JustPearlyThings - April 26, 2023


Emotional Panel Tries to shame Pearl


Episode Stats

Length

6 minutes

Words per Minute

215.7665

Word Count

1,301

Sentence Count

159

Misogynist Sentences

11

Hate Speech Sentences

7


Summary

In this episode, we talk about body shaming, fat shaming, body shaming and bullying. We also talk about how to deal with it and why it's not ok to be fat. We hope you enjoy, sit down, and have a nice drink.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 And for me, I just feel like, I know what you're saying, but at the same time...
00:00:03.380 You wouldn't tell your brother, listen, go have sex with that girl without a condom.
00:00:07.160 You would say, bro, make sure and wear your robbers.
00:00:09.600 Of course.
00:00:10.260 You would tell your boy that, right?
00:00:12.200 You have to.
00:00:13.160 You don't want to hear a boy coming home at STD.
00:00:15.640 Well, you got to look at your health.
00:00:17.960 Yeah, you got to protect yourself.
00:00:19.360 That's what I'm saying.
00:00:20.200 Of course.
00:00:20.420 It's protecting everybody else.
00:00:22.280 Yeah, but my thing is, she's allowed to use social media.
00:00:25.680 How she uses social media, it's up to her.
00:00:28.820 It's freedom of speech, it's freedom of choice, it's free will.
00:00:32.500 If she feels good, good for her.
00:00:34.220 Yeah, but that's why I think it's more important that we shame it.
00:00:38.620 I don't think we should say, definitely not shame it.
00:00:40.260 And say, wait, wait, wait.
00:00:40.920 That's what creates mental health.
00:00:42.380 Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:00:44.280 And say, put the rolls away.
00:00:46.560 We don't want to see that.
00:00:48.460 Put it away.
00:00:49.720 Go get on the treadmill.
00:00:51.040 Lose weight, wait, wait.
00:00:52.680 Lose some weight and then come back.
00:00:55.460 My mom used to tell me, and everyone's going to say,
00:00:58.200 I was traumatized.
00:00:59.380 No, you're right.
00:01:00.080 Yeah, post this journey.
00:01:01.260 My mom used to tell me, and maybe everyone's going to say
00:01:03.660 I was traumatized, that you have to earn a bikini body.
00:01:07.260 And I believe that.
00:01:08.600 I really do.
00:01:09.540 And I think you should earn the right.
00:01:11.120 Some people don't want that, though.
00:01:12.460 It's up to them.
00:01:13.440 If they don't want to.
00:01:14.060 I think we need to please stop talking about exceptions.
00:01:18.520 We want to talk about the rule.
00:01:20.280 I've said this.
00:01:21.180 I've said to friends that might be very overweight,
00:01:24.340 like, I think you would have a better quality of life.
00:01:26.400 I think you would enjoy it more.
00:01:28.080 That's as far as I'd go.
00:01:29.220 I would never shame them for it.
00:01:30.320 If that's still her choice, that's still her choice.
00:01:31.700 I'll do one more.
00:01:32.620 I'll have my overweight friends run up 21 flights of stairs with me.
00:01:37.580 I mean, if you're doing it in an encouraging way.
00:01:41.020 You're a bad man.
00:01:42.400 I think if we ask someone.
00:01:43.680 You can't do them things then.
00:01:44.640 I think if we ask someone of that weight a question like.
00:01:47.120 No, I'm helpful.
00:01:48.440 What do you mean?
00:01:49.100 You can't do them things.
00:01:51.100 I think if you ask someone, do you want to lose weight?
00:01:54.660 90% of the answer.
00:01:56.220 95%, 98% of the answer will be yes.
00:01:59.620 What if they don't?
00:02:00.500 And I've been there.
00:02:01.660 I've been there.
00:02:02.200 I've been overweight.
00:02:03.000 You think they don't want to lose weight?
00:02:04.320 I'm just teasing.
00:02:05.100 But also, pal, so when I was a teenager, because I'm very tall.
00:02:10.360 When I first had a growth span height, I was very, very skinny.
00:02:14.120 And I couldn't really gain weight.
00:02:15.800 It was extremely hard for me.
00:02:16.720 And I hated it.
00:02:17.740 I've been through that.
00:02:18.680 Girls and stuff, yeah.
00:02:20.440 Would make comments and stuff.
00:02:21.740 And it made me feel so shit.
00:02:24.380 So I feel like there's empathy that comes from that, isn't it?
00:02:26.880 Isn't that?
00:02:27.440 I did obviously try and gain weight.
00:02:28.940 I don't know if that's the difference.
00:02:31.300 But it was so hard.
00:02:32.600 I used to get talk until I cried.
00:02:34.000 They call me bagaboons.
00:02:35.360 But this is what she's saying.
00:02:36.660 I know how you feel.
00:02:37.220 She's saying.
00:02:37.780 It's hard.
00:02:38.220 She's saying.
00:02:39.100 But basically, bullying somebody encourages you to be a better person or change your ways
