JustPearlyThings - May 13, 2023


Delusional Modern Women


Episode Stats

Length

12 minutes

Words per Minute

214.66489

Word Count

2,669

Sentence Count

239

Misogynist Sentences

25

Hate Speech Sentences

22


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 How do you know when a guy is a good guy?
00:00:02.000 How do you know when a guy is a good guy?
00:00:04.000 When the man them are good.
00:00:06.000 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:00:08.000 Yo, you know what it is?
00:00:10.000 You can tell when a man is in line when he has a good woman.
00:00:15.000 A good woman makes a good man.
00:00:17.000 No, but he has to be good on his own first.
00:00:19.000 No, no, no.
00:00:21.000 No, because you know what it is now, pal.
00:00:23.000 I am pal, I am pal, but you know what it is.
00:00:25.000 No, no, no, please stop, please stop.
00:00:27.000 I asked you guys, for her, she is a single woman.
00:00:30.000 Or sort of, she is dating someone.
00:00:31.000 But like for a single woman, how do you know if it is a good man?
00:00:34.000 What do you think?
00:00:35.000 Do you think it is easy to tell as a guy who the good guys are?
00:00:38.000 No, it is not easy to tell.
00:00:40.000 If he is willing to accept your trauma, he is a good guy.
00:00:44.000 Hmm, that is a good one.
00:00:46.000 That is a good one.
00:00:47.000 Definitely.
00:00:48.000 Really?
00:00:49.000 That is a good point.
00:00:50.000 Yeah, you are good.
00:00:51.000 That is a good point.
00:00:52.000 Okay.
00:00:53.000 So I am just like, why would a good guy want to accept a bunch of trauma?
00:00:59.000 Because if he sees something in you, he will...
00:01:01.000 Yeah, he sees something beyond...
00:01:02.000 If he supports you through certain things you are going through in trauma, then you know...
00:01:06.000 Like he listens to your problems?
00:01:07.000 No, no, just listen.
00:01:09.000 Forget the listening.
00:01:10.000 Okay.
00:01:11.000 He is actually there, like raw, like cool.
00:01:13.000 You have gone, let's say, what kind of example can I do?
00:01:16.000 Maybe trying to work around you in a way.
00:01:20.000 Whatever the issue may be or whatever it is that she will be going through.
00:01:23.000 Even like if she needs...
00:01:24.000 Yeah, like if she needs time, like you're there, but you're...
00:01:27.000 You're supportive.
00:01:28.000 You're supportive, but it's not just...
00:01:29.000 What do you think?
00:01:30.000 Involved.
00:01:31.000 I feel like you've got something to say.
00:01:32.000 Yeah, go on Ted.
00:01:33.000 What do you think?
00:01:34.000 Fundamentally, I think that all, most guys are good guys.
00:01:37.000 You know, good guys.
00:01:38.000 We are good guys, yeah.
00:01:39.000 We are.
00:01:40.000 100%.
00:01:41.000 Agree.
00:01:42.000 No, but the thing is, it's about have we found the right woman?
00:01:45.000 Mm-hmm.
00:01:46.000 Okay.
00:01:47.000 So if we were with the right woman, then it works.
00:01:49.000 If we're not, then it's not.
00:01:50.000 Yeah, but how does she see it though?
00:01:52.000 She's not going to see it easily because it depends on who she is.
00:01:57.000 Ted, this is what I just said to Pearl.
00:01:59.000 It's about the woman, but she doesn't understand.
00:02:01.000 You see me saying it from a man, like in order for a man to be a good man,
00:02:06.000 you have to have a good woman because the woman will put you in line.
00:02:09.000 Like men on their own don't put their self in line.
00:02:12.000 We do reckless things.
00:02:13.000 We buy, we spend money recklessly.
00:02:15.000 We live recklessly until you get that good woman.
00:02:18.000 I was chatting to the man them today in the WhatsApp group.
00:02:20.000 And it's like, well, you could even remember we were saying about a man dressing well.
00:02:23.000 Mm-hmm.
00:02:24.000 You could tell when a man's dressing a certain way in a relationship and out of a relationship.
00:02:28.000 You can tell.
00:02:29.000 Obviously, I don't know, man them can tell.
00:02:30.000 I don't know if women can tell.
00:02:31.000 But.
00:02:32.000 Really, the most dependable, responsible men I know don't really need a woman to look
00:02:37.000 after them, to be honest.
00:02:38.000 It's not about need.
00:02:39.000 Yeah.
00:02:40.000 It's about guidance.
00:02:41.000 So.
00:02:42.000 I mean.
00:02:43.000 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:02:44.000 No, but.
00:02:45.000 No, because I'm just thinking about the men I respect the most in my life that are really
00:02:48.000 doing stuff.
00:02:49.000 I think of my dad, some of my brothers.
