JustPearlyThings - Destiny On Why He Hates The Red Pill

00:00:00.000 There are probably some women that can engage with sex without it being a super emotional experience. 1.00

00:00:04.320 There are probably some men that can engage with sex without it being a super emotional experience.

00:00:06.920 There's probably a few more men than women, but I think both of them tie emotions and sex together pretty.

00:00:11.440 But when we have these conversations, though, we're talking about the average.

00:00:16.280 We're not talking about the exceptions.

00:00:18.080 Hold on.

00:00:18.740 No, no, no, no.

00:00:19.580 You were specifically asking about my relationship.

00:00:22.580 So I'm telling you for my relationship.

00:00:24.380 That was not a general question.

00:00:25.660 Oh, you're right.

00:00:26.300 You were right.

00:00:26.920 That's true.

00:00:27.500 God, I love it when you say that.

00:00:28.820 Oh, thank you.

00:00:29.580 Oh, my goodness.

00:00:30.480 I need to sound.

00:00:31.240 August, clip that one.

00:00:32.380 That's going to be my next donor sound, okay?

00:00:34.080 No, no, don't do it.

00:00:35.440 Don't clip me.

00:00:36.260 You love the person.

00:00:37.020 It absolutely does.

00:00:38.020 Why?

00:00:38.380 Because it requires you to step out of your own selfish frame of reference to see how your partner feels about something.

00:00:42.500 You only prioritize the things that you want in life.

00:00:44.780 That says something about how you view love of another person.

00:00:47.840 It's not really prioritizing.

00:00:49.120 It's just doing what you want to do.

00:00:50.400 Yeah, that's called being selfish.

00:00:51.540 It's usually what you do when you don't love somebody.

00:00:53.720 So they can get what they want, but we can get what they want as well.

00:00:56.440 That's the first time he's ever considered that as a possibility.

00:00:58.600 He's like staring into the abyss.

00:01:00.620 He's like, wait, is he right?

00:01:02.480 What you want?

00:01:03.400 If you're dating a cat. 0.99

00:01:04.180 Women love selfish men, though. 1.00

00:01:05.720 That's the problem. 0.99

00:01:06.380 Oh, my God.

00:01:06.820 Yeah. 1.00

00:01:07.740 Oh, you just say the randomest, most like, what is the dumbest, wrongest opinion? 0.99

00:01:14.620 Yeah, would you be with a selfish guy? 0.99

00:01:15.900 Do you like him?

00:01:16.620 Yeah.

00:01:16.860 Why do you keep saying, I've been with you?

00:01:18.700 You're not anymore.

00:01:20.220 Okay, right?

00:01:21.940 Selfish in which way?

00:01:23.040 Yeah, would you date a selfish guy?

00:01:24.300 I like guys.

00:01:25.560 Okay.

00:01:26.120 When I say selfish, I mean like guys that are following their purpose and put themselves first.

00:01:31.180 Look at him.

00:01:31.520 Oh, okay.

00:01:32.000 And so, it's like, okay, he's so ready.

00:01:35.340 I am.

00:01:35.720 Go ahead, but I'm waiting for you.

00:01:36.700 I'm like winding up my spring.

00:01:38.440 Go ahead.

00:01:38.640 It's like, you scare me a little bit.

00:01:41.080 I'm like, what do you use this?

00:01:42.520 Go ahead.

00:01:44.340 Finish your thought.

00:01:45.760 I forgot what I was even saying.

00:01:47.760 I forgot what I was even saying.

00:01:48.380 Selfishness.

00:01:48.980 Oh.

00:01:49.880 Yeah, I did.

00:01:50.440 Come on.

00:01:51.020 I feel like this is a tale as old as time. 1.00

00:01:53.240 We know women love assholes. 1.00

00:01:54.940 That's not true. 1.00

00:01:57.260 Okay, go ahead.

00:01:58.560 My question is going to be, let's say you start dating a guy and he's like, listen, I love

00:02:03.040 you and it's great what you're doing out here, pearly, but I need you to move to Germany 1.00

00:02:07.260 because that's where I live and I'm not moving anywhere for your career.

00:02:09.720 And let's say he earns like 60,000 euro a year working in Germany and he's telling you

00:02:13.300 you have to move there.

