JustPearlyThings - April 23, 2023


Destiny Claims That Young Men Can't Be Masculine

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Older Pearl Rich
All the Guests Were Asked To Do This... Pearl Tried Applying Logic On This Blue Pilled Man

Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

206.03

Word count

1,860

Sentence count

50

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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Toxicity

4

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Hate speech

13

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about the importance of a man that makes the final decision in a relationship and why it's important for a woman to be able to trust her man's decision making ability. We also talk about how to deal with situations where a man may not agree with you or may not be willing to make a decision.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 I'm just saying that in every relationship like both sides are gonna know more things than the other side
00:00:04.580 But like so there are gonna be some things where the husband is gonna have like the grand authority
00:00:08.420 But not because he's the man, but just cuz that's the stuff that he knows about
00:00:15.840 The last decision, you see with me, we would discuss stuff
00:00:20.460 discuss stuff and I will say this and he will say that and then I
00:00:26.500 Might be right and he'll say you know what go with you or
00:00:29.240 He might be right and I'll say go with you, but if we come to a stalemate 0.99
00:00:34.480 Me I will say do you know what we're gonna go with you because the decision is all yours because if it's a shit 1.00
00:00:39.640 It's the fan me as a bitch woman. I will say you know you made that decision 1.00
00:00:44.240 So the final decision is always his whether he agrees with me or whether he agree or whether I agree with him
00:00:51.040 I prefer the final decision to be his because
00:00:55.880 He has to do it
00:00:57.880 I just think personally the ideal situation is when you're with a guy that you can trust his decision-making and I think the girls and the girls that I see where
00:01:05.320 They wear the pants in the relationship. They're miserable. Oh my god
00:01:08.800 It just depends on the thing like any there are plenty of women where guys wear the pants and they're miserable, too 0.99
00:01:14.180 There are lots of people in
00:01:16.240 Relationship does it happen both ways sure at times. I've just seen I think that when women wear the pants they're miserable 1.00
00:01:23.000 I know people in relationship can I just say why does someone have to wear the pants?
00:01:28.440 Why can't we
00:01:30.440 Why can't we why can't we make decisions together like he said if you're more if you have more expertise
00:01:37.880 In that field and say okay, like if I'm trying to make a decision with my man now
00:01:45.320 Right say he doesn't know anything about properties i'm gonna be like oh, babe because i've bought a property
00:01:50.440 This is what i'm gonna tell you and because he's probably like men know more about cars. I don't know about cars
00:01:56.200 I will never tell my man
00:01:59.480 Anything about cars because I assume because men seem to know more about cars and if he has a nice car 0.74
00:02:05.480 He he's been driving for a long time. I'm gonna think you know what that's his field
00:02:09.800 Why does it have to be someone wear the pants? Do you know something right? That's what women fail to understand 1.00
00:02:15.640 When they hear about a submissive woman
00:02:18.600 Do I look like a woman that just does what her man says? No, I want to take for instance you my man is a saver 0.92
00:02:27.160 I like to invest in property
00:02:30.200 He has got more money in the bank than me. I have got more properties than him
00:02:35.720 And even when it comes to getting properties
00:02:38.520 He was a saver. He was like now we need to save money whatever and I was like, this is what I think
00:02:42.340 You know, he said go with it. Do you know what? I was right
00:02:45.540 It doesn't make a difference
00:02:47.420 Because he made the final decision because a selfish man
00:02:52.280 A man that just wants to feel all full of himself would just go with what he wants
00:02:57.020 And we're not talking about the lady in the red coat. I'm sorry. We're not talking about that
00:03:00.980 We're talking about where you've got a man that leads and a proper man when you've got a man that you can trust
00:03:07.280 He will take into account what you said
00:03:09.800 He will take into account what he says and he will weigh up the pros and cons and he will come out with the best decision for you
00:03:16.800 Whether it means you side with him or whether it means it sides of you and if he's not sure
00:03:22.800 He will either say you know what if he's a stubborn big-headed bullish man
00:03:27.400 He was like you know what my name rules so i'm gonna go
00:03:29.900 No, when I was talking about buying a property my man didn't agree with me
00:03:33.320 And I explained you know what this this this this this but it seemed like an impossibility to him in his mind
00:03:38.740 As a natural saver, but he was like, you know what go for it now. We've got the properties
00:03:44.820 He's got the money. I haven't got no money
00:03:46.740 If I need money, I'll go to him
00:03:48.600 But on paper, I've got more money
00:03:51.200 But in reality, he's got more cash
00:03:53.900 So you just don't go with a man just because because a lot of women think that oh 1.00
00:03:58.880 I might know more about this, but he's the man's he is to make the final decision
00:04:02.420 That's like a respect if a man respects you he will take into account your decisions your research
00:04:09.840 Your qualifications before he makes the final decision and if a man is going to go with all your knowledge
00:04:16.840 All your experience all your decision making and what you've been doing for a lifetime and go against it
