In this episode, we are joined by a very special guest who grew up in a very religious household. She shares her story of how she was raised in a religious household and how she managed to break out of it and become a successful Muslim woman. She also shares her experience of living with her family and how it has shaped her into the woman she is today.
00:03:20.980I'm curious because I've noticed in Christian churches, they're kind of driving men out where there's not a lot of young men in Christian churches anymore.
00:03:28.520It's like, if you look at them, like, if you go into a church under like, I don't know, 35 ish, it's mostly women.
00:03:35.480And I'm curious, is, are there more young men in like Muslim religions?
00:03:40.300From what I'm seeing now, there's a lot of converts.
00:03:42.820I feel like there's, there is more happening now.
00:03:46.800So, yeah, I think there's, there's loads of men in the mosques.
00:03:50.900Yeah, because I think it's one of the few religions that, that keeps traditional masculinity where the Christians are kind of, they're kind of gone.
00:03:58.480Yeah, because back in the days, it was, it was so similar, but now people are trying to make it so modern.
00:04:04.520And it's like, you can't pick and choose.
00:05:37.680I feel like, for me personally, I feel like a person's ability to maintain a relationship goes to show just how good of a person that they are.
00:05:47.400It shows their compatibility, it shows their patience, and it also mirrors how a person can value them as well.
00:05:53.700So for me, I think relationship is the best way to measure.
00:05:56.800So, for example, if I saw a woman and she was 50 with six cats, I would think there's something really wrong with that woman.
00:06:58.520I definitely agree with you in the sense that like if you marry the wrong person and that definitely means you're average because how could you be so silly to not realize what's best for you?
00:07:06.420So in that case, but let's be real, there's a lot of marriages that have worked out.
00:07:09.940And for those that have worked out, I definitely think they are above average because your ability to keep someone happy, to be patient, to be compatible, to provide for them.
00:07:19.120Like for me, when I think of above average, I think of someone who's nurturing, someone that can cook, someone that...
00:07:24.720And when you package that, that's basically wifey material.
00:07:27.340Traditional, traditional women get scooped up by 25.
00:07:29.980The best women are gone by 25 out of the dating market because the best women want a family and want kids.
00:07:35.280And they find the men that want a family and want kids and they're gone.
00:07:38.360If I could get married tomorrow, I'll absolutely win.
00:08:37.440I think what I was trying to say is if you're in a healthy marriage, I'm not going to sit here and say if a guy just chose you because he wanted to settle.
00:08:43.860No, there's definitely some circumstances where there's people that are married and they are below average because, again, they're abusive or the guy has settled or whatever.
00:08:51.640But for the healthy marriages, and there is a lot of healthy marriages, it definitely goes to show your ability to be an above average person.
00:08:59.880And another thing I realized, I feel like a lot of people focus too much on the negatives.
00:09:03.060I feel like the negative situations of abusive partners and whatever, they're like a small percentage of things.
00:09:07.880I think women are more abusive than men in 2023.
00:09:10.680I think there's more women that hit men than men that hit women.
00:09:17.440Because women hit men when they're angry and when they're having arguments and they do like pushing and shabbing, but the men just don't retaliate.
00:09:23.140So the thing is, as well, for a man, do you know how degrading it is to bring up that your woman has hit you?
00:09:59.100And even if you are like an average woman, I think what we need to understand, like, it's actually okay to be average.
00:10:04.640That basically just means you're a working person.
00:10:06.820So for everyone here, he's probably like single.
00:10:08.560Or this is not me trying to say that there's like something wrong with you.
00:10:11.620You're probably still a work in progress just like me.
00:10:13.920And I think that's something like us as people need to learn to admit a little bit rather than just having this mindset of, okay, I'm a cat today.
00:10:21.080So now I'm going to be a cat or I'm a dog.
00:10:22.880Like, let's, you can be realistic in the present.
00:10:25.140So, yeah, to answer that question, because I was kind of waffling, I'm definitely average.
00:10:29.140Yeah, but I think, you know, when you said about like we focus on the negative, like for me personally, like someone might say, oh, you focus on the negative because I'm not like
00:10:37.880definitely keen to get married and have kids right now.
00:10:40.900And I've always been that girl that's like, live your life, travel, do what you want, like to all my friends, to women, young girls that I meet.
00:10:47.280I'm like, I'm very much an advocate for that.
00:10:49.400And then people may think, oh, it's because you've never had a healthy relationship in your life or you've not got that example.
00:10:54.320Actually, no, my parents have been together since they were 16 and they're married and I live with them.
00:10:58.800So I have had the best example, actually, but I have the most realistic example as well.
00:11:48.660You know, I think I'd want to be the one that takes her on that experience.
00:11:51.920So she experiences with me for the first time.
00:11:54.000So you think that's a below average mindset?
00:11:56.740I'm still going to stand on my point because I still don't disagree with all of you.
00:12:01.160No, I'm just telling you how men see it.
00:12:03.040And like men see if you traveling around, men see that as you're sleeping around.
00:12:07.400Like men, it's like, no, so men see it if you're in a different, in all these different cities that you're riding something in all these different cities.