Delusional Modern Women
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss what it means to be a good man and how to know if a man is a good guy. How do we know when a man has a good woman? How can we tell if a guy is a Good Guy?
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You can tell when a man is in line when he has a good woman.
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I asked you guys, for her, she is a single woman.
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But like for a single woman, how do you know if it is a good man?
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Do you think it is easy to tell as a guy who the good guys are?
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If he is willing to accept your trauma, he is a good guy.
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So I am just like, why would a good guy want to accept a bunch of trauma?
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Because if he sees something in you, he will...
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If he supports you through certain things you are going through in trauma, then you know...
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You have gone, let's say, what kind of example can I do?
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Whatever the issue may be or whatever it is that she will be going through.
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Yeah, like if she needs time, like you're there, but you're...
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Fundamentally, I think that all, most guys are good guys.
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No, but the thing is, it's about have we found the right woman?
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So if we were with the right woman, then it works.
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She's not going to see it easily because it depends on who she is.
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It's about the woman, but she doesn't understand.
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You see me saying it from a man, like in order for a man to be a good man,
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you have to have a good woman because the woman will put you in line.
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Like men on their own don't put their self in line.
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We live recklessly until you get that good woman.
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I was chatting to the man them today in the WhatsApp group.
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And it's like, well, you could even remember we were saying about a man dressing well.
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You could tell when a man's dressing a certain way in a relationship and out of a relationship.
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Really, the most dependable, responsible men I know don't really need a woman to look
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No, because I'm just thinking about the men I respect the most in my life that are really
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They don't need a woman to guide them or take care of them.
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They kind of have a path, stuff they want to do.
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No, we're always going to have a path, isn't it?
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So we're always on, yo, we need to do this, we need to do that, blah, blah, blah.
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They will put, men are structured, but we will have a vision and we go for that vision.
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And sometimes we just go, because we can see what we're going for.
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We know, we got the picture in our head, but a woman can organize the route a bit better
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I think what you're saying is more like enhancing your qualities, enhancing your life.
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But like, honestly, for me, I think that if, if a guy can get up, even when he's sad,
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when he has a bad day, maybe if he likes to work out, he'll do a workout, go to work,
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You know, these things that if you already do them without a woman, it's good.
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No, this, this just, this just sounds to me like the guys you don't want to date, which
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is the guys that like need a woman to like, to guide them.
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I don't want to organize man's paperwork while I'm practically outside of the room.
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But that's like, you're kind of, you're kind of, you're kind of switching what you started
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No, I hear what you know, but I'm, it's hard for me to explain it because it's like,
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it's mad because obviously man, I'm, I'm, I'm, when I'm saying I'm focused, man, you can
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be focused on something, but sometimes you need somebody there to help you in line certain
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things because man, we will just do things like, for example, I'll use shopping for example.
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If I'm going shopping, yo, I'm going in there size eight, air force one, boom, bam, gone.
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I'm not spending long where a woman will, if they want to dress or something or they want
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They will pattern up things, make sure everything's correct before they leave that.
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I don't need to get my air force better for me.
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But I'm just saying they will look for more things.
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What do you guys think about the phrase, a woman that makes you wait for sex isn't worth
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That's only true if you're, that's only true if you're not, if she's not a real virgin,
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which I know you can't really, you know, just, you can't really tell, but that's, that's
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But I think you guys have to be mindful when it comes to sex.
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Like, like honestly, it's not, it's a big thing.
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So do you really want to just be having sex with anyone and letting any kind of energy into
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Can I just say that for us, it is always a spiritual exchange.
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For them, it might just be sex and you might be thinking, oh, this is a spiritual exchange,
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And that's why I probably could only date spiritual men now, now at this point.
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But like, I think if you thought it was a spiritual exchange, you would have waited
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Like, that's why, this is what I mean, like why, like, like men hear the things we say
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Because it's like, okay, you're 32, you've been dating since you were 18.
