JustPearlyThings - Delusional Modern Woman GETS a Reality Check

00:00:00.000 oh sorry can I also mention something you also mentioned how your end goal is to be a wife and 1.00

00:00:05.540 a housewife and have kids so if that's your end goal don't you think it is important to consider

00:00:09.580 how men are viewing you um yeah but it's like for example if my end goal was my career then I would

00:00:14.980 have to focus on career oriented things but if your end goal is marriage and kids don't you think

00:00:19.960 you have to focus on how men view you and I think that's why can't I have a career and have marriage

00:00:24.300 and kids no but I'm talking about like your end goal like what do you want as the end is it just

00:00:28.160 the career long term or is it yeah I think marriage and kids will outweigh the career for sure yeah so

00:00:34.680 considering the fact that like by 30 women's eggs start to you know expire whatever and you know 1.00

00:00:40.200 that is your end goal just all these other factors you may lose your youth and beauty wrinkles don't

00:00:44.960 you think is important to consider what men will think about you if that's your end goal I feel

00:00:49.420 like the right man would not be judging me because I've gone to France and Spain like what the hell

00:00:55.680 is that about like like that is just like like the guy I'm with he just doesn't care about this 0.69

00:01:01.280 social media stuff he just thinks it's a load of crap like he's met me and he probably had a few

00:01:07.720 people say like out of jealousy or whatever because I'm a popular figure certain things and it's like 0.92

00:01:13.480 no I'm gonna he's strong-minded I need a strong-minded man that's the thing I can't be dealing with these 0.94

00:01:17.760 men that'll be swayed by what they hear by he she or her so if a man was dating a whore yeah does that 0.99

00:01:23.200 make him strong-minded because he's it actually does I don't agree with that but it does I think 0.94

00:01:27.960 it's not to call you and that no no no no no no I know I'm just saying I actually think it I'm not 0.98

00:01:33.200 saying I'm not agreeing with men being with whores by the way that's what I'm saying I'm saying but I 1.00

00:01:37.440 do I actually do think it it is very strong-minded for a man to get with one because he's clearly 0.78

00:01:41.960 saying I like you for you and despite what you've done and what everybody says about you I'm gonna

00:01:47.340 stand by you and I can actually respect that just that to a degree and I've said it so many times

00:01:53.360 when I've seen people do it where I've seen these men go for these women and everyone's like why

00:01:56.440 would he go for her but maybe she is actually a good girl like maybe good-hearted girl like maybe

00:02:01.060 she has made a lot of mistakes I think do you think it's unwise knowing the stats that I told you

00:02:05.820 where there's only a 20% chance that he'll be happy with her in 10 years you don't think that's 0.99

00:02:09.960 something of it it's a bit unwise no not if not if you want no no if your son came to you the whore 0.99

00:02:16.780 would you be happy with that of course not I just told you I don't think I don't necessarily 0.98

00:02:20.020 but if he came to you and he said to you mom he's a good woman and whatever and like it depends on

00:02:24.000 um no I would say no personally because I think there's enough women out there for you to find a 1.00

00:02:28.980 good woman that isn't a whore yeah I think you know what's so funny in this like modern world 1.00

00:02:33.800 um it's either we have fun or I'm taking it's like can you not be find your man and travel and learn 0.59

00:02:41.960 like I think I can enjoy my life and learn and have knowledge and still have fun and still enjoy my

00:02:47.060 youth with a man with my husband I don't think there's anything wrong with it I feel like it's

00:02:54.280 better to make memories then you know have no memories and getting and I've had experience

00:02:59.400 and he had experience memories of your friends yeah absolutely but I think it's nice to have

00:03:04.720 that's not valuable to a guy though like it's not valuable to a guy that you have memories about

00:03:11.020 the guy in order wait in order to have a happy marriage you have to care what the man wants 0.99

00:03:17.800 unless if you want to do this like 50 50 partnership type shit where your opinion is like yeah you don't 0.82

00:03:23.060 you don't want to do that right you want to be a housewife so if you want to be a housewife only 0.99

00:03:27.140 20% of women get to be housewives so that means it's it's competitive right that means not a lot of 1.00

00:03:33.320 girls are going to get it and so like you have to know the buyer in order to compete and you also 1.00

00:03:39.080 mentioned that's a good way of putting it you also mentioned how you can do both I have an example

00:03:44.380 for you say for example I wanted to have a six-pack and you know compete for the Olympics can I do both

00:03:49.780 things like be at McDonald's every three times a week or it's kind of the same on the rare occasion

00:03:55.620 yeah I can because I've got a low metabolism what I'm trying to say is like when you have an end goal

00:04:02.220 and you have an end point when you focus on other things it hinders you getting to that point so what

00:04:07.880 I'm trying to say is for the ladies who's um you know your your goal is to just to be a career woman 1.00

00:04:12.280 I feel like focusing on your career and traveling that will work for you but if your end goal is to

00:04:16.580 like be your wife like I'm saying your end goal that's what you want when you settle down that 1.00

00:04:21.440 you have to make them steps to actually work towards that yeah and I think that's where

00:04:25.340 modern women get it like you know messed up so going back to that example like if my end goal 1.00

00:04:29.960 was to have a six-pack does it make sense to be um balancing McDonald's and salad um you know

00:04:35.220 half of the week it would make sense but I disagree in that in that sense I don't see anything wrong

00:04:41.060 with finding like you you know we are interested let's get married let's let's grow up together

00:04:46.340 I you know it's fine there's nothing if you're young of course you can still focus on university

00:04:52.940 or or your career but if you're old that's a different story it's like you should have had it

00:04:57.420 it's too late now yeah but you know it's fine it's fine in the moment but when you're like 30 and

