JustPearlyThings - April 23, 2023


Destiny Claims That Young Men Can't Be Masculine


Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

206.03331

Word count

1,860

Sentence count

27

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

sentences flagged

Toxicity

4

sentences flagged

Hate speech

13

sentences flagged


Summary

Summaries generated with gmurro/bart-large-finetuned-filtered-spotify-podcast-summ .

In this episode, we talk about the importance of a man that makes the final decision in a relationship and why it's important for a woman to be able to trust her man's decision making ability. We also talk about how to deal with situations where a man may not agree with you or may not be willing to make a decision.

Transcript

Transcript generated with Whisper (turbo).
Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Toxicity classifications generated with s-nlp/roberta_toxicity_classifier .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
00:00:00.000 I'm just saying that in every relationship like both sides are gonna know more things than the other side
00:00:04.580 But like so there are gonna be some things where the husband is gonna have like the grand authority
00:00:08.420 But not because he's the man, but just cuz that's the stuff that he knows about
00:00:15.840 The last decision, you see with me, we would discuss stuff
00:00:20.460 discuss stuff and I will say this and he will say that and then I
00:00:26.500 Might be right and he'll say you know what go with you or
00:00:29.240 He might be right and I'll say go with you, but if we come to a stalemate 0.99
00:00:34.480 Me I will say do you know what we're gonna go with you because the decision is all yours because if it's a shit 1.00
00:00:39.640 It's the fan me as a bitch woman. I will say you know you made that decision 1.00
00:00:44.240 So the final decision is always his whether he agrees with me or whether he agree or whether I agree with him
00:00:51.040 I prefer the final decision to be his because
00:00:55.880 He has to do it
00:00:57.880 I just think personally the ideal situation is when you're with a guy that you can trust his decision-making and I think the girls and the girls that I see where
00:01:05.320 They wear the pants in the relationship. They're miserable. Oh my god
00:01:08.800 It just depends on the thing like any there are plenty of women where guys wear the pants and they're miserable, too 0.99
00:01:14.180 There are lots of people in
00:01:16.240 Relationship does it happen both ways sure at times. I've just seen I think that when women wear the pants they're miserable 1.00
00:01:23.000 I know people in relationship can I just say why does someone have to wear the pants?
00:01:28.440 Why can't we
00:01:30.440 Why can't we why can't we make decisions together like he said if you're more if you have more expertise
00:01:37.880 In that field and say okay, like if I'm trying to make a decision with my man now
00:01:45.320 Right say he doesn't know anything about properties i'm gonna be like oh, babe because i've bought a property
00:01:50.440 This is what i'm gonna tell you and because he's probably like men know more about cars. I don't know about cars
00:01:56.200 I will never tell my man
00:01:59.480 Anything about cars because I assume because men seem to know more about cars and if he has a nice car 0.74
00:02:05.480 He he's been driving for a long time. I'm gonna think you know what that's his field
00:02:09.800 Why does it have to be someone wear the pants? Do you know something right? That's what women fail to understand 1.00
00:02:15.640 When they hear about a submissive woman
00:02:18.600 Do I look like a woman that just does what her man says? No, I want to take for instance you my man is a saver 0.92
00:02:27.160 I like to invest in property
00:02:30.200 He has got more money in the bank than me. I have got more properties than him
00:02:35.720 And even when it comes to getting properties
00:02:38.520 He was a saver. He was like now we need to save money whatever and I was like, this is what I think
00:02:42.340 You know, he said go with it. Do you know what? I was right
00:02:45.540 It doesn't make a difference
00:02:47.420 Because he made the final decision because a selfish man
00:02:52.280 A man that just wants to feel all full of himself would just go with what he wants
00:02:57.020 And we're not talking about the lady in the red coat. I'm sorry. We're not talking about that
00:03:00.980 We're talking about where you've got a man that leads and a proper man when you've got a man that you can trust
00:03:07.280 He will take into account what you said
00:03:09.800 He will take into account what he says and he will weigh up the pros and cons and he will come out with the best decision for you
00:03:16.800 Whether it means you side with him or whether it means it sides of you and if he's not sure
00:03:22.800 He will either say you know what if he's a stubborn big-headed bullish man
00:03:27.400 He was like you know what my name rules so i'm gonna go
00:03:29.900 No, when I was talking about buying a property my man didn't agree with me
00:03:33.320 And I explained you know what this this this this this but it seemed like an impossibility to him in his mind
00:03:38.740 As a natural saver, but he was like, you know what go for it now. We've got the properties
00:03:44.820 He's got the money. I haven't got no money
00:03:46.740 If I need money, I'll go to him
00:03:48.600 But on paper, I've got more money
00:03:51.200 But in reality, he's got more cash
00:03:53.900 So you just don't go with a man just because because a lot of women think that oh 1.00
00:03:58.880 I might know more about this, but he's the man's he is to make the final decision
00:04:02.420 That's like a respect if a man respects you he will take into account your decisions your research
00:04:09.840 Your qualifications before he makes the final decision and if a man is going to go with all your knowledge
00:04:16.840 All your experience all your decision making and what you've been doing for a lifetime and go against it
00:04:22.780 But don't you think you're talking about you don't you think you're talking about skills in a man?