00:02:51.000 They don't need a woman to guide them or take care of them.
00:02:54.000 They kind of have a path, stuff they want to do.
00:02:56.000 They don't really.
00:02:57.000 No, we're always going to have a path, isn't it?
00:02:58.000 Yeah.
00:02:59.000 But women have certain, like, we're practical.
00:03:01.000 Mm-hmm.
00:03:02.000 So we're always on, yo, we need to do this, we need to do that, blah, blah, blah.
00:03:06.000 Where women are more structured.
00:03:09.000 They will put, men are structured, but we will have a vision and we go for that vision.
00:03:14.000 Right.
00:03:15.000 And sometimes we just go, because we can see what we're going for.
00:03:18.000 We know, we got the picture in our head, but a woman can organize the route a bit better
00:03:23.000 than a man can organize the route.
00:03:25.000 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:03:26.000 I think what you're saying is more like enhancing your qualities, enhancing your life.
00:03:30.000 Yeah, maybe, yeah.
00:03:31.000 But like, honestly, for me, I think that if, if a guy can get up, even when he's sad,
00:03:37.000 when he has a bad day, maybe if he likes to work out, he'll do a workout, go to work,
00:03:43.000 not be emotional all the time.
00:03:44.000 You know, these things that if you already do them without a woman, it's good.
00:03:48.000 Yeah, we do that naturally.
00:03:49.000 But.
00:03:50.000 Go on, pal.
00:03:51.000 Yeah.
00:03:52.000 You get me?
00:03:53.000 No, this, this just, this just sounds to me like the guys you don't want to date, which
00:04:00.000 is the guys that like need a woman to like, to guide them.
00:04:03.000 Yeah.
00:04:04.000 Yeah.
00:04:05.000 Like, I would think you'd want like a leader.
00:04:06.000 Maybe I'm wrong.
00:04:07.000 I don't know.
00:04:08.000 No, no, no, man's a leader.
00:04:09.000 Yeah.
00:04:10.000 I don't want to organize man's paperwork while I'm practically outside of the room.
00:04:13.000 Oh, okay.
00:04:14.000 But that's like, you're kind of, you're kind of, you're kind of switching what you started
00:04:17.000 saying.
00:04:18.000 No, I hear what you know, but I'm, it's hard for me to explain it because it's like,
00:04:23.000 it's mad because obviously man, I'm, I'm, I'm, when I'm saying I'm focused, man, you can
00:04:28.000 be focused on something, but sometimes you need somebody there to help you in line certain
00:04:33.000 things because man, we will just do things like, for example, I'll use shopping for example.
00:04:38.000 Yeah.
00:04:39.000 If I'm going shopping, yo, I'm going in there size eight, air force one, boom, bam, gone.
00:04:44.000 I know exactly what I want.
00:04:45.000 I know what I'm going there for.
00:04:46.000 I'm not spending long where a woman will, if they want to dress or something or they want
00:04:51.000 to shoes, you try it on.
00:04:52.000 It's got to make sure it looks right.
00:04:54.000 Blah, blah, blah.
00:04:55.000 Up there.
00:04:56.000 They will pattern up things, make sure everything's correct before they leave that.
00:04:59.000 Do you get what I'm saying?
00:05:00.000 Like getting your size eight better?
00:05:02.000 Your air force better?
00:05:03.000 I don't need to get my air force better for me.
00:05:05.000 So is that-
00:05:06.000 Well you said she organizes your route.
00:05:08.000 Yeah.
00:05:09.000 But I'm just saying they will look for more things.
00:05:12.000 What do you guys think about the phrase, a woman that makes you wait for sex isn't worth
00:05:16.000 the wait?
00:05:20.000 That's only true if you're, that's only true if you're not, if she's not a real virgin,
00:05:25.000 which I know you can't really, you know, just, you can't really tell, but that's, that's
00:05:29.000 what I think at least.
00:05:30.000 But I think you guys have to be mindful when it comes to sex.
00:05:34.000 It's not just sex.
00:05:35.000 It's a spiritual energy exchange.
00:05:38.000 I don't care.
00:05:39.000 You guys, I have to say this stuff.
00:05:41.000 Like, like honestly, it's not, it's a big thing.
00:05:45.000 So do you really want to just be having sex with anyone and letting any kind of energy into
00:05:50.000 your energy?
00:05:51.000 Like it's not worth it, is it?
00:05:52.000 I don't think it's worth it.
00:05:53.000 Can I just say that for us, it is always a spiritual exchange.
00:05:58.000 For them, it might just be sex and you might be thinking, oh, this is a spiritual exchange,
00:06:03.000 but it's not.
00:06:04.000 And that's why I probably could only date spiritual men now, now at this point.
