JustPearlyThings - March 24, 2023


@CoachGregAdams On Why Court Systems Are Against Men

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Sa Ra Garvey DROPS Red Pill Truths on a 25 Year old Being A SINGLE Parent DOWNGRADES Your Dating Value

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10 minutes

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2,124

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27

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Toxicity

9

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In this episode, we talk about divorce, divorce rates, and what it means to be a divorcee. We also talk about the benefits and disadvantages of being a single parent vs being a married parent, and why it s so common in our society.

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00:00:00.000 so i was explaining this to my dad right because my dad he doesn't know about any of this okay he's
00:00:05.340 he's he's getting enlightened now yeah i told my father and and i was telling him i'm like
00:00:11.760 if you had like if you got divorced tomorrow and you split it with mom right and i was like
00:00:16.840 you would be fine because he's i'm like you're a super productive guy right and i'm like like
00:00:23.540 i'm not gonna say he's jeff bezos but like he's like he's like not not that much but do you know
00:00:29.020 i'm saying like he's so productive that he would be fine but i'm like there's guys that like work
00:00:32.900 their whole lives to build up something and they're not the type of guys that like are gonna start a
00:00:37.040 business tomorrow and just remake it i mean it's it's bad either way but like i think sometimes
00:00:43.200 like certain guys don't feel as much like empathy i guess because they don't they're like oh i would
00:00:49.740 be fine oh he would be fine so he's not worried about that situation well if he had a guy typically
00:00:54.720 we call a gray divorce guy so he's a little bit older he's worked a certain amount of years in
00:01:00.540 his company and he finally got to the top peak of his income and then we call it she pulls the rug
00:01:05.140 from under his foot right so he finally worked hard enough to be able to pay off the mortgage pay off
00:01:10.660 the house and then at 50 she pulls the plug so everything he worked for is flushed down the toilet
00:01:16.860 if he moves out of the house yeah and he's 50 at that he's 50 so he gotta start over from 25 0.96
00:01:22.600 oh shit and um because that whatever he saved is going to get divided in court so he can't just 0.94
00:01:30.100 be like okay keep the house i'm going to go right he's going to divide the savings too they're going 0.99
00:01:34.840 to divide the retirement too and then he's going to have a monthly obligation to the children
00:01:39.640 and he gets penalized he basically pays daycare uh payment to the mom to keep the kids
00:01:45.640 and what why is it so one-sided uh well at one particular point it was the other side as you
00:01:52.100 know in our society right now we're going through a pendulum swing where everything's you know men
00:01:57.320 are complaining this isn't fair and we're being penalized for privilege of the past so there was
00:02:04.700 a time where the kids went with the dad the mom got kicked to the curb yeah there was a time in our
00:02:09.840 country that we had that and the woman would just get kicked to the curb she'd be an old maid 1.00
00:02:14.260 and live in the fucking dust of or something like that you can i don't know if i can curse 0.97
00:02:19.400 okay all right yeah so um but uh yeah that that was a time and then they came up with um 0.98
00:02:26.820 in the slip in my mind but they came up with um the there's an english law where they said
00:02:32.760 and they studied this they said kids were better off with their mother
00:02:36.420 oh gosh it slips my mind they're better off with their mother when they're young
00:02:41.220 essentially when they're young but it's like over the age of seven they're better with their father
00:02:45.720 over the age of seven eight they're better with the father yeah but uh somebody will put it in the
00:02:50.300 comment section and educate the people but um i think it's called something child doctrine or
00:02:54.360 something like that but um what tends to happen is they the pendulum swung and then women started to 1.00
00:02:59.460 get more favor in the court and then men mostly said hey i don't have time to raise kids anyway 1.00
00:03:04.060 so i'm gonna go work and it was not a big deal child support was just getting introduced in society
00:03:09.700 so there was no penalty okay go with the mom but then i guess people would say men had an incentive 0.94
00:03:16.940 to dump the woman to the side as she got older go get a new wife recreate another family and leave 1.00
00:03:23.220 her in poverty so you see where the pendulum was over here and women were like this ain't fair 1.00
00:03:29.080 why am i getting penalized so then the pendulum swung all the way over here state got involved
00:03:34.620 child support laws now we're over here but marriages lasted so long that couldn't have been that common
00:03:39.180 or was it was it very common replacing your wife yeah old idea that's probably more common okay no i was
00:03:47.100 just thinking like the marriages lasted longer before the 70s so i'd imagine it was less common like
00:03:53.760 that must have been less common than women divorcing their husband it's less common than what we see today 0.60
00:03:57.780 right the divorce rate is way higher than what we've seen in the past the girls are hitting 40 0.98
00:04:02.740 back then they're like ah no well if you look at what women used to look like they were they were 1.00
00:04:08.820 very regular right they were very regular compared to now well we took it what typically the 40 year old
00:04:15.560 woman you see today is manufactured yeah but i'm saying like the girls back then were skinnier 1.00
00:04:20.680 they were skinnier they were small yeah they were definitely smaller but you know they couldn't be
00:04:26.740 on the marketplace putting themselves back out there to find another man at 40 they were pretty much done
00:04:31.640 oh yeah yeah they were done so at that point it's going to be harder for her to go find another man but 1.00
00:04:40.180 it was common to actually marry multiple times like that's why the divorce rate was high back then