00:04:26.420 That is a man that has lived a man that's matured a man that has had relationships learn about himself and others
00:04:32.280 We're talking about men in their 20s and 30s that I have yet to become exactly and I think so we cannot we cannot have the same
00:04:39.900 Attitude at all you're talking generationally completely different
00:04:42.960 I think the value base is completely different the way that they are raised are different
00:04:46.860 You are your expectations for our 20 23 men that have rate been raised with sometimes very little foundation
00:04:54.360 You're expecting so much for them to have all of these qualities that your man of X years and X age and big big age
00:05:02.040 You're having I think the point is to pick a good man that you can
00:05:06.040 100% I'm talking about we're here now. We're here trying to find this good man in the Mecca. We're like
00:05:12.920 Oh, no, the nonsense now
00:05:14.920 I
00:05:16.040 I've been listening to like I haven't even said nothing for ages
00:05:23.420 Yeah, like in the day it comes down to you pick. Yeah, it comes down to you pick so you can say all of this. Oh, yeah
00:05:30.120 Oh, we're trying to find these good men at what age are you trying to find these good?
00:05:34.000 And where are you trying to find?
00:05:36.000 Thank you riches. Yeah, right
00:05:39.040 You're saying about picking the problem. I find nowadays is that the women's picking don't let the women pick the men supposed to pick 1.00
00:05:49.440 It's what um Camilla. Yeah, yeah, the problem is at 25. There are no men like this
00:05:54.480 Okay, if you're a 22 year old woman, you're not gonna find a 25 year old guy. That's ready to take charge and leave everything 1.00
00:05:59.480 I like you know, that is
00:06:02.100 Absolutely, that's absolutely true. I'm so sorry
00:06:04.940 I know there are a lot of children on this panel, but you're not gonna find a 25 year old guy that has all of it
00:06:09.420 When the average kid gets out of school today like 22 23 years old you thinking what how when in England you finish college, but
00:06:15.520 I mean, no, you don't university university twenty five universe. Oh, yeah, sorry
00:06:20.520 We call it different things in America. Yeah, if in university you finish that at 20 to 23. There is no
00:06:24.520 21
00:06:30.520 As a man you are not gonna have all the faculty that you will when you reach 30 35
00:06:34.600 You don't have that lived experience yet to know what it's like to lead a household to live a life to exist in like the world and and
00:06:40.660 To navigate it in a response
00:06:42.660 I think it's so funny that you guys are the first ones to say that we have two high expectations and then come and tell us that
00:06:48.660 We're not picking the right men and that we're just picking
00:06:52.660 Older guy if you if you think that you need a 35 year old guy 0.80
00:06:55.660 That's a quick fix
00:06:57.660 That's a quick fix
00:06:58.660 That's a quick fix
00:06:59.660 Nah, I'm alright
00:07:00.660 Come on man
00:07:01.660 What if I'm not attracted to old men? 0.99
00:07:02.660 What did you say?
00:07:03.660 I want a young man just like myself so we can relate together
00:07:07.660 Again, like I don't want a leader
00:07:09.660 So relate in struggle then
00:07:10.660 You guys keep talking about how you need a man to lead 0.98
00:07:14.660 Yeah
00:07:15.660 I already know myself, I'm an adult, you know, I've spent a lot of time with myself
00:07:19.660 I am in tune with myself
00:07:21.660 What I want is partnership
00:07:23.660 Yes, my lord
00:07:24.660 I want a man that we can actually share experiences together
00:07:28.660 I'm dead
00:07:29.660 I'm dead
00:07:30.660 Rather than a leader
00:07:31.660 Yeah, I think the problem is when I listen to Pearl and Rich is an auntie
00:07:33.660 A little bit, mainly you two guys
00:07:34.660 It feels like you guys are saying that women need to look for fathers
00:07:37.660 That's what I hear
00:07:38.660 I ain't looking for no daddy
00:07:39.660 Can I say something?
00:07:40.660 Can I just say something?
00:07:42.660 Can I just say something?
00:07:44.660 Can I just say something?
00:07:45.660 When I met my man, we were both in our 20s
00:07:48.660 Thank you
00:07:49.660 But in the 80s
00:07:50.660 We were both in our 20s
00:07:51.660 In the 80s
00:07:52.660 And the thing is, it's in the 80s
00:07:53.660 But if you had the same standards now
00:07:56.660 Which I have met some really good young men
00:08:00.660 100%
00:08:01.660 That had the same standards as my man have
00:08:03.660 But you know what?
00:08:04.660 The women don't want them because they're average men 1.00
00:08:06.660 Well, all your videos, everybody's videos
00:08:08.660 The women want above average 1.00
00:08:10.660 Aunty, can I add something?
00:08:11.660 So what is it?
00:08:12.660 When I met my man, I was average
00:08:15.660 He was average
00:08:16.660 He was sexy as hell
00:08:17.660 And all the young girls wanted him 0.99
00:08:18.660 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:19.660 But we were both average people
00:08:22.660 And he was always sensible from young
00:08:25.660 But you're sounding like I need to settle
00:08:26.660 Why can't I want amazing?
00:08:27.660 No
00:08:28.660 Why do I not deserve this?
00:08:29.660 This is the thing
00:08:30.660 Why do I not deserve this?
00:08:31.660 Hold on, hold on, hold on
00:08:32.660 You can want what you want
00:08:33.660 But can you get it?
00:08:34.660 Is the question
00:08:35.660 Can I tell you something?
00:08:36.660 My man is amazing
00:08:37.660 He's always been amazing
00:08:38.660 I don't know
00:08:39.660 He was amazing when
00:08:40.660 I'm older than him
00:08:41.660 He was amazing when he was young
00:08:42.660 That was a bit shady
00:08:43.660 That was a bit shady, pal
00:08:44.660 And he was amazing old
00:08:45.660 It's not shady
00:08:46.660 It's not shady
00:08:47.660 I was just banned on TikTok
00:08:49.660 And we are demonetized on a daily basis
00:08:51.660 On this platform
00:08:53.660 If you want to help
00:08:54.660 Please consider sending a super thanks below
00:08:57.660 Every donation helps
00:08:59.660 And it helps make what we do possible