JustPearlyThings - October 11, 2023


Deluded Feminist Is Unable To Answer This

Topics
pair bonding abilities
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Hannah Pearl Davis
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In this episode, we discuss the benefits and drawbacks of being a virgin vs being a hoe, the benefits of polyamory vs. monogamy, and why we should all be virgins. We also talk about the difference between being a hooker and a virgin.

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00:00:00.000 But I, I don't believe in this pair bonding thing.
00:00:03.120 And I only say that is because oxytocin is something that gets regenerated in your body.
00:00:08.040 Sure.
00:00:08.340 And it actually gets regenerated super quick.
00:00:10.520 Like after sex, I have a question.
00:00:13.180 Do you think that a virgin and a hooker have the same pair bonding abilities? 1.00
00:00:17.060 So yes or no. 0.54
00:00:18.300 Okay.
00:00:18.520 My question also, yes or no.
00:00:20.660 I think it's the same.
00:00:22.100 I do not, but I don't believe.
00:00:23.500 So you do believe it to some extent.
00:00:25.140 Yes.
00:00:25.460 But what I'm saying is the science behind actual pair bonding and the six partner thing,
00:00:31.020 I don't think that's actually true science.
00:00:32.720 And I only say this is because I tried to read up on it because I was actually curious about it.
00:00:37.740 And they said that they, they got this information from a mammal called the prairie vole.
00:00:43.500 Have you heard of that?
00:00:44.360 So this whole thing that you're talking about with six partners actually came from a different
00:00:48.780 mammal that was not, not like, well, and we could, we could argue it's 10, we could argue
00:00:54.000 it's 15, but we know, but we know what's true is the more you sleep with the harder it is.
00:00:58.180 But I also believe that has, it's, yes, it's hormones, but it's also trauma.
00:01:03.000 It's allowing people, people in, you can also, but it's like, it's like, okay, if I drink
00:01:07.520 every single day of my life, then alcohol is not going to affect me every bunch as much. 0.94
00:01:11.600 If you, if you fuck every single person you meet, it's not, you're not going to bond 0.97
00:01:16.060 as much to each one. 0.99
00:01:17.240 So I'm not saying six is the number.
00:01:19.520 It could be 10.
00:01:20.240 That's the only thing I'm like, it's the six.
00:01:22.040 It's an oxytocin thing because it's like, even if it's, I mean, women lie anyway, who 1.00
00:01:25.620 knows what those chicks body counts for? 1.00
00:01:27.220 So it's like, all right, let's say, let's say, five, six years ago.
00:01:30.860 So I always used to tell my girlfriends, so I used to be a cocktail waitress at a strip
00:01:34.740 club.
00:01:35.080 Right.
00:01:35.340 And they used to always tell me, why aren't you going to be a dancer?
00:01:37.680 And I said, I don't want to be because I feel like me, just, it's just a me thing.
00:01:42.300 You have to be an actress.
00:01:43.920 And when a guy comes in, I have to figure out what role am I playing in his life to receive
00:01:48.180 that money.
00:01:48.660 So I was nervous that it was going to mess my mind up when it comes to a man that's coming
00:01:53.020 in my life.
00:01:53.620 And I'm like, am I going to switch myself for this person and not be who I am?
00:01:57.660 And then inevitably, they're going to see the real person and we're going to have an
00:02:00.620 issue.
00:02:01.120 So it's going to mess, I guess, the pair.
00:02:03.520 Right.
00:02:04.040 But the whole point is that less is better.
00:02:07.300 Right.
00:02:07.620 In general.
00:02:08.100 I agree.
00:02:08.660 I think we should save ourselves a little bit more because I think we're just valuable
00:02:12.660 than when we throw around.
00:02:13.900 Honestly, but I just want to put this in a historical point of view, you know, a hundred
00:02:17.420 years ago, what percent of women were virgins on their wedding days? 1.00
00:02:20.340 A hundred years ago.
00:02:21.340 Yes.
00:02:21.560 Probably almost like a hundred percent of them.
00:02:23.160 Yes.
00:02:23.500 Like 90, 90 percent.
00:02:25.140 Eighty five percent of women were virgins. 0.61
00:02:27.540 Now, let's just say, cause we all know women lie. 1.00
00:02:29.480 So it's like, all right, let's double it.
00:02:30.900 Let's double it. 0.94
00:02:31.640 I would have been a virgin on my wedding day if I would have been, you know, in a sexual
00:02:35.000 assault as a child, you know, and a lot of women go through that as well. 1.00
00:02:38.060 And that's unfortunate.
