JustPearlyThings - March 17, 2023


Every woman is programmed into believing this


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Length

7 minutes

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231.44736

Word count

1,654

Sentence count

170

Harmful content

Misogyny

14

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Hate speech

3

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Summary

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In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and co-host of the dating podcast, to talk about all things dating. We talk about what it s like being a woman in the modern dating world and how it s impacted her dating life in the past and present.

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00:00:00.440 What do you think is, first of all, the women that come to your show, do you think they believe what they're saying? 0.84
00:00:06.140 I think sometimes as women, we don't even, like, realize what we're saying isn't true.
00:00:12.980 You think they have that, like, moment where they're like, did I just, and then they have an awareness?
00:00:16.540 Oh, it's happened to me before.
00:00:17.600 Yeah.
00:00:17.920 Where, okay, I'll say, like, okay, the cheating thing.
00:00:20.920 You know damn well that, like, I just use NBA players because they're so, like, it's just easy to use them as an example.
00:00:26.780 You know damn well that a man in Tiger Woods position, let's use Tiger Woods, even my father, who is a great guy, he would have a hard time, if there was a bus full of models, waiting for him every day.
00:00:38.400 Some guys are nerds.
00:00:39.220 They kind of avoid those situations.
00:00:41.080 But even, you know, and I would say any guy, any guy is going to have a hard time if these girls are sitting at home trying to, you know, his wife mouths off after work. 1.00
00:00:50.840 He's like, you know what, just this one day.
00:00:53.160 And, you know, even me, like, saying that, and, like, an intuitive level, I kind of knew that.
00:00:59.360 But I was like, what?
00:01:00.820 No.
00:01:01.360 My dad doesn't cheat.
00:01:02.760 He got triggered.
00:01:03.560 Triggered.
00:01:03.920 And what is that, do you think?
00:01:05.340 Because I think that happens.
00:01:07.580 It is emotion.
00:01:08.320 Yeah.
00:01:08.500 But there is so much programming that goes on.
00:01:11.520 Like, even, you know, me, I sat here and, you know, my whole career I'm, like, defending masculinity and defending men and do believe in the traditional family.
00:01:18.860 I didn't have a promiscuous past.
00:01:20.060 I never went that route.
00:01:21.120 So I'm sitting here thinking, like, oh, feminism didn't get me. 1.00
00:01:24.260 But then I watched an Andrew Tate video about self-defense and I'm like, you know, so it gets you even if you don't realize it.
00:01:30.040 So I'm wondering, like, how many women have this, like, programming and they don't really realize it. 1.00
00:01:35.040 And it takes, like, a lot of self-reflection, really, to sit back and say, wow, did this really make me happy?
00:01:40.340 Is that good advice?
00:01:41.220 Like, why am I so mad?
00:01:42.560 No, and that was what I had to realize with my volleyball career.
00:01:45.820 I was like, oh, my gosh, that probably was a poor choice.
00:01:48.560 And it's hard because I love volleyball.
00:01:50.800 Like, if I could do anything in life, even before the podcast, I'd be a volleyball player if there was money in women's sports. 1.00
00:01:56.520 Why do you say it was a bad choice then?
00:01:58.120 Because it was, like, I spent, that was all I did.
00:02:00.840 That was all I cared about.
00:02:01.600 And I would say, you know, on the plus side, it avoided, like, a lot of bad situations.
00:02:06.040 Like, I avoided it because I was just, like, volleyball, volleyball, volleyball.
00:02:08.980 But, you know, was it really smart to, like, prioritize that when there's no future in it, you know?
