JustPearlyThings - May 02, 2023


Emotional Simp Wants Men To Be Cucks


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

206.9713

Word Count

2,005

Sentence Count

31

Misogynist Sentences

8

Hate Speech Sentences

11


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Our parents generation is the first generation that got divorced like they're like our parents aren't the ones we should be taking advice from
00:00:06.500 It's more of our grandparents are great
00:00:09.660 And the thing is and the thing is to like that women did bring that they were more in shape
00:00:13.760 They were they were more they were younger. They were better looking like the question though like
00:00:19.180 Those people they did not have Instagram so they
00:00:24.060 Understand the lay of the land you could meet a nice guy. He just works as a fucking baker
00:00:30.000 Yeah, you ain't got a fucking clue that you could potentially have a guy like this rich guy fucking sliding in your DMs. You are none the wiser
00:00:41.240 Catalogue of men that they could never have and made them think they could and and also like our grandmothers and our great-grandmothers
00:00:48.180 Like they could cook things from scratch like I see girls on Instagram
00:00:51.760 Like sometimes I'll follow y'all after the show, but I'll see them out to eat like every day
00:00:55.880 But I've never seen them cook anything on their store
00:00:57.880 They worried that they get cheated on that now that there you have to agree
00:01:01.820 If you don't want to be cheated on you best believe that you're doing every single thing correctly, but I mean the important thing
00:01:07.280 I'm not on the platforms like that like I said
00:01:09.380 I'd like to be you should be you might find your prince charming
00:01:11.680 No, I mean I'm I'm content. I'm secure. I'm okay in that side of things, but I mean with me
00:01:26.780 I've never I don't know maybe because of when I was growing up. They wasn't anything called like
00:01:31.700 the internet I remember when the internet came in and I
00:01:37.980 feel that you know, I just don't yes
00:01:41.100 I love cooking and love baking and I love doing all of those things, but I just don't put myself out there like that
00:01:47.100 Yeah, exactly and I don't know anybody who has the confidence to go out and do that me personally
00:01:54.380 I just couldn't put everything out there like that me personally, but like sorry go no no, sorry go
00:02:01.340 Okay. Oh, so yeah, so you know back to the point that I was trying to make like it's just we're in a different time now
00:02:08.280 We're we are under pressure. We are you know like our great
00:02:13.900 Grandmothers and great grandfathers. Yeah, they were married until like they part is man
00:02:19.340 and like I come from a stock where that was instilled in me where that's what I saw and they were still madly in love with each other and
00:02:29.400 Yes, they may disagree, but they still came together and they you know
00:02:34.160 Like you said there's a time where he could have just been a baker. She could have just been a you know
00:02:39.920 stream rest and you know, but they but built something right, but this is be this is it's genuinely because of it
00:02:45.560 Like do you guys agree that in general sex comes before relationships nowadays? Yeah in general now? Yeah
00:02:51.500 Got some cappers on the couch
00:02:54.900 Sometimes sex happen just if you do usually yeah, but women are in control of who they sleep with
00:03:00.280 Like women are in control of sex. So if relationships are failing like and women's are the ones leaving relationships
00:03:06.520 So it's unfortunate so when we get all the power
00:03:09.240 We abused it. Let me tell you using in the wrong way. Do you think it's fair for women to expect monogamy if they have children from a previous guy?
00:03:17.320 I mean nothing you should expect monogamy if the conversation hasn't been had otherwise
00:03:23.560 Otherwise, you know, I mean just generally
00:03:27.560 More likely if you I feel like if you've got children from a previous relationship
00:03:31.560 I think it's probably more likely that you're going to get cheated on
00:03:35.880 Because you're going to know that that person probably has less option to just walk away after that
00:03:41.000 It's more it's more likely that they will try and work out if they've already got children from a past relationship
00:03:46.280 They don't necessarily want to lose that person that they've been in a relationship with you know, I mean, so um
00:03:51.640 Yeah, I think that as long as there's honesty, you know, then anything's possible, but without that then
00:03:59.080 And don't ever undermine the power and influence of a stepfather or a stepmother
00:04:03.240 I came from a single parent family who would shout my mom my dad ran away and
00:04:09.480 This man came into my life and he's the biggest blessing that's ever happened to me
00:04:12.440 So like honestly, don't I know this is a random spur sorry. It's just emotion speaking. It's the most important thing
00:04:18.040 It's the only thing that could
00:04:20.280 potentially eclipse the heartbreak of
00:04:22.920 Not knowing your real father or your real mom
00:04:24.600 Yeah, if someone's strong enough manly enough or willing enough to come in and take that role. It doesn't fill the void it
00:04:31.000 Permanently, but it does help
00:04:33.000 It helps heal the hurt so much
00:04:35.480 And it brought that male energy as well
00:04:38.600 But the issue is it's just a bad deal for guys to be honest to date a single mother
00:04:44.200 But you say that though
00:04:45.400 I could call my stepdad right now and I'll tell you for a fact
00:04:48.200 I know but I'm not talking about you
00:04:49.560 He hit the jackpot
00:04:50.440 Right, I'm not I'm not talking about you. I'm talking about in general
00:04:54.920 I'm a hypocrite on that because I was raised by a single mother
00:04:57.560 My mother to me is an angel, but I wouldn't want to go with a woman who already has a child and that's just no disrespect
