JustPearlyThings - October 20, 2023


Cheating Woman MANIPULATES Her Ex And His Mother

Topics
feminine manipulation
Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
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Episode Stats


Length

8 minutes

Words per minute

197.96

Word count

1,727

Sentence count

141

Harmful content

Misogyny

7

sentences flagged

Toxicity

14

sentences flagged

Hate speech

7

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Summary

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In this week's episode, we're talking about cheating, cheating on a partner, cheating in a relationship and cheating on friends and family. We also hear about a woman who cheats on her partner and how she copes with it.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 We always do this at the end of Pal Daily, there is a surprise Reddit story, we were
00:00:05.360 just having a conversation before the show, Nazrin didn't know what Reddit is, so I think
00:00:08.940 I've now got you up to date, it's just a forum, people tell their stories, and yeah, we get
00:00:15.560 to read those stories, so let's take a look.
00:00:18.380 My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a decade, and I genuinely love him, he is
00:00:22.620 the nicest person I know, but due to some differences between us during the past few
00:00:27.000 months, I used sex with other people as an outlet and cheated on him, he found out and
00:00:32.620 broke up with me, and I fully understand and respect his decision, I'm seriously not this
00:00:37.760 type of person, and I'm a good human being, I just happen to do something bad.
00:00:42.920 His mother and I have been close for a long time, she absolutely adores me and I love her
00:00:46.540 too, we have a very close relationship, she has taught me how to knit, and I have taught
00:00:50.920 her how to make presentations and stuff, we bond really well, we are really close, and
00:00:55.440 I asked my ex if he could hide my cheating, it is something between me and him, and no
00:00:59.980 one else needs to know about it.
00:01:01.860 Thankfully he agreed, and told his mum that we had an amicable breakup due to mutual differences,
00:01:06.780 I still visit his mum at times, and he ignores me, which hurts a lot, but he is friendly enough
00:01:12.120 at times and even smiles at me when I am around his mother. 0.94
00:01:15.160 I explained to my friend the complex situation I am in and she told me that I am being an arsehole
00:01:18.880 by letting my ex not have any room to vent, since he has told everyone that it was an amicable
00:01:22.880 breakup and we are still friends.
00:01:24.880 Honestly, it was a mutual decision and he agreed to it, so I do not think I have done anything
00:01:28.480 wrong when it comes to keeping it between ourselves.
00:01:30.940 Would love a fresh perspective, thanks." 0.59
00:01:33.600 This is crazy.
00:01:36.820 I feel like when someone really needs to justify that they are a good person, chances are they're
00:01:41.300 probably not.
00:01:43.300 If you have to constantly say, I promise I am good, chances are you have done a lot of stuff
00:01:48.680 that would suggest that you are not.
00:01:49.880 Now, we don't know this lady really and truly, this is all we know, but from this, I would
00:01:55.460 not class her as a good person.
00:01:58.340 And I actually think that she is surrounded by amazing friends, because the friends have
00:02:02.880 told her the truth. 1.00
00:02:04.500 The friends have said, you're being a dick. 0.99
00:02:07.240 You've put him in a position where he has to lie to everyone about what's actually happened, 0.98
00:02:12.200 he can't get the emotional support that he probably needs during this very distressing
00:02:16.460 time, and you're being out of order.
00:02:19.260 And what a great friend to tell her that.
00:02:21.160 Because how many friends in this day and age would actually be that brutal and honest
00:02:25.180 with you?
00:02:26.180 Usually it's like, you go girl, well done for cheating.