00:02:39.160 You know, a lot of women go through that as well. 1.00
00:02:41.180 I was raised in a very, you know, religious household.
00:02:43.200 I would have loved to get married and be a virgin.
00:02:45.320 And you'd agree that would have been the best outcome.
00:02:47.480 I agree.
00:02:48.160 I do agree.
00:02:49.000 But unfortunately, there are people who are monsters out here and they criticize those
00:02:54.260 women that are virgins and they take that innocence from them. 1.00
00:02:57.240 No, I don't think that's the majority.
00:02:58.880 I think there are exceptions.
00:02:59.940 I think the majority of us women, we meet a guy that's handsome and we just, yeah, we 1.00
00:03:05.560 fuck. 0.98
00:03:06.060 I think in general, like it's, it's not, so, and so in a way, in a way, like women, in 1.00
00:03:12.800 a way women, we're the ones picking non-monogamy because when we have the most choice, which 1.00
00:03:18.000 is early twenties, we don't pick monogamy. 1.00
00:03:20.200 Hey, I'm polyamorous, so you're right.
00:03:22.000 Right.
00:03:22.260 Yeah.
00:03:22.580 And so no, no, you didn't.
00:03:24.740 I mean, for, well, no, you didn't because how old are you again?
00:03:28.700 I'm 28.
00:03:29.140 Okay.
00:03:29.560 You're 28.
00:03:30.260 So you could have, I know, I know you had the, that happened to you, but after that
00:03:33.500 you could have at 18, 20, 22, picked a guy, gotten married, stayed with him and you did
00:03:38.500 it.
00:03:38.940 None of us did.
00:03:39.680 And so, so someone, it would have happened, but it didn't happen.
00:03:43.240 Right.
00:03:43.480 But that's, that's the point.
00:03:44.400 It wasn't a priority to you.
00:03:46.080 So in, in.
00:03:47.100 Not necessarily.
00:03:47.720 It wasn't a priority.
00:03:48.700 It just wasn't, I didn't meet anyone.
00:03:51.320 Well, made that happen.
00:03:52.560 Right.
00:03:53.000 But it's like, but it's like, but it's like, if we, if we put that towards, well, I should
00:03:58.360 have been.
00:03:58.740 And I was chasing college sports.
00:04:00.180 It's like, that's what I was doing.
00:04:01.380 I was chasing her priority and correct.
00:04:03.640 And that's what I'm saying.
00:04:04.660 Like when we have the choice, we don't do it.
00:04:07.260 And so in a way it's like, we're the ones picking non-monogamy and we whine because
00:04:13.000 when the men don't pick monogamy later, I got to, Asia, I want to hear from you.
00:04:17.460 You haven't said a lot.
00:04:18.340 Is it, what are, what are your thoughts on this?
00:04:20.120 My thoughts, I guess what I can say is I I'm divorced, so I'm 25 and I'm divorced
00:04:27.820 and I did choose monogamy young.
00:04:31.440 I always, we got married when I was 23 and why didn't you stay married?
00:04:37.940 Why didn't I?
00:04:38.780 Yeah.
00:04:42.580 I did something.
00:04:44.120 I, I got divorced because I couldn't compromise because my ex-husband, he, he was an alcoholic.
00:04:51.800 So he didn't want to stop drinking.
00:04:55.200 He, I tried everything that I could.
00:04:57.120 I tried therapy.
00:04:58.120 I tried offering services, but you can't change what somebody.
00:05:04.860 Did you know he was an alcoholic when you married him?
00:05:07.040 No.
00:05:07.460 I didn't.
00:05:08.240 There's no warning signs?
00:05:09.720 Was he an alcoholic when you married him or did that happen after?
00:05:11.700 No.
00:05:11.900 So it gradually got worse as we, after, actually after we had gotten married.
00:05:16.580 Was it like work related?
00:05:17.720 Like that he wasn't able to provide like that?
00:05:19.660 So it started to get on him?
00:05:20.920 Because I know that about that happened.
00:05:22.120 Well, he, he's prior military.
00:05:24.400 He was deployed.
00:05:25.740 He was in combat and he had, yeah, he had a lot of that.
00:05:29.920 And in the beginning it was regulated with medication and it was good, you know, but after
00:05:36.560 a while, like sometimes, it's not enough.
00:05:38.940 Do you know how he's doing now?
00:05:40.400 Yeah.
00:05:40.660 We still have contact even to this day.