00:02:14.380 Would that be like attractive to you?

00:02:15.480 Like, God, he's so driven to just not care at all about my life.

00:02:18.440 I was going to move to Germany next year anyways for volleyball.

00:02:22.000 Yeah, so I was like, that wouldn't even be so bad, Germany. 0.61

00:02:25.640 The Germans. 0.62

00:02:26.220 So, I'm going to, but you totally avoided that question.

00:02:28.680 I think we know the answer.

00:02:29.700 Okay.

00:02:30.720 You asked if I'd move to Germany for him.

00:02:33.220 And I said I was going to.

00:02:33.780 And then you said, well, I almost moved to Germany because I was playing volleyball, which was

00:02:36.860 totally.

00:02:37.580 How about a country you wouldn't like?

00:02:39.640 How about Zimbabwe?

00:02:41.560 Zimbabwe? 1.00

00:02:42.140 What the fuck? 1.00

00:02:43.120 Zimbabwe. 1.00

00:02:43.220 Your husband is from Zimbabwe.

00:02:45.120 Answer carefully.

00:02:45.920 I mean, I just think long term that probably wouldn't work.

00:02:48.640 I don't want a woman in Zimbabwe. 1.00

00:02:50.920 They want to eat you. 1.00

00:02:51.980 It's not like both of you have fair ass, right? 1.00

00:02:54.680 But what we ask for is so small though. 0.99

00:02:56.240 Compared to what other women to be disloyal to maybe knock another woman up to maybe separate 1.00

00:03:00.400 a girl and just start dating other. 0.99

00:03:01.740 How is that a small ass? 1.00

00:03:03.100 Not only that, bringing something back home. 0.99

00:03:05.320 Yeah.

00:03:05.580 With STDs. 1.00

00:03:07.120 Imagine you come home and you're like, oh shit, I got another girl pregnant. 1.00

00:03:10.280 Like you're in a whole fucking world of agony there. 1.00

00:03:13.260 Yeah. 0.99

00:03:14.040 You know, it's interesting.

00:03:15.340 I actually kind of agree with you there.

00:03:17.640 Wow.

00:03:17.920 Thanks.

00:03:18.240 Oh, another sound clip.

00:03:19.240 Oh my God.

00:03:19.820 I'm going to have so many dono sounds after this.

00:03:21.860 Oh my gosh.

00:03:22.440 I don't know what a dono sound is, but I feel like I won't like it.

00:03:25.140 And he's just going to make money.

00:03:25.980 Like when somebody donates money, it like plays a noise.

00:03:27.960 So it'll be pearly saying like, I agree with you.

00:03:30.700 Oh my gosh.

00:03:31.100 Don't do that.

00:03:33.680 No.

00:03:34.720 Just say you do not consent.

00:03:36.560 Yeah.

00:03:36.840 I don't.

00:03:37.580 I don't consent to that.

00:03:39.320 No consent.

00:03:40.080 You're supposed to care about this.

00:03:41.540 Oh, you should have made better decisions.

00:03:43.040 So sorry.

00:03:44.620 We're all about accountability here for us.

00:03:46.320 No, when it comes to like, I don't think cheating is ideal, but I do think cheating is different

00:03:51.700 for men and for women.

00:03:52.980 Like, I do think if you're going to have like an open type relationship on either end, that's

00:03:57.220 going to cause more problems.

00:03:58.560 But, you know, I do think it's different for men and for women.

00:04:03.660 Are you smiling like that?

00:04:05.020 Go ahead.

00:04:05.500 There's just, I don't.

00:04:08.100 Like women aren't going to be okay with their guys cheating on them.

00:04:10.440 I don't know what else to say.

00:04:11.240 Like it's, it's so obvious.

00:04:12.640 I just think if that was true, every girl I ask this on the show wouldn't, wouldn't,

00:04:17.900 wouldn't stay and then leave later.

00:04:20.020 It's just quite odd.

00:04:21.220 True.

00:04:21.520 I think the same about abused women all the time. 1.00

00:04:23.720 Like, why don't you just leave?

00:04:24.960 It's like, no, now he's going to bring abuse into this.

00:04:25.800 Why don't you just leave?

