JustPearlyThings - May 02, 2023


Emotional Simp Wants Men To Be Cucks

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
Mentioned
Jerry Maguire Permanently Dude
Men Logically Break Down Cheating To Women Single Mother GOT DESTROYED for Saying This

Episode Stats


Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

206.97

Word count

2,005

Sentence count

37

Harmful content

Misogyny

8

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Toxicity

4

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Hate speech

11

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss what it means to grow up in a single parent household and the impact it can have on a young girl s self-esteem and self-confidence. We also talk about the importance of a good relationship with a step-parent and how important it is to have a solid relationship with your step-mother.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 Our parents generation is the first generation that got divorced like they're like our parents aren't the ones we should be taking advice from 0.57
00:00:06.500 It's more of our grandparents are great
00:00:09.660 And the thing is and the thing is to like that women did bring that they were more in shape 0.72
00:00:13.760 They were they were more they were younger. They were better looking like the question though like
00:00:19.180 Those people they did not have Instagram so they
00:00:24.060 Understand the lay of the land you could meet a nice guy. He just works as a fucking baker 1.00
00:00:30.000 Yeah, you ain't got a fucking clue that you could potentially have a guy like this rich guy fucking sliding in your DMs. You are none the wiser 1.00
00:00:41.240 Catalogue of men that they could never have and made them think they could and and also like our grandmothers and our great-grandmothers
00:00:48.180 Like they could cook things from scratch like I see girls on Instagram 1.00
00:00:51.760 Like sometimes I'll follow y'all after the show, but I'll see them out to eat like every day
00:00:55.880 But I've never seen them cook anything on their store
00:00:57.880 They worried that they get cheated on that now that there you have to agree
00:01:01.820 If you don't want to be cheated on you best believe that you're doing every single thing correctly, but I mean the important thing
00:01:07.280 I'm not on the platforms like that like I said
00:01:09.380 I'd like to be you should be you might find your prince charming
00:01:11.680 No, I mean I'm I'm content. I'm secure. I'm okay in that side of things, but I mean with me
00:01:26.780 I've never I don't know maybe because of when I was growing up. They wasn't anything called like
00:01:31.700 the internet I remember when the internet came in and I
00:01:37.980 feel that you know, I just don't yes
00:01:41.100 I love cooking and love baking and I love doing all of those things, but I just don't put myself out there like that
00:01:47.100 Yeah, exactly and I don't know anybody who has the confidence to go out and do that me personally
00:01:54.380 I just couldn't put everything out there like that me personally, but like sorry go no no, sorry go
00:02:01.340 Okay. Oh, so yeah, so you know back to the point that I was trying to make like it's just we're in a different time now
00:02:08.280 We're we are under pressure. We are you know like our great
00:02:13.900 Grandmothers and great grandfathers. Yeah, they were married until like they part is man 1.00
00:02:19.340 and like I come from a stock where that was instilled in me where that's what I saw and they were still madly in love with each other and
00:02:29.400 Yes, they may disagree, but they still came together and they you know
00:02:34.160 Like you said there's a time where he could have just been a baker. She could have just been a you know
00:02:39.920 stream rest and you know, but they but built something right, but this is be this is it's genuinely because of it
00:02:45.560 Like do you guys agree that in general sex comes before relationships nowadays? Yeah in general now? Yeah
00:02:51.500 Got some cappers on the couch 0.98
00:02:54.900 Sometimes sex happen just if you do usually yeah, but women are in control of who they sleep with 1.00
00:03:00.280 Like women are in control of sex. So if relationships are failing like and women's are the ones leaving relationships 1.00
00:03:06.520 So it's unfortunate so when we get all the power
00:03:09.240 We abused it. Let me tell you using in the wrong way. Do you think it's fair for women to expect monogamy if they have children from a previous guy?
00:03:17.320 I mean nothing you should expect monogamy if the conversation hasn't been had otherwise
00:03:23.560 Otherwise, you know, I mean just generally
00:03:27.560 More likely if you I feel like if you've got children from a previous relationship
00:03:31.560 I think it's probably more likely that you're going to get cheated on
00:03:35.880 Because you're going to know that that person probably has less option to just walk away after that
00:03:41.000 It's more it's more likely that they will try and work out if they've already got children from a past relationship
00:03:46.280 They don't necessarily want to lose that person that they've been in a relationship with you know, I mean, so um
00:03:51.640 Yeah, I think that as long as there's honesty, you know, then anything's possible, but without that then
00:03:59.080 And don't ever undermine the power and influence of a stepfather or a stepmother
00:04:03.240 I came from a single parent family who would shout my mom my dad ran away and
00:04:09.480 This man came into my life and he's the biggest blessing that's ever happened to me
00:04:12.440 So like honestly, don't I know this is a random spur sorry. It's just emotion speaking. It's the most important thing
00:04:18.040 It's the only thing that could
00:04:20.280 potentially eclipse the heartbreak of
00:04:22.920 Not knowing your real father or your real mom
00:04:24.600 Yeah, if someone's strong enough manly enough or willing enough to come in and take that role. It doesn't fill the void it
00:04:31.000 Permanently, but it does help
00:04:33.000 It helps heal the hurt so much
00:04:35.480 And it brought that male energy as well
00:04:38.600 But the issue is it's just a bad deal for guys to be honest to date a single mother 1.00
00:04:44.200 But you say that though
00:04:45.400 I could call my stepdad right now and I'll tell you for a fact