00:02:15.260 Is it hard for you with the values that you have right now to be in the dating world?
00:02:19.420 Like, do you think that women who espouse how you feel about life, do you think they have a hard time, given, you know, how many women are willing to sleep around and do this and do that? 0.99
00:02:30.980 But is it hard?
00:02:34.040 Does it feel challenging for you?
00:02:36.700 I mean, yeah.
00:02:37.340 I think if it wasn't challenging, I'd be married, right?
00:02:39.640 Yeah.
00:02:40.720 I'd have the outcome.
00:02:41.800 I don't know how picky you are.
00:02:42.820 One never does know.
00:02:43.640 You know, you might have that long list like some of the girls here. 1.00
00:02:46.520 I mean, I think.
00:02:48.700 How tall they got to be.
00:02:50.180 Look.
00:02:50.620 I was thinking about this.
00:02:51.720 I was like, being tall, it, like, makes it a lot harder for sure.
00:02:54.840 Dude.
00:02:55.100 Okay.
00:02:55.280 I have to, a moment with the audience, too.
00:02:57.680 Pearl walked in.
00:02:58.600 Now, everyone knows I'm, like, a small person.
00:03:00.520 Like, I'm, I look like, you know, the Wizard of Oz, the Munchkins, that's me.
00:03:03.420 But I walked in, I was like, whoa.
00:03:04.780 You were like, you got, like, supermodel height.
00:03:07.100 Yeah.
00:03:07.660 No.
00:03:08.100 Like, for real.
00:03:08.780 I would say if there's one thing that's held me back in dating, it is the height.
00:03:12.780 I would say.
00:03:13.180 You think so?
00:03:13.600 Oh, my gosh.
00:03:14.320 Yeah.
00:03:14.600 Now, is that because you want a guy taller?
00:03:16.060 It's me.
00:03:16.540 It's me.
00:03:16.900 It's my fault.
00:03:17.420 Yeah.
00:03:17.740 No, I'd actually say I'd go down to, like, 5'10".
00:03:20.400 I'd say, like, an inch or two shorter.
00:03:21.640 Then you wear the heels, though.
00:03:22.740 You're taller.
00:03:23.640 No, that's fine.
00:03:24.420 I don't mind if I'm, like, I'm wearing heels.
00:03:26.160 But I'm just, like, being honest, you know?
00:03:28.360 Yeah.
00:03:28.600 Maybe that's too picky.
00:03:29.840 I don't know.
00:03:30.860 But I would say that's probably, like, if I had to pick one thing, the height, that makes
00:03:35.020 it a lot harder.
00:03:36.060 So what I find when I cover these panels, yours sometimes we showcase here, is that women 0.99
00:03:40.760 are so, they don't realize how picky they are.
00:03:42.960 You know?
00:03:43.160 They'll say, like, oh, I'm not picky.
00:03:44.820 I'm just looking for a nice guy.
00:03:46.000 And then it's, like, the list is a mile long.
00:03:47.660 It's, like, Santa scroll.
00:03:48.640 It unfolds.
00:03:49.280 You got to make a certain amount of money.
00:03:50.340 You got to be this height.
00:03:51.120 You have this car and this house and this job.
00:03:54.600 And so it's just, like, was that always the case?
00:03:58.800 What's gone on that women are so picky? 1.00
00:04:00.920 Or is it just, like, a lack of self-awareness?
00:04:02.880 I mean, I think it's, like, natural to us.
00:04:05.100 Like, we, I mean, if you take our mating strategy down to the roots, it's to get the best possible
00:04:08.660 mate.
00:04:09.460 Actually, I don't mind women being picky. 1.00
00:04:11.400 I just think it's, like, do you deserve it?
00:04:13.380 Right.
00:04:13.860 Yeah.
00:04:14.460 Well, that's it.
00:04:14.840 What are you bringing to the table?
00:04:15.480 You're 250 pounds, Rebecca. 0.92
00:04:17.340 You're 250 pounds.
00:04:18.920 What do you mean you mean a guy that makes six figures?
00:04:21.640 Right.
00:04:21.940 You're 250.
00:04:22.860 And then they get to the 300 ones.
00:04:24.720 They're even more picky.
00:04:25.900 Yeah.
00:04:26.040 It's like, what?
00:04:27.080 Yeah.
00:04:27.400 I saw you had an exchange with somebody that wanted, I don't remember what the ring was.
00:04:32.560 The cost was astronomical.
00:04:34.460 Oh, my God.
00:04:34.940 That was a red pill moment for me.
00:04:36.700 That was early.
00:04:37.620 That was early.
00:04:38.180 That was before the channel took off.
