JustPearlyThings - October 11, 2023


Ex-Wife REGRETS Divorcing Husband And Wants Him Back


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11 minutes

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175.19376

Word count

1,929

Sentence count

125

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Misogyny

16

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Toxicity

1

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Hate speech

6

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In this episode, we look at a reddit story from a gentleman who is dealing with his ex-wife who wants him to be with her in her last days. He asks for advice on what to do and how to handle this situation.

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00:00:00.000 So to close today's episode we're going to be looking at a reddit story. I had my first
00:00:05.360 experience on paldaily last week and pal read me a reddit story for which I was quite shocked by
00:00:14.400 to say the least. I have no idea what the team have pulled together for me today so I'm just
00:00:20.400 gonna read it and we will tackle it together as it comes. So the gentleman writing this story
00:00:28.400 is 40 years old male and he is saying that his ex-wife 40 female wants me to be with her in her
00:00:36.000 last days. Okay here's the story. I met my ex when we were both 10. She was is my twin sister's best
00:00:45.440 friend so we've always been kind of a trio growing up. We started dating at 14 and got married at 23.
00:00:52.480 Things got ugly because five years after getting married she told me she had a month-long affair
00:00:57.040 with her co-worker. Apparently the guilt was too much for her so she confessed. We tried to work
00:01:03.280 through it but after a few months of trying she knew that despite the fact that I loved her I
00:01:08.080 couldn't trust her anymore. She told me she still loved me and that she'd wait for me and prove that 0.81
00:01:13.040 I was the only one. I wanted to believe her but you know some things just can't be fixed. We never had
00:01:19.040 kids. Three years after the divorce I met my now wife 38 female. We got married two years after dating.
00:01:26.480 She's everything I could ever dream of in a wife and more. My ex as my sister told me they're still
00:01:31.520 besties never really recovered. She quit her job and is now working in a church. Throughout my
00:01:37.840 relationship with my wife she kept trying to get back together and on the day of my wedding she told 0.91
00:01:42.560 me she still loved me and would love no one else. She said that this was the last time she would bother me
00:01:48.000 but that she'll wait for however long it took. Apparently she's honest in that regard. At least
00:01:52.640 because my sister says she's never been with anyone since. So here's what happened recently.
00:01:58.000 My wife and I, married for seven years now, have two kids, seven female and three male. My sister
00:02:04.160 came over with her own kids so the cousins could play. While my wife was out to pick up lunch my 0.98
00:02:09.040 sister sat me down and told me the situation about my ex. Apparently she has less than six months to
00:02:14.080 live. She refused treatment and wants to live the last few months to the fullest. I guess that's 0.81
00:02:19.200 why her and my sister really went out of their way to travel despite the pandemic.
00:02:23.920 One thing on her bucket list though was that she wanted to feel like my wife again. No sex, 1.00
00:02:28.480 no kissing, she just wanted me to be around the house. She still lives in the house we lived in
00:02:32.480 again and maybe hold her from time to time. Any advice? What should I do?
00:02:41.840 I mean, wow. Wow. Look.
00:02:49.600 You've got a new life. This woman has nothing to offer you. She didn't give you children. It sounds like 1.00
00:02:58.000 she did nothing but break your trust and give you a bunch of shit. She's been harassing you 1.00
00:03:03.680 ever since you guys called off the relationship. Why should you do anything for her? I'm sorry,
00:03:10.880 I understand this woman has numbered days and it might sound a bit harsh but...
00:03:17.280 Why? You don't owe this woman anything. You gave this woman your hand in marriage and 0.99
00:03:25.680 she betrayed that. She betrayed your trust. She chose to ruin what you guys had. 1.00
00:03:32.640 I think it's a shame that he's even on Reddit asking for advice about this.
00:03:37.280 I think maybe perhaps because they were so young, they were 10 when they got together.
00:03:42.160 Obviously there's links there to his twin sister. You know, maybe he feels like he has some kind of