00:04:48.200 I know but I'm not talking about you
00:04:49.560 He hit the jackpot
00:04:50.440 Right, I'm not I'm not talking about you. I'm talking about in general
00:04:54.920 I'm a hypocrite on that because I was raised by a single mother
00:04:57.560 My mother to me is an angel, but I wouldn't want to go with a woman who already has a child and that's just no disrespect 0.99
00:05:04.680 It's just like yeah for me
00:05:05.800 That makes sense for me
00:05:06.920 I just wouldn't want to do that because it's a lot to take from and there's another man in the situation
00:05:13.320 I don't want to have to deal with that
00:05:15.320 At the same time, I'm a single mom. Yeah, I'm a single mom and in the same time when you want to meet me
00:05:20.760 You already know that I have a child and obviously she will be my number one priority. It doesn't matter
00:05:26.360 No matter what even myself
00:05:28.200 I'm gonna put myself last and that's why it's it's kind of a respect from me is because I'm like
00:05:33.480 I can't yeah, you know
00:05:34.680 I can't make a mistake with a woman who's got a child 1.00
00:05:37.560 There's that Jerry Maguire movie where it's like you don't shop the putty like you don't you don't mess around with a woman 1.00
00:05:43.560 Who's got a child already you have to treat her with a lot of respect is it is a different day 0.97
00:05:47.480 It's a more dangerous situation because people get hurt more well
00:05:50.120 And you're supposed to play and you're supposed to put your
00:05:53.640 What do you disagree with?
00:05:54.760 Yeah, I mean yeah, you have to put a respect and all that but
00:05:59.560 Because I'm a single mom doesn't mean I'm a very weak person. I'm more stronger than ever
00:06:05.320 No, what I mean is because there's a child involved
00:06:07.480 I treat it more seriously than if it's just me and a girl and if our feelings get hurt
00:06:12.600 That's the that's one thing when there's a child involved. That's a whole bigger situation. That's why I wouldn't I agree
00:06:18.360 I would be more. Oh, is this what I want to do? I'd be at the same time if you can be
00:06:23.400 straightforward and at the point and honest and to have an open conversation with me obviously we can agree
00:06:29.720 And if things are not working out, that's completely fine. I'm not going to get upset
00:06:33.160 I'm not going to be depressed because you don't
00:06:35.000 That's Europe and look that's you but like I don't know every girls are strong. Yeah, yeah, of course 0.99
00:06:39.160 Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's that's I'm talking just about myself
00:06:42.040 Well, but there's a couple issues because one if they raise in the UK if you raise someone else's kid
00:06:47.800 You have no rights to that kid, so it's like you could bond with the kid for 10 years and you've no rights to it
00:06:52.160 Dude, if you've got your own kid, you've got no rights to it if you're a man 0.95
00:06:55.000 Yeah
00:06:55.560 So yeah, at least someone else's kid
00:06:57.560 Right, but at least at least that like your genes are passed on
00:07:00.360 But if you think of it from like a genetic point of view, there's no reason for a guy to date a single mom 0.99
00:07:05.160 Yeah, but it's never about the legalities or genetics. It's about how you know it's about the impression you leave on another fellow human being
00:07:11.400 Yeah, I've just told you I've spoken about a stepfather more fondly than I did about my own father
00:07:16.360 That is that that that's worth something surely and I know we're not making it about me, but God
00:07:22.120 Jesus Christ man, someone out there must understand. It's a beautiful thing to raise a child. That's not yours
00:07:27.880 It's and I think that sounds nice again
00:07:30.200 Like it sounds really nice, but you know if you had a son you wouldn't encourage if he had no kids
00:07:34.040 You're not going to encourage him to date a single mom if I met a woman who was beautiful and gave me everything that I wanted 0.99
00:07:38.840 But just so happened to have a child you think I'm going to say no because a child is you I think you should
00:07:45.880 I think but I wouldn't be the person I am today if my stepfather didn't take ownership
00:07:49.320 And again, I think that's like great for you
00:07:51.160 And I think you you ended up in a good situation, but I think nowadays it's like
00:07:55.640 You have so much to risk going into relationships as a guy like you have so much to like
00:08:01.000 You don't you might not even understand
00:08:02.440 I just know because I'm doing this documentary in the court system
00:08:05.160 So and it's like you you could spend five years of your time attention and resources and she can leave on a dime 1.00
00:08:11.400 I mean, they're already leaving the father of their kids
00:08:14.040 Yeah, like what is this happened to me before I mean the the one of the last relationships I was in
00:08:19.640 With the mother of one of my children
00:08:23.640 She already had three children when I when I first met her we've got a child together
00:08:28.040 Um, but she already had three children three beautiful children. Um, we were in a relationship for you know five years
00:08:35.400 Um in that the time I became somewhat the these children's real father, you know, I mean i'm there with them every day
00:08:42.600 I'm doing the school runs picking them up parents evenings, you know doctor's appointments all those kinds of things and then um
00:08:50.040 Once our relationship had finished
00:08:52.840 I no longer had any rights for those children, you know, I mean I built up this beautiful relationship
00:08:57.880 I look at them no different from my own biological children, you know, I mean they were my child
00:09:02.840 They asked even to this day. They still are my children
00:09:06.360 However, I don't have
00:09:08.360 Was their parent was there that involved over there that like helping or was he around?
00:09:11.560 He's about but he's not about about you know, I mean and and
00:09:15.560 Even the way that he would raise the children would be slightly different from the way that I would raise children, you know, I mean, so
00:09:22.280 We have our differences in that and it everyone is different anyway
00:09:25.960 I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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