JustPearlyThings - August 15, 2023


Crazy Woman Gets REJECTED And Does The Unthinkable


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In this episode we talk about the worst dates we ve ever been on and how we feel about them. We also talk about what we would do if we had to go on a date for the first time and how it would go.

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00:00:00.000 What is the worst date you guys have ever been on?
00:00:04.040 Oh, my God.
00:00:05.380 I've got quite a few, you know, I'll be honest.
00:00:07.200 Okay, give me a couple.
00:00:08.940 I went on a date with one girl one time, yeah,
00:00:11.600 and then went to Wonderland, yeah,
00:00:15.020 and then she just wasn't even on it.
00:00:18.000 Like, she just, her whole attitude was just, like, moving along.
00:00:21.000 Like, wasn't wanting to play no games, nothing like that.
00:00:23.420 And then after she went to the restaurant and that,
00:00:25.660 and it's just like, you know, when the chemistry is just so dead
00:00:28.840 that there's nothing there, like, literally nothing.
00:00:31.960 So I just thought to myself, this is dead.
00:00:33.880 So I literally, I thought, let me just end the date here.
00:00:36.980 So when we ended the date, I was like, okay, cool, I'm going to go,
00:00:40.560 because, like, what's the point?
00:00:41.700 And then she just walked off, not even no buying, no hugging or nothing. 0.76
00:00:45.860 I was just like, this is terrible.
00:00:47.920 I don't even know why I went on a date in the first place.
00:00:49.700 But, yeah, that's just one example.
00:00:52.240 Give me another.
00:00:53.320 Oh, my God.
00:00:54.580 You got stories, huh?
00:00:56.560 Another one, um, definitely a bad one.
00:01:03.160 Yeah, I went on one date with one girl in a restaurant,
00:01:05.980 and she was just rude to the waiter, proper rude, 0.99
00:01:08.580 because they were taking quite long with the food.
00:01:10.780 And the way she was just disrespecting the waiter, 1.00
00:01:12.420 I was like, nah, this ain't it.
00:01:13.920 Do you know what I mean?
00:01:14.440 Like, at least have some manners.
00:01:15.520 I get it.
00:01:16.560 Like, the service is bad, but she just was bad-mouthing the waiter. 0.99
00:01:20.480 And you're just like, I got mad as well.
00:01:22.180 Like, you can't be talking to people like that.
00:01:23.940 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:01:24.400 And then from there one, it just went down hall.
00:01:26.940 So, yeah, that was not a good one as well.
00:01:28.840 So, she started yelling at the waiter. 0.92
00:01:29.880 What did she say to the waiter?
00:01:31.240 Just start swearing.
00:01:32.040 So, you're fucking taking too long, yeah.
00:01:33.520 Just start swearing.
00:01:34.500 Oh, she started like, all out swearing at the waiter. 0.84
00:01:36.760 You're swearing at the waiter.
00:01:38.000 Swearing at the waiter.
00:01:38.780 And then I can see, I was like, nah, this is out of hand.
00:01:42.420 Completely out of hand.
00:01:43.780 I can't be in this situation.
00:01:45.720 No way.
00:01:46.300 You can't be talking to people like that.
00:01:48.000 And it's that bad on me, because I'm like,
00:01:50.160 I've come with her, so I've got out of hand.
00:01:51.960 I was like, nah, no way.
00:01:53.000 Did you still pay for the dinner?
00:01:56.340 I'll be honest with you.
00:01:56.980 When I go on dates, I'm always paying it.
00:01:58.540 I'm always paying it.
00:01:59.740 So, I don't, even things like that,
00:02:02.260 I just don't even like to think about it.
00:02:03.380 It just creates too much anxiety for me,
00:02:05.100 in terms of like, oh, let's split the bill,
00:02:06.920 just, nah, let's pay.
00:02:07.840 I've come organised, innit?
00:02:09.280 I know, okay, if I'm going to go somewhere,
00:02:11.400 I know what's going to cost,
00:02:12.680 and I'll just pay for it.
