JustPearlyThings - FEMINISM Did This To Women

00:00:00.000 I do think that's the that's the problem of modern day feminism I think that everyone wants 1.00

00:00:05.600 women empowerment and I'm for women empowerment but we can't pick and choose when we want feminism 0.99

00:00:11.980 to take place say for example like we want a man to provide for us and care for us and some people

00:00:18.820 might want to be a housewife but then also you want the the other side of it and you want to 1.00

00:00:24.440 take control in the relationship or vice versa yeah but she doesn't really want that like it's 1.00

00:00:29.800 not actually equal because it's like who say for example certain areas of work like a bin man

00:00:36.100 very few women want to be a bin man they will say it's a man's job I would say zero yeah they would 1.00

00:00:41.820 say it's a man's job but then if you want to look at feminism you guys want equality but when it 1.00

00:00:46.960 comes to certain jobs you don't want to do them when it comes to certain certain instances you

00:00:52.740 don't want to be involved in them so it doesn't really I think feminists pick and choose when it 1.00

00:00:57.780 benefits them no but I think something I would say I think the issue here is you guys are not

00:01:03.260 trying to like not you guys in general but just like women who are like I'm not a feminist but

00:01:08.340 everything that you've actually being made like and alive right now I mean and it's back to my point

00:01:13.740 of the 50 years ago 100 years ago when your ancestors and your great great great grandmothers

00:01:18.020 are sitting there in the kitchen unable to do anything yeah like feminism has benefited 1.00

00:01:23.220 every woman in today's society yeah I was about to say I would suspect those women are happier 1.00

00:01:28.640 than these women currently how and how are they happier they're not even here I would actually 0.95

00:01:33.360 prefer to be where women was in the 20s because the pressure for me as a lady to work can be very 1.00

00:01:37.960 exhausting so when you sit here and say that oh this is the reason why I'm here today most women 1.00

00:01:42.480 really don't most women I'll be honest with you we do all of this work boss chick stuff because of the 1.00

00:01:46.900 pressure that this feminist woman has put on women to not be lazy and to get up and work 1.00

00:01:51.560 so when you sit here and say oh this is the reason why you guys are here and da da da da da

00:01:55.180 most of us really don't want to be 0.97

00:01:56.980 don't forget that you're black and I don't have the same rights my sister 1.00

00:02:00.680 just to correct something the first female millionaire was um in the early it was in 1900 1.00

00:02:09.240 so yeah the hair shop lady no but everyone says they couldn't um vote or they couldn't work until like

00:02:14.280 the 50s and 60s but before that there was a female millionaire so there someone did it 1.00

00:02:18.280 yeah that's nice weren't held back well to be honest making money is not really that hard

00:02:23.780 you know this is the thing if you are capable you can do anything whether you're a man or a woman

00:02:29.580 the problem with feminism I think is that it displaces women a lot of the time because you're 1.00

00:02:33.680 trying to make us be something that we're not like I work for myself I I do I would say I am a boss

00:02:39.260 in what I do but I'm not a boss baby and I have to be proved to my man that I'm this woman and you

00:02:43.700 I deserve certain things I all I want is not because I'm a feminist just because I'm a person 0.97

00:02:47.840 that likes to be told well then I just want if I'm with a man to be like oh that's quite cool you

00:02:51.380 know well done for trying that that's it but I don't really get anything against that I don't

00:02:55.560 really get too many people sometimes especially the people that know me telling me things like

00:02:59.840 oh your woman you shouldn't do this so do you want validation for men or not I just want I don't 0.99

00:03:03.780 it's not just for men I want it from anybody even women that will look at me and be like

00:03:07.500 no you can't do that women do that to each other so I don't want to be boxed in because I'm a 0.99

00:03:11.440 woman I just want to be treated like normal just it's fine it seems like your value system is

00:03:16.120 extremely external and exists in other people's minds no not really this is in terms of the

00:03:20.340 context of the conversation because I think you can tell that I don't actually need a much external

00:03:24.060 validation I'm quite gassed by myself thank you but it seems like in some industries in say in London

00:03:29.040 we're in London now right I mean if you look at media industry if you look at advertising

00:03:32.340 certain types of like information technology and stuff like that it's very actually female based you 1.00

00:03:37.880 know you've got like say the advertising industry you've got more female leaders in that space 1.00

00:03:41.360 than you have men so it seems to me at some point we have to say right well the balance has been

00:03:45.820 addressed now I think so it's getting there I think women need to just kind of like empower 1.00

00:03:51.340 themselves and then it becomes request for the stuff and then it goes back to what they were

00:03:54.360 saying before which is like okay man or woman you've got to go out into the world and you've got

00:03:57.900 to bend it to your will right you've got to make it you've got to make your own narrative and not

