00:00:00.260So I wrote this list about, so I grew up in, I would say, upper middle class, and we know a decent amount of, I would say, like, top 10% men.
00:00:22.600Yeah, and I would argue, we'll go through this list, I would argue in any community, if you have a 1% kind of man, a lot of this stuff is going to hit.
00:00:30.560So I put, just because it's kind of small, I'll just sometimes put it like this.
00:01:34.320So keeping that in mind, not only is it costly, but also when you have all that stuff on and you look like a runway, a Broadway actor, who is complimenting you?
00:01:50.440It's often the men they don't want because like that look, I have a friend that like dresses like that, you know, and it's just like, yeah, like men approach you, but it's not the type of men you want to be approached by.
00:02:07.200Right, what are they approaching you for?
00:02:09.540Yeah, you know, so I put no piercings except ears.
00:02:16.180So like belly button rings, no, like the nose rings, no, and even the ears, like none of this up here.
00:02:24.020It has to be, you can do the double or even the triple, but you can't really further than that, no.
00:02:31.240You have to get ready in 30 minutes or less because otherwise it's like if we want to go somewhere and it's quick, like you can't have this long, extensive routine.
00:02:41.820Exactly. And that ties back to what we said about all of that elaborate makeup and it ties back to having your capsule wardrobe or having your clothes that, okay, this is my, I wear what I describe as being ready from like the carpool to the kitchen.
00:02:59.280And then, you know, also because I work remote and I'm in Zoom meetings a lot, I always make sure that I'm presentable.
00:03:05.260I know sometimes people are like, oh, I'm just running to the store, but you never know who you run into.
00:03:09.740And a lot of things, a lot of times women don't think about men are always watching and they see you from across the way and they may decide to approach or not based on what they saw.
00:03:19.040You're, you're making me want to dress better.
00:03:21.880You're making me, you're making me, you do a really good job.
00:03:24.260I've seen you with, and not a lot, but I've seen you with like more of a blouse on instead of Niagara Falls.
00:05:05.200I love, you know, like spa pampered or whatever.
00:05:07.640And my guy knows that, but I also make sure that nothing that I'm doing to beautify myself gets in the way of being an active mom, you know, being able to cook or clean or wash or do, you know, whatever.
00:05:21.080I just think the long fingernails, in my opinion, it's kind of nasty because it's not hygienic.
00:05:29.900And Kevin has been known to say, you know, if certain body parts are not up to par, you know, you can, you know, draw your own conclusions.
00:05:39.880But yeah, I just, you know, I don't know any man that I respect that has been like, woo, look at those talons.
00:06:22.800And there's certain like majors that even from the women are a bit looked down upon.
00:06:27.540And it's not to say there aren't smart teachers, but there's actually a study and, you know, um, teachers have a standard deviation lower IQ than the rest of the population.
00:06:38.500Actually, yeah, this is Thomas Sowell's book, The Decline in Dogma of American Education.
00:06:43.360If anyone's wondering where to find that stat, it's somewhere in the book.
00:07:00.720And it's like if you're going to do, if you're going to have no education or career, it's not a bad thing, but you have to have like skills to back it up.
00:07:17.460You don't have to know everything about everything.
00:07:19.400But I think one thing that would serve, like if you are, um, a little bit underperforming academically, and we know men don't care about our degrees and all that, but if you do need to pick an area of study, study what he does.
00:07:34.380Be able to communicate in his language.
00:07:36.460Let's say I'm with somebody who's into real estate.
00:07:41.080I'm like a, you know, tech and, and, um, STEM person, but I try to at least understand, you know, buying a property and hiring a team and doing that kind of work.
00:07:53.320That's not my natural area, but it shows, um, a dedication to kind of get on his program and at least be useful to him.
00:08:01.480Cause that's the language that he speaks in.
00:08:03.180That's the world where he lives and breathes.
00:08:04.800Um, do not be a beautiful majestic creature.
00:08:18.180So a guy might see that you're thin when you're young, but if you're eating all this stuff, they, they kind of think this might not be this much longer.
00:08:26.700So guys look at like your fitness routine.
00:09:00.700I had my brother say like, it was absolutely horrible.
00:09:03.160The meal she cooked, but I was just, it was so, I was so like, it was so sweet of her to like learn this recipe or whatever.
00:09:09.020Absolutely. And that one ties back to what you had about not being a majestic creature.
00:09:13.740Cause I don't want to blow past that because I struggle with, you know, um, making healthy choices all the time.
00:09:20.280I know a big part of it was the stress from, you know, working the way that I was working, but I take full responsibility for what I put in my mouth.
00:09:26.780But to your point, men really love when you try, even if you're not there yet, you know, we talked in the beginning about, I've lost a lot of weight, but I have a ways to go.
00:09:37.960And I get so much credit for basically doing what I say I'm going to do and every day making incremental progress.
00:09:46.340Um, so yeah, that goes along with that fitness routine and, um, you know, being coachable and teachable.
00:09:52.960You may not get it right, but if you're making a good faith effort, that goes a long way with men.
00:09:58.140I'll tell you, my brother's engaged and the girl he's engaged to, she's an engineer.
00:10:03.180Okay. So she's smart. She makes a lot of money doing that. Um, and she went to culinary school for fun.
00:10:10.520That's a dream of mine. She's like, there's nothing. I mean, she's talked to him. Maybe I'll open a restaurant or something.
00:10:16.860I don't know, but I was like, she literally just went to culinary school just to cook for him.
00:10:23.640Yeah. I mean, for me and the way that I was raised, my mom is a retired, hi mom, home science teacher, formerly home economics.
00:10:31.500So we talked about this yesterday. I just thought it was normal, but it's okay.
00:10:35.440If you didn't grow up cooking and doing laundry and cleaning the house, you can learn it.
00:10:40.600And it's one of those things like I never understood it, but you eat every day.
00:10:44.140So why wouldn't you cook every day? But I know that's me, but at least trying and making some shortcuts where you need to, I think it goes a long way.
00:10:51.800It's, it's a way that we show love. That's what we've done for hundreds of years, thousands of years.