00:04:26.980 Why don't you just get out?

00:04:29.060 He's going to bring abuse into this.

00:04:30.660 The thing here is that, and the reason why I disagree, and I get what you, I see where

00:04:33.740 you're going with this saying that women have far more requirements, therefore they 1.00

00:04:36.440 love harder because those requirements are harder to find.

00:04:38.880 What I.

00:04:39.900 Would you be with a guy if he cheated on you? 1.00

00:04:42.640 I think we already asked this.

00:04:44.340 Yeah.

00:04:44.380 What I'm just curious again.

00:04:45.520 Did you say no?

00:04:47.220 Um.

00:04:49.000 Would it depend on the type of cheat?

00:04:50.680 Imagine.

00:04:51.140 She had redder hair than you.

00:04:52.320 She was taller than you.

00:04:53.760 She had a better studio.

00:04:57.100 Um.

00:04:57.760 I mean, I think it's dishonest to say I wouldn't.

00:05:00.600 Okay.

00:05:00.880 I think it's dishonest to say I wouldn't.

00:05:02.640 Um.

00:05:03.640 Yeah.

00:05:04.440 Okay.

00:05:04.760 I wouldn't enjoy.

00:05:06.500 I wouldn't be like, oh, yay.

00:05:07.980 It wouldn't make you more competitive.

00:05:10.020 It might.

00:05:10.980 It might.

00:05:12.500 Okay, dude.

00:05:13.380 Saying is that by having more requirements, that makes, that makes it where their love is 0.98

00:05:19.040 a hundred percent contingent upon that man's performance.

00:05:21.460 So it's fleeting because if that guy loses, right, what he had, that woman will leave.

00:05:27.200 And I've always said it that, you know, shout out to Rolo.

00:05:28.760 I agree with him on this.

00:05:29.520 Women love opportunistically while men tend to love idealistically. 0.95

00:05:32.780 I think that, one, you already said that.

00:05:34.980 Let me just finish real quick.

00:05:35.600 Oh, yeah.

00:05:35.800 Go for it.

00:05:36.100 Go ahead.

00:05:36.340 I think the fact that they love opportunistically proves there in itself that they love, they

00:05:42.120 don't love.

00:05:43.200 I mean, it goes back for like loving a guy for what he has.

00:05:47.540 More so.

00:05:48.380 And it's not necessarily a bad thing.

00:05:51.260 Um.

00:05:51.620 But would that really be love?

00:05:52.900 Or would it just be pretending?

00:05:54.260 I mean, what is love?

00:05:54.840 Well, in the fresh and fit model of the world.

00:05:57.220 Well, what is love is the question.

00:05:58.820 In the fresh and fit model of the world, women go after men for their resources. 1.00

00:06:02.500 And men go after women to make babies. 1.00

00:06:04.560 Yeah, but they don't say it's a bad thing.

00:06:06.640 Like, they're not, they're not.

00:06:08.120 I'm just saying you could do that, but also not be in love with them.

00:06:10.800 Just, you know.

00:06:11.960 Well, I don't even know if they think women can love. 1.00

00:06:13.900 Or if it's just like a reptile brain, like.

00:06:15.540 I mean, I just think the, I think the argument is that women can't love in the same way that 0.99

00:06:19.320 men can.

00:06:20.320 Because, like, it requires more for us to love someone.

00:06:24.980 Why can't you guys ever talk about, I'm sorry, not you guys.

00:06:28.320 Because you're not a reptile.

00:06:29.380 I'm so sorry.

00:06:30.020 I almost did that.

00:06:30.460 But I get frustrated sometimes because the way that all of these people, not you, talk

00:06:36.000 about relationships is so sad.

00:06:39.160 Like, it's like, oh yeah, like women are out here dating for resources and men are looking

00:06:43.020 for the youngest, freshest, lowest body count woman. 1.00

00:06:45.540 And that's like all they have to say about relationships.

00:06:48.040 It's only sad if you look at it like that.

00:06:49.860 It's more of a description.

00:06:51.000 It's true.

00:06:51.740 It's not true for healthy relationships.

00:06:53.480 And it is sad if you care about relationships.

00:06:55.080 Like, who defines what is healthy?