00:02:14.060 Yeah.
00:02:15.000 What about you?
00:02:15.660 Worst date?
00:02:17.000 I'm trying to think of some,
00:02:18.480 but I can't really think of any two minutes.
00:02:20.140 Never had a bad date?
00:02:22.520 No, it comes to mind, no.
00:02:24.280 I've also never had a bad date.
00:02:25.020 Yeah, yeah, you.
00:02:27.180 You lot are bad, man.
00:02:28.460 I like how you two just skipped it, you know?
00:02:30.560 You said, did you have a bad date?
00:02:31.760 No, no, I'm good.
00:02:32.500 You?
00:02:32.820 No, no, no.
00:02:33.560 And then now me.
00:02:34.620 Yeah?
00:02:34.920 I'm like, cool.
00:02:35.860 Yeah, I've had a bad date,
00:02:36.760 a very bad date.
00:02:37.840 So I've took a nice lady out. 1.00
00:02:40.120 I'm not going to say names, car.
00:02:41.700 There's no point.
00:02:42.620 But anyway, we went for a meal in,
00:02:45.900 where was we?
00:02:47.900 I think we went to,
00:02:49.760 what's that?
00:02:51.600 Oh, what is it, Ron?
00:02:52.920 God.
00:02:54.380 Have you not been in Stratford, yeah?
00:02:55.460 Yeah.
00:02:55.800 So it's not in Stratford,
00:02:56.940 but there's a shop,
00:02:57.880 Wagamama, that's it. 0.54
00:02:58.700 So we went Wagamama.
00:02:59.620 We weren't in Stratford.
00:03:00.740 It was somewhere else,
00:03:01.480 but we went Wagamama.
00:03:02.740 Sat down, ordered a meal,
00:03:04.400 whatever, got starters,
00:03:05.560 boom, bam, ate, nice, boom, boom.
00:03:08.400 Then the food's done,
00:03:10.060 but before the food was done,
00:03:11.620 this is the same date
00:03:12.520 what I was talking about.
00:03:13.260 Yeah?
00:03:14.360 So I couldn't stand that noise, innit?
00:03:16.200 So that was pissing me off.
00:03:17.880 So in the end,
00:03:18.780 I must have,
00:03:19.300 out of the blue,
00:03:20.400 I don't know why I've said it,
00:03:21.260 but I've said,
00:03:21.840 can you eat quietly, please?
00:03:23.980 I don't know where it came from,
00:03:25.320 but I just said it.
00:03:26.580 Not thinking nothing of it,
00:03:27.780 it ain't going to feel no way.
00:03:28.580 I'm just being real, innit?
00:03:29.960 Boom.
00:03:30.340 So that's made her be in a little mood.
00:03:32.440 My girl's got herself up 1.00
00:03:34.080 and decided to pick her jacket up,
00:03:36.280 put her coat on,
00:03:37.200 and cut out.
00:03:37.660 So I thought,
00:03:38.020 all right, cool.
00:03:38.840 Attitude stinks anyway.
00:03:40.280 Allow it.
00:03:41.040 But this ain't the worst bit.
00:03:42.500 So she's come back in the shop now,
00:03:44.260 where a man's ready,
00:03:45.300 paid for bill,
00:03:45.960 trying to cut out.
00:03:46.820 She's gone out for five minutes,
00:03:48.020 so I've finished my food.
00:03:49.520 Ate quick,
00:03:50.220 boom, done my eating.
00:03:51.560 Sent back her starter,
00:03:52.600 I didn't care.
00:03:53.620 So boom,
00:03:54.020 I've done my eating,
00:03:54.900 and then as I'm leaving the shop now,
00:03:56.200 I'm trying to go,
00:03:57.080 this girl's telling me,
00:03:57.780 where are you going?
00:03:59.120 I'm going home.
00:04:01.300 Bear in mind,
00:04:01.840 she's picked my nut to go there,
00:04:03.560 so I'm not driving or nothing.