00:02:45.980 or whatever to how they think should be acceptable.
00:02:50.640 There are different people.
00:02:51.740 There's people that could drive the mindset to get better.
00:02:56.300 Yeah, but that's a different way of speaking.
00:02:57.800 There are people as well that could drive.
00:02:58.720 Yeah, there's a different way of speaking.
00:02:59.580 It's a different way of speaking.
00:02:59.600 Bullying them could break down.
00:03:00.980 Exactly.
00:03:01.520 You can articulate as well.
00:03:01.800 You can break them down really bad.
00:03:02.460 To say you're fat, blah, blah, blah.
00:03:04.520 And you know.
00:03:05.160 Body shaming and bullying is not acceptable.
00:03:06.840 It's a difference.
00:03:07.900 It's a body shaming to call a spade a spade to say you're fat.
00:03:11.840 You are fat.
00:03:13.120 Like you are fat.
00:03:14.080 It's not to be mean.
00:03:15.880 But I mean, then once we, but it's like, wait, wait.
00:03:19.260 So it's like, how do we fix problems if we can't acknowledge they exist?
00:03:23.920 This is the problem with the delusion.
00:03:25.860 Wait, wait.
00:03:27.320 This is the problem with the delusion of modern women.
00:03:30.260 It's like, we can't even acknowledge that there's a problem.
00:03:32.960 How the hell do we fix it?
00:03:34.880 If we can't even say, hey, the problem is there.
00:03:37.920 Yeah, I am obese.
00:03:39.340 Then you can at least say, maybe I should eat less.
00:03:41.780 Maybe I should get on the treadmill.
00:03:43.060 But it's like tooth and nail.
00:03:45.640 I'm like pulling teeth here trying to say, yeah, this is a problem.
00:03:49.040 But why is it our problem to fix?
00:03:52.220 It's not your problem.
00:03:53.140 It's my problem to fix.
00:03:56.620 I think if we care about someone, it is okay to encourage them.
00:04:01.720 But we'll say, I think we'll have a better quality of life because of this, this and this.
00:04:05.160 Because I guess it could be from a caring perspective, but not shaming.
00:04:08.860 And because some people do still find them desirable.
00:04:11.040 We don't need to shame.
00:04:11.640 And also, what about the people, the minority that can't help it?
00:04:15.140 At least it makes them feel more comfortable.
00:04:16.820 I don't think we need it to go down to the shame inside.
00:04:18.760 Like, let's be honest.
00:04:19.660 Like, you would talk to someone about their obesity in the most respectful way ever.
00:04:24.520 Exactly.
00:04:25.180 In the health aspect.
00:04:26.900 And you'd say, I'm concerned.
00:04:28.320 Maybe think of that.
00:04:29.240 Of course.
00:04:29.940 Nobody's trying to shame anybody.
00:04:31.160 But that's all you can do.
00:04:32.380 It's down to that individual whether they want to change their ways or not.
00:04:34.640 Obese person, as I said, 98% of them want to lose weight.
00:04:39.560 They do want to lose weight.
00:04:40.960 If you talk to them, you ask them a question, do you want to lose weight?
00:04:43.100 They will say yes.
00:04:44.100 And they just don't know how to.
00:04:45.020 So I am not trying to stand up here and be like, oh, I am going to support you being obese.
00:04:49.720 Yeah.
00:04:49.980 I do think we should shame them off the internet, though.
00:04:52.700 I do.
00:04:54.620 I do.
00:04:55.120 No, no.
00:04:55.760 Yeah.
00:04:56.020 No, I don't think we should be promoting that to kids.
00:04:58.680 To be honest.
00:04:59.520 No, I think.
00:05:00.040 I think I disagree with.
00:05:01.060 Kids are on the internet.
00:05:03.020 Like, I don't think we should be promoting, like, fat chicks on the covers of magazines.
00:05:06.180 I don't think we should be promoting, yes, queen, that's a good thing that you're obese.
00:05:10.620 Like, yeah, you do look good on social media.
00:05:12.720 There's kids on social media.
00:05:13.940 What messaging are we pushing?
00:05:15.320 And this is why, this is why a lot of women, they get work done.
00:05:19.100 And this is their exact example.
00:05:21.440 If you're going to push the narrative of you need to be perfect, then you're going to go
00:05:25.640 do certain things to your body because of idolization.
00:05:29.240 Let me respond to this.
00:05:30.400 There are women who are puts in their journeys, though.
00:05:33.520 Let me respond to this, okay?
00:05:35.200 Women get work done because they're lazy.
00:05:38.460 Not necessarily.
00:05:39.460 Because some women lacking in larger breasts or bigger bum, and you're going to want to
00:05:44.340 do that to please the man.
00:05:45.580 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:05:49.100 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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