Destiny Claims That Young Men Can't Be Masculine
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the importance of a man that makes the final decision in a relationship and why it's important for a woman to be able to trust her man's decision making ability. We also talk about how to deal with situations where a man may not agree with you or may not be willing to make a decision.
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I'm just saying that in every relationship like both sides are gonna know more things than the other side
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But like so there are gonna be some things where the husband is gonna have like the grand authority
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But not because he's the man, but just cuz that's the stuff that he knows about
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The last decision, you see with me, we would discuss stuff
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discuss stuff and I will say this and he will say that and then I
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Might be right and he'll say you know what go with you or
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He might be right and I'll say go with you, but if we come to a stalemate
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Me I will say do you know what we're gonna go with you because the decision is all yours because if it's a shit
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It's the fan me as a bitch woman. I will say you know you made that decision
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So the final decision is always his whether he agrees with me or whether he agree or whether I agree with him
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I just think personally the ideal situation is when you're with a guy that you can trust his decision-making and I think the girls and the girls that I see where
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They wear the pants in the relationship. They're miserable. Oh my god
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It just depends on the thing like any there are plenty of women where guys wear the pants and they're miserable, too
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Relationship does it happen both ways sure at times. I've just seen I think that when women wear the pants they're miserable
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I know people in relationship can I just say why does someone have to wear the pants?
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Why can't we why can't we make decisions together like he said if you're more if you have more expertise
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In that field and say okay, like if I'm trying to make a decision with my man now
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Right say he doesn't know anything about properties i'm gonna be like oh, babe because i've bought a property
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This is what i'm gonna tell you and because he's probably like men know more about cars. I don't know about cars
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Anything about cars because I assume because men seem to know more about cars and if he has a nice car
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He he's been driving for a long time. I'm gonna think you know what that's his field
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Why does it have to be someone wear the pants? Do you know something right? That's what women fail to understand
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Do I look like a woman that just does what her man says? No, I want to take for instance you my man is a saver
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He has got more money in the bank than me. I have got more properties than him
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He was a saver. He was like now we need to save money whatever and I was like, this is what I think
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You know, he said go with it. Do you know what? I was right
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Because he made the final decision because a selfish man
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A man that just wants to feel all full of himself would just go with what he wants
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And we're not talking about the lady in the red coat. I'm sorry. We're not talking about that
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We're talking about where you've got a man that leads and a proper man when you've got a man that you can trust
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He will take into account what he says and he will weigh up the pros and cons and he will come out with the best decision for you
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Whether it means you side with him or whether it means it sides of you and if he's not sure
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He will either say you know what if he's a stubborn big-headed bullish man
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He was like you know what my name rules so i'm gonna go
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No, when I was talking about buying a property my man didn't agree with me
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And I explained you know what this this this this this but it seemed like an impossibility to him in his mind
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As a natural saver, but he was like, you know what go for it now. We've got the properties
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So you just don't go with a man just because because a lot of women think that oh
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I might know more about this, but he's the man's he is to make the final decision
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That's like a respect if a man respects you he will take into account your decisions your research
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Your qualifications before he makes the final decision and if a man is going to go with all your knowledge
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All your experience all your decision making and what you've been doing for a lifetime and go against it
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But don't you think you're talking about you don't you think you're talking about skills in a man?
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That is a man that has lived a man that's matured a man that has had relationships learn about himself and others
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We're talking about men in their 20s and 30s that I have yet to become exactly and I think so we cannot we cannot have the same
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Attitude at all you're talking generationally completely different
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I think the value base is completely different the way that they are raised are different
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You are your expectations for our 20 23 men that have rate been raised with sometimes very little foundation
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You're expecting so much for them to have all of these qualities that your man of X years and X age and big big age
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You're having I think the point is to pick a good man that you can
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100% I'm talking about we're here now. We're here trying to find this good man in the Mecca. We're like
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I've been listening to like I haven't even said nothing for ages
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Yeah, like in the day it comes down to you pick. Yeah, it comes down to you pick so you can say all of this. Oh, yeah
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Oh, we're trying to find these good men at what age are you trying to find these good?
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You're saying about picking the problem. I find nowadays is that the women's picking don't let the women pick the men supposed to pick
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It's what um Camilla. Yeah, yeah, the problem is at 25. There are no men like this
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Okay, if you're a 22 year old woman, you're not gonna find a 25 year old guy. That's ready to take charge and leave everything
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Absolutely, that's absolutely true. I'm so sorry
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I know there are a lot of children on this panel, but you're not gonna find a 25 year old guy that has all of it
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When the average kid gets out of school today like 22 23 years old you thinking what how when in England you finish college, but
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I mean, no, you don't university university twenty five universe. Oh, yeah, sorry
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We call it different things in America. Yeah, if in university you finish that at 20 to 23. There is no
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As a man you are not gonna have all the faculty that you will when you reach 30 35
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You don't have that lived experience yet to know what it's like to lead a household to live a life to exist in like the world and and
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I think it's so funny that you guys are the first ones to say that we have two high expectations and then come and tell us that
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We're not picking the right men and that we're just picking
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Older guy if you if you think that you need a 35 year old guy
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I want a young man just like myself so we can relate together
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You guys keep talking about how you need a man to lead
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I already know myself, I'm an adult, you know, I've spent a lot of time with myself
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I want a man that we can actually share experiences together
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Yeah, I think the problem is when I listen to Pearl and Rich is an auntie
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It feels like you guys are saying that women need to look for fathers
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The women don't want them because they're average men