00:04:04.980 So I'm having to like,
00:04:06.220 now get,
00:04:06.800 she wants to drop me back.
00:04:07.700 No,
00:04:07.860 I'm driving you back.
00:04:08.520 And I said,
00:04:08.800 nah,
00:04:08.980 bunny,
00:04:09.180 I'm getting a cab.
00:04:10.120 This girl's teared my new puffer. 1.00
00:04:12.580 Banging puffer jacket,
00:04:13.860 bro.
00:04:14.720 Banging.
00:04:15.080 How?
00:04:15.960 Rick my stuff.
00:04:17.140 Teared it off me.
00:04:18.920 Pulled it off my blood,
00:04:20.080 my jacket.
00:04:20.940 I swear my mum's life.
00:04:22.760 That's a cycle.
00:04:23.100 She went mad,
00:04:23.920 like,
00:04:24.060 just held on to my shit
00:04:25.180 and pulled it.
00:04:26.080 You know the jackets
00:04:27.200 are all that,
00:04:27.740 the newer ones
00:04:28.760 are flimsier.
00:04:29.780 I'm sorry,
00:04:30.240 but that's like scary.
00:04:33.040 It's more than scary.
00:04:34.300 I didn't understand.
00:04:35.560 I was just like,
00:04:36.160 why have you lost your head
00:04:36.980 that much?
00:04:37.560 This is a first date.
00:04:39.560 You know,
00:04:39.880 first date.
00:04:41.060 Been on dates.
00:04:42.060 You get me with the girl,
00:04:43.060 but it's like,
00:04:43.600 this time round,
00:04:44.420 I've said it,
00:04:45.000 I've spoke out.
00:04:46.100 See what it is,
00:04:46.740 I let it go past me,
00:04:48.100 you're eating loud.
00:04:48.720 There's no eating date.
00:04:50.360 You understand?
00:04:50.720 So this is,
00:04:51.440 this is the eating date now.
00:04:52.720 Now I'm fucked.
00:04:53.700 I'm on an eating date with you
00:04:54.660 and I'm hearing,
00:04:55.280 now I'm hearing you go,
00:04:56.380 yum,
00:04:56.560 yum,
00:04:57.200 I'm not feeling it.
00:04:58.340 So obviously,
00:04:59.440 me trying to leave,
00:05:00.520 I'm just being the man I am,
00:05:01.640 I'll just cut out.
00:05:02.340 I ain't got time for no
00:05:03.140 screaming and shouting in my ears.
00:05:04.680 I'll cut.
00:05:05.420 Do you understand?
00:05:05.920 So I'm trying to move.
00:05:06.580 I'm like,
00:05:06.920 I bought my cab and bouncing.
00:05:08.300 No,
00:05:08.500 you're not.
00:05:08.860 You're getting my car,
00:05:10.220 get in your car for what?
00:05:11.220 I don't need you to drop me home.
00:05:12.520 I'm good.
00:05:12.980 Like we've,
00:05:13.360 we've had to,
00:05:14.200 I've seen your attitude,
00:05:15.700 how it moves.
00:05:16.400 You get up and want to hook out,
00:05:17.900 storm out and that dumb 0.63
00:05:18.700 and then come back to man and talk.
00:05:20.300 I think she secretly liked it
00:05:21.680 when you stuck it in the,
00:05:22.460 I think that's why she
00:05:23.260 ripped your stuff,
00:05:24.360 you know?
00:05:24.480 You reckon?
00:05:24.900 I think she wanted you to stick it on her.
00:05:26.000 No,
00:05:26.200 no,
00:05:26.300 fuck that.
00:05:26.760 I'm not in a girl's act.
00:05:27.480 No,
00:05:27.680 some girls are like that. 1.00
00:05:28.620 Some girls are like that. 1.00
00:05:29.720 What,
00:05:29.980 that to just turn mad on man
00:05:31.120 and rip my shit, 0.99
00:05:32.060 what I paid good money for?
