of work because of how feminists rewrote history.
01:06:47.620
So my mom's generation, um, married to men of status or made to good men and told their
01:07:02.280
And we're going to have to have a couple of generations of women that do that and see how
01:07:08.080
And then they're going to have to, then they're going to reverse, reverse course after that.
01:07:20.560
There's no, we're not going to watch a video and decide to be a trad wife.
01:07:25.080
You know, like there's no propagating women back.
01:07:29.320
You're starting to see what I'm talking about already.
01:07:31.920
But the biggest problem is these women are like 37 to 45 with this realization.
01:07:38.300
We need women who are willing to make this, to say, I don't want to get involved in that
01:07:43.460
in the first place in their early twenties and say, look, I want to be a wife.
01:07:51.000
Gen Z women rank men seventh in their priority list.
01:08:00.140
I'm like every stat and caller under my show blackpills me a little more.
01:08:04.500
They say that under 30, 52% of men say that relationships and marriage are a priority in
01:08:22.440
Lauren Southern said not to be a single mother and she's a single mother now, you know?
01:08:29.800
Or, or, or ask St. Clair has her, her rocket baby.
01:08:38.900
What was that one show with the two British guys that you were on?
01:08:45.380
Oh, and they were meaner to me than this baby mother.
01:09:00.780
They will literally like, they will literally like, and, and half of the people, when she
01:09:07.200
announced it from conservative media, we're celebrating like Candace Owens celebrated.
01:09:21.900
He's joining up to say, everyone, make sure to like the video and go to Pearl's website, the audacity network.com and sign up for a membership.
01:09:55.780
Oh, I'm in Virginia, but I work in the warehouse industry.
01:10:04.900
Honestly, I wouldn't say it'll be normal as far as ratio is normal workplaces, but there are still women in the warehouse industry.
01:10:12.400
And so what's been your experience working with them?
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Honestly, it's unfortunately an overwhelming amount of masculinity that you get from these kind of females for whatever reason.
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And it's kind of tiptoeing the line of independence and arrogance and things like that.
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The one thing, the one strength that I do have with these type of women is it seems that they often led some sort of past experience or some sort of bad relationship or what have you.
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Kind of formulate their way of thinking moving forward for the rest of their lives.
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And it's pretty evident in the way they carry themselves and the expectations they have for just men versus the way that they view themselves for whatever reason.
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And what's your experience with the mothers that you work with?
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How do they balance working at a warehouse and their families?
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It's kind of hard to tell because a lot of them, it seems like even the ones that are well beyond their youth, because I'm 27, but even the ones that are well beyond their youth, they're somehow still trying to live as if they have it.
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Like I said, my industry is an industry mainly dominated by men in the first place.
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But often women in these environments want to be treated like men for whatever reason, or they have the mindset of a man for whatever reason.
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There's not really much of the, I guess, the modern family portrait, you know.
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It's just more so of independence, chasing that independence in that youth that they know is well beyond them.
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So do all the women you work with that have kids, are they all single moms?
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Who's watching their kids when they're at work for most of them?
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But the recurring thing that I seem to come across is they either have a bad relationship with their kids or they don't have one at all.
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So do you think it's because of their job or just who they are as people?
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I truly think it's because of their relationship with that child.
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And I say that because most of these women are working industry jobs and they say, well, they have the mindset of a man should be doing this for me.
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And then you see the divorce or these split marriages and whatever, but the kids are grown.
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And even in my personal experience, like I had fallen out with my mother for a brief moment because our opinions on my father often doesn't seem the same.
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So it's like you would see my father as he needs to do more.
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And I see my father as he's basically babying you because he's adhering to your expectations beyond of what's even required of him, if that makes sense.
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So it's like, oh, my child loves their father and me and the child aren't on good terms because of that.
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It's like, oh, I think their father is a deadbeat, but they think the word of their father.
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Tell you that that strong black mother thing, man, it's the worst thing that happened to black America.
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But for whatever reason, the social consensus and the media loves to empower these women instead of holding them accountable.
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It seems like only the males are held accountable.
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You know, at one point, men weren't masculine enough.
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And now you look at media today and it's like they don't even want men to be masculine anymore.
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How's your relationship with your mom right now?
