JustPearlyThings - April 20, 2023


Delusional WOMAN Gets HUMBLED


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8 minutes

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Word count

1,372

Sentence count

96

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Misogyny

4

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2

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In this episode, we discuss how old is too old to get married and have kids? How old should you be by the time you re in your 30s? Should you be off the market if you re not in a stable relationship? Are you ready for a baby at 35 years old?

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00:00:00.000 The question, if men do, would you agree men do value fertility?
00:00:05.340 Like in general, men prefer younger women. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So what age do you think it's over?
00:00:13.080 When, when would you qualify women as leftover? Cause at some point, like the guys aren't lining 0.84
00:00:17.520 up for girls at 75, right? So, so at some point it ends, right? Where, where would you pinpoint that?
00:00:24.640 And I'm curious for you, you, why don't you guys all give your answers? So when you start.
00:00:31.600 Okay. First of all, um, you know, oh, to be 21, but at 21, by the time you reach 35,
00:00:43.500 what have you been doing? Like say 20, we start our relationships. What did we say?
00:00:49.360 Speaking to the mic. Oh, sorry, brother. Why did I have to be the first to do that?
00:00:54.640 But yeah. So you start your relationships from like 16, 16 to 35. All them years, what have you
00:01:03.880 been doing? You've had ups, you've had downs. Going back to what you say by then there's issues,
00:01:08.860 there's trauma, there's, you know, you're, you're, you've been through a lot. You've got certain
00:01:16.000 guards up because you've been hurt in certain ways. You're seeing similar traits in partners
00:01:20.860 that you saw in somebody else. That's why when I say at 35, if I, if I see you at 35,
00:01:27.660 I'll be able to recognize, okay, this has happened to you. That's happened to you. You've put this
00:01:33.980 timeframe on that. I don't want to do this until then. And at 35, what's that geriatric pregnancy?
00:01:39.280 So it's high risk, high risk pregnancy. So for men, we have babies until the end of time for you
00:01:49.220 from 35, it gets risky. It does. So you can say, ah, you know, if I'm single today, which I'm not,
00:01:58.400 but if I was, I'm, I've got a goal down the spectrum because I don't want that risk. Why am
00:02:05.600 I going to have a risk? Oh, you're 35. You're going to have certain baggage because we all got
00:02:11.020 baggage. So, but you know, by then it's other people's stuff that's coming into my relationship
00:02:16.880 and guess what? I don't want it. So by 35, you need to be more or less in your stride
00:02:24.960 with someone, even if it's not marriage, even if it's not marriage, you shouldn't be on the
00:02:30.120 market at 35. So I'm not saying you have to be married, but I'm saying you need to be
00:02:35.480 clearly off the market. But what do you think?
00:02:41.840 Um, so I'm not too sure. Like I wouldn't class people being that's over 35 as a leftovers. 1.00
00:02:54.520 That's, I feel like that's a bit of a kind of return, but, um, I feel like regardless,
00:03:04.240 regardless of the age, you're still going to have, like, you're still going to go through
00:03:09.660 shit. Like in life, you're always going to go through stuff. Me personally, I would like
00:03:14.040 for me to be like in a stable relationship, which I don't feel like I'm ready for right
00:03:17.860 now. I'd want to be like stable in myself, like mentally, like, and before I bring that
00:03:24.980 to someone else, because like, if I'm in a relationship with someone and it's now becoming
00:03:28.860 a, and I come with all my baggage, that's going to cause issues in the relationship if
00:03:32.700 I'm not secure. Um, in terms of the age I would consider, I don't know. I don't really
00:03:41.600 know. Cause then like, like you said, people that are like 70 plus years old, no one's really,
00:03:47.860 I mean, very few probably, but like, I don't know. And then at the same time as well, you,
00:03:54.140 you did say like looks kind of, you start with looks. There's people that are 35 that
00:04:00.200 don't look 35. There is that. So once I know, okay, just one quick question. Have you, you've