00:05:32.900 No,
00:05:33.080 no,
00:05:33.160 but I think some girls like a guy 1.00
00:05:34.340 that's that,
00:05:34.840 sticks it on like proper toes
00:05:36.560 and puts me in a place and that.
00:05:37.860 No,
00:05:37.960 but I'm not really,
00:05:38.780 I wouldn't say I'm the type to do that.
00:05:40.180 I'm actually a nice guy.
00:05:41.140 I'm blessed.
00:05:41.420 Yeah,
00:05:41.700 but they want to test certain situations.
00:05:43.300 Yeah,
00:05:43.320 they test boundaries.
00:05:43.880 You get me and try to take the piss 0.99
00:05:47.020 and then turn around and rip my shit. 0.83
00:05:48.940 Is that common for women to test boundary 1.00
00:05:51.080 and like keep pushing?
00:05:52.360 I don't think,
00:05:53.040 I don't think women should do that to men.
00:05:55.220 Not should.
00:05:55.840 I'm asking,
00:05:56.280 do you find it common?
00:05:57.620 Oh,
00:05:58.000 yeah,
00:05:58.120 in the dating market now.
00:05:59.440 What,
00:05:59.700 that girls go all out?
00:06:01.180 Yeah.
00:06:01.860 Yeah,
00:06:02.040 of course,
00:06:02.520 they will,
00:06:02.840 innit?
00:06:03.320 I think that's common.
00:06:04.220 Yeah,
00:06:04.660 that's just how it is,
00:06:05.660 man.
00:06:06.380 You get me?
00:06:06.760 But for me personally,
00:06:07.740 no,
00:06:08.120 I don't think so,
00:06:08.840 no.
00:06:09.180 No.
00:06:09.720 You know what?
00:06:10.200 Everyone weighs up everything like,
00:06:12.200 you understand?
00:06:12.940 Girls and boys are going to,
00:06:13.840 weigh up
00:06:14.320 and it's respect
00:06:15.820 and how you respect yourself.
00:06:17.420 It's how someone's going to respect you.
00:06:19.000 So if you carry yourself in a certain way,
00:06:21.000 you understand?
00:06:21.720 People are less likely to try it.
00:06:23.820 Some people may try it,
00:06:24.840 but then when I was saying that,
00:06:26.020 so I thought to myself,
00:06:26.680 you know what?
00:06:27.500 Where you're saying you've been on dates
00:06:28.620 and you've not said certain things before,
00:06:31.800 you understand?
00:06:32.440 In a way,
00:06:32.860 that's maybe where,
00:06:34.360 again,
00:06:34.780 there's no wrong or right to it,
00:06:35.700 but that may be the mistake.
00:06:37.100 Maybe you have to speak up at a given time.
00:06:38.960 But that's still a bit extreme.
00:06:40.400 But I haven't been on dates
00:06:41.220 where it's easy.
00:06:41.520 No,
00:06:41.840 it is,
00:06:42.260 it is well extreme.
00:06:43.000 But again,
00:06:43.480 you know what it is?
00:06:44.740 Like,
00:06:45.140 and again,
00:06:45.500 don't take it in the wrong way.
00:06:46.540 People know that
00:06:47.740 the saying is
00:06:48.440 that you know to frighten.
00:06:49.540 You understand?
00:06:49.920 People can't be trying to rip
00:06:51.400 people's jackets like that.
00:06:52.580 No.
00:06:53.260 You understand?
00:06:54.160 They've got to think
00:06:54.920 they can do that.
00:06:55.760 It's actually really bad.
00:06:56.680 Yeah, exactly.
00:06:57.340 I agree.
00:06:58.760 She must have fought in her head
00:07:00.120 at the time
00:07:01.100 that she could tear my shit 1.00
00:07:02.200 and it's cool.
00:07:03.620 Yeah.
00:07:03.980 So it went too far.
00:07:05.340 Way too far.
00:07:06.060 Way too far.
00:07:06.080 Way too far.
00:07:06.580 I'm trying to get in the car.