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Was every guy you slept with in the last 12 years a spiritual?
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But since 28, because I only spent spiritual when I was 28.
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So this is, this is like guys, when they've dated enough women, they start to see like patterns
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And like one thing that they found was like women tend to like find God around the age
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So basically like, like basically, it's kind of like a red flag.
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When you say around 28, I like found God or found the spiritual journey because it's
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kind of like, okay, I spent the first half of my twenties being a hoe.
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And then now it's like, I'm not, I'm not saying a hoe, but like, okay.
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A hoe, what is a hoe statistically more than five partners?
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But what I'm saying, like, so a lot of times like women sort of try to rebrand and it
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Like at the end of the day, if you're going to be the same first of your life, you're
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It might be, but I'm just telling you how like men see it.
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Listen, listen, but this is, this isn't, this isn't the men for me.
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I'm telling you, this is how like men see it where it's like before the men, um, I gave
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And so what that says to the men is you're not genuinely attracted to them because you
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were genuinely attracted to the first guy because you had sex with him right away, but
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you're not that attracted to the second because you're making him wait.
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I would even, I would even say that like, like again, going back to like your body's a
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It's also like what food you eat, you know, how you treat your body.
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And I think if you're doing all of those things and yeah, the, the both people should
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wait because that means you're actually, you love yourself in an authentic, truthful
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way and you actually care about your body and your beliefs.
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Eating right, taking care of your body and also not like having a bunch of tattoos and
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So do you think that majority of men think that, let's say for example, before you're
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28, you slept around and then after 28, you found God reborn again.
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I'm saying, but let's say there's a born again woman at 28.
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Some of them are, I mean, let's give them credit.
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Um, I previously described this phase as parallels.
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This, this time, the epiphany phase, this is a precarious time for women, usually between
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the ages of 28 and 30, where she attempts to reassess the last decade of her life.
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Women's, um, psyche, psychological rationalization engine begins a furious effort to account for
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and explain her reasonings for not having successfully secured a long-term monogamous commitment from
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an alpha, a man, a man, her attractiveness could attain for her.
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Even women married prior to this phase will go through some self-doubt or self-pity.
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Dealing with the un, or the hyper, hypergamic uncertainty of her choice.
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So, it is during this phase that women will make radical shifts in their prioritization
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of what, uh, traits qualify as attractive in a man.
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An attempt to turn over a new leaf by changing up their behaviors to allow, with this new
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persona they created themselves, for themselves.
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So, since the physicality, sexual prowess, and the alpha dominance that made her formal
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A formal arousal cues in men aren't as forthcoming from men when she was in her sexual prime.
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She reprioritizes them with preferences for more intrinsic male attributes that stress dependability,
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provisioning capacity, humor, intellect, and, um, esoteric definitions of compatibility and intimacy.
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For the spiritually inclined women, this may manifest in a convenient return to the convictions
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For others, it may be, um, a forced celibacy, a refusal to have sex under the hypergamic,
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Ossipies, of her party years in hopes that a well-provisioning male will appreciate her for her prudence.
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So, unlike herself and all of the other girls who rejected him the last decade.
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But it said even for married women, it said, right?
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Because I understood it as even married women go through some sort of shift.
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I think that goes back to emotions, how women act out of emotions, and I feel like women
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need to find better ways to deal with their emotions.
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Or smearing them out, like pushing them out, unsmearing them on other people through projection.
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And it's like, that's still not truthful and authentic.
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You don't have to deal with it, but you're naturally emotional.
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And it's like, so whether you know how to deal with it or not.
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You think that when we say who taught us, it's almost like a way for women, like for us
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to like, because I've noticed in our language, we like take accountability off of women.
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Where it's like, we blame our choices over who taught us.
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Where it's like, if a guy's in jail, they don't say who taught you that.
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I just think, I feel like there's like these little things in conversation where we like,
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take accountability off of women and like, put it onto someone else.