00:05:04.680 It's just like yeah for me
00:05:05.800 That makes sense for me
00:05:06.920 I just wouldn't want to do that because it's a lot to take from and there's another man in the situation
00:05:13.320 I don't want to have to deal with that
00:05:15.320 At the same time, I'm a single mom. Yeah, I'm a single mom and in the same time when you want to meet me
00:05:20.760 You already know that I have a child and obviously she will be my number one priority. It doesn't matter
00:05:26.360 No matter what even myself
00:05:28.200 I'm gonna put myself last and that's why it's it's kind of a respect from me is because I'm like
00:05:33.480 I can't yeah, you know
00:05:34.680 I can't make a mistake with a woman who's got a child
00:05:37.560 There's that Jerry Maguire movie where it's like you don't shop the putty like you don't you don't mess around with a woman
00:05:43.560 Who's got a child already you have to treat her with a lot of respect is it is a different day
00:05:47.480 It's a more dangerous situation because people get hurt more well
00:05:50.120 And you're supposed to play and you're supposed to put your
00:05:53.640 What do you disagree with?
00:05:54.760 Yeah, I mean yeah, you have to put a respect and all that but
00:05:59.560 Because I'm a single mom doesn't mean I'm a very weak person. I'm more stronger than ever
00:06:05.320 No, what I mean is because there's a child involved
00:06:07.480 I treat it more seriously than if it's just me and a girl and if our feelings get hurt
00:06:12.600 That's the that's one thing when there's a child involved. That's a whole bigger situation. That's why I wouldn't I agree
00:06:18.360 I would be more. Oh, is this what I want to do? I'd be at the same time if you can be
00:06:23.400 straightforward and at the point and honest and to have an open conversation with me obviously we can agree
00:06:29.720 And if things are not working out, that's completely fine. I'm not going to get upset
00:06:33.160 I'm not going to be depressed because you don't
00:06:35.000 That's Europe and look that's you but like I don't know every girls are strong. Yeah, yeah, of course
00:06:39.160 Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's that's I'm talking just about myself
00:06:42.040 Well, but there's a couple issues because one if they raise in the UK if you raise someone else's kid
00:06:47.800 You have no rights to that kid, so it's like you could bond with the kid for 10 years and you've no rights to it
00:06:52.160 Dude, if you've got your own kid, you've got no rights to it if you're a man
00:06:55.000 Yeah
00:06:55.560 So yeah, at least someone else's kid
00:06:57.560 Right, but at least at least that like your genes are passed on
00:07:00.360 But if you think of it from like a genetic point of view, there's no reason for a guy to date a single mom
00:07:05.160 Yeah, but it's never about the legalities or genetics. It's about how you know it's about the impression you leave on another fellow human being
00:07:11.400 Yeah, I've just told you I've spoken about a stepfather more fondly than I did about my own father
00:07:16.360 That is that that that's worth something surely and I know we're not making it about me, but God
00:07:22.120 Jesus Christ man, someone out there must understand. It's a beautiful thing to raise a child. That's not yours
00:07:27.880 It's and I think that sounds nice again
00:07:30.200 Like it sounds really nice, but you know if you had a son you wouldn't encourage if he had no kids
00:07:34.040 You're not going to encourage him to date a single mom if I met a woman who was beautiful and gave me everything that I wanted
00:07:38.840 But just so happened to have a child you think I'm going to say no because a child is you I think you should
00:07:45.880 I think but I wouldn't be the person I am today if my stepfather didn't take ownership
00:07:49.320 And again, I think that's like great for you
00:07:51.160 And I think you you ended up in a good situation, but I think nowadays it's like
00:07:55.640 You have so much to risk going into relationships as a guy like you have so much to like
00:08:01.000 You don't you might not even understand
00:08:02.440 I just know because I'm doing this documentary in the court system
00:08:05.160 So and it's like you you could spend five years of your time attention and resources and she can leave on a dime
00:08:11.400 I mean, they're already leaving the father of their kids
00:08:14.040 Yeah, like what is this happened to me before I mean the the one of the last relationships I was in
00:08:19.640 With the mother of one of my children
00:08:23.640 She already had three children when I when I first met her we've got a child together
00:08:28.040 Um, but she already had three children three beautiful children. Um, we were in a relationship for you know five years
00:08:35.400 Um in that the time I became somewhat the these children's real father, you know, I mean i'm there with them every day
00:08:42.600 I'm doing the school runs picking them up parents evenings, you know doctor's appointments all those kinds of things and then um
00:08:50.040 Once our relationship had finished
00:08:52.840 I no longer had any rights for those children, you know, I mean I built up this beautiful relationship
00:08:57.880 I look at them no different from my own biological children, you know, I mean they were my child
00:09:02.840 They asked even to this day. They still are my children
00:09:06.360 However, I don't have
00:09:08.360 Was their parent was there that involved over there that like helping or was he around?
00:09:11.560 He's about but he's not about about you know, I mean and and
00:09:15.560 Even the way that he would raise the children would be slightly different from the way that I would raise children, you know, I mean, so
00:09:22.280 We have our differences in that and it everyone is different anyway
00:09:25.960 I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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