00:02:28.460 Whoever this girl is, you've got an amazing friend.
00:02:31.960 The friend who said this to you, keep her around, because that is a very good friend.
00:02:36.920 I'm sorry, this isn't an accident, because it wasn't just once.
00:02:39.720 Yeah! 0.77
00:02:40.720 I used sex with other people. 0.99
00:02:41.720 People! 1.00
00:02:42.720 People!
00:02:43.720 What?
00:02:44.720 So, it wasn't an accident.
00:02:45.720 It's not a mistake.
00:02:46.720 Like, if it just happened once, I would be much more, I mean, not understanding, because
00:02:51.720 I still don't understand it, but I'd be a little bit more understanding.
00:02:56.120 But the fact that it's like multiple people, I just can't, it's not an accident.
00:02:59.920 Also, this whole thing is about her, you know, there is nothing about him.
00:03:04.420 So, the only thing that she actually mentions as to why this happened, because I think we
00:03:08.920 all know, like, if a woman cheats, chances are that that's because something was going 0.99
00:03:15.320 wrong for well down the line, and then she's, instead of being an adult about it and bringing
00:03:21.720 it up, she's gone and cheated on him because she's not able to have a conversation about 1.00
00:03:25.920 things.
00:03:26.920 You know, she just seems to be overcompensating for a lot. 0.52
00:03:29.920 He is the nicest person I know, but due to some differences between us during the past
00:03:34.220 few months, she doesn't then go to clarify what those differences are.
00:03:37.420 She doesn't tell us what's actually happened.
00:03:39.420 She wants a fresh perspective.
00:03:41.420 Actually, what I think she wants is to be reinforced that, don't worry, you're a good
00:03:46.920 person, because she didn't get that from the friend.
00:03:48.920 So, now she's come on the internet and aired out her dirty laundry. 1.00
00:03:51.920 Gross.
00:03:52.920 Because she wants someone online to do it for her, instead of just accepting, no, I
00:03:57.920 messed up.
00:03:58.920 I have been awful.
00:04:00.220 I'm very ashamed of myself.
00:04:01.420 I should probably fix myself to make sure I don't hurt someone like this in the future.
00:04:05.420 And again, the whole middle section is just about her relationship with his mum.
00:04:09.420 She's not even recognising what her friend is saying.
00:04:13.420 She's literally come online and told the internet what her friend is saying.
00:04:16.420 And she can't even say, do you know what, I see, I do see what she's saying.
00:04:21.420 There's no acknowledgement or responsibility here.
00:04:23.420 No, but also if you love him and you love his mum and you love being around his family,
00:04:27.420 why did you cheat on him? 1.00
00:04:29.420 Because, you know, I mean, you would know that he's going to air that to them.
00:04:35.420 And if you have that much respect...
00:04:37.420 He hasn't even been able to do that.
00:04:38.420 I know, exactly.
00:04:39.420 But he probably would have if she didn't tell him not to.
00:04:41.420 Yeah.
00:04:42.420 So, there's something not right there.
00:04:44.420 She's put her own relationship with a guy's mother before his relationship with his mother.
00:04:50.420 But also, he's not being strong enough to be like, no.
00:04:53.420 Yeah.
00:04:54.420 I completely agree.
00:04:55.420 F off.
00:04:56.420 You did this to me. 1.00
00:04:57.420 I'm now going to cut you out of my life and my husband's life.
00:05:00.420 And I'm going to tell her what you did because, you know, people deserve to know what you're really like.
00:05:05.420 Yeah.
00:05:06.420 Why is he even allowing her around his mum knowing that she's got the capability to hurt people like that?
00:05:11.420 That's very true.
00:05:12.420 Manipulate people.
00:05:13.420 That's very true.
00:05:14.420 No, he needs to completely get this girl out of his life completely.
00:05:17.420 It's like they're both in the wrong.
00:05:19.420 Yeah, they are both in the wrong.
00:05:20.420 It's just, I guess my heart just goes out to him because he's already been through so much.