00:06:07.000 But like, I think if you thought it was a spiritual exchange, you would have waited
00:06:10.000 till you were married.
00:06:11.000 Like, that's why, this is what I mean, like why, like, like men hear the things we say
00:06:16.000 and it doesn't match up with what we do.
00:06:17.000 Because it's like, okay, you're 32, you've been dating since you were 18.
00:06:20.000 Was every guy you slept with in the last 12 years a spiritual?
00:06:23.000 But since 28, because I only spent spiritual when I was 28.
00:06:26.000 So my mindset completely shifted.
00:06:28.000 Do you realize there's like a pattern?
00:06:29.000 Wait, wait, wait.
00:06:30.000 So there's like a pattern.
00:06:31.000 So this is, this is like guys, when they've dated enough women, they start to see like patterns
00:06:36.000 in our behavior.
00:06:37.000 And like one thing that they found was like women tend to like find God around the age
00:06:41.000 of 28.
00:06:42.000 So they kind of like start to rebrand.
00:06:43.000 So basically like, like basically, it's kind of like a red flag.
00:06:46.000 When you say around 28, I like found God or found the spiritual journey because it's
00:06:49.000 kind of like, okay, I spent the first half of my twenties being a hoe.
00:06:52.000 And then now it's like, I'm not, I'm not saying a hoe, but like, okay.
00:06:57.000 A hoe, what is a hoe statistically more than five partners?
00:07:00.000 Okay.
00:07:01.000 So, okay.
00:07:02.000 I don't, I don't need to know.
00:07:04.000 I don't need to know.
00:07:05.000 But what I'm saying, like, so a lot of times like women sort of try to rebrand and it
00:07:08.000 just doesn't really seem like genuine.
00:07:10.000 It's not really rebranding.
00:07:11.000 It's growth.
00:07:12.000 Like at the end of the day, if you're going to be the same first of your life, you're
00:07:14.000 never going to get anywhere.
00:07:15.000 It might be, but I'm just telling you how like men see it.
00:07:18.000 It's kind of like, okay, okay, okay.
00:07:20.000 Listen, listen, but this is, this isn't, this isn't the men for me.
00:07:23.000 I'm telling you, this is how like men see it where it's like before the men, um, I gave
00:07:28.000 this away for free.
00:07:29.000 Now you pay a premium price.
00:07:32.000 And so what that says to the men is you're not genuinely attracted to them because you
00:07:36.000 were genuinely attracted to the first guy because you had sex with him right away, but
00:07:40.000 you're not that attracted to the second because you're making him wait.
00:07:43.000 I would even, I would even say that like, like again, going back to like your body's a
00:07:47.000 temple.
00:07:48.000 It's not even just like your body's temple.
00:07:49.000 It's also like what food you eat, you know, how you treat your body.
00:07:52.000 Like, are you working out?
00:07:53.000 Like, are you taking care of yourself?
00:07:55.000 Like these things are part of that.
00:07:57.000 And I think if you're doing all of those things and yeah, the, the both people should
00:08:01.000 wait because that means you're actually, you love yourself in an authentic, truthful
00:08:05.000 way and you actually care about your body and your beliefs.
00:08:09.000 So that, that's to me, that would show that.
00:08:11.000 What would show like eating right?
00:08:13.000 Eating right, taking care of your body and also not like having a bunch of tattoos and
00:08:17.000 not, and not sleeping with a bunch of people.
00:08:18.000 Oh, okay.
00:08:19.000 I see.
00:08:20.000 So do you think that majority of men think that, let's say for example, before you're
00:08:26.000 28, you slept around and then after 28, you found God reborn again.
00:08:30.000 No, I think that's terrible.
00:08:31.000 That's just like, that's just like a coverup.
00:08:33.000 But who is that though?
00:08:35.000 Huh?
00:08:36.000 Who, like is that?
00:08:37.000 I don't think everyone's like that, but.
00:08:39.000 Not everyone's like that.
00:08:40.000 I'm saying, but let's say there's a born again woman at 28.
00:08:42.000 Yeah.
00:08:43.000 Hold on.
00:08:44.000 I'm going to read this.
00:08:45.000 Some of them are, I mean, let's give them credit.
00:08:47.000 Some of them could be.
00:08:48.000 You can find God at any time of them.
00:08:50.000 At the end of the day.
00:08:51.000 Okay.
00:08:52.000 This is from the rational male.
00:08:55.000 Um, I previously described this phase as parallels.
00:08:58.000 Um, all right.
00:08:59.000 This, this time, the epiphany phase, this is a precarious time for women, usually between
00:09:03.000 the ages of 28 and 30, where she attempts to reassess the last decade of her life.