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And I would reluctantly say that a lot of it is because I've had to kind of create the space to not kind of, I guess, understand her behavior and not judge it, even though she judges mine.
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So I use my father's example because, again, this is where the despair between the mother and the child comes in is often the child will look at the father for how they maneuver situations, the mood swings, the unaccountability from the female of their mother in the household.
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And that will even force them to mold their outlook on the modern woman.
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Well, a piece of advice is, you know, I'm I'm black, too.
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I had a horrible relationship with my mom for most of my life.
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But you don't owe your mom anything, especially when you become an adult.
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If you're paying your own bills, you don't have to take your mom's garbage.
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And a lot of us black men, I used to mentor young African-American and young African-immigrant men for years.
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And there's a brotherhood where all of us have had horrible relationships with our moms because our moms were all scumbags.
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So just protect yourself emotionally from your mom.
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There's too many black mothers are just agents of chaos and you can't tell them nothing.
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He called in yesterday, but we're going to bring him in today.
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Um, tell me your experience with either working with women or knowing women that tried to do both.
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And, uh, she did more than most single mothers I've dated or worked with.
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Um, and it still fell by the wayside, putting her career to make sure we had food on the table and getting me everything I needed for school, food, everything.
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But it made me more self-sufficient because being Gen X, I was a latchkey kid.
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I had to take care of myself, um, made me a more mature adult, quicker.
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Uh, and working with so many single mothers in probably 30, 35 years of working.
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Number one, uh, 10 to 20% of the women I've worked with in all different types of industries I've worked with were worth their salt compared to the men I've worked with.
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And I'm just giving you, you know, hands down facts.
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Like if just take, for instance, you know, bartender for a few years when I was younger, I only worked with like one or two female bartenders that could keep up with the male bartenders.
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Um, and when you talk about single mother wise, you gotta, you gotta decide, okay, you're going to put all this time into the career.
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You're going to put all this time into your children.
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Um, even as a single father raising my son now, granted, you know, me and his mother were, uh, I had him half the time.
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Um, anytime you, you know, have to go out to work and we did the best we could by being there for him as much as we could.
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And as a father or a mother, you put time into work, you lose time with the child, you put time into the child, you lose time with your career.
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The balance is very difficult to do for a lot of people.
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Very strong, you know, being a single mother in the late seventies, eighties, and nineties, you know, I, I feel, I feel for it.
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Uh, she was in the hotel industry for a long time.
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So at least she could be home, but that meant me getting home, you know, two, three o'clock, letting myself in snacks, take the dog out, get my homework started.
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And, uh, but I, I, you know, years later, she actually told me when I, in my, uh, late twenties, early thirties, when I had a child and raising, started raising my child after me and my wife divorced, uh, by myself.
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Um, she said, yeah, uh, I, I, I went into work and got this career and everything to take care of you.
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But to tell you the truth, I wish I could have just been a stay at home mom and had a couple of kids.
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Even at a young age, in my mid twenties, hearing that from my mother, uh, I kind of felt for like, you know, she wanted to be there more for me.
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I felt she was there for me more than most single mothers I've dated.
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Uh, and you know, I'd say in the, you, you said, let's round up to 200.
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It's like one 80, one 80 to one 90 somewhere on there.
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But, uh, in the 60 to 70% of the single mothers I dated over the years, only 10 to 20% of those were good mothers, you know, like they, they weren't horrible mothers.
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I wouldn't date a horrible person or see a horrible person.
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But as far as mother wise goes, and that isn't even like they put more time into their career.
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So what do you mean by not being like, what's, can you, can you just give me some specifics maybe?
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Uh, chose to be with, and I'm not talking about me in particular, but over time, because I've known a lot of the women I've been with, even after we dated and everything.
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They chose either career or their, their, they were a little more, um, selfish in wanting to date and not really paying attention to their children as the way they should.
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And the, the mother of my child I was married to for six years, she was an incredible mother, yet she still had to work, you know, 40, 50 hours a week.
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And again, we co-parented, so that helped, but the ones I'm talking about that I dated, I seen after me that I knew after me, you know, wanted to party, wanted to go out at night, even though they had two, three kids.
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Uh, you know, and I was just like, oh, so who's got the kids tonight?
