Destiny On Why He Hates The Red Pill
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about how to deal with a man who doesn't give a shit about you, why women like selfish men, and why you shouldn't date a selfish guy. We also discuss whether or not a woman should be allowed to have sex with another woman.
Transcript
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There are probably some women that can engage with sex without it being a super emotional experience.
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There are probably some men that can engage with sex without it being a super emotional experience.
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There's probably a few more men than women, but I think both of them tie emotions and sex together pretty.
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But when we have these conversations, though, we're talking about the average.
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You were specifically asking about my relationship.
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Because it requires you to step out of your own selfish frame of reference to see how your partner feels about something.
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You only prioritize the things that you want in life.
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That says something about how you view love of another person.
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It's usually what you do when you don't love somebody.
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So they can get what they want, but we can get what they want as well.
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That's the first time he's ever considered that as a possibility.
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Oh, you just say the randomest, most like, what is the dumbest, wrongest opinion?
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When I say selfish, I mean like guys that are following their purpose and put themselves first.
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My question is going to be, let's say you start dating a guy and he's like, listen, I love
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you and it's great what you're doing out here, pearly, but I need you to move to Germany
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because that's where I live and I'm not moving anywhere for your career.
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And let's say he earns like 60,000 euro a year working in Germany and he's telling you
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Like, God, he's so driven to just not care at all about my life.
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I was going to move to Germany next year anyways for volleyball.
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Yeah, so I was like, that wouldn't even be so bad, Germany.
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So, I'm going to, but you totally avoided that question.
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And then you said, well, I almost moved to Germany because I was playing volleyball, which was
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I mean, I just think long term that probably wouldn't work.
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It's not like both of you have fair ass, right?
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Compared to what other women to be disloyal to maybe knock another woman up to maybe separate
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Imagine you come home and you're like, oh shit, I got another girl pregnant.
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Like you're in a whole fucking world of agony there.
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I'm going to have so many dono sounds after this.
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I don't know what a dono sound is, but I feel like I won't like it.
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Like when somebody donates money, it like plays a noise.
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So it'll be pearly saying like, I agree with you.
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No, when it comes to like, I don't think cheating is ideal, but I do think cheating is different
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Like, I do think if you're going to have like an open type relationship on either end, that's
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But, you know, I do think it's different for men and for women.
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Like women aren't going to be okay with their guys cheating on them.
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I just think if that was true, every girl I ask this on the show wouldn't, wouldn't,
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I think the same about abused women all the time.
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It's like, no, now he's going to bring abuse into this.
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The thing here is that, and the reason why I disagree, and I get what you, I see where
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you're going with this saying that women have far more requirements, therefore they
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love harder because those requirements are harder to find.
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I mean, I think it's dishonest to say I wouldn't.
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Saying is that by having more requirements, that makes, that makes it where their love is
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a hundred percent contingent upon that man's performance.
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So it's fleeting because if that guy loses, right, what he had, that woman will leave.
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And I've always said it that, you know, shout out to Rolo.
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Women love opportunistically while men tend to love idealistically.
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I think the fact that they love opportunistically proves there in itself that they love, they
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I mean, it goes back for like loving a guy for what he has.
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In the fresh and fit model of the world, women go after men for their resources.
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I'm just saying you could do that, but also not be in love with them.
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Well, I don't even know if they think women can love.
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I mean, I just think the, I think the argument is that women can't love in the same way that
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Because, like, it requires more for us to love someone.
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Why can't you guys ever talk about, I'm sorry, not you guys.
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But I get frustrated sometimes because the way that all of these people, not you, talk
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Like, it's like, oh yeah, like women are out here dating for resources and men are looking
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for the youngest, freshest, lowest body count woman.
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And that's like all they have to say about relationships.
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Like, they're not saying what's healthy and what's not healthy.
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And throughout all of time, women have gone for men with more resources and men have gone
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So, of course, they went up to resources because they couldn't work.
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But I'm just saying that, like, if you think of, like, people that are in happy, healthy
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relationships, are you thinking of, like, God, like, she found a guy and it's just so
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cool because he gives her so many resources and it's so cool that he's, like, 48 and she's
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You might not, like, think of it like that, right?
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You might not think of it like that, but it's true.
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Do you feel like it's like an ingrained survival instinct that we just have as women because
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So, we, like, pick the guys with the most resources type of thing.
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I don't think it's only resources, like muscles.
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If someone is physically fit, that suggests that they're, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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I think that most successful relationships require, like, a higher level engagement.
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It requires, like, more types of, there are more things that go into building a healthy
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relationship between two people than just resources on one side and youth on the other.
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Like, that relationship isn't going to last for more than, like, six months.
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Well, I didn't say it was just resources, but, yeah, I mean, like, I think there's things
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like culture, values, like that sort of thing, too.
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It might not be as detailed of a description as you'd like, but it's just a description.
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I don't know why you're saying it's just a description.
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Yeah, but how do you, what do you disagree with?
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You don't think women go after men with resources?
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I don't think that it's that simplistic, though.
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Well, sure, but if you're going to add in a whole bunch of stuff there, right, that's
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like saying, like, oh, like, women only date men with dicks they like.
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And it's like, well, I don't know if that's true.
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It's like, well, if they have a dick they like, and also if they're, like, nice, and
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they provide, like, a good life for them, it's like, okay, well, if you're going to
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expand it way more, well, then, sure, I guess I agree.
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So, if you're going to say, like, just resources and just youth, then I guess
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I'll agree, if you're also going to add in on the other stuff, but.
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I mean, it just goes down to, like, the bare bones, but then you can add in other, like,
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I feel like this is more like marketing, like, those things draw you in, but you might
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Those bare bones aren't going to sustain a relationship.
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You're going to need more than just resources, because what's going to happen when a woman gets
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But it starts with, you still need resources to start, because women, in general, don't
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I know so many women in my life that could do so much better than they do.
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Women that date down, yeah, that's poor self-esteem.
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I think if they could do better, they probably would.
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I mean, this is just based on me knowing that they're very attractive, and the men that they
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Yeah, because they end up getting obsessed with some dumb guy, and then they do the yo-yo
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They'll have something in common that bonds them really hard, and then I'll be like, you
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And the commonality will be, at one point, the relationship was really good, like a year
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or two ago, and they're, like, chasing that relationship high with some super loser dude
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They love, based on, I need this guy to perform something for me, then I can love him.
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Whereas a man is like, okay, these are my requirements.
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You're attractive, you can cook, just like we discussed before.
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That's good enough for me, and that guy will fall in love with her versus for her.
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So for your question, you give a good qualifier that now seems like you're abandoning, which
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So if you're talking about, like, a man with very few requirements, and you're going to
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say, like, well, if you're not meeting the performance, like, a man to a woman, then
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Well, probably the same thing is true for the man as well.
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So you think the average man would stay with a woman if she got, like, battery acid attacked
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I think, okay, I'm going to tell you why I think you're wrong.
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Some guys just find out as a fetish, though, isn't it?
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You know, by and large, men don't like fat chicks.
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And if you go in the U.S., the woman's always fatter.
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Isn't the average weight of a man, like, 40 pounds over the average weight of a woman?
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Also, men just statistically higher obesity levels.
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No, I think the average weight of a woman is more than a guy.
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I don't think you're right just because of the height difference.
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