JustPearlyThings - July 04, 2023


Evil Baby Mama Kept This Secret From Her Man


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

202.89545

Word Count

1,892

Sentence Count

105

Misogynist Sentences

5

Hate Speech Sentences

3


Summary

In this episode, we speak with Harrison Tinsley, who is fighting for his son, Sawyer, who was indoctrinated by his mother. He shares his experience with the court system and the indoctrination he went through.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 series. Today we have a special guest and we wanted to speak about your experience with the
00:00:04.780 court system and the indoctrination that's gone on with your son. So do you want to give a little
00:00:11.340 intro to the people? Yeah, my name is Harrison Tinsley. I'm fighting for my son Sawyer. I want
00:00:16.620 nothing more than him to be happy with who he is and I think that all children should be able to
00:00:21.040 be happy with who they are and we shouldn't be pushing any ideology on them. What got you into
00:00:26.040 this? Like how did this start for you? Into custody or yeah well I was dating my girlfriend at the time
00:00:31.980 and shortly after we started dating she got pregnant and we were both happy about that
00:00:37.540 fact which is wonderful and so about halfway through her pregnancy she has some mental illness
00:00:43.580 problems and essentially kind of a hostile environment constant threats of me not being
00:00:48.120 able to see my son if I wasn't exactly who she wanted me to be essentially. Really? Like what?
00:00:53.580 Like if I don't protest for a left-wing cause like oh wow you won't yeah so she was trying to what
00:01:00.820 what type of organizations? It wasn't specific it was just little conversations and things like that
00:01:06.320 or transgender issues as well. Wow so she was saying that if you didn't protest or like get involved in
00:01:12.560 leftist ideology type stuff that she wouldn't let you see your son? Like different threats but yeah.
00:01:17.800 Wow okay so what happened next? Basically she demanded that I get us couples counseling
00:01:25.180 so which I was apprehensive at first and I finally did because I was like I want to see my son
00:01:30.100 and then I got couples counseling she bailed on going. Did it a second time she bailed again and
00:01:37.080 after that second time I got like a cease and desist from her attorney basically saying like oh don't talk to
00:01:43.020 me or my family etc. And yeah. How old was your son at this point? No this is just her being pregnant.
00:01:51.880 Oh. We've talked about so far. Oh shoot so there wasn't even a child at this point. No yeah. Okay so
00:01:57.480 she's pregnant and then you receive a cease and desist letter from her. Yeah yeah probably from her
00:02:02.360 attorney and essentially I just waited a few months. I remember my son's due date but I wasn't there for
00:02:10.440 the birth which was really sad just because I hear like these crazy stories about people that are like
00:02:14.660 green berets and rock stars and they're like oh the best day of my life is the day my kid was born.
00:02:21.020 Wow so she didn't even let you there be there when he was born? No yeah. Wow. It was it was sad I
00:02:28.120 found out like a week later one of her friends sent it sent me like a social media post. You weren't even
00:02:32.780 told? Not told at all yeah. Okay so you find out you have a son then what happens? Well I knew I was
00:02:40.020 gonna have a son because we'd gone to the doctor together and stuff. We agreed upon his name Sawyer
00:02:44.980 which was like the one thing we ever agreed on which is cool. Basically I tried to figure out what
00:02:50.640 to do in that situation because that's not something that's like common knowledge you'd know what to do.
00:02:54.300 I went to like a self-help center in San Francisco court and they helped me file stuff to basically
00:03:00.080 establish paternity and then try to get visitation rights. Okay. But it took a very long time. Okay what was
00:03:07.100 that process like? You file all this paperwork they help you do it right then and there it takes a few
00:03:13.960 hours and then basically you file it all they have a certain amount of time to respond. If they don't
00:03:20.320 respond that amount of time you win by default which that actually happened so I actually should have won
00:03:25.380 by default because they took so long to respond but because of COVID. What's the time period? It's usually
00:03:31.480 like 60 days or something I don't recall that exact one. Okay. There's different timelines for different
00:03:36.620 requests but basically filed all this stuff. They didn't respond but it was because COVID happened
00:03:44.000 right then so they got extra time and then essentially I filed in court two months after he
00:03:49.080 was born and it took 13 more months after that and I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.
00:03:53.820 Wow. Yeah. This is during this time were you telling her you wanted to see your son you
00:03:58.640 wanted to meet him? Well I wasn't talking to her because I wanted to avoid legal trouble because
00:04:01.920 the cease and desist letter and stuff. Right. So I was just our attorneys were in communication trying
00:04:07.420 to have me see him and she just made impossible reasons why I couldn't with COVID or different
00:04:13.280 things. And what what were like the reasons she gave like because you know they'll always say like
00:04:19.600 what's her reasoning for doing this? Right. Well I can't speak for her but I mean COVID was one of the
00:04:26.160 excuses they used as well as she made up false allegations against me. That was something that
