Deluded Feminist Is Unable To Answer This
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the benefits and drawbacks of being a virgin vs being a hoe, the benefits of polyamory vs. monogamy, and why we should all be virgins. We also talk about the difference between being a hooker and a virgin.
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But I, I don't believe in this pair bonding thing.
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And I only say that is because oxytocin is something that gets regenerated in your body.
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Do you think that a virgin and a hooker have the same pair bonding abilities?
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But what I'm saying is the science behind actual pair bonding and the six partner thing,
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And I only say this is because I tried to read up on it because I was actually curious about it.
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And they said that they, they got this information from a mammal called the prairie vole.
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So this whole thing that you're talking about with six partners actually came from a different
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mammal that was not, not like, well, and we could, we could argue it's 10, we could argue
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it's 15, but we know, but we know what's true is the more you sleep with the harder it is.
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But I also believe that has, it's, yes, it's hormones, but it's also trauma.
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It's allowing people, people in, you can also, but it's like, it's like, okay, if I drink
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every single day of my life, then alcohol is not going to affect me every bunch as much.
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If you, if you fuck every single person you meet, it's not, you're not going to bond
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It's an oxytocin thing because it's like, even if it's, I mean, women lie anyway, who
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So it's like, all right, let's say, let's say, five, six years ago.
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So I always used to tell my girlfriends, so I used to be a cocktail waitress at a strip
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And they used to always tell me, why aren't you going to be a dancer?
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And I said, I don't want to be because I feel like me, just, it's just a me thing.
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And when a guy comes in, I have to figure out what role am I playing in his life to receive
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So I was nervous that it was going to mess my mind up when it comes to a man that's coming
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And I'm like, am I going to switch myself for this person and not be who I am?
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And then inevitably, they're going to see the real person and we're going to have an
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I think we should save ourselves a little bit more because I think we're just valuable
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Honestly, but I just want to put this in a historical point of view, you know, a hundred
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years ago, what percent of women were virgins on their wedding days?
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Probably almost like a hundred percent of them.
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Now, let's just say, cause we all know women lie.
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I would have been a virgin on my wedding day if I would have been, you know, in a sexual
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assault as a child, you know, and a lot of women go through that as well.
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You know, a lot of women go through that as well.
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I was raised in a very, you know, religious household.
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I would have loved to get married and be a virgin.
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And you'd agree that would have been the best outcome.
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But unfortunately, there are people who are monsters out here and they criticize those
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women that are virgins and they take that innocence from them.
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I think the majority of us women, we meet a guy that's handsome and we just, yeah, we
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I think in general, like it's, it's not, so, and so in a way, in a way, like women, in
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a way women, we're the ones picking non-monogamy because when we have the most choice, which
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I mean, for, well, no, you didn't because how old are you again?
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So you could have, I know, I know you had the, that happened to you, but after that
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you could have at 18, 20, 22, picked a guy, gotten married, stayed with him and you did
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And so, so someone, it would have happened, but it didn't happen.
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But it's like, but it's like, but it's like, if we, if we put that towards, well, I should
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And so in a way it's like, we're the ones picking non-monogamy and we whine because
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when the men don't pick monogamy later, I got to, Asia, I want to hear from you.
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Is it, what are, what are your thoughts on this?
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My thoughts, I guess what I can say is I I'm divorced, so I'm 25 and I'm divorced
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I always, we got married when I was 23 and why didn't you stay married?
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I, I got divorced because I couldn't compromise because my ex-husband, he, he was an alcoholic.
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I tried offering services, but you can't change what somebody.
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Did you know he was an alcoholic when you married him?
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Was he an alcoholic when you married him or did that happen after?
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So it gradually got worse as we, after, actually after we had gotten married.
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He was in combat and he had, yeah, he had a lot of that.
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And in the beginning it was regulated with medication and it was good, you know, but after
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I don't blame you one bit for leaving that type of environment.
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It wasn't something that I could compromise with any longer.
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And when I tell you I did everything that I could to stay with him, I did.
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And I would have done anything that he needed to.
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So how could you say you did everything you could to stay if you left?
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I'm not, I'm not even saying you're wrong for it, but I'm saying like, that's kind of
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You know, women used to date alcoholics for like a decade and then they'd stop.
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I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, look at, look at, I'm not, what I'm not pushing back on is
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saying, oh, you shouldn't have left that or whatever.
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What I am saying is like this idea that we did everything.
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That's what I want to, that's what I would like to know.
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I just, you know, I'm, I'm Catholic, so I don't believe in divorce.
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So I actually, I think it's like for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse and
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So if somebody was manipulating you every single day.
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Well, the women are usually the more manipulative ones anyway.
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I think your dad, I think we would all be in a better place if our dads helped us pick
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How are we going to do a layoff because then we can ask our dads?
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Well, if you want to, if you want to talk about the dads, then like the moms picked
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So it's like, if they're, I think we need the dads involved.
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How many of you grew up in a nuclear family, like a mom and dad at home before they passed
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I come from a broken home, so I had to pretty much build what I had in regards to what
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And I think, again, because it'll go to our parents, right?
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And a lot of our parents didn't pick well either.
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Well, I wouldn't say that I didn't have that type of guidance.
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I mean, I definitely have that relationship with my dad where I could bring him.
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I did bring my dad to, or bring my husband to my dad at the time, you know?
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And he probably was, but into the PTSD and everything else.
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And there's a lot of factors that play into it, you know?
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And so he just started drinking and then just became an alcoholic in two years?
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So we were together for all in all three years.
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And good job for getting the fuck out of there.