JustPearlyThings - December 29, 2022


Fact About Men That Women NEED To Hear


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8 minutes

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1,967

Sentence count

176

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Misogyny

25

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In this episode, we talk about monogamy and what it means to be a "monogamous" in the modern dating world. What does it mean to be monogamous, and why does it matter to you?

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00:00:00.000 Be monogamous with a low-value man or share a high-value man?
00:00:03.600 Well, look at society and you tell me.
00:00:05.900 Monogamous.
00:00:06.500 Ask me.
00:00:07.200 Wait, so let's ask the single ladies. 1.00
00:00:10.240 What would you prefer?
00:00:11.340 I would prefer someone who's monogamous. 1.00
00:00:13.040 I left a situation where I got the Bentley,
00:00:15.040 I had all that, I had the kids, I had that.
00:00:16.760 That was great.
00:00:17.760 I want a companion.
00:00:19.260 I want real love.
00:00:20.860 And to me, what monogamy means to me
00:00:23.460 is someone who's committed to themselves.
00:00:25.560 That's like, the answer is within you.
00:00:27.600 And to be honest, I feel like, again,
00:00:29.860 sex has been lost in translation and what it means.
00:00:32.660 I don't care, man or female. 1.00
00:00:34.260 It's been lost.
00:00:35.360 It's so sacred.
00:00:36.460 So for me, I have kind of taken those blinders off
00:00:39.900 where I'm like, OK, he has to be here.
00:00:41.900 I'm OK with dating the trainer in Austin, Texas.
00:00:44.600 That's just where I'm at.
00:00:45.600 Like, I don't need a certain thing because I know what I'm wanting.
00:00:48.920 Most guys in that percentage are not going to give me.
00:00:51.620 So I would rather have a monogamous man 0.88
00:00:54.720 than someone who can do whatever.
00:00:56.760 Oh, wait, so you think the personal trainer
00:00:59.220 is going to be monogamous?
00:01:01.220 They're like known for cheating, no?
00:01:02.720 Well, I mean, here's my thing.
00:01:04.620 Like, I get it.
00:01:05.520 Like, I don't generalize people because I'm
00:01:07.920 one of the most misunderstood people online as well.
00:01:11.060 And I feel like there's a lot more to me.
00:01:12.960 And I don't like to just put everyone in a box.
00:01:14.960 I'd like to get to know people.
00:01:16.080 So no, I'm not going to just say, oh,
00:01:17.580 of course he's going to cheat on me.
00:01:18.580 Like, no.
00:01:19.380 OK, OK.
00:01:20.280 Would you take a guy that makes $35,000 a year
00:01:22.680 and had a dad bod monogamous?
00:01:23.980 Had a dad bod?
00:01:24.880 Yeah, dad bod.
00:01:25.780 I feel like for me, I would want someone who.
00:01:28.680 Sorry, go ahead, go ahead, go ahead.
00:01:29.780 OK.
00:01:31.280 I pour into myself.
00:01:32.780 And I'm accountable for my shit.
00:01:34.180 I'm aware of what I got going on.
00:01:35.820 I'm not going to have a mom bod.
00:01:38.720 I'm in the gym.
00:01:39.620 I had a baby a year and a half ago.
00:01:41.020 I'm in the gym four to five times a week.
00:01:42.640 So I would want someone who can match at least the work ethic.
00:01:46.640 Now, when it comes to money, I know for me, I want to be able to.
00:01:50.180 I do not want to rely on a man. 1.00
00:01:51.780 I have literally done that before, it didn't pan out in my favor.
00:01:55.080 OK, because what happens is you get the rug ripped from under you.
00:01:56.980 And then now you fucking get out, bitch. 1.00
00:01:58.280 Give me the motherfucking keys.
00:01:59.380 It isn't that.
00:02:00.780 So for me, the lifestyle I want, I am responsible for.
00:02:04.220 So I don't look for a man to make X amount of dollars,
00:02:06.920 because anything that I want, I'm going to get myself.
00:02:09.540 Well, because in my head, I feel like a guy is just as likely to cheat
00:02:13.240 if he's in the top 20% of, like, looks.
00:02:16.840 Just as likely as money.
00:02:18.340 You know what I'm saying?
00:02:19.340 Let me ask a quick question, just so.
00:02:21.880 I can clarify something, because I understand your points.
00:02:24.580 You're saying you want a partner, a life partner.
00:02:26.880 Are you sure?
00:02:28.080 And I'm not accusing.
00:02:29.180 I'm genuinely asking.
00:02:30.180 Are you sure you're not confusing the amount of time the man spends
00:02:34.020 with you with his monogamy?
