In this episode, we discuss the impact of the Me Too movement on male sexlessness, and how it has impacted the way men think about sex and consent. We also discuss the dangers of sexual assault in the modern era, and why men are more hesitant to have sex with women.
00:01:06.980That's kind of because I, and I'm doing the documentary on the court system here and I'm starting to like learn, you don't even have to be married.
00:01:33.580And even though it doesn't happen to every guy, I'm like listening to these stories.
00:01:37.580I'm like, if I was a guy, I would be so.
00:01:39.960I've heard a lot of stories like that from clients where like, basically like, like women that cheat, for instance, if the husband finds out, like I've heard of a lot of situations where the guy gets screwed because the woman just says, you know, the guy that hooked up, the woman just says like it was non-consensual just so she can save the marriage.
00:01:58.100And there's no consequence on the woman.
00:01:59.540Again, I'm not saying like sexual assault doesn't happen and it's not a real problem, but it's like a nice little like roll of the dice in a bunch of cases where I know people specifically where, you know,
00:02:09.960it's like a real danger, even in, even in the U S like a guy, I had a client where he, he basically like, um, had sex with a girl in Las Vegas in a hotel room.
00:02:18.580And she said, Oh, I paid for the room, like stay the night.
00:02:21.660And she ran down and said, Oh, you know, he, he graped me basically.
00:02:26.080And, you know, situations like that, or if they cheat and then the partner finds out, it's just very easy to say it wasn't consensual so they can save the marriage and they don't care what happens to the guy's life.
00:03:28.920But then when we have laws like that, how can, because I'm just thinking if I was in their point of view and you guys can tell me if you agree or disagree, but I would be really hesitant.
00:03:36.700And then also we complain about men not wanting to get married.
00:03:42.260But if you look at the laws in here in the West, I won't get married.
00:03:47.060Why would I get married and like risk 50% of my income?
00:03:51.540Mainly I make the most out of that income.
00:03:54.180And I don't think that's fair as well.
00:03:55.860There is, there is a privilege for women and there is a man privilege as well.
00:04:10.600And what she did was she went to like a woman's shelter and basically at the woman's shelter, they tell the girls like what to say about the guy based on his background.
00:04:23.340And so for him, he was Muslim and she basically said that everything she did the last 10 years, she didn't actually consent to doing because it was under his control.
00:04:33.200Like control allegedly, even though she was fine with it while they were married.
00:04:53.000You know, I think the court and people and judges are kind of like looking for more evidence and then thinking, okay, maybe are there, women are using these.
00:05:20.040Because I think there was a movement at one point where it was believe all women, which goes completely against our tenants of actual, you know, innocent unto proven guilty.
00:05:28.740It was just if a woman says it, then it's, and I get it where it's come from.
00:05:31.580Like you said earlier, I mean, you know, there's been a lot of historical wrongs against women.
00:05:35.040So there was a real natural need to, you know, redress that.
00:05:38.400But I think the pendulum has just swung so far all over to the other way where it's like everyone's suffering.
00:05:45.220Men are suffering, but now women are actually suffering because there are, like you say, a lot of your friends are single because men are terrified.
00:05:51.160And I get the cries from some quarters in society where people say it's a deliberate thing to actually completely dismantle relationships.
00:06:00.180Because that almost seems the only logical explanation is like there's almost like this real concerted effort to completely dismantle marriage.
00:06:07.040Because that's the only way you can explain it to a certain extent, isn't it?
00:06:10.380Because some of the laws are so crazy, so stupid.
00:06:14.100It's like that is not fostering proper relationships, proper marriage.
00:06:17.940And we can see the stats of, you know, especially boys from single parent families.
00:06:21.460I mean, my God, from crime to health to life chances to every stat goes against them.
00:06:27.240So why are we as a society pushing this real, almost like an agenda to split people up?
00:06:32.140Have you ever thought about how it changes the dynamics of relationships?
00:06:35.620Because when you think about it, if you're, okay, if you're in a deal, right, with someone and one party gains everything by leaving and one party loses everything by leaving, leaving, the person that loses everything is always going to be trying to appease the one that gains everything.
00:06:48.300And so I feel like that's why we get phrases like she wears the pants in the relationship.
00:07:04.680Yeah, Pearl, just going back to what you said about, you know, like women that flee from men and will make up this story and stuff like that.
00:07:27.960It's so easy for women to do that, for women to go to shelters and for men, it's like, it's, they're not even hurt, like, at all.
00:07:37.420Well, it's because in family court, I'm learning about this now, so I might butcher it, but it's up to the discretion of a judge.
00:07:43.580So normally, like, if you go to criminal court, you have to convince a jury, and that's a little, and it's based on evidence, where in family court, it's based on a balance of probabilities.
00:07:52.880So they're not even 100% sure if he's guilty.
00:07:55.300In the UK, this is even before the court, like, if you, yeah, yeah, like, if you called, I don't really know, like, the lines and stuff, but if you, for example, said to your doctor, I'm in this, even though you might not be, because say, I'm in this relationship, this person is, like, you know, domestic violence, I have a child, you can leave that night, and then they'll take you to, like, a refuge or something.
00:08:20.640Like, it's so easy for women. I'm not saying that there's not women out there that actually do need that, because they do, but there's also women that are taking advantage of that, and once you get to that point, you can get benefits, you can get housing, like, there's so much more, but before the court, I'm saying, like, before the court.
00:08:37.220Well, and they kick him out of the house, because that's what he was telling me, he was saying, you first go to either a teacher or a doctor, and then they take you to the women's shelter, and they tell you what to say, and then one call to the police, they have, the women's shelter instructs you on what to say to the police.
00:08:52.260Yeah, the police can take them the next day.
00:08:53.940Yeah, yeah, and so one, like, there's one guy who got one call, and it was, I forgot what exactly the words he said, but it was basically, like, get out of the house, and he still has to pay for the mortgage on the house, because it's in his name, and then he slept with $1,500 in child support a month.