00:07:07.580 Prior to that.
00:07:08.020 I'm on the car
00:07:08.560 and the girl said,
00:07:09.260 no,
00:07:09.600 I'm naked.
00:07:11.960 I'm outside.
00:07:13.240 It went too far.
00:07:13.700 No,
00:07:13.800 not fully naked,
00:07:14.700 but I mean,
00:07:15.020 I'm naked as soon as I got my jacket.
00:07:16.120 It went too far.
00:07:17.960 Yeah,
00:07:18.360 you know what?
00:07:18.900 I'm getting a cab.
00:07:20.040 Yeah,
00:07:20.320 let me go.
00:07:21.200 You should have been out.
00:07:22.280 Yeah.
00:07:22.540 I was on my way out,
00:07:23.800 but it's all happening.
00:07:24.680 Remember,
00:07:24.860 when you're getting cabs around there,
00:07:25.760 you've got to stand on the road
00:07:26.640 and wait for your cab to turn up.
00:07:28.720 So,
00:07:28.800 man's waiting
00:07:29.820 and it's all going off.
00:07:30.860 And I'm like,
00:07:31.160 look,
00:07:31.240 I'm going to go in this cab
00:07:32.220 and I'm gone.
00:07:33.340 Don't chat to me.
00:07:34.360 It's dead.
00:07:35.520 And you're there holding on.
00:07:36.380 Was it the way that you said it to her?
00:07:37.700 No,
00:07:37.860 but there weren't much to say.
00:07:39.120 I'm very,
00:07:39.480 I don't know why.
00:07:40.740 When she's laughing like that,
00:07:42.080 it's like,
00:07:42.440 she knows how we don't.
00:07:43.780 No,
00:07:43.920 I do.
00:07:44.300 I just feel like it seems so out of proportion.
00:07:46.780 No,
00:07:47.060 but see,
00:07:47.500 do you know what it is?
00:07:48.600 I'm very stubborn.
00:07:49.900 Yeah.
00:07:50.200 Oh,
00:07:50.360 okay.
00:07:50.860 I don't want to admit it,
00:07:51.640 but I don't know whether it's with my star sign or not,
00:07:54.980 but I get stubborn.
00:07:56.360 So,
00:07:56.500 I'm a type of guy to go quiet.
00:07:58.180 I won't argue with you.
00:07:58.920 I won't get into it like that.
00:08:00.540 I'll just switch off.
00:08:01.680 You know what I mean?
00:08:02.020 And then I'll get on with what I need to do.
00:08:03.860 I won't do anything else.
00:08:05.440 No screaming,
00:08:06.060 I'm the drama guy.
00:08:07.700 You get me?
00:08:08.020 I don't like it.
00:08:09.220 So,
00:08:09.340 did you ghost her after that or what'd you do?
00:08:12.840 Did I go?
00:08:13.600 Ghost.
00:08:14.460 Yeah,
00:08:14.640 of course I did.
00:08:15.380 I had to.
00:08:16.160 There's no way I'm hanging around someone like that.
00:08:18.200 You're tearing up my clothes and you're making a fool of me.
00:08:21.340 I was just wondering if you told her off or just ghost her.
00:08:24.080 No,
00:08:24.520 no,
00:08:24.820 I can't.
00:08:25.760 See me,
00:08:26.340 I'm a fair guy,
00:08:27.220 isn't it?
00:08:27.440 If I feel like you've done me wrong,
00:08:28.920 then it's cool.
00:08:29.920 If we can get through that,
00:08:30.920 we can.
00:08:31.280 But if we can't,
00:08:32.440 then it's a myth.
00:08:33.040 And I know her attitude was stink.
00:08:35.500 You understand?
00:08:36.120 It's not good.
00:08:36.680 It's not good.
00:08:37.400 It's not healthy.
00:08:38.340 You understand?
00:08:39.140 And plus I'm in the public eye.
00:08:40.520 Anyone saw me on the road,
00:08:41.680 they were lucky it was a night time date.