00:05:02.300 you're single like is it still going to be fine what do you mean so like you're saying like having fun

00:05:07.060 and whatever is fine you're single um but by 30 should have your life together okay I have a

00:05:12.160 question if you want you you said you want to be married you'd be married absolutely how many dates

00:05:16.240 do you go on in a week oh I don't you don't okay so how on earth would you get the results of married

00:05:22.480 if you don't do anything to get there it's hard are you just gonna magically find you at your parents

00:05:27.340 house that's so funny when you and my brother yesterday as well it's like look fine um I find

00:05:34.340 it a bit hard because I I just find I feel I think my husband is just not in London you know okay sorry

00:05:40.780 I feel like it's a bit hard I feel like the way I think and the standards and the way I brought up

00:05:44.980 I don't think they got the same it's gonna be a bit harder for me okay so so there's Instagram there's

00:05:50.980 dating apps where you can switch your location there's matchmakers yeah like how how on earth would

00:05:55.720 you get the result of Mary I'm happy to get married what is it called when um sorry arrange

00:06:01.000 marriage I'm happy no I'm happy if my mom comes and she's like have you said to your parents I want

00:06:05.740 an arranged marriage set this up and what do they say mom is mom is still looking for me mom is in 0.89

00:06:11.360 her own country right now finding me the right husband some and it's better because your parents 0.78

00:06:16.940 would choose some my mom doesn't want me to be in danger my mom doesn't want to see me do bad

00:06:21.760 yeah but what if he's not your type or if you're not your type you look him you think that for me

00:06:25.660 for me I think marriage is about security it's about creating a safe place for your child you

00:06:31.900 have to be attractive come on I think the biggest problem I think for me and you know that for me

00:06:38.080 it's all about character I can look at someone but uh and then you know and then grow to like and

00:06:42.420 then back oh do you know what yeah so I can't judge in the beginning but what if he's not your type

00:06:47.720 though like genuinely that is an arranged marriage is a surprise you've seen it for the first time

00:06:51.540 you still need to be average you know this is this is actually the reason like women end up single 1.00

00:06:56.400 because women in their 20s we typically select for looks we're in our 30s typically okay I'm not

00:07:03.280 talking about you typically in our 20 how tall is your boyfriend um he's like 5 11 okay so so top 10

00:07:12.200 11 okay so still top 20 percent of height yes you do um okay that's what they say you don't listen

00:07:18.200 to what women say watch what they do um okay so typically in our 20s like so it's interesting 0.93

00:07:23.600 because we're in a monogamous society technically that's what we think but we're really in a non

00:07:27.600 monogamous society because women don't get married till the age of 31 so we pick and women um who's in 1.00

00:07:32.820 control of sex women women right so we pick non-monogamy in our 20s which is when we have the most 0.89

00:07:38.660 to offer to men right and we typically select for looks which is the top 20 percent of men

00:07:43.480 well when we get to our 30s that's when we start looking for security so then that expands to the

00:07:48.000 top like 50 60 percent of men um and so but basically what happens is the top 20 percent of men run through

00:07:53.600 the girls in their 20s and then like we pick the nice guy after I think the biggest pandemic of today

00:08:00.480 is delusion I'm sorry to say that because I feel like with women today we have this idea on our head 1.00

00:08:06.540 that the perfect guy is just gonna drop on our laps and we're just gonna get married when we want

00:08:10.580 and we don't realize that there's actual actionable steps like everything in life you have to work for

00:08:16.560 it you have to make changes and it kind of upsets me that sometimes people have this idea in their

00:08:20.760 head where just like well I don't have to think about this or I don't have to consider a man's

00:08:24.560 opinion and you kind of do it in order to achieve any goal in life not just relationships so I feel

00:08:29.880 like yeah that's just my point okay if if you're applying for a job you don't care what the

00:08:34.360 employer thinks yeah you don't you don't think a wife is a job I do actually I think a housewife

00:08:45.300 is a job okay so I think it is yeah so again you don't have to care what the employer thinks when

00:08:49.580 you're looking to be hired but that's that specific but then the employer is putting I'm not I'm not

00:08:54.200 thinking about what the whole of sony thinks of me I'm thinking about what the managing director of

00:08:59.360 that department thinks of me okay but you still have to to figure out what they want right and

00:09:04.820 care about what they want to an extent but it's not as rigid as that like it's a relationship you

00:09:09.920 know so I just feel like it's a relationship you shouldn't care about what they want of course you

00:09:15.640 should okay so you do have to care but how would you know that without meeting them you are just

00:09:20.540 assuming at this point you talk to men and ask them what they want no but you're saying like in a

00:09:24.920 sense that before as we're navigating we want the same type of stuff they talk about

00:09:29.060 arranged marriage no no I'm talking about like when you're single and you're young you're

00:09:32.540 navigating you're traveling you're saying I should be thinking as each each day every step I take

00:09:36.560 what all the men on my Instagram are thinking of me as I'm going to France as I'm doing this as I'm

00:09:41.140 doing I think it is yeah of course carry yourself in the best way I don't by the way I'm not I'm not

00:09:45.840 condoning like being a whore and I'm just saying the realistic thing of just enjoying and living your 0.99

00:09:52.320 life and learning who you are before getting with somebody because what you don't want is to just get 0.99

00:09:57.480 with somebody at 21 and then you've never lived and then you get to 40 you realize you're not

00:10:01.820 compatible you never even lived your life what results does that yield though as women as women 0.99

00:10:06.740 have pushed the age of marriage up and up and up and found themselves before the divorce rate goes up

00:10:12.460 and up and up so it doesn't like the result as many of you know I was just banned on tick tock and we are

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JustPearlyThings - May 09, 2023

Delusional Modern Woman GETS a Reality Check

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