Female Dating Coaches are FRAUDS!!!
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Summary
Femininity is one of those things that is hard to define, but it's also one of the most elusive things. In this episode, we talk about what it means to be feminine and how to improve it.
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Could you talk about, okay, because this confuses me.
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Because a lot of times when women use it, it's so broad.
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And there's never any real concrete, like, definition of it that I've seen.
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And then I see all these femininity coaches that just say, get in your feminine energy.
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And I'm just thinking, what the heck does that mean?
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But a lot of times, the way it translates to me, just the way I think, is a lot of them doing nothing and then saying they did something.
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So it's like a lot of women will, like, that coach femininity will be these masculine women that are clearly masculine.
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It'll be like, these girls will come on the show.
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But you can just tell when a woman talks about cooking if she actually cooks.
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Because a girl that actually cooks will give you more detail.
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And, like, a girl that does it will say, like, very broad, oh, I cook this.
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Or maybe, like, some recipe she's seen her mom cook.
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And what are the, like, how specifically do you improve it?
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You know, this one, it's interesting that you say that.
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We actually talked about this on my last Wives Club episode.
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But femininity is one of those things where there is a dictionary definition.
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But it's also one of those things that's a little bit elusive.
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Because it's hard to define, but you know it when you see it, right?
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However, there are a lot of buzzwords going on right now.
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It's who you are, especially when you're tested.
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So, you remember when we talked about, like, I know that I struggle sometimes with tough topics.
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And so, I have to remove myself, get it together, and come back.
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Because I don't want to have, you know, an emotional response.
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Those are the times when you have an opportunity to be, you know, masculine.
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So, when the kids are hungry and they're pulling at your skirt, they're like,
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F them kids is probably not the most feminine response.
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But, yes, it's a buzzword that, you know, if people say but they don't do,
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Because if you're truly feminine, I don't have to tell you that I'm feminine.
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So, to me, and the dictionary definition is something about having the qualities
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And when we had our last episode on The Wives Club, I said, you know, for me,
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I really have been intentional about studying men because I am a boy mom.
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So, if they come into a room and they're all loud, I bring my volume down.
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If they take up a lot of space, if they're just, like, heavy, you know, stomping around,
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And we talked about this a little bit yesterday with co-ed schools and just kind of, like,
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being around boys or any environment that you're in.
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You're going to pick up on that, whether it's the corporate or whether it's girlfriends that,
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So, to answer your question so that I clearly communicate, you know, being feminine is the
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But I also believe being feminine is being consistent.
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And being feminine is, you know, like I said, when you're tested, when it's difficult,
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But you seek it out, and you get coaching, and you act on that coaching.
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Like I shared with you, I learned that I used to have really masculine gestures.
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So, you'll see me kind of put my hands down and clasp them together because I'm being mindful
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of, okay, I want to be a little bit more delicate and refined.
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I notice when I get loud, I'll catch myself, and I'll lower my volume.
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These are just things that I've had to work on.
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For other people, and I'm not joking, it could be swearing for you.
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Swearing wasn't an issue for me, but being loud was.
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It could be being gracious and generous to people.
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It might be an area that someone else has to work on because they want to say, you know
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So, being mindful, finding out the areas where you're lacking, because there are different
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Again, for me, it's an area that I could kind of nerd out in.
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But I think what you said about taking one thing at a time, just knowing it.
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Kevin always used to say self-awareness, right?
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So, I try to really overperform in other areas.
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And so, you know, a little bit long-winded answer, but I would just like to encourage anyone
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that you can definitely get better if it's something that's important to you.
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And femininity is what men respond to because they don't want somebody that reminds them
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I might have to ask you to define that one because of how feminist definition it's changed.
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And a lot of times, people hang what they want something to mean on a certain word.
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And even things that might have started off a little noble, now they're wild.
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A feminist, someone that wants women, that believes women are better than men.
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I was going to say, because what I've heard is people say we're equal.
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Well, and in a way, that's part of the problem is they think men and women are equal.
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So, one, they think men and women are equal, which we're not, we're different.
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And on top of that, they also think that women are better than men.
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And they might not say that in the definition, but you can certainly see it by the, you know,
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But the way feminists act in the media and the issues that they support that are often at the expense of men.
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So, for example, Me Too, you know, it might have had good intentions, but what are the outcome?
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As a boy mom, sometimes it's a visceral reaction that I get because that mama bear kind of comes up.
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I have heard women that I have worked with basically say men are stupid.
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You don't need, you know, a man as long as you've gotten one good parent.
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But these are going to be the same people that kind of wish they had a man when times get hard, in my opinion.
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That's the saddest thing where they don't think, like, I think going to a sperm bank and just having a kid is, I know someone that did that.
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And one of the twins came out, like, their foot was messed up because, and I just remember thinking this was a horrible idea.
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Yeah, and I know this one is a really touchy one for a lot of people, but we talked about this yesterday.
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And I'm just going to say, I think inherently it's selfish because I want a child.
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You have to think about what life are you creating for this child.
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And, you know, children get their identity from their father.
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Even though the marriage ended, my youngest is in boarding school.
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He comes to visit me because at 15, he, I mean, he has, he had his dad the whole time.
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And, you know, I know people make decisions for what they want.
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Even if I would have loved to get remarried and have more children, I don't get what I want just because I want it.
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And my responsibility is to finish what I started.
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And if I'm so fortunate to get married again and live out my golden years, then that is what I get.
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