00:02:35.220 Because there are different things.
00:02:36.220 Because what happens a lot of the time, if a man's out here chasing
00:02:38.360 chicks, he's barely home.
00:02:40.040 But imagine you had a man who was home seven nights a week.
00:02:42.440 He was always home.
00:02:43.340 I'm talking about like an hour, like during his work lunch,
00:02:46.140 you don't even notice.
00:02:47.680 Then would you even give a shit about monogamy? 0.64
00:02:49.440 If you had all of his time effectively, would you really care?
00:02:52.040 I still would care, because I feel like it's still just an hour a day,
00:02:56.440 and it's not really quality time.
00:02:58.080 I feel I really have been in so many different situations.
00:03:00.840 Again, the trainer in Austin to the NBA player, baby daddy.
00:03:03.660 Like, I have seen all of that stuff.
00:03:05.660 And it's just my personal experience and perspective to where I want someone
00:03:09.620 that sees the value in the Grand Canyon.
00:03:11.220 I want somebody who...
00:03:12.360 I understand.
00:03:12.820 Okay, so that's a good point.
00:03:14.020 And just ask the first question.
00:03:15.460 I'm going to ask the second question.
00:03:16.860 The realization you've come to is an interesting one.
00:03:20.160 It is something that happens, especially to females as they mature. 1.00
00:03:24.460 Don't you think it's strange?
00:03:25.760 Or why do you think that zero women on earth choose those kind of men who they 1.00
00:03:31.080 perhaps have slightly lower status, but are more likely to be loyal to them and be
00:03:35.920 monogamous, et cetera?
00:03:36.520 In the modern world, because like I said, the world's changed, why do you think zero
00:03:40.020 women choose them when they're at the peak of their choices? 1.00
00:03:42.320 So when a woman is 19 and she can go anywhere she wants, every man wants her. 0.98
00:03:46.960 She can go on any yacht in Miami.
00:03:49.360 She can get flown out to Dubai when she has all the choices in the world.
00:03:52.460 Why is she completely uninterested in those kind of men?
00:03:55.680 And then when she gets to a certain age of maturity and all, there's a whole new
00:03:58.680 generation of girls who have all the choices, then they sit there and go, you know what? 1.00
00:04:02.780 I deserve monogamy and data.
00:04:05.220 And they all of a sudden want to grow up and mature.
00:04:07.180 Why don't, does, why does no woman decide that when she actually is at her most valuable? 1.00
00:04:10.760 I feel like for, like I said, I don't like to speak for all women.
00:04:13.440 I just speak for myself, but I know for me that I was looking for a man for a lifestyle,
00:04:17.880 something that I was not able to do individually by myself.
00:04:21.040 So that's why it's like, well, yeah, I want to be able to do this, do that.
00:04:23.640 I want to go for the football player that was just on GQ.
00:04:26.080 And in reality now I realize, well, okay, there's a lot that comes with that.
00:04:29.540 I can make my own money.
00:04:30.320 I don't necessarily need that type of guy for the happiness that I'm looking for.
00:04:34.920 Again, seeing without you in the Grand Canyon is a lot different than like, okay, here's money for this.
00:04:39.740 Here's allowance for that.
00:04:40.820 And that's the same thing as you're asking why a man that is 20, 21, 23 is not a top G, like a 30, 40 year old man.
00:04:47.860 Your age actually dictates your sort of maturity to a large extent.
00:04:51.800 Well, I'm arguing the point.
00:04:52.980 The point I'm trying to make is that what I actually think happens, especially in the modern world, because the modern world's all fucked up and nothing's the way it's supposed to be.
00:05:00.360 The traditional life path of a female is she's 17, she's 18, she's 19, and her value is massively inflated. 1.00
00:05:07.900 And I don't blame her.
00:05:08.980 Of course it's massively inflated.
00:05:10.120 Imagine being 19 years old, have achieved exactly fucking zero in your life, knowing nothing.
00:05:15.700 You put makeup on and, and sports stars, billionaires, actors, the most important, famous people on the planet, the richest men on the planet are begging for your attention.
00:05:25.280 The ego you're going to develop, let's all be honest, right?
00:05:28.380 The ego you're going to develop is going to be monumental.
00:05:30.440 I'm special.
00:05:31.380 I'm so gorgeous.
00:05:32.040 All this bullshit.
00:05:32.620 Right?