00:04:39.720 I did it.
00:04:40.100 I covered it.
00:04:40.480 I couldn't believe it.
00:04:41.060 I found it.
00:04:41.480 I said, she was talking like she deserved.
00:04:43.360 And I'm always, like, you know, what do you bring to the table as a female?
00:04:47.600 I say, like, to women, you can't just demand all this stuff and then say, well, you know, 0.87
00:04:51.720 I give this.
00:04:53.160 You know, what does that mean?
00:04:54.680 You know, what do you bring into a guy?
00:04:56.540 And then if you ask them, you know, hey, do you want to keep a nice home?
00:04:59.200 They get insulted.
00:05:00.000 Or, hey, do you, you know, maybe you're a little overweight.
00:05:02.260 Do you care about it?
00:05:02.820 You can't say that.
00:05:03.640 You can't ask them to step up in any way, it seems.
00:05:06.980 Why?
00:05:08.420 Oh, gosh.
00:05:09.000 Well, I just think, like, from a young age, we've been told that we're princesses and queens
00:05:12.660 and we deserve to be treated like that.
00:05:14.420 That's true.
00:05:14.820 You're an average chick. 1.00
00:05:15.840 Why do you deserve to be treated like that?
00:05:18.900 You slept with the whole football team.
00:05:20.400 Why on earth would he treat you like a queen?
00:05:23.840 And so it's like, yeah, I just think from a young age, well-meaning fathers oftentimes,
00:05:29.640 like, diluted our standards.
00:05:31.020 I haven't seen it in the church.
00:05:32.400 Oh, my gosh.
00:05:32.800 Are you religious?
00:05:33.860 I'm Catholic.
00:05:34.240 I went to Catholic school.
00:05:34.880 Oh, my gosh.
00:05:35.180 Me, too.
00:05:36.060 Okay.
00:05:36.360 Okay.
00:05:36.560 I need to know if we had the same Catholic school.
00:05:39.660 Experience.
00:05:40.180 Okay.
00:05:40.380 Let's go.
00:05:40.820 Because I've always been Pearl.
00:05:42.020 You know, I've been maybe more a blue-pilled Pearl.
00:05:45.620 Right.
00:05:46.200 But I've always had opinions.
00:05:47.860 And I remember thinking, okay, in the Catholic, did you have chastity speakers?
00:05:52.660 No.
00:05:53.200 Oh, you didn't have that?
00:05:54.280 Chastity speakers.
00:05:54.600 Oh, yeah, yeah.
00:05:55.480 Okay, okay.
00:05:55.840 This is just a Pearl experience.
00:05:57.280 So they bring in, you know how there's, like, sex ed in public schools?
00:06:00.620 Yeah.
00:06:01.000 We didn't have sex ed.
00:06:01.800 We had chastity speakers. 0.79
00:06:02.920 That's why when everyone's like, we need sex ed.
00:06:04.640 And I'm like, okay, I didn't do shit in high school.
00:06:06.760 So I don't know what, like, I didn't need sex ed.
00:06:09.740 You're like, you need chastity speakers, actually.
00:06:11.580 Yeah, yeah.
00:06:12.400 But I remember there was, like, a guy and a girl that came in.
00:06:14.640 It's, like, Cristiniana or something, and Jason Everett.
00:06:17.080 Chat can find it.
00:06:18.200 And they came in.
00:06:20.060 It's, like, the girl that's been ran through, okay, and her husband that was the virgin 0.71
00:06:24.000 until he was married.
00:06:24.980 When you're red pill, you're like, oh, my God.
00:06:27.180 And it's, like, you know.
00:06:28.960 You can't even absorb that.
00:06:29.880 You can't.
00:06:30.320 Yeah.
00:06:30.540 And so she would talk about she was so broke.
00:06:32.060 Like, it was the same message, right?
00:06:33.420 And I appreciate that.
00:06:34.280 Same message.
00:06:34.880 But the message in the church is, like, they, at the end of the day, there will be a prince
00:06:39.240 waiting for you no matter what you do.
00:06:41.400 No matter what you do.
00:06:43.080 And that's why I was, like, when the guys are, like, the girls are worse in the church.
00:06:46.140 I'm, like, well, this is why.
00:06:47.540 Yeah.
00:06:48.080 Because they say at the end of your whatever, there'll still be a guy waiting for you.
00:06:52.280 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok, and we are demonetized on a daily basis on
00:06:59.140 this platform.
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