00:04:46.020 because people would get married three four or five six times oh interesting i didn't know that
00:04:50.620 but people had to get married back then right right you couldn't just be out here you could womanize 1.00
00:04:56.040 but it couldn't be public you had to be married there was actually community kind of like you know
00:05:01.700 you don't have a wife you could be a bachelor in the 50s and 60s no great gatsby
00:05:10.080 that was like the roaring 20s the roaring 20s yeah but those those roaring 20s then like our
00:05:16.540 roaring 20s 2020 uh-huh
00:05:18.780 back then they might hold to 26 and then push the chips in there actually i looked up the definition
00:05:29.800 of a spinster spinster yeah how old 30 no it's 26 26 26 so you had old maid 1.00
00:05:39.560 yeah spinster yeah left over i mean these the things that we're talking about now is what
00:05:44.620 people are they're like what but this was common knowledge by a certain age it's over
00:05:50.260 you're gonna be a forever you're gonna be an auntie forever you know no more kids for you 0.97
00:05:55.460 but now we've trumped it with science well you guys you guys just well not even that i feel like
00:06:02.260 you guys just bail us out like the men yeah not no i just mean like like men always bail women out
00:06:08.360 of their bad decisions legally they're forced to it's not even a choice right but we're telling men
00:06:13.060 don't do that because it's a it's a lifelong sentence that you're giving yourself like you
00:06:17.740 become a step daddy to bail out a woman or you're penalizing well even outside of that i'm talking
00:06:23.560 about like government benefits you guys pay more into government benefits and we're the we're the ones
00:06:27.880 that are on them i mean that's always been that way yeah it's worse now they pay you to be a single
00:06:35.740 mom in the uk you get free housing if you're a single mother right but i was annoying because i was
00:06:40.240 like i didn't have any kids so can i get rewarded there's no equity there's no fairness in this thing
00:06:45.680 here but you can go out there and get knocked up if you want i think i think the crazy thing is
00:06:50.420 the problem men have today is we've been educated that men women are equal yeah at a time where women 0.99
00:06:56.060 were taken care of and bailed out there was a sense that men they're the providers this the role you
00:07:00.480 provide over here right and then if you didn't provide that role you get kicked the hell out 0.68
00:07:04.040 and say all right you ain't cooperating that's it or if he was an alcoholic and abusive he loses
00:07:09.200 that's what divorce used to be but when no fault divorce came in then it changed the game and it swung 0.98
00:07:16.920 the pendulum swiftly to the point where now our generation and younger we're dealing with the
00:07:22.400 realities of these women are equal but i owe them child support i gotta fight for my kids 1.00
00:07:27.080 they get alimony but we're equal in society it doesn't make sense how did no fault divorce swing
00:07:33.460 the pendulum the no fault divorce allow women to get incentivized to bust up marriages with no excuse 0.93
00:07:39.960 see before you needed a reason you needed to hire a private investigator and follow your husband to 0.93
00:07:45.600 the hotel with a secretary right or you need to have been abused you needed you needed a reason
00:07:51.820 they would have to go to the court and say well why are you divorcing this man at that point women 0.98
00:07:55.960 didn't file 80 divorces they probably filed probably less than half men probably filed the divorce
00:08:01.860 but once they said you don't need a reason divorce rate skyrocketed and then women can go in and say 1.00
00:08:08.720 he's cheap um i'm he's worth more divorce than married well and then you see a lot of the
00:08:17.380 government like programs come in too the government programs like the the welfare and that type of
00:08:22.400 thing yeah and child tax credits and all these things like that yeah because i'm like why are we
00:08:26.520 paying people to be single mothers that's what i don't understand well you incentivize people to have
00:08:31.780 be single mothers and of course they're paid to do it and i remember when i lived in the midwest
00:08:36.980 when i was younger women would stay getting knocked up by multiple women they would be like 1.00
00:08:42.040 and there would be mothers telling their daughters to get pregnant and that's why teenage pregnancy was 1.00
00:08:47.600 super high because the mothers would if they were if the women were shiftless and lazy as mothers 1.00
00:08:52.280 they would have daughters and the daughters would be 15 and 16 they were like girl you can get 0.99
00:08:56.660 300 a kid a month and so those girls would have three four kids and then it's a vicious cycle 1.00
00:09:03.960 because i i cringe to think that 300 a kid is free money i couldn't do it but if you think
00:09:13.520 some people are like that's good money yeah i mean it's late to me i think it's absolutely crazy but 0.96
00:09:20.840 to a put to but to a person who's a loser they're like i could get money by just having sex and getting 0.97
00:09:26.360 knocked up and had that three four time and had that for 25 years essentially they have it for 25 years 0.98
00:09:31.660 yeah yeah right if you have your four kids and even if you have um different fathers you get more
00:09:39.420 per father i don't know if you know that no i didn't know that okay so let me so let me get this
00:09:46.840 straight they're paying women not only to be single mothers but they're paying them to get pregnant by 0.74
00:09:51.500 multiple people correct so if i let's just say for instance i had four kids by one person the state
00:09:58.700 will acknowledge that right but if if if she has four different men but they only have one kid 1.00
00:10:06.700 right that person can pay more in child support per kid but i have i have three i have four kids with
00:10:12.860 her and i have another kid over here i'm gonna pay less per kid to her but if it's four different men 1.00
00:10:19.740 it's four different payments it's it's actually an incentive for them to get knocked up by more multiple 0.88
00:10:24.780 women so it's a game it's a weird game but people have to understand people women play that game 1.00
00:10:30.700 they sit around calculating as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized
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