00:05:25.420 Yeah.
00:05:26.420 But no, you are completely right.
00:05:27.420 He needs to completely bin this girl off and get her out of his life. 1.00
00:05:31.420 Just straight up tell the mum because I can guarantee you, the mum would not be having this relationship with her.
00:05:36.420 Exactly.
00:05:37.420 If she knew what actually happened.
00:05:38.420 So it's almost like he's joining in on the manipulating side as well.
00:05:41.420 Yeah, he's almost hurting himself further by allowing this to happen.
00:05:46.420 And his mum because it's ultimately a lie, isn't it?
00:05:48.420 Yeah.
00:05:49.420 Anyway, we have an edit on this story.
00:05:51.420 So she's come back to give us all an update.
00:05:53.420 I feel like a lot of you are calling me a bad person because I cheated.
00:05:56.420 Oh my God.
00:05:57.420 What?
00:05:58.420 People are calling you a bad person because you cheated.
00:06:00.420 How could you?
00:06:01.420 How could they?
00:06:02.420 If my boyfriend broke up with me, I think I have suffered the consequences.
00:06:07.420 I am a good person and I try to be a better one each day.
00:06:11.420 It's complicated.
00:06:12.420 I genuinely want opinions on the mutual decision my boyfriend and I made not to tell his mother.
00:06:18.420 I did beg and plead.
00:06:20.420 In the end, it was an agreement from both sides.
00:06:22.420 So I did use my tactics of feminine manipulation, which we all know are the tears and I'm just a weak, frail little girl that doesn't know any better.
00:06:33.420 So not only have I manipulated him into a situation, but I'm also going to sit here and say that it was mutual.
00:06:40.420 What?
00:06:46.420 Look, guy, if you happen to come across this and see us reading this story, please get rid of her.
00:06:53.420 Please tell your mum.
00:06:55.420 Please tell your mum.
00:06:56.420 Tell your mum.
00:06:57.420 Please tell your mum.
00:06:58.420 And she'll get rid of her for you. 1.00
00:07:00.420 If you are not in the position to be a man right now, that is what your mum is for. 1.00
00:07:05.420 Use her. 0.97
00:07:07.420 It's just like, I understand people are flawed.
00:07:10.420 Like, yeah, we sin, we make mistakes, but not multiple times.
00:07:13.420 Like, it's multiple people she's cheated with.
00:07:16.420 It's not, that's the thing that's affecting me.
00:07:18.420 And she says everyone has come back and said that she's a bad person. 0.84
00:07:22.420 And instead of listening to everyone, this is how you know that a lot of modern women are narcissistic. 1.00
00:07:28.420 Because if loads of people are screaming something at you, chances are.
00:07:32.420 It's true.
00:07:33.420 It's true.
00:07:34.420 So instead of coming back to edit and try and justify again, I'm still a good person.
00:07:41.420 Why are you all saying I'm not? 0.99
00:07:43.420 Maybe you should look and go, oh shit. 1.00
00:07:46.420 Maybe I fucked up here. 1.00
00:07:49.420 But no, the delusion wins again. 0.99
00:07:53.420 Yeah, so much delusion.
00:07:54.420 It's actually hard to, it's hard to live in this society when everyone's just like, it seems like everyone's crazy but you sometimes.
00:08:03.420 Yeah.
00:08:04.420 Yeah.
00:08:05.420 And that's why it's great to have you here Nazrin because you remind me that there are other people who are not completely bewildered with delusion.
00:08:14.420 And that's why it's a bad thing.
00:08:15.420 Who wants us to have?
00:08:16.420 How a whole life.
00:08:17.420 Beautiful thing.
00:08:18.420 So much of the work in the world.
00:08:19.420 How beautiful.
00:08:20.420 So unlike people who come in between in the world you have this mumble. 1.00
00:08:21.420 Something is a 얘기를 in the world?
00:08:22.420 It is aů iios 0.95
00:08:32.440 a thousand.
00:08:34.440 So, suppose.
00:08:35.440 So that's all the things I've ever seen.
00:08:37.440 We're getting out of devoidments here.
00:08:38.440 Let's get out of it.
00:08:40.440 We've got something else something I can do.
00:08:41.440 West.
00:08:42.440 Would always be more nonplastic.