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And I'm like, and they're like, yeah, but they're okay.
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I didn't leave my son at home to go out to have a couple of drinks with a friend until he was like 12 or 13.
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And then where I went was a mile down the road.
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He would live next to a friend that was like an uncle to him that he could, you know, call or go to his house in case something majorly happened.
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And I didn't stay out till one or two in the morning.
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I went out and had a couple of drinks cause I didn't see a friend here and there.
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But I'm talking about these women would go out and just party all night, get home at two, three in the morning, get up at, you know, six, seven to get their kids ready for school.
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And I'm just like, uh, I'm glad I stopped dating you.
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Um, but I just saw you didn't have a lot of color.
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I had a single mother and you know, I can bring some light to the situation with, you know, 50 years of experience.
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The, the, the single, the mothers that you dated, um, that were able to balance it better.
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Would you say they were generally people that worked nine to five?
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Uh, a lot of the moms that took care of their children well had more of the eight to four, nine to fives, you know, maybe nine to sixes.
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Uh, and also typically I did date a lot of older women too.
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So their children were more capable of staying home if they needed to type of thing.
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Um, but you know, then again, I, like I said, I dated some single mothers and I guess I identified,
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I identified quickly that, yeah, you might not be the type of responsible person I want in my life or around my child.
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And then later on, I would see them, you know, partying in clubs, staying out all night.
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And I'm just like, don't your kids have to get up for school in like five hours?
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I have one, one more story I can tell about this.
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So, she was a flight attendant, and, uh, she had twins when she was really young.
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And, um, she, she became a flight attendant, because she had a bachelor's degree in some kind of education system crap.
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So, when you're new, you have to, you're on call pretty much every day of the week.
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So, her, her mother got in the habit of taking care of her, of her children.
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So, when I met her, she'd be on call the first part of the week, and then she would come to my house, um, uh, the latter half of the week, and part of the weekend, and the only time that she'd be home to, to see her kids was on Sundays.
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So, you only see your children, like, I mean, they would call her on the phone and stuff, and then she'd send them Uber Eats if they were hungry and stuff.
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But, they had grown up because the grandma was the one who had taken care of them most of the time.
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And, once again, most of her life, she was a flight attendant, so she had a yes-guided photo.
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Yes, Guy Fos, she was good in bed, too, so there's that.
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I mean, most of us, guys, most of us have at least once, right, guys?
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Uh, well, in fact, I can never give a single mother more than an eight or seven.
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I think it switches at, like, five, where the kid, if she's an eight, she's a six or a five.
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Well, you know, I actually do think that women can do it all.
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I think women can have the career and the kids if they pay someone else to do it for them.
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Yeah, nannies or daycare or a grandma that does it for free.
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So women can do it all when they take credit for someone else's work, which is what we do best, really.
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Um, anyways, guys, thanks so much for watching.
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Doug MPA, you got any other questions or any other statements you want to make?
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And then also, um, these women can't do it by themselves.
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Then her second husband was worth like $80 million.
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And she has three kids, but she had them all through IVF.
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So she probably spent $130,000 on her three kids.
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So she had to go through all that to quote unquote say that she had it all.
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Have kids, get the clout, and not have to raise them yourself.
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And she's behind the microphone instead of being there with her kids.
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I can't believe a female influencer had a kid before 25.
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You've never seen Brett Cooper and Ben Shapiro in the same place at the same time.
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Are the ones who think I will have it all with the next guy.
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But the next guy is never Mr. Right until the kid is 18.
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Um, can men give survival, um, value and women give replication value?
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We are over-civilized and women no longer directly need us for survival.
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This illusion given, but indirectly, it's the same game collapse.
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Um, James has Tim Pool's podcast is going to save us.
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Um, anyways, guys, thank you for calling in Doug at PA.
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Um, we have another interview person coming in and I think you guys are going to be very
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Um, and yeah, and then I'll see you guys next week otherwise, but the interview is pre-recorded.
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So we have, we have a bunch of stuff canned that's coming this month.
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So I'm excited to show you guys, um, course is out on the 15th.
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You got like a week left to do it or a little less.
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Um, otherwise guys like the video, subscribe to the channel and I'll see you next time.