00:09:08.000 Women's, um, psyche, psychological rationalization engine begins a furious effort to account for
00:09:14.000 and explain her reasonings for not having successfully secured a long-term monogamous commitment from
00:09:19.000 an alpha, a man, a man, her attractiveness could attain for her.
00:09:23.000 Even women married prior to this phase will go through some self-doubt or self-pity.
00:09:28.000 Dealing with the un, or the hyper, hypergamic uncertainty of her choice.
00:09:33.000 Is this really the best I can do?
00:09:35.000 So, it is during this phase that women will make radical shifts in their prioritization
00:09:40.000 of what, uh, traits qualify as attractive in a man.
00:09:44.000 An attempt to turn over a new leaf by changing up their behaviors to allow, with this new
00:09:48.000 persona they created themselves, for themselves.
00:09:51.000 So, since the physicality, sexual prowess, and the alpha dominance that made her formal
00:09:56.000 arousal, it's like so more looks.
00:09:58.000 A formal arousal cues in men aren't as forthcoming from men when she was in her sexual prime.
00:10:03.000 She reprioritizes them with preferences for more intrinsic male attributes that stress dependability,
00:10:09.000 provisioning capacity, humor, intellect, and, um, esoteric definitions of compatibility and intimacy.
00:10:17.000 For the spiritually inclined women, this may manifest in a convenient return to the convictions
00:10:23.000 she disregarded since her adolescence.
00:10:25.000 For others, it may be, um, a forced celibacy, a refusal to have sex under the hypergamic,
00:10:32.000 I'm like, what do you use these big words?
00:10:34.000 Ossipies, of her party years in hopes that a well-provisioning male will appreciate her for her prudence.
00:10:41.000 So, unlike herself and all of the other girls who rejected him the last decade.
00:10:45.000 So, it's essentially like a rebrand.
00:10:47.000 Yeah.
00:10:48.000 Exactly.
00:10:49.000 But it said even for married women, it said, right?
00:10:52.000 No, that had been married.
00:10:54.000 Oh.
00:10:55.000 Well, actually, maybe.
00:10:56.000 Wait, let me rewrite.
00:10:57.000 Because I understood it as even married women go through some sort of shift.
00:11:02.000 You might be right.
00:11:04.000 You might be right.
00:11:05.000 I'm just trying to find it.
00:11:06.000 I understood that too.
00:11:07.000 And I think I experienced that as well.
00:11:09.000 Mm-hmm.
00:11:10.000 I didn't divorce until I was 34, but.
00:11:12.000 I think that goes back to emotions, how women act out of emotions, and I feel like women
00:11:16.000 need to find better ways to deal with their emotions.
00:11:18.000 They're usually stuffing them down.
00:11:20.000 That's why there's so much obesity.
00:11:21.000 I know.
00:11:22.000 Or smearing them out, like pushing them out, unsmearing them on other people through projection.
00:11:27.000 It's pretty destructive.
00:11:28.000 And I was like, oh, that's fine.
00:11:29.000 You can just be born again.
00:11:30.000 You can just do that.
00:11:31.000 You can just do that.
00:11:32.000 And it's like, that's still not truthful and authentic.
00:11:35.000 Yeah.
00:11:36.000 Who taught us?
00:11:37.000 What?
00:11:38.000 Who taught us how to deal with our emotions?
00:11:39.000 Or maybe our parents didn't.
00:11:40.000 It's a natural thing.
00:11:41.000 No, it's not.
00:11:42.000 What?
00:11:43.000 I think women naturally are emotional.
00:11:45.000 No, but we don't naturally know how to deal.
00:11:48.000 Not everyone knows.
00:11:49.000 You don't have to deal with it, but you're naturally emotional.
00:11:51.000 And it's like, so whether you know how to deal with it or not.
00:11:53.000 You think that when we say who taught us, it's almost like a way for women, like for us
00:11:58.000 to like, because I've noticed in our language, we like take accountability off of women.
00:12:03.000 Where it's like, we blame our choices over who taught us.
00:12:06.000 Where it's like, if a guy's in jail, they don't say who taught you that.
00:12:09.000 They just say, you ever notice that?
00:12:11.000 For sure.
00:12:12.000 No, absolutely.
00:12:13.000 Like, I don't think it's like intentional.
00:12:14.000 I just think, I feel like there's like these little things in conversation where we like,
00:12:18.000 take accountability off of women and like, put it onto someone else.
00:12:21.000 Yeah.
00:12:22.000 Thanks for shining light on that.
00:12:23.000 It's our responsibility as adults.
00:12:24.000 Yeah.
00:12:25.000 Definitely.