00:04:07.480 been in a relationship before? Yeah. Yeah. And it's affected you. No, I'm not saying negative
00:04:14.900 or positive. I'm just saying it's affected you. It's changed the course of why you've
00:04:18.900 decided I'm just finding me. I'm doing this. So 15 years of that, I find you in 15 years
00:04:27.080 time have gone through that. All right. Let's say three or four times. That's nobody really
00:04:35.840 wants what you're going to come with because you would have done it many times and you haven't
00:04:42.420 figured it out. You haven't self-diagnosed yourself and found out what, what you need to do. So
00:04:47.960 that's why I say at 35, it's different when you're young, you know, but if you keep, and
00:04:53.960 I'm not, I'm not, I'm not saying this to you, we're just having a conversation, but just in
00:04:58.000 general, if you keep doing the same thing and getting the same outcome, by the time we
00:05:03.960 meet, I'm 40, you're 35, I'll be like, it's just like bad luck. Four times. And I'm saying
00:05:13.680 four times because I'm being respectful. I'm saying four times because I'm being respectful.
00:05:18.540 Yeah. Can I just say that? You're saying about 35, but if you're young, wouldn't it be easier
00:05:24.960 to be in a stable relationship, get married when you're young, when you haven't got that
00:05:28.100 trauma, you haven't got that experience. So as far as I'm concerned, the younger you can
00:05:32.580 get married, the better because you're saying like, oh, you've got to do this. You might have
00:05:36.680 to do traveling. You might have to do this. You might have to do that. You might have to
00:05:39.020 do this and do that. By the time you're 35, who wants you? You've done everything. Who
00:05:45.300 wants you? You've got to feature yourself. You're looking at all these stars, but what
00:05:50.460 have you got to offer a man at 35 when you've been through everything? You've done everything.
00:05:55.640 You've got all this history behind you. You've got all this trauma. Wouldn't it be easier while
00:05:59.440 you're young to get your head together and just say, right, well, I'm going to find someone
00:06:03.120 the same level as me. I'm going to get married. The early, the better. No trauma. Both enjoy
00:06:08.360 the experiences together, learn together, grow together. By the time you're 35, you've done
00:06:13.100 everything and a man's going to look at you and think, what am I doing with her when I 1.00
00:06:17.760 can go get somebody younger?
00:06:19.620 Okay. So I feel like I have a lot of problems with a lot of things you said. One thing is
00:06:25.600 you kind of made the assumption that you don't have, you won't, you can't get trauma from
00:06:31.600 a marriage. Like you said, one positive from marrying early is that you don't have trauma
00:06:38.660 yet. You can have trauma from your childhood. Like I wouldn't say that you should just equate
00:06:43.500 being young with not necessarily having any problems, having experienced life. And another
00:06:49.640 thing I would say is, again, I feel like marriage is a huge commitment that shouldn't
00:06:54.580 be undermined. Like once you've married someone, you're committed to them. Like what they want,
00:06:58.760 if they wake up tomorrow and they decide they want to move across the world, that impacts
00:07:02.260 you. And those kinds of things, those tendencies are more likely to happen when you're young
00:07:07.460 and you don't really, you're still trying to figure out life. So I would agree, I would
00:07:12.660 disagree with, oh, you should aim to marry early.
00:07:16.820 So I have a question. Do you think that, what do you think is more traumatizing? One partner
00:07:23.060 or what would you say the average body count? Well, I would be in general.
00:07:27.640 Yeah. Okay. So, so, so let's say like, by like 35, right? How many partners would that
00:07:34.940 girl have had over the years? Like what's, what's more traumatizing one or okay. So this 0.84
00:07:41.640 is another problem. You can't equate someone's quality and who they are to their body count.
00:07:47.160 Right. So, so this is, this is a common misconception that a lot of girls have. And 1.00
00:07:52.660 the reason you can is because if a girl's a virgin on her wedding night, she has an 80%
00:07:57.240 chance of a happy marriage. If she sleeps with five or more guys, it goes down to 25%. 1.00