Feminine woman Outlines how to be feminine
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about what should be on a wife s resume when looking for a husband. We also talk about the importance of a good first husband and what to look for in a good wife. We also discuss what a good husband should be like to grow up in a nuclear family.
Transcript
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You know what I was thinking we could be fun to do?
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We should make what should be on your wife's resume.
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What do you think should be on someone's wife's resume?
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the first thing I would talk about is meal preparation or cooking experience.
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I think if you're getting married, you probably want to have a family.
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So I would talk about your either babysitting or love for children
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or anything that is your experience around the little ones.
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Should a lot of women want to talk about their career, their bag?
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I would talk about your ability to manage money.
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I mean, if you want, it depends on the type of marriage that you're going to have.
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You need to know the type of wife that you want to be.
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And you need to know the type of marriage that you want to have because there are different kinds.
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You know, sometimes people get married if it's a political figure and he just needs someone to look good on his arm.
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Or somebody could get married for papers if there's any kind of legal situation.
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But in most traditional marriages, if you have a breadwinner, which is usually the husband,
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but it could be different if you are going to be in the role of the wife or the support system,
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you are not the breadwinner, which means you have to be able to work within the income that is allotted for the family.
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We're going to do types of marriages after this.
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So ability to manage money or stick to a budget.
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I would talk about relationships, family relationships, like your family of origin.
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I think that's really important because when you marry, you're not just marrying the person,
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you're really combining two families because that's how it's been for, you know,
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What would you, like, what do they need to know about?
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I would want to know the status of your family of origin.
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What kind of example did you see growing up of relationships?
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If your parents are not together, is it amicable?
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All of that comes into play because that is what's going to set your expectations for
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That's true because I feel like the way I look at things sometimes it's from, like,
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So, like, when people, I'm just thinking of, I know not everyone goes on vacation,
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Like, every summer we'd spend a month and go on vacation.
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And the thought of just taking two kids and, like, flying somewhere was unheard of to us.
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So, when we were planning for children, my ex-husband now at the time, we both come from
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So, it's me and my brother and it's him and his brother.
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And so, after I gave him two sons, we talked about it.
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And I asked him if he wanted to try for a third.
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But because we were used to that family of four, he said, this is enough.
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But I know you often talk about having that big family experience.
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Every time I hear you say I have nine siblings, it's like, who does that?
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So, what else would you say should go on the wife?
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Like, what should you think about when looking for a husband or, yeah, I mean, this is kind
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of a comprehensive, like, what are other things to think about for the women if we want to
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I would say, since you mentioned the bag, if you do want to work, what is the plan for
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Is it something you can do, you know, maybe once a week or once a month just to keep your
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So, if you are going to work, what does that look like and how does it support the family?
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Oh, if you are going to work, what does that look like?
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Because you, well, you tell them what you told me about how you worked and, like, also had
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I work in technology, so I work for a software company, and so it's a, you know, competitive,
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And I admittedly got caught up in that modern woman mindset.
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When you're in your 20s, you really can't see your 40s.
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But now that I'm in my 40s, I can see 60 really, really easy.
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And I don't want to do 20-something more years of that.
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So, you know, like a lot of women, I had the two-hour commute.
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But when you don't think that there's anything odd about that, you just get in line with everybody
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So what ended up happening for me, like a lot of people with the pandemic, I was able
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And it was kind of like, we're going to try this out for a few weeks.
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I was able to cook more and eat better, get the weight off.
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And I was just a better mom overall and, you know, happier in my relationship.
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So, you know, long story short, now I work remote and I'm never going back to the office.
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So now you have 20 more hours a week with your family.
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But you probably weren't even thinking about that.
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You were just thinking about, it's like what you're supposed to do.
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Because, I mean, let's face it, and corporate America is great.
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I've worked for some really big companies, but they like to get us when we're young and
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kind of extract all that energy and that, you know, intellectual capital.
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And you end up putting all of your best efforts towards a company who could either restructure
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or be absorbed or say, thanks, you know, you've aged out.
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It's great when you can get it, the promotions, the bonuses, all of that.
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And I still work, but I do it in a way that serves me.
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And like I told you yesterday, I am known to tell my, you know, my boss, my work is what
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So, what else should we present to the husbands?
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Well, I think, you know, we would be fooling ourselves since you have had some whale attacks
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I'd love to know what other people think or what you think.
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I think some of these I've never even thought of before.
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I've always, I've never been a huge spender, to be honest.
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I've been, other than Ubers, I really like Ubering.
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No, the grocery delivery, it's really cheap here, to be honest.
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The comments say, can you take constructive criticism?
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And that one kind of goes back, Pearl, to what we talked about with your nuclear family.
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When you grow up with a strong father, you all know, well, maybe you all don't know, but
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I am an immigrant born in Ghana, raised in the South, so I'm an Atlanta girl, but I am
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And then maybe you go cry in the corner, but you get yourself together and you move on.
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And so if you don't have that and you've been coddled and you haven't had siblings that you've
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had to kind of, you know, compete with in a way, you get feedback as an adult and it
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That's the one thing I think volleyball really helped me with is like, you can just, you can
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take criticism so easily because you're just so, like, if you don't take the criticism,
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And I told you this yesterday, I think my guy says it all the time.
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I think all girls should play a sport because it gets you in that state of mind where it's
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I saw that with you yesterday with the cooking, we poached the eggs and you did four of them.
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And if it wasn't right, you said, I'm going to get that right.
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