00:08:43.580 That was daytime.
00:08:44.580 It's too extreme.
00:08:45.240 Oh my,
00:08:45.620 I was having a madness.
00:08:46.500 It would have been a madness for me.
00:08:47.640 I would have been all over the place.
00:08:49.000 So I'm glad that,
00:08:50.100 yeah,
00:08:50.480 you've got to just pick the right ones,
00:08:51.940 innit?
00:08:52.000 You've got to know
00:08:52.540 who you can work with in that sense
00:08:54.820 and who you can't.
00:08:55.680 So that one had to go.
00:08:57.600 That's really good.
00:08:59.120 Did you have a date that bad?
00:09:00.640 No,
00:09:01.220 I honestly don't have anything
00:09:02.440 to like anything
00:09:03.180 nearly as bad as that.
00:09:05.280 I mean,
00:09:05.620 I haven't had that many bad dates.
00:09:07.740 Like most of the dates
00:09:08.540 that I've been on have been okay.
00:09:09.720 The only thing that I can think of is,
00:09:11.820 oh,
00:09:12.980 it's not even bad.
00:09:14.220 It literally sounds so pathetic
00:09:15.660 compared to what you said.
00:09:17.460 But like,
00:09:18.220 I went on a date with a guy
00:09:20.320 and he picked me up
00:09:21.080 and we were driving to London
00:09:22.180 and we were talking about
00:09:22.980 like different restaurants
00:09:24.220 and I was like,
00:09:24.840 I like every kind of food
00:09:26.100 apart from Chinese 1.00
00:09:27.520 and then he'd like
00:09:29.080 gone and booked
00:09:29.600 this Chinese restaurant.
00:09:31.040 So like we had to go
00:09:31.900 and go into the Chinese restaurant
00:09:33.800 and like I didn't like the food.
00:09:35.060 He knew that I didn't like it.
00:09:36.300 It's not that dramatic
00:09:37.360 like yours at all,
00:09:38.780 but it was a bit awkward.
00:09:41.840 But that's honestly
00:09:42.800 probably the worst.
00:09:44.040 Did you see him after that
00:09:45.120 or no?
00:09:45.820 Not because of that,
00:09:46.900 but I didn't see him again.
00:09:48.140 So what made you not see him?
00:09:49.900 He was just,
00:09:52.400 he was like really immature
00:09:53.600 just as a person
00:09:55.420 and we were just
00:09:56.240 quite different people.
00:09:58.420 What gave you that impression?
00:09:59.900 Just because there's guys
00:10:00.560 watching in the chat.
00:10:01.480 So I think they want to know
00:10:02.360 from like a woman's point of view.
00:10:03.840 What gave?
00:10:04.320 Yeah.
00:10:07.200 I think he like,
00:10:08.420 it was something really small.
00:10:10.000 Like he asked me
00:10:10.920 where I think
00:10:13.300 a part of London was
00:10:14.840 and I said Northwest London
00:10:16.120 when it was North
00:10:17.060 and he got like really
00:10:18.420 like annoyed by it
00:10:19.840 and I just found it was,
00:10:21.000 it was just really extreme basically.
00:10:22.860 It was like a really small thing
00:10:24.260 that I got wrong
00:10:24.980 and he just like
00:10:25.700 took it to heart.
00:10:27.000 So after that
00:10:28.860 it kind of put me off a bit
00:10:30.060 because yeah,
00:10:32.180 it was just a bit immature.
00:10:32.380 He was like trying to argue with you.
00:10:33.700 Yeah, a little bit.
00:10:34.680 And I was like literally,
00:10:35.380 I was like I've just met you.
00:10:36.920 Why do you care that much?
00:10:38.140 It's like if it's North London
00:10:39.400 or Northwest.
00:10:40.860 But to me it's just,
00:10:43.020 yeah,
00:10:43.640 it just was,
00:10:44.940 it was really petty.
00:10:46.060 But yeah,
00:10:47.340 that's why I enjoyed it.