00:03:49.440 connection to her, if not emotionally, at least through association. I don't know. But if I was
00:03:55.840 the now wife, I would be fuming. I would be very, very unhappy. And look, it's ultimately down to him
00:04:06.000 what he wants to do with this. But I think he needs to leave her behind, unfortunately. It seems like,
00:04:13.680 and we see this time and time again, this woman has made a bad decision and she can't accept the
00:04:18.640 fact that she's the one that's made that bad decision. She's trying to make him, the ex-husband,
00:04:25.760 she's trying to make him the answer to her problems. You can see that she doesn't learn from her mistakes
00:04:30.960 because even now she quit her job and is now working in a church. Powell discusses this a lot where you
00:04:38.640 see women often turn to religion after things go really, really wrong for them. And it's almost
00:04:44.880 like they're outsourcing their guilt for their own bad decisions. And they're like, oh, well,
00:04:49.120 God will forgive me or Jesus will forgive me or whatever that may look like to them.
00:04:55.440 I just think it's a bit rich that she thinks she can just come into this man's life when they have
00:05:01.600 children as well, fairly young children, a seven year old and a three year old, and expect
00:05:07.680 this now father and new husband to play husband with her just because unfortunately, and it is
00:05:16.240 unfortunate, she has numbered days. That's not his responsibility. He doesn't owe you anything.
00:05:24.320 And the fact that she's even entitled enough to think that this is even a reasonable request just
00:05:30.960 shows you the mentality of this type of woman. She's entitled. She thinks, well, I'm dying so I can guilt 1.00
00:05:39.040 him into giving me what I want. No, I'm sorry, but no, this is this is reality and reality is harsh.
00:05:46.720 Just because you are dying doesn't mean he owes you anything. And I know that sounds really nasty and
00:05:51.600 really horrible, but it's the truth. That's what it is. No sex, no kissing. She just wanted me to be
00:06:00.720 around the house and maybe hold her from time to time. There's always that extra little clause,
00:06:06.720 isn't there? Maybe hold her from time to time. We know what she's really up to. She wants to get
00:06:13.120 close so that you can maybe hold her and then oh, maybe you just accidentally kiss and then oh,
00:06:18.880 maybe she can die knowing that she split up what you've now got so that she can remain victorious, 0.92
00:06:25.840 knowing that she was only really the one for you. No, I see sinister,
00:06:31.280 narcissistic traits in this woman just from this story. I'm aware I'm reading the story from one 0.74
00:06:37.040 perspective and I haven't got all of the facts, but look, I think this is appalling. I think she 0.65
00:06:43.760 should be very, very ashamed of herself and unfortunately she gets no sympathy from me
00:06:49.120 just because of her current situation. The history is there. It's guilt tripping. It's
00:06:57.120 it's narcissistic. It's putting herself on a pedestal and failing to acknowledge her own mistakes in her
00:07:04.560 life and it's lack of accountability for her own decisions that she's brought upon herself and she's 1.00
00:07:10.480 now trying to utilize her current unfortunate situation as a way to manipulate her husband 1.00
00:07:18.720 and her father into turning his back on his family and giving her the attention that she craves.
00:07:24.320 Don't do it, dude. Don't give her what she wants. She needs to learn her lesson, however that may be,
00:07:33.520 as harsh as it may sound.
00:07:37.760 So yeah, I mean, I'm not really... I want to say I'm shocked, but I'm not that shocked. She has numbered
00:07:48.320 days. Hopefully in her last days she can find some kind of peace in acknowledging that no one else is
00:07:55.840 responsible for her life other than herself and there is great peace to be found in that awareness.
00:08:00.800 As hard as it may be the initial realization, there is definitely peace to be found in taking
00:08:06.160 responsibility for your own life because look, if you're responsible for your life, you're essentially
00:08:11.680 in control of a lot of things. Whereas if you blame the world for your problems, you blame everyone
00:08:15.760 else for things, then that ultimately puts your life in their hands. And why would you want to do that?
00:08:22.720 I don't know. Why don't you let me know in the comments what you think of that? I hope you guys
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