00:04:01.580 and not fall back on these you know victimhood things yes you summed that up nicely I can see you've got

00:04:07.300 good experience talking to people and making them understand the simple and basics oh I like that

00:04:12.340 thank you for summarizing it that way but you made a good point in the sense that like when is that's

00:04:17.620 then the thing is with feminism is never ending every week every month there's a new issue is so 1.00

00:04:23.000 unnecessary that these feminists won and it's just like when are you guys going to be satisfied that's 1.00

00:04:28.220 my problem if that's when it becomes destructive I can say that is unnecessary to them because if 1.00

00:04:33.100 they fall away they fall away so I don't think they can feel they're stupid they can have stupid 0.98

00:04:37.060 beliefs and feelings yeah but that doesn't make it reality just because they feel aware you should 1.00

00:04:41.380 not just because the girl feels like she was discriminated because of her gender it doesn't

00:04:45.460 mean that she was and that's the big problem of this generation is we don't know how to differentiate

00:04:49.540 between what we're feeling and what's actually reality like I get that's what they're feeling but right

00:04:54.380 now I'm feeling like a dog am I a dog no exactly so we have to learn to differentiate between what 0.94

00:04:59.120 we're feeling and what's actually facts and what we need to do that by calling people stupid or saying 0.99

00:05:03.420 that they're acting like dickheads when they are like if someone says you're vibrating with misogyny 1.00

00:05:07.320 that should be called stupid like respectfully like that that was a stupid thing to say it's an 1.00

00:05:11.580 analogy it's a figure of speech as well don't be so mean what's the analogy the analogy is basically 1.00

00:05:16.280 saying you're coming a bit aggressive your energy is coming a bit tense I even felt it so I I reworded what

00:05:21.200 she said tense and misogynistic no I know but I reword it for two very different things yeah but the

00:05:27.300 accusation was real it wasn't a figure of speech the accusation was real and that's fine she does 0.99

00:05:32.520 stand on it so you're trying to justify it and that's my point like we need to call that stupid 0.99

00:05:37.300 when people say stupid things like that and what do those accusations do I mean you know sneaker is a 0.98

00:05:41.740 bit different because I mean his his industries to get cancelled but in a way but it's like for the 0.98

00:05:48.340 average person that you you label them that that could ruin their entire career yeah it's a bit

00:05:52.320 like it's a bit like using the term creepy isn't it and then it's sort of like if a woman calls a guy

00:05:55.760 creepy just the fact that she said it is it's believed because she she says I felt that he was

00:06:01.600 creepy so it's like oh right okay so therefore he was creepy because you're saying you felt like that

00:06:05.620 but where's the where's the sort of foundational truth of that statement right and it's like saying

00:06:10.220 vibrating with misogyny okay well okay it was tense but we're in a debate right so what's the

00:06:16.360 misogynistic element of that they were just having a debate because why is he looking at

00:06:20.040 her as an op just because she's a girl if there was four guys sitting on the couch and they were 0.99

00:06:29.500 making the same point that's what a debate is they would they would have said if we have different

00:06:32.640 points of view we are disagreeing but you don't know me so don't go against me because we could

00:06:36.600 actually agree on things that's the whole point against me gender-based i don't like that that's

00:06:42.020 given misogyny that was my that was the vibe i don't know if it was off the gender i'm sorry it's

00:06:47.500 just a debate it was just different opinions it has nothing to do with womanhood it was just because

00:06:53.040 you are a woman because your your boundaries of like aggressive like um tonality in the way you 1.00

00:07:00.160 speak you don't you know i think there's a difference between speaking against me as speaking

00:07:03.620 assertively you monetize off which is a good thing i got canceled for talking about covid in the election

00:07:07.340 had nothing to do with vibrating misogyny i don't know you you feel a little bit aggressive i'm not

00:07:11.780 gonna lie someone said something along the lines of don't go against me isn't this a debate like

00:07:16.260 foreign against yeah but when you immediately have to go against like come on just relax that's the 0.59

00:07:21.420 debate open it up by saying i'm a black immigrant i mean look you guys are victims until somebody calls you out

00:07:27.160 it's it's just none of this makes any sense you're gonna go and say that i'm a victim i'm black so i

00:07:31.860 have a hard time in life and then somebody disagrees with you and then you're even a victim

00:07:34.640 more do you know why we disagree and that i'm aggressive and you're pointing at me and interrupting

00:07:38.360 me but i'm aggressive but you're i was aggressive there still you have been the whole time but i'm

00:07:42.760 aggressive i'm i don't say that you're vibrating with misandry yeah exactly my whole point of this

00:07:47.440 argument is that my whole point is that people now and especially people my age i'm 24 we have such a

