In this episode, I speak to a man who claims he was in a loveless, sexless relationship with his wife for six years. We talk about the reasons why this happened, why it happened, and how he coped with it.
00:00:08.760This is not why I chose a Polish woman. She seemed exotic to me. She made much of her noble ancestry.
00:00:19.720There was a certain, she was interesting, and not for the reasons many might think.
00:00:28.040But she was difficult. She was stubborn, and we, you know, there was no, I think, right, a lot is made of coercive control, right, these days.
00:00:47.620And I think she has since claimed there was a high degree of coercive control, whatever that looks like.
00:00:55.580And there was not. Okay, this was a normal relationship where husband and wife, in the early days, basically got on well.
00:01:03.880She gave birth. She was a fantastic mother. Okay. A great mother.
00:01:08.700As time went on, perhaps, and pretty soon after she gave birth, really, I would say that our relationship cooled quite badly.
00:01:22.820This was about how long after birth that things switched?
00:03:53.720But it wouldn't surprise me if she did.
00:03:56.700In the end, I was caught, I suppose you could say. A woman I'd met through work had texted me a few times. I texted back. And just the attention of a woman. Just the... A woman had noticed me and had found me attractive and she wanted to flirt with me. Yeah, I flirted back. Sure I did.
00:04:22.020And I didn't actually meet this woman any further. I had no intention. I was stuck in a sexless, loveless relationship. But my son, right, my son was everything to me. He's still everything to me to this day. And really, in my mind, I was thinking, well, how long can I go? Can I continue this to my son? He's 16, 18?
00:04:49.440How long do I last in this relationship for my son's sake? And really, she took that option away when she found this text message. And I said, well...