00:04:30.860 happened. What type of allegations? She was calling me like a domestic abuser essentially calling me
00:04:37.600 the R word. Wow. With no truth to it at all. That's the crazy thing. I've seen that so many times in
00:04:44.280 these interviews where it's like these girls will just throw out these accusations at guys
00:04:51.340 with just so they can't see their kids. And it's crazy because so many of you like are fighting
00:04:56.680 trying to be in your kid's life but they keep throwing these accusations at you. Yeah it happens
00:05:00.980 extremely it's really common in family court unfortunately. I saw like a Michigan study it
00:05:05.520 was something like 72 percent of girls make up lies when there's a custody or a divorce thing. 72 percent?
00:05:11.420 It was just one Michigan study but yeah basically the majority. And I wonder if like attorneys tell them
00:05:16.400 to do this or how and like they all feed off of it each other or how it happens but it's really sad.
00:05:22.240 In the UK I think the women's shelters do. Like the women's because they're very much indoctrinated
00:05:27.300 with like the leftist propaganda. That's that's my opinion. Were there any consequences for her doing
00:05:33.300 this not letting you see your son for a year and a half? The judge said it was a shame on our first
00:05:38.460 hearing but that was there was no actual consequences no. What happened next? Did you get custody? How did it go?
00:05:44.560 So what happened is I got the right to meet him and it actually had to be supervised at first which
00:05:48.840 was extremely unpleasant. Not professionally supervised but it would be like supervised by
00:05:53.260 like her parents or whoever and they made it extremely uncomfortable. But I remember one time
00:05:58.980 my sister because I would bring my sister or mom with me and stuff in case they tried to lie about me
00:06:03.020 and my sister caught her dad who like let us go ahead one time in San Francisco and he stayed back.
00:06:11.860 Like he I want to say he smoked a cigarette or something and then my sister caught him like
00:06:15.440 in the bushes trying to like watch us from the bushes and she even got pictures and we sent it
00:06:19.660 to the court and everything. So it was just they made it really uncomfortable but it was still
00:06:24.020 obviously incredible to finally meet my son and start bonding. Well and why why did they have to be
00:06:29.880 supervised? Was it because of the allegations? Well the judge didn't buy into the allegations that
00:06:34.420 much because she's like said no to professional ones. She was just like just to make sure it's
00:06:39.980 someone that the kid's familiar with to make sure it goes well basically. At least that's how they
00:06:44.780 worded it. Okay. No because that's what I've heard like they'll say that like the issue with
00:06:51.940 getting custody or something like in this case visitation is that the kid's not comfortable with
00:06:56.940 you. But the only reason the kid's not comfortable with you is because the mom hasn't let you seen
00:07:01.420 them in a year, year and a half, whatever it is. Right. And it doesn't seem like there's any
00:07:05.120 consequence for that. Yeah not not that I know of. I mean I know that false allegations in court
00:07:10.100 at least in family court in California can end up in a parent losing custody that made up the false
00:07:15.520 accusations. Wow that's great. I think it's rare but it is a rule. I mean because I feel that I did that
00:07:22.600 exact thing on the last trial we had and the judge kept custody the same. So what happened next?
00:07:28.980 Okay so I have these supervised visits and then I start getting instead of one day it would be like
00:07:34.160 two days in a row unsupervised but not overnight and then the judge basically hinted at during the
00:07:40.160 hearing like oh if you move to the Bay Area because I was in Tahoe you could perhaps get custody. So I
00:07:47.520 moved to the Bay Area and I filed for custody. I actually ended up winning half custody which was
00:07:52.800 amazing. Wow. Yeah. You're the only person I've interviewed that's gotten half custody. Yeah I
00:07:58.300 mean maybe that that's part of repercussions for making stuff up or or I'm just lucky but
00:08:03.900 yeah right now I've had half custody for well over a year. It's it's been incredible. So how how far did
00:08:10.840 you move? From Lake Tahoe to the Bay Area so like four hours. Wow so you moved four hours to get custody of
00:08:18.180 your son. That's amazing. Yeah. That's amazing. Thank you. He's easily worth it. I would do a lot
00:08:23.320 more than four hours. Yeah. Yeah. No but it's it's like we have this narrative in the media that men
00:08:29.020 are these deadbeat dads that don't want custody of their sons or daughters and they don't want to be
00:08:34.180 in their lives and it's like I talked to father after father like you're willing to move four hours
00:08:38.600 to maybe get custody of your son. Right. Maybe. You didn't even know if you would. Correct yeah. I think it's
00:08:44.080 a totally false narrative. I don't buy it at all. I talked to lots of fathers as well. Seems to me
00:08:49.120 like they're all wanting to be part of their kids lives and it's so sad that a lot of them aren't I
00:08:52.740 mean like 27% of dads don't even get to see their kids regardless of if they're winning. Dads only win
00:08:58.640 custody 18% of the time as opposed to 82 for moms and I think it's a real tragedy in society and we're
00:09:05.540 seeing the effects of it like 90% of homeless people and arsonists are from fatherless homes.
00:09:10.440 Majority of you know people in prison and drug addicts and all these horribly sad things
00:09:16.100 come from fatherless homes. So I really think it's important.