00:07:52.820 victim mindset that makes us feel like we can navigate the world a certain way and that

00:07:57.020 everything is against us and we don't do that because the world is against us it because it

00:08:00.520 makes us feel better about our life path and our decisions and about our place in the world that 0.96

00:08:04.840 is the number one thing that will hold people back i'm an immigrant i'm black you're misogynistic 0.61

00:08:09.480 you're racist i'm stop acting like that's a victimization that's exactly what he said i already 0.79

00:08:15.960 explained to you why that is my superpower i simply pointed out the fact that it is an extra obstacle

00:08:21.220 that some people may not have but for me it's a good thing it makes me fit saying that you have an

00:08:25.120 obstacle i see and prettier that's why i like having all saying that you have an believing that

00:08:29.900 you have an obstacle is i don't believe i know because i felt it i've had to overcome several

00:08:34.280 times just because you haven't lived my life don't bloody so we encourage me from telling what i feel

00:08:39.360 because that's what i've experienced niko what you're trying to say is that we should disregard our

00:08:43.160 traumatic experiences for that have brought like you know even if you were traumatized if you had a

00:08:49.880 terrible experience for good things right if the kkk was burning crosses and like what will hold 0.97

00:08:54.700 you back more is still thinking about that you're traumatized is thinking that the world is against

00:08:59.480 you that will hold you back even more than anything else that anyone's going to tell you that any

00:09:03.200 industry will say that anything that i believe how misogynistic and racist i am you believing that

00:09:08.380 you're traumatized and navigating the world that way is going to hold you back more than anybody else

00:09:12.080 and that's the number one thing i would say for anyone here watching this right now get rid of that

00:09:16.400 mindset because that was programmed into you by the news you're talking about mainstream media showing this

00:09:20.380 one afro dude they do that so that we stay down it's not because they actually care about racism 0.94

00:09:25.460 you think the news cares about this afro guy no they care about programming george floyd you think

00:09:30.160 that goes viral because they care about george floyd well it's to get everybody riding and to keep

00:09:34.920 everybody confused and to keep everybody outside no and to keep everybody distracted and a lot of

00:09:39.460 people leveled up because of that a lot of addressing these issues actually is quite empowering

00:09:44.080 because you start to what did blm let me tell you let me tell you to some people to some people

00:09:49.000 i lived in i lived in milwaukee during like the blm protest there were some shops that didn't open

00:09:55.340 back up of course like there let me tell you something right things like blm things like

00:10:00.980 wakanda what it is why is actually something that is is a good thing to even talk about these things

00:10:06.280 and be gassed about the fact that black people start to go to the forefront is because even though some

00:10:11.240 people may take it as a victimization there are people that actually take it to be an empowerment

00:10:15.300 there are people that feel inspired exactly but people still feel inspired so let's talk about

00:10:20.160 how do you how do you know if the outcome of something is good i know basically i know because

00:10:26.920 within my business wait wait basically within my business i see the change i see how many people

00:10:32.160 going up so you would say so you would say it would be the results right yeah the results of

00:10:36.780 course so it's good the government okay okay so it's out for black people to do things about 0.96

00:10:40.740 people make money okay so if the results of those protests were that some shops did not open back

00:10:46.840 up and the whole business was a scam how is that a good result well it's the same way that people go

00:10:52.180 to war people do a million things with good comes bad that's no but i'm asking like what good came

00:10:57.060 what good came of what did blm accomplish oh blm accomplished a lot within the creative industry

00:11:01.880 here in the uk a lot of black people start making money since blm awareness awareness since blm a lot

00:11:08.200 of people have still died the same way george floyd did it didn't change the main factor which was 0.96

00:11:11.820 white cops killing black people white cops kill white people too so what did blm accomplish 0.75

00:11:18.140 blm in the uk the government started giving funding to black businesses a lot more they started putting a 0.99

00:11:23.320 lot of projects to big up black people and put them on so actually was a good thing for the uk i'm not 0.93

00:11:27.980 gonna lie a lot of people got really good opportunities because of that situation whatever

00:11:33.020 then the nature of the cops not have guns here no well some of them some of them why was the uk even

00:11:40.260 giving money to black businesses here when this had nothing to do with black people so you got some 0.99

00:11:43.560 money like yeah a lot of people made money what how was racism solved at all do you know if it's not

00:11:48.300 about racism being sold that's what black lives matter but what it did it actually gave extra leeway for

00:11:54.280 people to now go and do more it gave you an encouragement to say actually forget about

00:11:58.820 being black you know this happened but look we're gonna help you go go go then take advantage and you

00:12:02.460 win and you grow it's a good thing so when you talk about this and you explain as many of you know i was 0.93

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JustPearlyThings - April 21, 2023

FEMINISM Did This To Women

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