00:06:57.360 Like, they're not saying what's healthy and what's not healthy.

00:06:59.360 They're just describing what it is.

00:07:00.880 And throughout all of time, women have gone for men with more resources and men have gone

00:07:05.540 for women that are younger and more poor.

00:07:07.600 It would have been dead on life.

00:07:08.340 Yeah, but because women couldn't work. 1.00

00:07:10.060 So, of course, they went up to resources because they couldn't work.

00:07:12.900 But I'm just saying that, like, if you think of, like, people that are in happy, healthy

00:07:16.980 relationships, are you thinking of, like, God, like, she found a guy and it's just so

00:07:21.300 cool because he gives her so many resources and it's so cool that he's, like, 48 and she's

00:07:25.580 22.

00:07:25.960 You might not, like, think of it like that, right?

00:07:29.660 You might not think of it like that, but it's true. 0.97

00:07:32.240 It's a description.

00:07:33.720 I disagree.

00:07:34.720 Do you feel like it's like an ingrained survival instinct that we just have as women because

00:07:38.880 we don't want to die?

00:07:39.880 So, we, like, pick the guys with the most resources type of thing.

00:07:42.760 I don't think it's only resources, like muscles.

00:07:46.180 That kind of looks like it.

00:07:47.380 If someone is physically fit, that suggests that they're, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:07:53.520 So, it's another resource, yeah.

00:07:55.540 I think that most successful relationships require, like, a higher level engagement.

00:07:59.260 It requires more work.

00:08:01.460 It requires, like, more types of, there are more things that go into building a healthy

00:08:07.080 relationship between two people than just resources on one side and youth on the other.

00:08:11.740 Like, that relationship isn't going to last for more than, like, six months.

00:08:14.660 Well, I didn't say it was just resources, but, yeah, I mean, like, I think there's things

00:08:17.920 like culture, values, like that sort of thing, too.

00:08:20.480 But I just think, again, it's a description.

00:08:22.360 It might not be as detailed of a description as you'd like, but it's just a description.

00:08:29.020 I don't know why you're saying it's just a description.

00:08:30.880 Like, that's a counter to my point.

00:08:31.700 I said I disagreed with the description.

00:08:33.420 Can you not disagree with the description?

00:08:34.460 Yeah, but how do you, what do you disagree with?

00:08:36.180 You don't think women go after men with resources? 1.00

00:08:38.240 I don't think that it's that simplistic, though.

00:08:40.580 And also, there's a lot of the advice.

00:08:42.340 Which is why I said.

00:08:43.320 Well, sure, but if you're going to add in a whole bunch of stuff there, right, that's 0.99

00:08:46.560 like saying, like, oh, like, women only date men with dicks they like. 0.99

00:08:49.920 And it's like, well, I don't know if that's true. 1.00

00:08:51.200 It's like, well, if they have a dick they like, and also if they're, like, nice, and 0.80

00:08:53.840 they provide, like, a good life for them, it's like, okay, well, if you're going to 0.98

00:08:55.780 expand it way more, well, then, sure, I guess I agree.

00:08:58.020 So, if you're going to say, like, just resources and just youth, then I guess

00:09:01.040 I'll agree, if you're also going to add in on the other stuff, but.

00:09:02.820 I mean, it just goes down to, like, the bare bones, but then you can add in other, like,

00:09:06.540 clearly, yeah.

00:09:07.640 But those bare bones.

00:09:08.060 I feel like this is more like marketing, like, those things draw you in, but you might

00:09:11.380 not necessarily fall in love with them.

00:09:12.920 Those bare bones aren't going to sustain a relationship. 0.92

00:09:16.380 You're going to need more than just resources, because what's going to happen when a woman gets 1.00

00:09:18.740 old?

00:09:18.920 But it starts with, you still need resources to start, because women, in general, don't 1.00

00:09:24.000 date bums. 0.97

00:09:25.880 Well, they, well, bum women do. 1.00

00:09:27.600 I wish that they didn't.

00:09:28.900 I know so many women in my life that could do so much better than they do. 1.00

00:09:33.040 Yeah, and, like. 1.00

00:09:33.560 Why are you with these fucking women? 1.00

00:09:34.720 But if they could do better, then they would. 1.00

00:09:36.520 Exactly.