00:05:33.340 And then what happens as they grow older, as new generations come along, because the truth is most women are at their peak attraction, let's say in their early twenties. 0.97
00:05:41.260 As they grow older, what they, what women become is far more fearful of competition. 0.98
00:05:46.440 This is why you'll see a woman who's a bit older go, oh, you know, I really want monogamy. 1.00
00:05:49.460 What she's scared of is her dude getting a 21 year old.
00:05:51.940 That's what she's fucking scared of.
00:05:53.000 She may not know it.
00:05:54.120 She may not say it, but basically that's what the truth is.
00:05:56.920 Cause she knows a 21 year old is going to be more desirable, higher status, more fertile. 0.89
00:06:00.940 That's what she's scared of.
00:06:02.100 Cheating is bad when you're 30 or 27.
00:06:04.320 So no, but I'm not, it's not about that.
00:06:05.860 I'm telling you the, the, the shift in the female mentality, because when a female is 20, 1.00
00:06:10.620 she doesn't give a fuck about any of this.
00:06:12.640 She doesn't want to find a nice man.
00:06:14.080 Now she's trying to, like you're saying, chasing a lifestyle, chasing Mr. 0.81
00:06:16.700 Promiscuous, chasing Mr.
00:06:17.840 Famous, doesn't give a shit until she starts getting scared.
00:06:21.040 Oh shit.
00:06:22.120 Oh, my, my age begins with three now.
00:06:24.120 And then they change the mentality changes.
00:06:26.160 It's a fear element.
00:06:27.200 That's the reality.
00:06:27.860 And it's a biological fear element.
00:06:29.540 I'll give you an example of it.
00:06:30.940 You know, what's amazing about humans.
00:06:32.360 We are still very primal.
00:06:34.480 If when, when men like these two and me, when we walk through the mall, people just move.
00:06:39.540 It's like, you can sense when you can sense when the big animals turn up, right?
00:06:44.200 It's something amazing about humans.
00:06:45.660 If you have a very attractive 45 year old woman, she's gorgeous. 0.99
00:06:49.340 But a gorgeous 19 year old walks in.
00:06:51.600 Look at that 45 year old woman's face. 1.00
00:06:53.340 She's furious.
00:06:54.320 She fucking hates her. 1.00
00:06:55.800 She just doesn't like her for no reason. 0.51
00:06:57.520 Because women understand, unfortunately, but you're innately, your age is a massive indicator 1.00
00:07:02.700 in your value.
00:07:03.720 In an inverse way to men, men are more valuable as we get older.
00:07:07.120 Every man, every woman knows that.
00:07:08.460 Every woman will sit here and go, yeah, well, I know a man who's older than me. 1.00
00:07:10.780 Of course.
00:07:11.480 But if I sit the other way around, I'm misogynistic.
00:07:13.320 It's just the reality of the world.
00:07:14.540 So, so then we have to go into the other point.
00:07:16.380 The point is this.
00:07:17.340 When you were at your peak value, you had zero interest in monogamy.
00:07:22.120 But then you find a man who's 35 at his peak value.
00:07:25.760 He's finally struggled and worked.
00:07:27.440 Because when he was 19, no girl spoke to him.
00:07:29.440 When he was 23, he was broke.
00:07:31.100 When he was 24, he had no life experience.
00:07:33.200 When he was 25, he couldn't fuck.
00:07:34.920 When he was 20, whatever.
00:07:35.720 He finally gets to the point where he's now at his peak value.
00:07:38.820 He, at 35, is you when you were 19.
00:07:41.820 And then you're sitting there saying to him, no, you should be a monogamy. 0.99
00:07:44.980 It's like, well, you fucking weren't.
00:07:46.960 You did whatever you wanted in your peak.
00:07:49.180 Now I'm finally got there.
00:07:50.380 And I had to work for my shit.
00:07:52.040 God gave you you.
00:07:52.860 God and L'Oreal gave you you.
00:07:54.680 I had to fucking struggle.
00:07:56.180 I had to go through hell to get on this yacht.
00:07:58.020 You got on the yacht with an Instagram DM.
00:07:59.600 I had to buy it.
00:08:00.440 And now you're telling me I need to fucking settle down and behave and grow up.
00:08:04.400 Fuck you.
00:08:05.200 It's bullshit.
00:08:06.200 You're assuming that the journey is a man that starts with nothing to something.
00:08:09.740 Because there's a lot of men that have to...
00:08:10.660 That is exactly the journey of every man on earth.
00:08:12.860 We are born without value.
00:08:14.000 As many of you know, I was just banned on TikTok.
00:08:17.960 And we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform.
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