00:05:19.480So to a biological level, it's important for men to feel like they are responsible.
00:05:25.940And I feel like the generation that we're in now were selling a false dream to people, making them feel like, oh, you don't have to be as responsible.
00:05:33.340You can just relax like the girls, just relax like everyone else.
00:05:36.680And you see that, I think that biological component of, I have to feel responsible.
00:05:41.520You know how powerful it is to feel that you can look your father's funeral in the face and say, my emotions don't matter.
00:05:51.740And that comes down to your wiring as a person.
00:05:55.200Cause like, no matter, like I've got sisters, I've got like, you know, I have a mother, I have auntie, so on and so forth.
00:06:01.480I don't expect them to have the ability to just handle my father's death or to be able to just take over things and just move forward like nothing's happened.
00:06:09.540But us as men, we don't have, not to say that we don't have the choice, but we're wired to be able to do that the same way a woman is wired to able to handle that child a lot better than some fathers can.
00:06:20.220Burdens are made for shoulders, not hips.
00:06:47.000I guess, you know, watching that, what, what Tate really stands against is this emotionalism that affects not only women, but also guys, you know, guys are also, and, and, and, and he's saying, no, you need to be stoic.
00:07:01.620You need to take a step back and you need to not live in your feelings because sometimes you, you need to step up to the plate.
00:07:06.780And by the way, again, you know, I, you know, great condolences for, for what you, for what you shared about, but that was a very, very moving and very profound actually thing that you shared.
00:07:16.980And then I think the reality of the situation is too, I think your father would have no other way, no other way, no other way.
00:07:23.280Like, because, because if you, if the roles were reversed, he would do the exact same thing.
00:07:55.140There's a level of systematic stuff that happened, you know, through decades, but there's an element of ultimately as men, we are responsible for that community.
00:08:06.480So if stuff is not going right, it's because we're not doing what we need to do and take responsibility and putting the boundaries here, stepping up to plate here, et cetera, et cetera.
00:08:14.980Like just personally for me, like I could never donate my sperm to a sperm bank because any child of mine is my responsibility.