00:04:22.780 But don't you think you're talking about you don't you think you're talking about skills in a man?
00:04:26.420 That is a man that has lived a man that's matured a man that has had relationships learn about himself and others
00:04:32.280 We're talking about men in their 20s and 30s that I have yet to become exactly and I think so we cannot we cannot have the same
00:04:39.900 Attitude at all you're talking generationally completely different
00:04:42.960 I think the value base is completely different the way that they are raised are different
00:04:46.860 You are your expectations for our 20 23 men that have rate been raised with sometimes very little foundation
00:04:54.360 You're expecting so much for them to have all of these qualities that your man of X years and X age and big big age
00:05:02.040 You're having I think the point is to pick a good man that you can
00:05:06.040 100% I'm talking about we're here now. We're here trying to find this good man in the Mecca. We're like
00:05:12.920 Oh, no, the nonsense now
00:05:14.920 I
00:05:16.040 I've been listening to like I haven't even said nothing for ages
00:05:23.420 Yeah, like in the day it comes down to you pick. Yeah, it comes down to you pick so you can say all of this. Oh, yeah
00:05:30.120 Oh, we're trying to find these good men at what age are you trying to find these good?
00:05:34.000 And where are you trying to find?
00:05:36.000 Thank you riches. Yeah, right
00:05:39.040 You're saying about picking the problem. I find nowadays is that the women's picking don't let the women pick the men supposed to pick 1.00
00:05:49.440 It's what um Camilla. Yeah, yeah, the problem is at 25. There are no men like this
00:05:54.480 Okay, if you're a 22 year old woman, you're not gonna find a 25 year old guy. That's ready to take charge and leave everything 1.00
00:05:59.480 I like you know, that is
00:06:02.100 Absolutely, that's absolutely true. I'm so sorry
00:06:04.940 I know there are a lot of children on this panel, but you're not gonna find a 25 year old guy that has all of it
00:06:09.420 When the average kid gets out of school today like 22 23 years old you thinking what how when in England you finish college, but
00:06:15.520 I mean, no, you don't university university twenty five universe. Oh, yeah, sorry
00:06:20.520 We call it different things in America. Yeah, if in university you finish that at 20 to 23. There is no
00:06:24.520 21
00:06:30.520 As a man you are not gonna have all the faculty that you will when you reach 30 35
00:06:34.600 You don't have that lived experience yet to know what it's like to lead a household to live a life to exist in like the world and and
00:06:40.660 To navigate it in a response
00:06:42.660 I think it's so funny that you guys are the first ones to say that we have two high expectations and then come and tell us that
00:06:48.660 We're not picking the right men and that we're just picking
00:06:52.660 Older guy if you if you think that you need a 35 year old guy 0.80
00:06:55.660 That's a quick fix
00:06:57.660 That's a quick fix
00:06:58.660 That's a quick fix
00:06:59.660 Nah, I'm alright
00:07:00.660 Come on man
00:07:01.660 What if I'm not attracted to old men? 0.99
00:07:02.660 What did you say?
00:07:03.660 I want a young man just like myself so we can relate together
00:07:07.660 Again, like I don't want a leader
00:07:09.660 So relate in struggle then
00:07:10.660 You guys keep talking about how you need a man to lead 0.98
00:07:14.660 Yeah
00:07:15.660 I already know myself, I'm an adult, you know, I've spent a lot of time with myself
00:07:19.660 I am in tune with myself
00:07:21.660 What I want is partnership
00:07:23.660 Yes, my lord
00:07:24.660 I want a man that we can actually share experiences together
00:07:28.660 I'm dead
00:07:29.660 I'm dead
00:07:30.660 Rather than a leader
00:07:31.660 Yeah, I think the problem is when I listen to Pearl and Rich is an auntie
00:07:33.660 A little bit, mainly you two guys
00:07:34.660 It feels like you guys are saying that women need to look for fathers
00:07:37.660 That's what I hear
00:07:38.660 I ain't looking for no daddy
00:07:39.660 Can I say something?
00:07:40.660 Can I just say something?
00:07:42.660 Can I just say something?
00:07:44.660 Can I just say something?
00:07:45.660 When I met my man, we were both in our 20s
00:07:48.660 Thank you
00:07:49.660 But in the 80s
00:07:50.660 We were both in our 20s
00:07:51.660 In the 80s
00:07:52.660 And the thing is, it's in the 80s
00:07:53.660 But if you had the same standards now
00:07:56.660 Which I have met some really good young men
00:08:00.660 100%
00:08:01.660 That had the same standards as my man have
00:08:03.660 But you know what?
00:08:04.660 The women don't want them because they're average men 1.00
00:08:06.660 Well, all your videos, everybody's videos
00:08:08.660 The women want above average 1.00
00:08:10.660 Aunty, can I add something?
00:08:11.660 So what is it?
00:08:12.660 When I met my man, I was average
00:08:15.660 He was average
00:08:16.660 He was sexy as hell
00:08:17.660 And all the young girls wanted him 0.99
00:08:18.660 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:19.660 But we were both average people
00:08:22.660 And he was always sensible from young
00:08:25.660 But you're sounding like I need to settle
00:08:26.660 Why can't I want amazing?
00:08:27.660 No
00:08:28.660 Why do I not deserve this?
00:08:29.660 This is the thing
00:08:30.660 Why do I not deserve this?
00:08:31.660 Hold on, hold on, hold on
00:08:32.660 You can want what you want
00:08:33.660 But can you get it?
00:08:34.660 Is the question
00:08:35.660 Can I tell you something?
00:08:36.660 My man is amazing
00:08:37.660 He's always been amazing
00:08:38.660 I don't know
00:08:39.660 He was amazing when
00:08:40.660 I'm older than him
00:08:41.660 He was amazing when he was young
00:08:42.660 That was a bit shady
00:08:43.660 That was a bit shady, pal
00:08:44.660 And he was amazing old
00:08:45.660 It's not shady
00:08:46.660 It's not shady
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