00:09:37.020 Poor women can't. 1.00

00:09:37.640 Poor women date poor men. 0.96

00:09:39.100 Middle class women date middle class men. 0.62

00:09:40.740 It's a self-esteem thing.

00:09:41.800 Rich women date rich men. 1.00

00:09:43.680 You think it's a self-esteem thing?

00:09:45.460 Women that date down, yeah, that's poor self-esteem. 1.00

00:09:49.500 I think if they could do better, they probably would.

00:09:52.640 I mean, this is just based on me knowing that they're very attractive, and the men that they 0.99

00:09:55.860 wear, they're just trash. 1.00

00:09:57.160 Yeah, because they end up getting obsessed with some dumb guy, and then they do the yo-yo 1.00

00:10:00.900 thing where they go back and forth forever.

00:10:02.480 They'll have something in common that bonds them really hard, and then I'll be like, you

00:10:05.760 can do better.

00:10:06.560 And the commonality will be, at one point, the relationship was really good, like a year 0.94

00:10:09.960 or two ago, and they're, like, chasing that relationship high with some super loser dude 0.52

00:10:14.260 for validation. 0.89

00:10:16.760 Yeah.

00:10:17.420 Men do.

00:10:17.920 They don't love idealistically.

00:10:18.880 They love, based on, I need this guy to perform something for me, then I can love him.

00:10:23.020 Whereas a man is like, okay, these are my requirements. 1.00

00:10:25.880 You're attractive, you can cook, just like we discussed before.

00:10:28.080 That's good enough for me, and that guy will fall in love with her versus for her. 0.97

00:10:31.260 It's like, you need to perform.

00:10:32.200 Sure.

00:10:32.420 So for your question, you give a good qualifier that now seems like you're abandoning, which

00:10:36.440 is you don't believe in unconditional love.

00:10:38.160 Nobody loves unconditionally.

00:10:39.360 Yeah, there's always a condition.

00:10:40.180 Nobody loves.

00:10:40.540 I agree.

00:10:40.820 So if you're talking about, like, a man with very few requirements, and you're going to

00:10:44.540 say, like, well, if you're not meeting the performance, like, a man to a woman, then

00:10:47.980 she's going to leave you. 1.00

00:10:48.940 Well, probably the same thing is true for the man as well.

00:10:51.320 Right?

00:10:51.500 That's true.

00:10:52.080 Really?

00:10:52.800 So you think the average man would stay with a woman if she got, like, battery acid attacked

00:10:56.380 and lost both legs or something?

00:10:57.640 There's not a condition.

00:10:59.020 I think, okay, I'm going to tell you why I think you're wrong.

00:11:02.000 Because the amount of whales.

00:11:04.000 Huh?

00:11:04.440 The amount of whales.

00:11:05.240 Yeah.

00:11:05.580 Some guys just find out as a fetish, though, isn't it?

00:11:08.040 I mean, that's an exception, though. 0.98

00:11:09.700 You know, by and large, men don't like fat chicks. 1.00

00:11:11.700 Men stay with their fat wives all the time. 1.00

00:11:14.380 All the time. 1.00

00:11:15.320 Are they also fat?

00:11:16.700 Yes.

00:11:17.420 Boulding? 0.84

00:11:18.000 Yep. 0.99

00:11:18.500 There's a lot of fat people. 0.99

00:11:19.640 Fat people stay with fat people. 0.99

00:11:21.020 But women, by and large, are fatter than men. 0.99

00:11:23.260 No. 0.75

00:11:23.620 And if you go in the U.S., the woman's always fatter. 1.00

00:11:26.720 Hold on.

00:11:27.140 I'm sorry.

00:11:27.500 Isn't the average weight of a man, like, 40 pounds over the average weight of a woman? 0.88

00:11:32.220 Yeah.

00:11:33.060 Also, men just statistically higher obesity levels.

00:11:36.980 No, I think the average weight of a woman is more than a guy. 1.00

00:11:39.200 I could be wrong, though.

00:11:39.880 I don't think you're right just because of the height difference.

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JustPearlyThings - April 30, 2023

Destiny On Why He Hates The Red Pill

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