00:05:42.740 He's okay now or better or what?
00:05:44.180 He's right where I left him.
00:05:46.140 Yeah.
00:05:46.440 Unfortunately.
00:05:47.160 Yeah.
00:05:47.340 I don't blame you one bit for leaving that type of environment.
00:05:52.440 Yeah.
00:05:52.600 It wasn't something that I could compromise with any longer.
00:05:55.200 And when I tell you I did everything that I could to stay with him, I did.
00:05:58.560 And I would have done anything that he needed to.
00:06:00.500 But you didn't stay with him.
00:06:02.080 So how could you say you did everything you could to stay if you left?
00:06:05.460 I'm not, I'm not even saying you're wrong for it, but I'm saying like, that's kind of
00:06:08.220 not true.
00:06:09.000 Because.
00:06:09.480 You know, women used to date alcoholics for like a decade and then they'd stop. 0.98
00:06:13.780 They would just like stick with it.
00:06:14.980 And then they always regret it.
00:06:16.200 I'm not.
00:06:16.640 I'm not, I'm not, I'm not, look at, look at, I'm not, what I'm not pushing back on is
00:06:20.620 saying, oh, you shouldn't have left that or whatever.
00:06:22.880 What I am saying is like this idea that we did everything.
00:06:26.160 You're there like what?
00:06:27.060 I guess what is, you're 25.
00:06:28.680 So it's like two years.
00:06:29.620 Yeah.
00:06:29.800 But what is the timeline for that?
00:06:31.820 Exactly.
00:06:32.400 That's what I want to, that's what I would like to know.
00:06:33.200 I just, you know, I'm, I'm Catholic, so I don't believe in divorce.
00:06:36.400 So I actually, I think it's like for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse and
00:06:40.740 sickness and in health.
00:06:41.740 So I don't, I don't believe in divorce at all.
00:06:43.740 So if somebody was manipulating you every single day.
00:06:46.500 Well, the women are usually the more manipulative ones anyway. 1.00
00:06:48.900 I think your dad, I think we would all be in a better place if our dads helped us pick
00:06:53.020 husbands because we don't pick very well. 1.00
00:06:55.460 All right.
00:06:56.260 My dad's not here.
00:06:57.460 Yeah, my dad's not here.
00:06:58.220 Yeah, my dad's here too.
00:06:59.400 My dad's not here either.
00:07:00.740 No.
00:07:00.860 How are we going to do a layoff because then we can ask our dads?
00:07:03.820 Well, if you want to, if you want to talk about the dads, then like the moms picked
00:07:07.380 the dad, you're, you guys' dads.
00:07:09.160 So it's like, if they're, I think we need the dads involved.
00:07:12.440 How many of you grew up in a nuclear family, like a mom and dad at home before they passed
00:07:16.460 away?
00:07:16.800 Before they passed away.
00:07:18.300 Two of you?
00:07:18.800 Okay.
00:07:19.420 All right.
00:07:19.920 That's a lot.
00:07:20.460 I come from a broken home, so I had to pretty much build what I had in regards to what
00:07:28.460 my preferences could be.
00:07:31.260 Yeah.
00:07:31.720 Yeah.
00:07:31.960 And that's really, that's sad.
00:07:33.380 And I think, again, because it'll go to our parents, right?
00:07:36.920 And a lot of our parents didn't pick well either.
00:07:39.240 Like a lot of our moms picked. 0.99
00:07:40.000 Well, I wouldn't say that I didn't have that type of guidance.
00:07:42.840 I mean, I definitely have that relationship with my dad where I could bring him.
00:07:46.100 I did bring my dad to, or bring my husband to my dad at the time, you know?
00:07:51.400 And your dad was like, this is a great choice.
00:07:53.300 He thought he was great.
00:07:54.460 He thought he was.
00:07:55.540 And he probably was, but into the PTSD and everything else.
00:07:58.500 Right.
00:07:58.680 And there's a lot of factors that play into it, you know?
00:08:00.940 Okay.
00:08:00.960 And so he just started drinking and then just became an alcoholic in two years?
00:08:05.640 He was drinking.
00:08:06.500 How long were you married?
00:08:07.940 We were together, we were together for a year.
00:08:10.800 We were married for two years.
00:08:13.220 Okay.
00:08:13.520 So we were together for all in all three years. 0.98
00:08:15.820 And good job for getting the fuck out of there. 0.98
00:08:18.440 Thank you. 0.87
00:08:19.020 You're welcome.